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life becomes so beautiful when you start cooking rice in liquids other than water

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Search up the term nonverbal on TikTok, instagram and other social media platforms. Your going to see two main things, 1: nonverbal being used to describe verbal shutdowns and 2: parents of nonverbal children (that is still important though) count how many nonverbal people you see, 1 or maybe if your lucky 2 after a few minutes of searching? Maybe five after 20 minutes of searching but that would be lucky.

Now imagine that was you, an autistic person, searching up the word autism. That would be so annoying, the word you use (autism) to find people with your experiences, being misused by THOUSANDS of people, hundreds of thousands sometimes millions of likes on these videos diluting autism down to what? A temporary thing?

Your literal existence a core part of who you are, all your discrimination that you have a label for, that label now being misused and barely having its original meaning to the point that you cannot even call yourself that get without people thinking you mean the watered down meaning of it???

Apply that to nonverbal being misused.

Everyone deserves to find people like them, resources, community. Using the term nonverbal to describe verbal shutdowns takes away many many nonverbal people ability to find a community.

Alternatives?

Verbal shutdown

Intermittent speech

Temporary speech loss

Struggling with speech

Not feeling like talking

("Nonverbal shutdown", "nonspeaking shutdown", "nonspeaking episode", "nonverbal episode", "going nonspeaking" and "going nonverbal" are all terms that cause this harm.)

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Despite the fact I was AFAB and raised as a girl by my parents my entire life, I was never allowed to be a cis girl. Many times I was asked invasive questions about my genitalia, questioned if I was actually a trans girl, told I should be playing with the boys, and much more. Even when people weren't mocking me, I still got weird comments like "you look so nonbinary", "you're just physically androgynous", and more. No matter what, I was always seen as something in-between, neither a boy nor a girl, even if I tried passing as one or the other.

No matter what, we intersex people don't get allowed to be cis.

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Here I am, posting something similar like the fibro post... this one goes out to my psychotic folks🫶

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I know all the posts about how to stockpile hrt come from a good place but yall. Stockpiling T on purpose is a felony and its not one i judge you for but...STOP admitting it out loud on your blogs frankly and with none of the "teehee THEORETICALLY" shoplifter blogs used to have. Im seeing people talk abt the stockpiles they already have AND their plans to share it and my guys... this website WILL give your personal info to the government if subpoenad. Idk that its LIKELY but I know itd be embarrassing as hell to go to JAIL for felony possession of controlled substance w intent to distribute bc you couldnt stop yourself from YAPPING on a fucking tumblr post and then mr hammers gave your email and login ip to the cops. I KNOW youre all not using secure enough burners and vpns and shit 4 that Cmon now

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My parents have a “Festivus” party every year and this year I found this sign on their bedroom door

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also while i’m thinking about autistic xie lian. xie lian learning to fully relax around hua cheng. all the sweet things—xie lian burying his head in hua cheng’s shoulder when he gets overwhelmed. snuggling w hua cheng to recharge. holding hua cheng’s hand and using his jewellery to stim. wearing the soft robes that hua cheng gives him, rather than the coarse rough ones he got used to wearing. but also. we already know hua cheng is happy to support his special interest and be an enthusiastic audience for infodumping, so. xie lian unlocking full gremlin mode. rediscovering highly specific food habits he didn’t have the luxury of before. going nonverbal and locking himself up in hua cheng’s palace and only hua cheng is allowed to see him. shoving his whole body down the back of hua cheng’s chair. let’s see him get well and truly weird

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Compiling some terms/posts useful for people questioning if intersex

Note: If a definition in is in quotes, the source material it is quoted from is linked to by the relevant term.

Highly relevant terms

Extersex - "[A] term for those who do not know whether they are dyadic or intersex. It could be because one feels as though they might be some form of intersex, but are unable to medically confirm it, or cannot confirm what intersex variation it is. It may also be for those who have a variation that may be considered intersex, but are uncertain if they want to identify as intersex." - @themogaidragon

Quoisex - "[An] umbrella term for anyone who doesn't quite understand their sex or doesn't want to define their sex." - LGBTQIA+ Wiki Note: I understand this as more general than extersex, and would include people questioning if altersex. See the wiki entry for subtypes (quoigonadal, quoichest, etc)

Altersex - "An umbrella term to describe having or wanting primary or secondary sex traits/characteristics that do not align with the binary sex model that a significant portion of society has adopted. It is primarily used by those who are not intersex and are trans+ and wish to or transition specifically to have a body that does not fit the aforementioned sex model." -@intersex-questions Note: Being altersex does not make somebody intersex. I include it because many people questioning their intersex status realize this is what they're looking for.

Anisohormonal - "Aniso (unequal/uneven) + hormonal (relating to hormones). An individual who has an imbalance of hormones for any number of reasons. Such individuals may or may not also be intersex." - @sproutflags Note: includes non-intersex variations such as diabetes.

Subtypes of intersex people

Note: In my experience most people questioning if they're intersex have a hormonal intersex variation like PCOS, so I'm skewing towards this accordingly.

Dysgonadal - "[having] dysfunctional gonads. This includes agonadal (no gonads) and hypogonadal. Also known as gonadal agenesis/dysgenesis, dyssex and nullogonadal/asexed (null sex or avaginal/aphallia)." - @arco-pluris Note: contrasted with eugonadal - "people with functional gonads (reproductive cells). Includes hypergonadal (hyperfunctional gonads)"

Interhormonal - "Someone who is intersex and anisohormonal and/or feels that being intersex has impacted their identity as anisohormonal in some way and/or that their identity as anisohormonal has impacted their identity as intersex in some way." - @sproutflags

Intermeer - "a term used to describe all intersex variations that are caused by an overproduction of horomones (testosterone, estrogen, or both.)" - LGBTQIA+ Wiki Variations include: AES, FMPP, PCOS. Part of The Autre System for categorizing intersex variations.

Intermindre - "a term used to describe all intersex variations that are caused by a lack of horomones (testosterone, estrogen, or both.)" Note: The wiki lists AIS and EIS as examples although they are not due to a lack of hormones, but rather a lack of sensitivity to them. Part of The Autre System for categorizing intersex variations. See the wiki for more subtypes. Thank you to anon asker who pointed out the AIS/EIS issue.

Mesosex - "[A] person who has an intersex variation, but one which does not conform to perisex (non-intersex) ideas of what intersex is. For example, people who have intersex traits that are considered "mild", or who have variations such as PCOS Hyperandrogenism and Poland Syndrome." - @ipso-faculty

Interdynamic - "a term for individuals whose secondary sexs [sp] characteristics do not match with the typical secondary sex binary." - @omegai

More intersex terminology

Intersex Terminology Masterpost by @intersexfairy

Edits: - 2023-12-13: corrected AIS mischaracterized as lack of hormones, ty to anon for correction - 2023-12-13: added interdynamic

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this is from the last post i reblogged, but here are alternatives to "going nonverbal" or "going nonspeaking:"

verbal shutdown

loss of speech / speech loss

situational speech loss

if anyone knows any others, feel free to add on. if you don't understand why alternatives are needed, please see the linked post; it's a long one which is why i made another post with the alternatives, but even just reading part of it shows you why.

be kind to your neurodivergent and disabled peers.

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Alternatives to "Going Nonverbal"

-becoming speachless

-going silent

-loss of speech/loosing speech

-loss of words/loosing words

-being/becoming wordless

-becoming unspeaking

-being/becoming voiceless

-being tight-lipped/tongue-tied/close-mouthed

-being verbally uncommunicative

-being untalkative

-being tacit/taciturn

-being/becoming/became aphonic

-being unspoken/unvoic(ed/ing)/unuttering

-gone silent/quiet

-being nonlexical

coined by us: here

other phrases: 1 . 2

feel free to add more, i will be coining some words soon to add to the list, if you know of anything coined already please let me know so i can add them.

these are alternatives for people who arent actually nonverbal/mute to some degree as using the phrase "going nonverbal" has been expressed to be incorrect and honestly people just need a change in vocabulary. /info

the word nonverbal typically refers to an autistic person however being nonverbal is not solely a symptom of autism there are other conditions that cause a range of mutism in a person. /info

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My oil painting of an Uncrustable

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Gentle reminder that the human eye is naturally drawn by noise and movement, so the next time you walk into a crowd or a bit late into a lecture or something like that, they’re not staring at you or judging; it’s just an instinctive reaction that has nothing to do with you doing anything wrong.

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Don’t look at things you know will make you angry. Don’t read the comment sections. Don’t look at the blogs of people who add dumb comments to posts to confirm that they’re dumb all the time. Don’t read old conversations you had with people you don’t talk to anymore. Go look at pictures of kittens or something instead. Protect yourself from negativity in every way you can.

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Imagine someone says they "go autistic" every time they get awkward,

and you as an autistic person tell them "hey! You can't go autistic, autism is an identity!"

And they respond with "actually no, social communication disorder is the (SCD) identity!! You actually have SCD and going autistic is the word to describe going awkward!"

That would be really annoying wouldn't it be? Someone using your identity, the word you use to find others like you and to find support which the term autism as ALWAYS described people like you, them trying to change the meaning then telling you, you are actually something else? Really, really annoying.

Apply this situation to people calling verbal shutdowns/temporary speech loss "going nonverbal" then telling nonverbal people who call them out they are actually mute.

ITS REALLY ANNOYING.

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* ideal meaning everyone is accepting and understanding, managing multiple accounts is easy, there are no barriers to personal accessories or items, etc

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It's so funny that cats will blame their overstimulation on nearby humans even if the human wasn't actively petting them or anything. Like a cat will choose to rub its face on some1's leg and then is like "WHY THE FUCK DID YOU LET ME DO THAT? Bites you bites you bites you"

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Honestly, the amount of assumptions that other trans people make about trans people's bodies based on whether they're transmasc or transfem is a large part of why I don't identify with those terms currently. I don't want people to make assumptions about my body and how it functions, my birth sex, how I was socially raised, my lived experiences, or anything else based on what gender identity I currently identify with. I remember a time when the trans community felt very united on the idea that nobody ever needs to know what's in your pants, and that it's fucking weird to ask - but nowdays, with all the discourse surrounding labels, it feels like everyone is much too comfortable pressing for details about what genitals you were born with and what your original birth certificate says.

Another part of it is, as an intersex person, I feel completely excluded from these terms. Every definition, every discourse, every discussion of transfemininity and transmasculinity is completely perisex-centered. It feels like there's no place for me at all with regards to these terms, and it makes me feel like I can't really use either label, even though sometimes I wish to. Even when intersex people are brought up, it always turns into debates about how close an intersex person has to be to a binary sex to be able to appropriately claim transfemininity or transmasculinity; we are still being violently forced into perisex ideas of transness for the sake of upholding a binary.