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Hi guys! I know it’s been a minute but I just saw this picture and as a little with gastropersis I feel so seen <3

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orange blossom 1980s agere moodboard!!

requests are open!

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🫧🌧️ tips for regressors struggling with depression and anxiety 🌧️🫧

( here are some things that have personally helped me as a person with severe depression as well as generalized anxiety disorder during depressive episodes in the past. not everything might work for you, and I'm not the best at writing but I hope you find some of this helpful. remember you are loved and cherished🩷 )

🧸 one thing that has helped me tremendously has been starting a therapy / mental health journal. you can find prompts online, or even come up with your own ! I find tracking my triggers (what makes me feel upset or anxious), reflecting on how I handled my day, writing my thoughts, and what I'd like to bring up in my next therapy session helps me feel a lot better. ૮ ◞ ﻌ ◟ ა

-you can take time to learn about your brain and how it makes choices; for example, learning about and researching your trauma responses, mental illnesses and how to ground yourself during panic attacks. sometimes our brain can make us feel or think things that we can't control, so its important to differentiate between what we are telling ourselves and what our brain is telling us.

🫧 be kind to yourself and take time to rest if you need to. Indulge in things you like and find calming activities to do after a hard day such as coloring, doing a fun craft, playing a video game or using play therapy.

🧸 distance yourself from relationships or people that make you feel uncomfortable or are harmful to your mental health. its not mean to say you need space. you can still be friends and have established boundaries, and if someone dose not respect those boundaries its okay to distance yourself from them or take a break from talking to them until you start to feel better and are more capable of saying how important those boundaries are.

🫧 make sticker charts and schedules ! I have one for brushing my teeth. I also use a fun app on my phone called Pokémon Smile that reminds me to brush and sets a timer. ૮₍ ˃ ᵕ ˂ ₎ა

🧸 find little things to look forward to, like a new movie coming out, a birthday or a Holliday you love. sometimes I order little gifts for myself in the mail after doing a big task or getting trough a hard day hehe ! ૮ ◞ ﻌ ◟ ა

🫧 clean your space, and maybe even redecorate a little to give yourself a fresh start

🧸 find ways to "work around" overwhelming tasks like running errands or going to the doctor by bringing a comfort item or stuffed animal with you. you could keep them in your bag if you are too shy to hold them, but from my experience, no one seems to mind hehe. /lh I also like to pack fidget toys to hold when I get anxious.

🩵💕 extra recourses 💕🩵

breathing practices for anxiety relief and grounding

hotline numbers

inner child healing journal prompts

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my first ever mood board :D

i <3 cow 970 lps so much

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Did my little one have fun playing out in the garden? Yes, it was a bit warm out, that's why Mama put the sunny lotion on your precious cheeks and nose. What's wrong, sweet baby? Where's your water sippy? Oh, you left it in the garden. That's alright! I can find it later. But...did you remember to drink your water? No? It's alright, Mama can make you a new sippy. Want your Winne the Pooh one? Okay, I can do that. You have a headache? I'm sorry; but drink up, little one, that water will help. Then Mama will get you cleaned up and down for a nap. No, she's not mad. Mama does worry about you though. But she'll always be here to take care of you. All done with the water? Okay then, time for some cuddles and a nap.

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madea tthing:3

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🫧🏖️Aurora Beach toys ! [sfw/child friendly int only] 🏖️🐚

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Congrats to @shhtickerbook for winning the mascot contest with Silly Billy!

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more mood boards in my server! (linked and pinned)

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I think I used to have something similar to this

DID ANYONE ELSE HAVE THIS????? this was the best thing ever and is like. the sole reason i’m an artist today

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🐚 - ocean jellycats !!!

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Dealing with guilt and shame around age regression

I've been dealing with some guilt towards my regression the past couple days. I have been feeling self conscious and embarrassed about my regression and it's been making it harder to relax and let myself get into little space. I took some time this afternoon to brain storm a few things I can do and I wanted to share!!

🐸 Write it out! I have a "worry" journal. I set a 15 minute timer for myself and just let myself write whatever has been bothering me. After the 15 minutes is over I close the journal and throw it across my room.

🐌 You could also write a letter to someone talking about your feelings. This doesn't mean you have to give them that letter!! Sometimes it is soothing to write to someone who hurt you and then rip it up into tiny little pieces afterwards. Another option is to write a letter to your CG about how much you appreciate them and their support :)

🐸 Positive affirmations! I keep a sticky note on my chore chart of a few affirmations I can say to myself when I am worked up.

🐌 Meditation/Mindfulness. You can do ones that are made for kids if it helps! There are also kids toys that are geared at helping little ones slow down and take some deep breaths. My Furby has a relax mode where he guides me to do some breathing. It is both silly and relaxing enough to distract my brain for a little bit.

🐸 Ask your CG to write you a letter you can read when you are dealing with tough emotions. If you have a fictional CG you can write yourself a note pretending to be them! There are also people out there who will write you letters from your CG. Even if you don't have a CG, you can write a letter to yourself. When you are feeling big, write a letter of all the kind things you wish you could say to little you.

🐌 Age regression can be part of a healthy coping toolbox. You are not doing anything wrong by regressing. It is okay to regress. It is okay to take time for you. It is okay to do something that is just for your own happiness.

🐸 You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to be messy and noisy and playful. You deserve love and care. You deserve to have your needs met. I'm sorry others in your life let you down and made you feel this way. But it will be okay, and we can heal together, I promi.

🐌 Remember; it is okay to take a break from voluntary regression for any reason. Your stuffies and dollies will understand and they will be there for you when you return. ♥️

Feel free to add your own!

If you are continually dealing with feelings of guilt and shame, don't be afraid to reach out to someone. It can hard to unlearn these sorts of things on your own. You aren't weak for needing extra support.

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Furina agere moodboard!! she’s soooo totally a little

DNI BANNERミ★

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Rainbow agere mood board

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30 days of agere moodboards: 💖

Day Twelve: Your favourite snack or drink

Animal crackers and apple juice

They’re just special to me, whenever I have either it just brings me right back to my childhood. I feel safe and so happy. I remember summers where me and my sister would sit out on the lawn and play pretend. I miss that.

🌈 - 🍎🍪🍎 - 🍎🍪🍎 - 🍎🍪🍎 - 🌈

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🐾 - black-red-grey pet collars :3!

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i’m gonna be real, it’s insane to me how well being spoken to like a child and given childish sounding advice helps me through a lot of problems.

i never ever saw it as being talked down to. it’s like the one thing that truly helps me. and for whatever reason, we just stop teaching people how to deal with their emotions in healthy ways after a certain age. i don’t like that.

i need to be told to belly breathe to calm down. i need to be given clear and concise steps on what to do after a meltdown. i need to be walked through every step of grief. i need things broken down to me like i am a toddler or else i’m not going to get better.

this isn’t even something that’s agere specific, it’s just how i am. i have always done better when someone walks me through big feelings using small terminology and descriptions. adult feelings are hard to deal with otherwise.