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Losing an Agere Caregiver

Today I will be discussing a very sensitive topic for the Age Regression Communities, something a lot of us know well and have unfortunately been through. Today’s post will be about how to deal with losing a Caregiver . If you are unfamiliar with the term ‘ Caregiver ‘ , let me explain . A Caregiver in the Age Regression Communities is someone who has the role of taking care of the Regressor in and out of their Regression, meaning that while someone is regressed they are taking care of them and making sure that they are okay and helping them through any discomfort. As well as when the Regressor isn’t regressed, the Caregiver and said person still have a good relationship that ties the two together, platonically or romantically.  From that explanation you might be able to see how difficult it could be to lose that kind of person in your life, someone you trusted and were vulnerable with. Just like losing anyone hurts, losing a Caregiver is difficult for some Regressors to be able to manage.

For a lot of people in the Age Regression Communities including myself, we have reached out to our partner’s and asked them to be our Caregivers, which is the usual dynamic. But what happens when our relationships fail? We don’t just lose our partner, we also lose our Caregiver. Others have reached out to their friends or match making accounts online to find their own Caregiver, but even so, when you lose that type of Caregiver, you’re also losing a friend. Any way that you have managed to get a Caregiver and then lose them, will take a toll on you in some way. It could be really hard for you to deal with things emotionally, mentally, and physically. It’s just like losing a best friend, this person leaves gaps in your life and now you’re stuck learning to live all over again without them. 

Whether or not it’s fair, it is ultimately up to you to pick yourself up and learn to live your life without them, because with everyone else putting themselves first, so should you. So what’s the first step to living life without a Caregiver? Well, that’s really up to you, but if you want my advice, here it is. 

The first step is acknowledging  the gaps that are there in your life now that they are gone. Why exactly are they there and what can you do to fill them? Let's say that your ex Caregiver used to read you bedtime stories and now you still want that but it can’t come from them, so what can you do? You can go onto Youtube and search up audio readings of children's books or specific stories. Or let’s say that you used to go to the park with your ex Caregiver and play on the equipment, you can still do that, just go by yourself or with a friend. Find whatever it is - the gaps, and learn to fill them yourself, you don’t need anyone else to make you happy. Having other people in our lives is a great joy and comfort, but you need to learn to be a great joy and comfort for yourself, be your own friend first. 

Step two can be a little harder. You need to accept the fact that they are no longer your Caregiver and that you will have to regress without them. Remember, you started regressing before them and you can have a life of regression without  them. For myself, I have lost two Caregivers because of failed relationships, so I had a lot to accept besides just the basic Caregiver loss, and if you’re in the same boat then you will as well. It can be pretty difficult to accept the fact that they aren’t coming back, but you do need to accept it, holding onto false hope will only dig yourself a grave of pain. Start doing little things to take care of yourself so you can get into the habit of being more independent and recognizing that you are on your own for the time being during your regression.Which by the way is totally okay and normal. 

The third step that I suggest to start living your life without a Caregiver is to start thinking about what you want for your life and how your Regression fits into that. Now that you’ve experienced having a Caregiver you can make the decision on whether or not you even want one again, you may just want to experience your Regression on your own, which is perfectly fine! Many, many people who experience Age Regression do not even have a Caregiver because, A. They don’t feel the need for one, B. They're still searching for one, and C. They haven’t even come out of the regression closet . All which are completely okay because there is nothing that makes you any less of a Regressor for not having a Caregiver. Having a Caregiver is a luxury when it comes to Regression, not everyone is lucky enough to have one and whether or not you do is okay. 

Now that we have gone over three steps that  you can use to start living your life without a Caregiver, let's go over some of the side effects you could experience because of losing one. Just like ending any other relationship, platonic or romantic, there are going to be some negative things that you experience . Such as, Impure Regression, which if you do not know, is when your experience whilst regressed is a very negative and harmful one whether that be mentally, emotionally, or physically. Another side effect is lack of Regression, which means that even though you want to Regress or in a situation where you’d usually regress, you hold yourself back because of the lack of a Caregiver. I do not recommend doing that because from personal experience, it can cause more problems . It can cause headaches , stress , anxiety, mood swings , and so much more. Age Regression is a defense mechanism so when your mind is pushing you in that direction it is because it’s trying to protect you and when you fight that off, there will be consequences. 

There are so many factors when it comes to ending a relationship, platonic or romantic, but all in all, you need to be there for yourself. That is the best advice that I can give you. If you don’t know what that looks like, then think of how you would be there for a friend during the same situation. Put yourself in the caring dynamic with your own self, learn what makes you feel better ; mentally, emotionally, and physically. Become your own Caregiver. Learn more about your Regression and your Little side, learn what makes that side of you, you and how to make it flourish. When a relationship like that ends, it’s very painful at first, but don’t get lost in that pain. There are so many people in our world, it’s almost impossible to think that there won't be someone else just as good as your last Caregiver, if not even better! 

I hope this post helped someone in any sort of way, and if you know someone who could use this advice, please share this with them. 

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How Ageregression is SFW and how it shouldn’t be tied to other NSFW communities + how they are harmful.

Hello everybody, today I will be discussing a topic that is somewhat controversial, but it must be talked about and must be taken very seriously. Please when you are reading this, try to take it in, don’t just dismiss what I say even if you disagree, at least not until you’re finished reading everything . Please be aware that I will be mentioning NSFW things and communities , if that is a problem for you then please do not read .  So let's get into it! 

Today I will be discussing why Age Regression is completely SFW and why it should be treated as such as well as why some communities aren’t sfw and why you shouldn’t associate them with Age Regression . If you don’t know what SFW stands for, it means : Safe For Work, in other words, family friendly. If you read my first post then you probably already know where I stand on this, which is that Age Regression is SFW. Before I get into why it’s SFW, let me refresh you on what Age Regression is . Age Regression is a mental defense mechanism , which means that it’s the mind's way of protecting itself. This defense mechanism puts a person into a younger state of mind , for example , a toddler .  For most people it isn’t controllable or able to just do it on command, although for some, they have mastered how to control it and continuously use it as a coping mechanism .

Now that you have it in your mind what Age Regression is, let me inform you on why it is Safe For Work. Because Age Regression is a defense mechanism and puts a person into a younger state of mind , typically of a child, sexualizing it in any way, goes hand in hand in pedophilia . When you sexualize someone when they are regressed, it is basically the same as sexualizing a child. Because this person who is regressed is mentally like a child, they should be treated as such whilst regressed, that includes the way in which you are viewing them, treating them,and talking to them . The question you should ask yourself is, would you sexualize a literal child, if you’re a sane person then the probable answer should be no . Therefore, you should not sexualize Age Regression .

So now that we are on the same boat about not sexualizing Age Regression  and how it goes hand in hand with sexualizing children, let’s get into the different ways that you could possibly do so without any intent and how it is harmful to those who regress and people in general . One of the many ways and examples on how sexualizing Age Regression has harmed Regressors, Minors, and people in general, is some of the NSFW communities, such as : ADBL , MD/DDLG MD/DDLB , CGL , and Age Players . These communities take Age Regression and or the theory of children and childlike state of minds and sexualize it in many ways . 

How do these communities sexualize children and Age Regression ? Well, MD/DDLG/LB  started out as a coping mechanism from the BDSM community where the Dominant in the relationship also takes over the ‘ parental ‘ dynamic in the relationship and the Submissive takes on the ‘ child ‘ dynamic in the relationship . It was another way for people to heal their inner child, of course then it started to become perverted when people continued sexual behavior during this part of the relationship . Meaning that while the ‘ Sub’/ ‘ Child ‘ was still in their child-like state of mind , the ‘ Dom ‘ / ‘ Parent ‘ would take that into account and sexualize them in lots of ways, and both would still partake in  ‘NSFW physical activities ‘ . So if you don’t understand what I am saying through all of that, let me make it simple, MD/DDLG/LB is a relationship where both participants sexualize the relationship between a parent and their child . If that isn’t a red flag to you,  I don’t know what will be .

ADBL just like MD/DDLG/LB sexualizes children and Age Regression as well as Diapers . ADBL is a community of people that ‘ love ‘ to wear diapers , use them , and then sexualize it. If it doesn’t already sound gross then just wait . How does this sexualize children ? Well, obviously children wear diapers , use them , but you don’t sexualize that do you? It’s almost like they’re trying to promote that using diapers should be sexual . A lot of Age Regressors use diapers because they regress into such a young age that they cannot control that part of them, although some just like to wear them because it makes them feel comfortable whilst regressed . Now lots of people, especially disabled people, wear diapers . It isn’t a choice for them and I can guarantee that someone who has to wear a diaper because of their disability doesn’t want people to perceive them in a sexual manner because of it . Would you ? 

CGL is basically the same thing as MD/DDLG/LB except it specifically sexualizes Age Regression . This relationship likes to sexualize the relationship between an Age Regressor / Little and their Caregiver , ( the person who takes care of them in and out of their regression). Why is this harmful ? I think it’s pretty self explanatory . Age Regression should NOT be sexualized, therefore, CGL is morally wrong . 

And of course I have to make sure not to leave out the Age Players, what I would consider to be the grossest out of the bunch and the most harmful! Age Players are in their own specific community because a lot of people in the NSFW communities can acknowledge the fact that Age Play is beyond morally wrong . Age Play is when two or more people who are participating in sexual activities ( most of the time sex ) , pretend that one or both are children or babies . Just writing that out was disturbing for me, I can’t imagine what you’re thinking whilst reading this. If you still don’t understand, let me explain how that is harmful . It is not just sexualizing children and babies, it’s sexualizing Age Regression because people like to tie the two together, it’s giving BDSM a bad rep because whether or not you think BDSM is okay, most people in that community dislike Age Play and Age Players but Age Players continue to tie themselves with BDSM as well as other communities . 

All of these communities that I’ve mentioned like to tie themselves to Age Regression, which is just a defense mechanism . Minors and people in general should not have to see these things/communities pop up when trying to find out about Age Regression. They are trying to find out more about themselves , others , and good coping mechanisms, not perverted nonsense that will only hurt them emotionally and mentally . It is super harmful especially to minors who shouldn’t be exploited to those types of things at such a young age. It makes it hard for people to come out about their Regression to anyone because they’re scared that people will automatically get the wrong idea because of all of the gross stuff that has been put out there about ‘ Age Regression ‘ which in reality is just gross communities taking on the label of Age Regression . It prevents people from getting the help that they need because they’re too embarrassed to talk about it . It has created a stigma . 

This healthy defense / coping mechanism should not be sexualized any more than you would sexualize a child, therefore it should not be tied to communities and things that sexualize themselves, children , and others in any way .  If you have participated or are continuously participating in those types of communities / things , then please sit down and think about what I have written, because I guarantee you that you’re doing more harm than good for yourself and others by just ignoring this post . 

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Blog Introduction and Age Regression Information

Hello and welcome to my very first blog about Age Regression ! I educate about Age Regression on many other platforms , you may recognize this username from TikTok , Twitter , and Instagram . My main Instagram where I am most known , is Babybatsdomain . My main goal for this blog is to be able to educate others on all things Age Regression and those related . I want for the newer people in the communities to be able to have a source to go to  learn about these topics that they may be  unfamiliar with , this is also good for those who’ve been in the communities for a while and need a refresher  , and of course anyone who is just wanting to learn is always welcome here .  

The first topic that I will be getting into is , ‘ What is Age Regression? ‘ If you search up Age Regression on google or youtube you will find many, many results, but I am here now and informing you on the real deal . I am tired of seeing so many misinformed people spewing their opinions instead of sharing the actual facts, so let's get into it, yes ?

Age Regression is a mental defese mechanism or and can be a coping mechanism for some, it is when someone of any age mentally reverts into a younger state of mind, usually because of trauma but can occur under any circumstance . It is usually involuntary but can be voluntary for some depending on the person and why they are regressing . 

The first question that people usually ask about Age Regression when they find out about it is , well , what does that really mean ? ‘ Mentally Revert into a younger age?’ To be short , it means that mentally you become a younger version of yourself . People that Age Regress can regress into many different ages , it all depends on the person and their circumstance . One person may regress into a toddler and the other older or even younger than that . There are no rules on what age you must regress to  be a valid Age Regressor . But Age Regression , at least the form that I am referring to , is when you go back in age, not forward. 

The second question people seem to always ask, is , ‘is Age Regression sexual?’ The reason the majority of people who are new to the topic ask that is , well , because of how skewed the media has become now that almost everyone with the tech is on it and posting their opinions . That means that pedophiles and all sorts of sexual communites and unsafe people have been posting about things that truly don’t concern them for as long as they could . The answer to that question is an absolute NO . Age Regression is not and has never been sexual . Now I cannot deny the fact that some people have sexualized it themselves , but just like I mentioned earlier, gross people love to interject themselves into things, communities, topics, that don’t at all concern them . 

The third frequent question that is asked is , ‘ Well , how do I know if I Age Regress?’ It’s very simple and yet so complicated all at the same time . Think of it as the same way you would if you thought you had the flu, you count and detail all of your symptoms and make a list of them , easiest to deal with to the most difficult . Based on your symptoms , you either do or don’t have the flu . The same goes for Age Regression , except it may be different for you then it is for anyone else because only you know what being a child was/is like for you  . I can only help you some in this department , but let me go ahead and give some examples :

Baby Talk 

Slower Mind 

Clingy 

Crave childlike things , such as children's toys , stuffed animals , pacifiers , ect .

Have a problem using the bathroom on yourself 

Feel younger , babyish 

 A very simple way to figure out if you Age Regress is , to write down all of the reasons you think you may be regressing and then talk to a therapist about it who is knowledgeable on Age Regression . 

The Fourth most common question I’ve received on Age Regression is, ‘ What causes Age Regression?’ And the most common answer you’ll receive  from anyone is Trauma, although there can be many other reasons why someone will regress  . I can say from my personal experience and some of my peers, that our Regression was caused specifically by childhood trauma .We got traumatized at a young age and because of that we didn’t get the childhood that all children deserve, but it had it’s bad side effects, one of them being ‘ Growing up too soon’ . Other causes that I've heard of are : Enduring trauma later in life , stress , constant strain on the body , fear , insecurity , PTSD , BPD , ect . Please keep in mind that this goes mostly for involuntary regression , people who voluntarily regress all have their very own reasons for doing so and depend on the person . 

The fifth and final question that people often ask is , ‘ Is Age Regression healthy?’ The simple answer is , It depends on the person . You see Age Regression has been a thing for a very , very long time, but serious studies about it and articles that are 100% trustworthy are frankly new, as in , they’ve only been done within the past ten years or so , at least from what I’ve seen . From my own personal experience , I can say confidently as well  that my own therapist has also informed me that as long as it isn’t harming you in any way , then it is healthy . There are so many bad things that people could be doing or experiencing , but as long as you’re okay with it and managing it and it isn’t hurting you or anyone else , then regressing is okay for yourself and others . 

Some things that I would like to make clear before I end is ; No , Age Regression isn’t sexual, Yes , you can regress into any younger age, No , Age Regression isn’t always a choice but can be . 

So overall, I hope you learned something new today and if you didn’t, then I hope you can share this with someone who will! Please be careful on what you read on the internet about Age Regression, there are many misinformed people out there trying to spread their ‘knowledge’ and I would hate for you to take in something that is dangerous. Please stay clear of anything like DDLG, ADBL, CGL, Age Play, NSFW Little, those are all corrupt versions of Age Regression. I will talk all about those later on! 

If there are any topics that you would like for me to discuss later on, please comment them and feel free to correct me on anything that I put out as factual that is in indeed wrong, it is not my purpose to misinform.

- Koda