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still researching US adoption/fostering/etc. for my fic and the more I do the more I'm just realizing that America makes it damn near impossible to ethically take care of kids in the system I only researched in-depth for 3 states but generally from what I can tell there is literally no way for the birth family/first family to choose who gets to take care of their kid. like if you're in a bad financial spot and want idk- your cousin to have legal guardianship of your child. you just...can't do that. there are not many, or any, options for you to name someone you deem appropriate. or if you can, you 1. have to PROVE you have a "good reason" for doing this and the list for what they deem a "good reason" essentially boils down to just "if you're so sick you're dying" 2. it expires after 6 months and that sometimes means you have to apply for a 2 month court process all over again and 3. even if you manage to appoint a guardian you trust they won't be able to do things like sign school permissions or take your kid to the doctor which seems important

which means that if the state recognizes that you are not financial fit to take care of this child, they WILL put the kid into the system and they will be either fostered or adopted by complete strangers. and in the case of adoption, in a majority of cases, those strangers will cut you off completely from that child's life. which has been proven over and over again to be deeply traumatizing. and this is not even counting in how families of color, particularly Black families are disproportionally affected by having kids taken into the system. and in case you didn't know, despite adoption being marketed as "saving unwanted kids" in a majority of cases- the birth families DO want the kids. they just don't have the means to take care of them.

in a study done in Australia (so take that with a grain of salt about how it might apply to America) where they asked adoptees how the feel, they found that kids are the happiest in legal guardianship situations. where the biological parents don't loose their parental rights, but it is instead given to one more person. most state that having the option to communicate with your bio parents, and being able to choose if you want it or not, is the best. additionally, the parental rights not being taken away from the bio parents made the two families be more on an equal footing, unlike open adoptions where despite having contact with the bio families, adoptees still felt as thought their adoptive families had the final say in everything. the unhappiest group, and I mean BY FAR were people in closed adoptions. and in America, THIS option. the studies-proven best option for the adoptee, is largely unavailable. because more than anything else, the adoption INDUSTRY doesn't care what's best for the kids. they care about what the best thing for the buyer aka the adoptive parent is. the children are nothing but a product.

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i love arcane

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anyways i'm assuming everyone's seen that clip from jon matteson's tgwdlm stream where he outs paul as bi during the credits? fantastic, canon, no notes.

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the s2 finale broke me but i'm being so brave about it

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francis farnsworth is one of the funniest characters to me ever. he's literally just a personification of the "umm. I'm neurodivergent and a minor??" meme but his two primary personality traits beside that are one. owning a gun and two. breaking the forth wall. peak right there

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arcane s2 fun

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today my bf and i were talking about visiting my home for the holidays and i was (sadly) wondering aloud if i should cut my hair and our kid was like "why would you cut your hair??? your hair is cool" and not knowing how to explain it to him i said "my family doesnt think boys should have long hair" to which he went silent, wordlessly pulled out his phone and then swiftly held it out with a picture of keeanu reeves on his phone

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something's gone terribly wrong

(you're all i wanted)

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hi 👋 I love your art! how about Crowley and Aziraphale at the beach? I imagine Aziraphale wears one of those old fashioned bathing suits and Crowley wears speedos

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bro i LOVE indigenous fusion music i love it when indigenous people take traditional practices and language and apply them in new cool ways i love the slow decay and decolonisation of the modern music industry

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atmod art dump!!! literally had no energy for a big piece so i relistened to atmod all week and made a few things :3

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in all timelines in all possibilities only you can show me this

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Maybe the real Herr Forehead is the friends we made along the way

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They somehow managed gaslit an entire fandom into giving up on a theory only to go "SIKE YOU WERE RIGHT"