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I want you to remember:

The fascists hate you too and they just will pretend otherwise until after they've killed the rest of us, before they turn on you.

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It's never too late, on the left I'm 23 and on the right I'm 31. I didn't start HRT until shortly after my 29th birthday, so I'm only 2.5 years into transitioning, but I'm getting prettier and happier every day

btw if ur following me and worried about transitioning bc its 'too late' or ur 'too masculine' or whatever

this was me at 26 in my peak repression era

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I'm not going to keep going on about this, because I didn't really mean to make a whole Thing of it, but there are two reasons it really bothers me when people say my books should have had a romance plotline/love interest:

They're saying they wish my protagonist's sexuality was different. When somebody says, "I wish this gay book was straight instead so that I could relate to it more," or whatever, we rightfully recognise that as homophobic. When somebody says, "I wish this aroace character had a love interest," people call that a personal preference and make excuses for why that's not the same thing. Given that my protagonist's sexuality is something she shares with me, it feels particularly unkind, because it's essentially saying, "Lives like yours aren't interesting to me, I wish you had a different sexuality." Ouch.

I may have been exaggerating when I said 99.9% of YA books have a romance plotline... but not by much. It is everywhere. If you want a YA book with romance, you don't have to make any effort to find one, because nine times out of ten, whatever book you pick up will have one. It might be the main plot, it might be the subplot, but it'll be there. I was told repeatedly that I would have to have romance if I wanted my YA books to be published, because the category insists on it. So if you want YA books with romance: basically every other book is for you. It's not like it's a rarity that you were hoping I would finally give you. You have the entire cake; leave us our crumbs.

Like I said in the tags on my original post, this wasn't about one specific person or review. Please don't single anybody out if you've seen them say something similar to this. If it happened once, it wouldn't bother me; it's the pattern, and years of being told before publication that I would have to compromise on this element of the story if I wanted to make it, and social media marketing trends that focus almost exclusively on romance tropes and make it hard to engage when you don't have them.

And, on top of that, it's the weird anxiety of knowing that my next book, the Bisclavret retelling, is more romance-heavy, and while I want it to succeed, there's a bittersweetness to the idea that my yearning book might succeed where my aroace books didn't, purely because romance is marketable and friendship isn't.

(Even though I know there are so many other factors -- different genre, different category, different format, different publisher, different style, and a retelling that can appeal to an existing audience rather than my own characters and story that have no prior fanbase. It still feels like the romance will be what makes the difference.)

As I said on Bluesky yesterday, talking about both my fiction and my academic work:

Okay. That's all.

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Reblog daily for health and prosperity

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Started at 29 and I get cuter every day

im putting this to my phone and putting it on foreground in hope that mom will open it up and see it.

i hope my mom will piece it together... (or recognize the person)

coming out?? no.. this is not coming out... this is just purposely showing signs!!

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this website’s easy watch. *dangles a bunch of greek gods like keys*

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My friends seem to like it, so here, have a quick snap of the sunrise this morning

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this website’s easy watch. *dangles a bunch of greek gods like keys*

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Made a little something on slur reclamation.

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I confess that I constantly see cis women every day who could 100% pass as trans women. Shoulders larger than hips, adams apples, receding hairlines, hairy arms, huge hands, everything. If they had deeper voices, I'd assume they're just like me.

It just... idk it makes me so happy. I get caught up in dysphoria sometimes that I forget that most if not all beauty standards are bullshit. Letting the upper class define womanhood was a mistake.

Omg this is so real! The definition of 'woman' is so stupid euro-centric and so clearly defined by unattainable and misogynistic beauty standards.

We've gotten so used to airbrushed, filtered, edited versions of what the human body should look like that we all sturggle to fit into it. And its important to remember (especially for trans women) that these ideals are bullshit.

Human Women have Variation!

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do you ever just wanna sit next to someone and listen to everything they could possibly say about anything ever just because you like their face and their voice and their general existence 

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please read this story of a man accidentally discovering his wife is the world's best Tetris player

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A couple of quick tremes a heehee 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹 I made these instead of paying my taxes

ALSO BTW I BOUGHT ACRYLIC MARKERS PEEP THIS GRINCH

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thank you for using this hellsite as intended.

reblogs are important, if you liked a post, reblog it! that is how posts are spread, that is how people get to see art and creations and fics. it makes creators very, very happy.

we have a long time until season three, let's make sure everyone feels appreciated.