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I’m a hater but nothing can convince me that tabis are cute… they’re HOOVES

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I know it's not the end of the world but people who get salad at all you can eat sushi or something piss me off so bad... If you're not double fisting the rice and fish and tempura down your gullet within the first 20 minutes before you get full then why the fwak are you here?

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I also got my first and second sonny angel this week... they're cute as shit and I understand the hype now.

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If I were to do an overview of my life right now I'd give it somewhere around like a 6.8-8.2 out of 10... closer towards the higher side and probably more accurate on this end is because I am very fortunate to be where I am right now. I have a new job with tasks that I can see myself growing more familiar and comfortable with, and I work with coworkers who are nice and considerate. not to mention I get paid more, and in a more reliable way. I also see a goal and future in this position if what I believe it's promising me is what it actually is. similarly on the positive end I love my boyfriend and somehow, almost in a blink of eye we've been together for 9 months now. I see myself loving him more everyday and we've come up with a routine that helps mends our distance. I've experienced a lot of new feelings after being with him and it feels nice to be with someone who is so certain and in love with you. I like where I'm at with my physical appearance and while there are things I wanna change I definitely don't feel pressured or rushed to become a "prettier" version of myself. I've been able to document my life through video and photos and it's made my online life, regardless of who's viewing more colorful and memorable to me. on the other hand! lower on this spectrum is your average overthinking abilities a 29 year old woman has... and as I'm getting older things feel more serious and sometimes I see my parents not as people who are as in love with each other as I remembered as a child. I see their pain and their age and it's scary to think about the future in the eyes of someone who is no longer oblivious to the struggles of life. while I see merits in my job I also feel like times goes by slower because I have to adapt to a new work style that's so different. I'm not in control as much as I was at my last job and the slow pace yet urgent corporate life is a huge change in my career. similarly, as much as I love my boyfriend... him being my first raises a lot of questions for me and I have this internal battle every now and then about where we might end up or how my life will change if our families were to become involved in our relationship. I'm turning 30 in a week and I don't feel OLD but things do feel more adult nowadays but I think whatever I feel whether good or bad is normal. I just have to remember what whatever happens in my life... I'm ready, even if I'm not.

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watching kang haneul's new thriller "wall to wall" on netflix and it's kind of mid. I love this man, but he's always in some distressing down on his luck role when he should be superman or something. the movie itself drags on and it's pivoted from mystery to straight up murder. I don't even understand what's going on anymore like.... this movie isn't that compelling at all nor is it scary. It's just strange and maybe it's a realistic approach on how it is to be house poor (minus killing someone) but the things he has to go through just to be a homeowner? why didn't he just buy a smaller flat and in part maybe it's a story on how human greed has no bounds but it's kind of miss for me. I think kang haneul's character is a dumbass but he's a good actor nonetheless so 4/10

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and please remember to stay up late because that’s free time

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shu katerina

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had a really fruitful discussion with my boss at work the other day, and long story short I can conceptualize my future at this company more. I can also see myself growing into a more niche role with the proper training he's promising. I've been here for 2.5 months and it's still taking time for me to adapt and more importantly I'm trying to LEARN to be the new girl again. deep down I feared that this role was too generalized for me to forge a career path in this company and there were certain things I was hired to do that I actually don't prefer to do and I was scurred that I'd just have to suck it up until I quit. I'm also taking on a lot of the work here for my colleague who is on maternity leave and in conjunction with all the doubts I had I couldn't really see how we'd be able to split up our work once she came back so? I guess I just didn't see where this position could lead but after speaking to my boss I felt much better about the prospects here. I spoke to him candidly about my preferences and he honored it by saying he will train me in the field I want to be in, and because we're expanding there are a lot of positions that are necessary in this office that will help me develop the skills I want. positions that are related to what I want to do, or at least positions that I CAN grow into. working corporate is such a big change I've kinda been shaking in my boots this whole time but I'm being brave about it and I'm glad things seems to be moving in the right direction for me.

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the rational side of my brain is always like "the 'if he wanted to he would' mentality is dangerous because it gives way for people in a relationship to be petty and mad when their partners can't read their mind. It fosters bad habits and stupid arguments because one side is oblivious but the other is probably sulking and seething for not getting what they want when it wasn't properly communicated to begin with." BUT! the emotion side of my brain is like "my boyfriend should just know that I'm upset and I'm mad even if I say nothing and he should be attentive and hypervigilant to my emotional state and how I react to the things I say otherwise why am I with him????" you can't win to be honest

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been seeing this one girl that has no lips on tiktok that goes on and on about relationships dos and don'ts and I don't remember if she was also the one who was bitching about her friend not getting her a wedding present... but alas! she was just saying how women should NEVER treat their boyfriend's family to anything unless he's put on a ring on it. that just because you give them something doesn't mean they'd do the same for you. she definitely has some trauma response to this and while I get her point she comes across it soooo vehemently like you'd regret everything you ever done if you do this and you'd hate yourself for it. okay ma'am it seems like you've hated yourself for it but I think it's also important to remember... if you truly wanted to do something, gift something, treat someone or love someone you shouldn't be looking for anything in return. does it suck when feelings or good will is not reciprocated? absolutely but if you're over here sulking and seething and REGRETTING doing something you wanted to do for your lover or your lover's family then why the fuck are you here? just give up or find someone else who you naturally do want to do these things for? there doesn't need to be a reason to want to be nice... niceness also DOESN'T need to be in the form of gift giving either. moreover, getting married shouldn't be the greenlight for you to be FINALLY buying gifts for your in-laws either and I think it's kind of naive to need this "security" in order to want to be polite and courteous and normal. I know everyone has different expectations but I just think it's really funny to watch videos alike that give you all these rules and regulations on what you should and shouldn't do as a woman/man in love. just do whatever the hell ya want