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“as you get older, you realize that you’re not always right and there’s so many things you could’ve handled better, so many situations where you could’ve been kinder and all you can really do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.”

— Unknown

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Why Practicing Your Dream Self Privately is so Important

We all have versions of ourselves we want to be. Let’s call her “She.” 

She may be smart, beautiful, oh-so-sophisticated, knows exactly what She’s doing when walks into a room full of unknown people, accomplished…everything you’re aching to be. 

You’re struggling to achieve Her because you’re not used to being Her. You keep that version 2.0 of yourself in your thoughts but you don’t practice it irl. 

Not practicing it means that when you suddenly have to turn on your charm or have to remember etiquette in the presence of company, you can’t seem to recall those practices. Perhaps you might even feel uncomfortable, shy or awkward trying to remember all those talking points you had noted down, the “elegant gestures” that one tiktoker talks about constantly… suddenly you’re wondering how on Earth you can leave this godawful event without seeming rude. 

The problem is lack of practice. You’re so used to sitting on your couch at home with your legs spread wider than a man on a metro seat that it feels uncomfortable to now sit in a mannered way at the office dinner with the important employees. Your stomach is so used to gobbling down food without patience that you look longingly at the bread basket longer than the person seated in front of you. 

So therefore, if at home you’re not used to being even half of your best self, how are you going to feel fully confident when you’re supposed to bring “Her” out?

Obviously being fully dolled up at home makes little sense. But if you don’t practice the manners, the behaviour, the etiquette of Her - how will you comfortably transition into Her?

Do you expect to just wake up someday and become Her? Do you not think that it will take time, energy, practice to get what you want?

No amount of senseless manifesting or daydreaming is going to make your dreams come true. 

Certain habits, gestures, expressions will only come naturally to you when you make them natural to yourself by way of practice. 

You’ve read enough, saved and liked enough posts, you’ve learned all the mumbo jumbo theory to getting your life together but it’s all useless if you don’t put your learnings to practice irl.  

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“If you can’t do anything about it then let it go. Don’t be a prisoner to things you can’t change.”

— Tony Baskin

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No one will ever fully be able to understand the internal battles you had to endure just to heal, just to grow, just to make it here today. Be proud of the way you fought to save yourself. Be proud of the way you survived.

Bianca Sparacino

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Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being disrespected.

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the fact that i'm no longer the same age as the protagonists of novels and films i once connected to is so heartbreaking. there was a time when I looked forward to turning their age. i did. and i also outgrew them. i continue to age, but they don't; never will. the immortality of fiction is beautiful, but cruel.

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I will remove anyone from my life to protect the peace that I've worked so hard for. Nobody took me out of the dark. I did it on my own.

Unknown

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only 3ish more inches till my hair is this long :)

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