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An excerpt from my new podcast episode <3

Link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4k6ofgaQcNcQgpNI10w59S?si=MhP-Dj-XTUOYmbxBKcwubQ

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important safety tips for women who love the night + party life

Transportation |

if you know that you’re going to be getting drunk or under the influence of anything, don’t take your car. and if someone else is driving you, still, always have a backup plan. download a ride sharing app like uber, lyft, etc. and load the account with $100.

ALSO, when you create the account never use your actual name. use a name like “brock” “brad”, etc. the most masculine sounding, pretentious name possible. this is to avoid trafficking or getting hurt honestly.

For the profile picture, use this website called thispersondoesnotexist.com it’s an AI website that creates fake images, so these people aren’t real. Use this as your pfp and keep refreshing till you find a man.

This is so when you’re under the influence, everything is already set up and is ready at the click of a button. if the person asks anything, say “oh he’s my husband.” they will be LESS likely to harass you if they know a man is paying for your ride, they will not fuck with you.

Emergency bag |

you need to be carrying around the essentials in case of emergencies. you need an extra pair of underwear, pads/tampons, socks, hair ties, pepper spray or any self defense items, mini body sprays, and deodorant. your bag should be medium sized. never go small.

NEVER set your bag down unless you’re with people you really trust and you know that nobody is going to go inside. if you’re going to unfamiliar area’s, keep it attached to your hip idc. and ALWAYS carry at least $50 cash with you, and your bank account should have at least $100.

ALWAYS carry pepper spray, lipstick tasers, anything that will help you defend yourself. and NEVER trust any man that you meet. if he asks for ur number give him a fake one, if you download textnow it gives you free phone numbers. never give out your instagram either.

People |

You need to know and understand your limits when it comes to drugs and alcohol so u can control yourself when you’re in a crowd. If you know you’re a lightweight then don’t be drinking 8 shots and a truly. People take advantage of drunk girls, and alcohol erases memories.

If a guy is being overly nice and touchy to you be wary of that, and try to find a friend. if you sense yourself getting friskier grab a bottle of water. never ever lose control. keep your mind right.

Read books like the art of seduction and the 48 laws of human nature + power to understand the psychology of people. this is important because when you get into public settings you have a mental guide of who people truly are. always be smart and aware period.

If a guy is being creepy, find a random group of girls and act overly excited and start talking to them as if they’re your friends. literally any random woman will understand.

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Hi, my name is Mary Elizabeth <3

This is a blog centered around beauty, fashion, self-help, and female empowerment in a way that is realistic and actually helpful.

I will be posting all of my articles here mainly, and other things relating to the topics that i mentioned.

Currently, I am writing a book centered around self improvement & powerful affirmations.

My subliminal audio’s: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuUrGUd8VDp7-GKtn95eNMGAKO1NILJw3

My twitter: https://twitter.com/cherryh3aven?s=21&t=Pc-DvaFPjoPl0qiQTvue-Q

My personal insta: https://instagram.com/maryelllizabeth?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA=

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You’re your own biggest enemy | defeating yourself

You cannot destroy iron with your own two hands, but it’s rust will.

Only you have the power to destroy yourself, because within you exists free will.

Unless you are a child, blindly led by the cards in which you were dealt with, unaware of your own personal freedom of choice and way of thinking and ability to expand, then you will realize that you are in control of your own destiny. And that the only thing that has the power to destroy you, is you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀

I had to learn this the hard way, but it’s a scary feeling knowing that every choice and action that I make affects every aspect of my own personal being. And what essentially happens to me, will always be up to me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I cannot blame another person for their own pain that they cause upon me because it was my choice to even have them in my space.

I cannot blame the taste of sweets for the extra weight that I may gain because I chose to give into my desire and longing for sweetness, I cannot blame money or abundance for not being present if it is, because I chose to not welcome the frequency of it.

The truth of this concept some may not agree with, but I do, because it makes me feel better about my life. To know that I am in control, and will always be in control, allows life to happen for me and not to me.

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How to fall in love with yourself | A guide

It seems so easy to fall in love with any and every thing but ourselves. we develop passions and connections and relationships with people and million different things, but at times it can be so difficult to do the same for ourselves.

Falling in love with yourself isn’t narcissistic, but rather the opposite. you aren’t doing this to gain something from someone else, but rather reaching emotional fulfillment.

Loving yourself isn’t easy, i’ll admit. but it’s worth it. I have a few tips to get you there.

1. Eliminate things that don’t make you feel good.

This may seem harsh, but are there certain things in your life that drag you down? this could be anything honestly.

Until you let go of whatever has you in shackles, they will always hold you back from being the type of person you’re meant to be or doing the things that you have always wanted to do. Do what feels good. listen to your heart. What does it want? why can’t you have it?

2. Get comfortable with your body

This is a really hard one, I know. But think of your body as a car driving through life. If you’re running on terrible gas, a bad engine, and trash everywhere, how long do you think that car is going to last? It’ll probably get stuck.

Your body is your car. And you have to treat it like it matters to you, and not tear it down. It keeps you alive, it helps you to expirience this life. Never disrespect it, it’s doing the best that it can honestly. Your body listens to you. And it responds to your thoughts.

Learning to accept your body and wanting to change it because you want it to be better is much better than starving yourself or binge eating. Ask yourself why you do these things, meditate on how to love your body more.

3. Go back to your roots.

What were you naturally drawn to as a child? what types of hobbies and interests have you repressed?

Sometimes revisiting old hobbies and interests from our pasts selves can help us unlock who we always were meant to be.

The world and life can drown out your purpose; you’ll find yourself lost and confused and not knowing who you are anymore because you’re pieces of other things. But what used to make your eyes sparkle. What are you passionate about? No passion is ever too childish. Who are you?

4. Take really good care of yourself.

Part of loving yourself is taking care of yourself honestly. Like i’d day at least 50%. Plan self care days, get a skincare routine, create a wardrobe for yourself, take yourself out on dates, compliment yourself, spoil yourself.

When you treat yourself how you want to be treated you’re teaching others how to treat you. This is some hard advice, but if you constantly put yourself down, complain, walk with your head down, eat bad foods + listen to sad music,how do you think you’re going to turn out?

You have to have respect for yourself and know what you really deserve. You have to walk away from the things that aren’t good for you and I know it’s hard, but you’re doing it because you love yourself enough to know that there’s better out here for you. I’ve been there. I know.

5. Live for your future self.

Have a long list of goals and commit to them. Live and love for the future. Be grateful for the now. Always remember that life goes on. And it can be so beautiful honestly. If you let it. If you live for it.

Falling in love with yourself is simply understanding your needs, understanding your boundaries, and understanding what you truly want out of this life.

Comparison is the biggest killer so don’t worry too much about what others think and say about you.

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Beauty | What is it?

Beauty is something that I have spent all of my life obsessing over. In middle school, Highschool, even my life after. The concept of beauty is often shoved down our throats in the sense that, the media is always and constantly pushing all kinds of agendas as to what it’s wants us to look like. But this isn’t beauty.

True beauty, is abundance. Abundance is feeling complete and utter joy for life itself, appreciating everything around you, and receiving the richness of gratitude. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

When you are radiating at an abundant frequency, you experience the phenomenon that is beauty. Appreciation, polarity, love lust and hate all in one. You feel everything, because everything is apart of life and that itself, is beautiful. Beauty is when you are doing what your heart desires and in return, you glow. It’s when you aren’t afraid, when you speak your truth, when you follow your heart. That’s when you’re beautiful. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Beauty isn’t a standard that only one party will ever achieve or have access to. When you die, you cannot take your outward appearance with you. You can only take your experiences, and your soul. ⠀⠀⠀

Is your soul beautiful? Or is it empty, and tired, and thirsty, longing for you to follow your heart? You’ll never be satisfied until you actually do.