cakesofwhimsy

[cakesofwhimsy]

So I was reading some of my previous blog post and I do sound a bit crazy I'm not going to deny that. And I also don't wanna delete them because I feel like that was a transitionary period for me so, I'll keep them up.

But if you're reading them and you're like oh this seems a little bit off. Trust me I agree too 😭

[cakesofwhimsy]

holographic remote control

imagine the holographic remote control

Imagine not allowing other people to use your remote control. Because it's your holographic remote control. They don't get to touch it and their suggestions definitely don't get to penetrate and touch a remote control. It's your remote control!

densities- topics have diffent desities

[cakesofwhimsy]

imagine you were to get a sugar daddy that didn't want to sleep with you or see you often

he just kept you on his automatic monthly pay roll. $10,000 each time

imagine the silence of knowing that you are the only one that knows about this arrangement..

[cakesofwhimsy]

types of timelines

Parallel Timelines: Imagine two people who live their lives in parallel but never meet. They might experience events and pass through similar periods, but their paths never cross. This is akin to parallel lines which never meet, no matter how far they are extended.

Intersecting Timelines: Now imagine two people who, at some point in their lives, cross paths. They meet at a specific time and place, share an experience, and then continue on their separate ways. This is similar to intersecting lines, which meet at a single point. The point of intersection represents the time and place where their timelines cross.

Perpendicular Timelines: If those two people meet in a particularly significant way, like a dramatic and life-changing event, you could think of this as perpendicular lines. Their meeting forms a right angle, symbolizing a distinct and impactful intersection.

Coinciding Timelines: Imagine two people whose lives are completely intertwined. They share the same experiences, go to the same places, and essentially live the same life. This is like coinciding lines, where the timelines are superimposed on each other, representing a complete overlap in experiences.

Summary

Parallel Timelines: Lives that run alongside each other but never intersect.

Intersecting Timelines: Lives that cross at a specific point, representing a meeting or shared event.

Perpendicular Timelines: Lives that intersect in a particularly impactful or significant way.

Coinciding Timelines: Lives that are completely intertwined, sharing all experiences.

[cakesofwhimsy]

are you sure you want to be with me? people will talk

of course love i wannna be with you

but my skin color...

girl shut the fuck up, im literally trying to marry you.

ew you know im not getting married until i have financial stability

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passive income assembles itself irl

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money assembles itself irl

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i can only go up with wealth i can only go up with money

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Imagine

People can observe you and be kind

People can see you do something crazy and be kind

People can hear you say something "stupid" and be kind about correcting you

People can see you mess up and be kind about helping you

People can see you being excited and "nerding out" and be kind

[cakesofwhimsy]

things i like

generating new interesting ai images, and finding ways to add my perspective and

going thrifting and finding the exact peice of clothing that i intended to find ( great material quality and construction, perfect fit and flattering from all sides etc)

Breaking away from thought patterns or beliefs/stories they're not conducive to anything I want. Like I 'can have my cake and eat it too'

I like finding something very valuable for a low price and reselling it

[cakesofwhimsy]

Back when I wanted male validation. I always felt it was so romantic for a guy to accept me for who I am. In the sense of like

" once he says those words to me I'll feel OK and good about myself"

Do you know how CRINGE that is ? Letting my sense of self worth be dictated by some random dude??? Like really think about it. Not some character in a daydream, but just a random dude irl. that's gross and sorta pathetic 😭

Like all that it was taking for me to feel good about myself with one random dude being like "uggh...yeah I like you"

"uhh i think your pretty" because if you think about it, you're taking someone's arbitrary, decision, opinion, and using it as an indicator of how you gonna feel by yourself.

[cakesofwhimsy]

Deprogram your mind!

not everyone wants to date

not everyone wants to have sex

not everyone is seeking out a romantic relationship/experiences

not everyone is seeking sexual relationships/experiences

there are no "normal" life experiences/expectations to meet

Everything that social media/television/movies/books/people tell you is just a suggestion. You get to choose what's right for you and your life.

Just because it's not being shown in media Or you're not hearing other people talk about it doesn't mean that it's wrong for you to be existing the way that you wish to exist.

Or for you to be wanting the things that you want. Or for you to be planning the future that you want to live.

My biggest wish for my 20s is to live in NYC with 2-3 good friends (Golden girls style), and like have them not want to date or engage in sexual/romantic experiences.

And I thought for a long time that that wish was impossible. Because I felt like I was the only person who was aro/ace ( I was the only aro/ace person in my old friendships and i felt uncomfy living with/being in friendships with allo ppl)

And also all the media that I had seen of a group of friends living in NYC always involved a sexual/romantic, plot line. So my young impressionable brain thought that it was impossible to have an all aro/ace friend group.

It took me recognizing and accepting that, "yes there are other aro/ace people, who are probably more romantically and sexually repulsed/disinterested than I am. People who would want to live out that Golden girls fantasy of mine

so do you want never mind. Start excepting and normalizing that you can have an allo-free friend group.

[cakesofwhimsy]

One of the reasons why I want to I have my own things, car or house or whatever it is because I want to. Because I recognize that eventually if the owner wants to sell this house I’m at their mercy. They can decide that you know what I don’t want to on this how many more until we sell it to somebody Figure out where to go. Like the same thing with the cards like if they decide that they don’t want any more than want to sell it. I’m trapped. But it does cause some inconvenience at my son inconsistency. I guess I don’t know him so I have consistency in my own Authority and Autonomy

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In high school, I asked out this girl, and I feel guilty because she took time and effort to do something sweet and I feel like my approach was very masculine and like kind of offensive. I thought she didn’t like it because I gave her like a little 💩 because I said you’re the shit. And yeah, I would love to never rember it and this time is until like my insecurity to understand social context.

I always felt like I was a bit too slow in context and upset .

[cakesofwhimsy]

the only purpose of reality is to accommodate itself to my favor

Imagine, being in a celebrate friend group, celebrate, friend, group, celibate, friend, group, and you, and one of your friends, gus, I have an attraction towards each other and end up developing a secret relationship. It's steammy and gets sexual

[cakesofwhimsy]

imagine instead of being a negative over thinker- imagining the worst case scenerion

you say "what if it doesnt go wrong"

" what if they dont invalidate your feelings"

" what if they dont judge your living situation"

what if i dont cringe at my behaviors/actions)"

" what if i manifest thousands of dollars in a blink of an eye

what if im not realistic about money and how much i can have and recieve"

what if

[cakesofwhimsy]

things to get excited about financial stability and independence:

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only person eating my food ( no worries )

ordering food without judgement or guilt (i just eat and enjoy)

walk around the house naked( or however clothed i please)

no more anticipating running into people (i just wont)