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Happy birthday @flashflashitsash!

I have a special fic list just for the birthday girl! It’s fun chatting with you and becoming friends (💍😉)

From the Ashes by Miniminou (AO3)

6 years ago after the death of his father Adrien Agreste leaves Paris, but as fire spread across Paris, he finally decides to come back to help his lady. Only 6 years can put a lot of strain on a relationship & why why is Chat Noir being so cold to his lady? 😰

Just My Luck by tiggertink08 (AO3)

Lemme explain -> LB loves CN, CN loves LB, but they can’t be together with Hawkmoth on the loose. So they find other people similar to distract themselves with aka Adrien sees Marinette & Marinette sees Adrien the only problem is that Adrien is her boss’s son. 🤯

Marked by Fate by ChocoluckChipz (totally_lucky) (AO3)

For a year, Marinette has been receiving gifts on her balcony, but with her impending engagement, that has to stop. She made a plan and executed it perfectly, catching someone more important than she ever thought it would be. 💍

Personal Assistant Ms. Dupain-Cheng by random_to_the_core & Slytherin_Spice_and_Everything_Nice (AO3)

Adrien Agreste is a Bad Boy™️ (At least he thinks he is). Until his father hires a bold (& oblivious) bluenette as his assistant. What is Adrien supposed to do when his high school crush works for him?! 😳

Puppy Love by coccinellesroses (AO3)

After impulsively adopting a new pet, Marinette is struggling to keep her from destroying everything she owns. Fortunately for her, she finds a dog trainer that’s perfect for her task. With added blonde hair, beautiful green eyes and a smile to die for. 🐕

Compatible by emsylcatac (AO3)

When Ladybug brings some old magazines she used to read as a teenager to a sleepover with Chat Noir, they end up doing an ‘Adrien Agreste compatibly test’, something she has done more than once younger. There’s no way her partner could beat her at it and get a higher score than her. NO WAY ♥️ 💯

Mort Vivant by ElleEcrivain (AO3)

She should’ve known that the apartment was too good to be true. Like everything else in life it came with a catch. And that catch was currently floating in her kitchen. 👻

Here We Go Again by Bronte (AO3)

Mama Mia AU X Miraculous Ladybug (a fic you never knew you needed till now) 🎶

Debts on the Battlefield by TheNovelArtist (AO3)

Their kingdoms are at war, yet somehow, they regularly find themselves indebted to each other on the battlefield. ⚔️

Happy birthday again Ash!♥️ Have a spooky birthday! Leave some love for Ash on her tumblr and some love to these wonderful authors!

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Why did it take me rewatching Bones for the millionth time to realize the parallel of Booth putting Brennan in a cab?!?

Honestly, how could I have been so blind.

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Impostor Syndrome: What it is and how to deal with it

There may be times when you feel like a fraud, like at any moment people will find out that you have no clue what you’re doing and you don’t deserve any of your achievements. You think that you’re unworthy of praise, that you only succeeded out of luck.

This is known as Impostor Syndrome, and around 70% of people have struggled with it in their lives. The problem arises when high achievers fail to internalize their success, i.e. when you attribute your success not to your own abilities but rather to external factors.

Some say that impostor syndrome could be linked to traits like anxiety or neuroticism. Impostor syndrome has also been commonly attributed to behavioral causes like childhood experiences, e.g. being labeled as “the smart one” or “the talented one”.

Another huge factor is how well you think you fit into a certain group, e.g. impostor syndrome is common among people of a racial/ethnic/cultural minority, women in STEM, and international students at US universities.

Dr. Pauline R. Clance was the first to design a scale to measure impostor syndrome based on six factors

The impostor cycle, where someone is given an achievement-related task and they either (a) overprepare or (b) procrastinate

The need to be special/the best

Superhuman characteristics

Fear of failure

Denial of ability and discounting praise

Feeling fear and guilt about success

There are different types of impostors, as categorized by Dr. Valerie Young, an expert on impostor syndrome (note that these categories aren’t mutually exclusive):

I’ve personally dealt with the first two types. I’m fairly certain I can attribute being ‘the genius’ to childhood/adolescent circumstance: I’ve been known as ‘the smart one’ throughout elementary school and high school - every time I made a mistake, it was met with a chorus of ‘wahh jo made a mistake…’ Even last month when I had a mini-reunion with some of my high school friends, one of them said something along the lines of “I like when Jo makes mistakes because it reminds me that she’s human, too.” I can definitely say I’ve overcome that now because, you know, college - everyone’s as smart or smarter than you and works pretty hard.

Being ‘the expert’ is still something I’m still trying to overcome. Last spring when I was applying to internships, I only dared to apply to those where I met 100% of the requirements. I’ve been coding for like 4 years but I constantly think I’m incompetent. It once got up to the point where I literally took 3 similar courses to assure myself that I actually do know how to do full-stack web programming. I still struggle to draw the line between relearning something because I don’t think I really know it, versus learning something for the expansion of knowledge.

How do I deal with it?

Firstly acknowledge that you have impostor-related thoughts Awareness is the first step to changing how you think and how you act.

How does impostor syndrome look like in a school/college setting? Examples include

You refrain from asking questions because you think other students/TAs/the professor will think you’re dumb;

You don’t respond to questions even though you kind of know the answer but you always think your answers aren’t right enough or that they’re simply wrong;

You don’t participate in discussions because you feel that you won’t add any value; or

You prevent yourself from having an opinion because you feel like you have no right to have one.

Reframe your thoughts

Think of their possible effects Do these thoughts help or hinder me? Will anything useful come out of thinking this? Acknowledge that not speaking up may mean slowing your team down or depriving your classmates of potentially valuable insights.

Separate fact from feeling Are they factual or simply a misinterpretation of my environment?

Differentiate feelings of fraudulence from feeling like an outsider Does my work show that I’m incompetent or is the fact that I’m the only female in a team of males/POC in a team of Caucasians make me think I’m inferior?

Stop comparing yourself to other people You might think something along the lines of “there are already so many people who can do what I do but so much better, so what’s the point in even trying?” However, remember that these people were once where you were, and taking even the smallest of actions could help you get to where they are.

Be more forgiving with yourself

Rethink perfection Not everything has to be perfect. Even if you have high standards, not achieving those standards doesn’t make you any less worthy.

Reframe mistakes and identify areas of improvement It’s okay to be wrong or not to know everything. Think of mistakes as learning opportunities and indicators of gaps in your knowledge/understanding of something, as opposed to a negative measure of your self-worth. Being wrong doesn’t mean you’re fake; it just means you have more to learn.

For example, previously I would only answer a question in class if I was at least 90% sure that was the correct answer. That’s a high threshold, and I don’t think it’s very useful for helping me learn and grow. Over the course of a year, I’ve managed to lower that down to I’d say around 60% (50% with coffee lmao).

Collect positive experience

Remember and reflect on praises Think about the efforts you exerted to help you achieve something and the positive responses you garnered when you finally achieved it. Remind yourself of the words of encouragement other people have told you, no matter how small. You could even keep a folder/document/journal to look back on when you feel like a fraud.

Heck, sometimes I feel like my posts aren’t useful or my designs are terrible, but then you guys tell me such kind things and I think, maybe I’m not as bad as I thought.

However, while it’s good to remember the good words people have said, don’t work just for the sake of praise. Focus on the value of the work itself and not the validation that comes from it.

Focus on providing value

Focus on what you can say Instead of thinking about what you don’t know, focus on what you do know and what you can say. Even if what you say isn’t entirely correct or relevant, it’ll get others around you thinking.

Remind yourself that holding back is like robbing the world of your ideas There’s always some value in your words, even if you don’t initially think so. How that value affects the world or other people may differ. For example, when you put forward an idea/thought in a discussion, it could be that

If there were parts that were incorrect, other people might have had the same misconception and are more than happy for the clarification;

Again, if there were parts that weren’t correct, they might not have had the same misconception but now realize that there is a way in which the subject can be misinterpreted, thus allowing them to have a more comprehensive understanding of the subject; and/or

It’ll stimulate further thinking and discussion and raise more questions, especially if other people wouldn’t normally think what you just thought. Then other people could bounce off your idea and form an equally great one.

Take action You won’t feel as much of a fraud if you’re doing something that brings you a little closer to achieving your goals or that adds value to your work.

However, be careful not to overwork yourself. Every time you start doing something, pause and think: is this really important to my progress or am I just trying to prove myself?

Instead of working on too many things, do something outside your comfort zone each day no matter how small. Once you do this, focus on quality (your growth) instead of quantity (the number of things you do).

Also, for those of you who fall into the ‘expert’ category, this also means practicing just-in-time learning, i.e. learning things when you need it, not just to comfort yourself.

I hope that was helpful, and please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions/comments/suggestions :)

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DO NOT DO THIS.

This makes me so angry.

If you work in a movie theater and you do this I have no respect for you.

My younger brother is Type 1 Diabetic.

When we go to a movie theater, we always get him diet soda. If he were to get regular when we asked for diet, we would not give him the insulin he would need for it. If that happens, his blood sugar level could go so high he could go into a coma, go blind, or even die.

If somebody gave him regular soda instead of diet without telling us, that person could be responsible for a nine-year-old being killed or blinded.

Just thinking about that makes me so angry. I get scared every time we take him to a movie in case the people working there saw this picture and decide to do the same thing.

Please signal boost this so people know.

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Source: 1 2 3 4 5 6 If you want more facts, follow Ultrafacts

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Heard some important information on Twitter today, and thought I’d post it here for anyone who may not have heard it. This is actually a thing, devised by human rights organisation called Karma Nirvana.

Reblog to save a life?

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Something I’ve been thinking over in the past few days-

The thing is that-

Bellamy never had to do any of it.

He never had to come down to earth to make sure his sister’s save.

He never had to follow Clarke back to camp in 1x08, he could’ve just kept going on his own.

He never had to let all the delinquents and Clarke into his heart and risk his life for them in Mt. Weather.

He never had to stay behind and take care of them after she left in season 2. He could’ve just as easily walked away himself.

He never had to walk through a forest hurt and bleeding out in a desperate attempt to save her because she was kidnapped by the grounders.

He never had to agree to going to Polis and her taking the chip because *she knew she had to* and he believed her.

He never had to go out in the radiation rain or give Clarke and the other’s hope that as long as they breathe, they can make it.

He never had to go out there and spend an entire season six saving Clarke, leaving behind everyone else, he never had to do the CPR and save her, he never had to protect her and bring her back home.

He never had to do any of it.

But he did it.

Because of his heart.

He gave his heart away and in the end none of them cared.

None.

That’s the tragedy of living. That’s it.

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HUGE NEWS!! THE SUPREME COURT JUST HAD A MASSIVELY IMPORTANT RULING THAT RESULTED IN NEARLY HALF OF OKLAHOMA BEING RETURNED TO THE NATIVES!

HERES AN ARTICLE ABOUT IT

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A nurse has heart attack and describes what she felt like when having one

I am an ER nurse and this is the best description of this event that I have ever heard. 

 FEMALE HEART ATTACKS 

 I was aware that female heart attacks are different, but this is description is so incredibly visceral that I feel like I have an entire new understanding of what it feels like to be living the symptoms on the inside. Women rarely have the same dramatic symptoms that men have… you know, the sudden stabbing pain in the chest, the cold sweat, grabbing the chest & dropping to the floor the we see in movies. Here is the story of one woman’s experience with a heart attack: 

 "I had a heart attack at about 10:30 PM with NO prior exertion, NO prior emotional trauma that one would suspect might have brought it on. I was sitting all snugly & warm on a cold evening, with my purring cat in my lap, reading an interesting story my friend had sent me, and actually thinking, ‘A-A-h, this is the life, all cozy and warm in my soft, cushy Lazy Boy with my feet propped up. A moment later, I felt that awful sensation of indigestion, when you’ve been in a hurry and grabbed a bite of sandwich and washed it down with a dash of water, and that hurried bite seems to feel like you’ve swallowed a golf ball going down the esophagus in slow motion and it is most uncomfortable. You realize you shouldn’t have gulped it down so fast and needed to chew it more thoroughly and this time drink a glass of water to hasten its progress down to the stomach. This was my initial sensation–the only trouble was that I hadn’t taken a bite of anything since about 5:00 p.m. 

After it seemed to subside, the next sensation was like little squeezing motions that seemed to be racing up my SPINE (hind-sight, it was probably my aorta spasms), gaining speed as they continued racing up and under my sternum (breast bone, where one presses rhythmically when administering CPR). This fascinating process continued on into my throat and branched out into both jaws. ‘AHA!! NOW I stopped puzzling about what was happening – we all have read and/or heard about pain in the jaws being one of the signals of an MI happening, haven’t we? I said aloud to myself and the cat, Dear God, I think I’m having a heart attack! I lowered the foot rest dumping the cat from my lap, started to take a step and fell on the floor instead. I thought to myself, If this is a heart attack, I shouldn’t be walking into the next room where the phone is or anywhere else… but, on the other hand, if I don’t, nobody will know that I need help, and if I wait any longer I may not be able to get up in a moment. 

I pulled myself up with the arms of the chair, walked slowly into the next room and dialed the Paramedics… I told her I thought I was having a heart attack due to the pressure building under the sternum and radiating into my jaws. I didn’t feel hysterical or afraid, just stating the facts. She said she was sending the Paramedics over immediately, asked if the front door was near to me, and if so, to un-bolt the door and then lie down on the floor where they could see me when they came in. I unlocked the door and then laid down on the floor as instructed and lost consciousness, as I don’t remember the medics coming in, their examination, lifting me onto a gurney or getting me into their ambulance, or hearing the call they made to St. Jude ER on the way, but I did briefly awaken when we arrived and saw that the radiologist was already there in his surgical blues and cap, helping the medics pull my stretcher out of the ambulance. He was bending over me asking questions (probably something like ‘Have you taken any medications?’) but I couldn’t make my mind interpret what he was saying, or form an answer, and nodded off again, not waking up until the Cardiologist and partner had already threaded the teeny angiogram balloon up my femoral artery into the aorta and into my heart where they installed 2 side by side stints to hold open my right coronary artery. 

I know it sounds like all my thinking and actions at home must have taken at least 20-30 minutes before calling the paramedics, but actually it took perhaps 4-5 minutes before the call, and both the fire station and St Jude are only minutes away from my home, and my Cardiologist was already to go to the OR in his scrubs and get going on restarting my heart (which had stopped somewhere between my arrival and the procedure) and installing the stents. Why have I written all of this to you with so much detail? Because I want all of you who are so important in my life to know what I learned first hand. 

1. Be aware that something very different is happening in your body, not the usual men’s symptoms but inexplicable things happening (until my sternum and jaws got into the act). It is said that many more women than men die of their first (and last) MI because they didn’t know they were having one and commonly mistake it as indigestion, take some Maalox or other anti-heartburn preparation and go to bed, hoping they’ll feel better in the morning when they wake up… which doesn’t happen. My female friends, your symptoms might not be exactly like mine, so I advise you to call the Paramedics if ANYTHING is unpleasantly happening that you’ve not felt before. It is better to have a ‘false alarm’ visitation than to risk your life guessing what it might be! 2. Note that I said ‘Call the Paramedics.’ And if you can take an aspirin. Ladies, TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE! Do NOT try to drive yourself to the ER - you are a hazard to others on the road. Do NOT have your panicked husband who will be speeding and looking anxiously at what’s happening with you instead of the road. Do NOT call your doctor – he doesn’t know where you live and if it’s at night you won’t reach him anyway, and if it’s daytime, his assistants (or answering service) will tell you to call the Paramedics. He doesn’t carry the equipment in his car that you need to be saved! The Paramedics do, principally OXYGEN that you need ASAP. Your Dr. will be notified later. 3. Don’t assume it couldn’t be a heart attack because you have a normal cholesterol count. Research has discovered that a cholesterol elevated reading is rarely the cause of an MI (unless it’s unbelievably high and/or accompanied by high blood pressure). MIs are usually caused by long-term stress and inflammation in the body, which dumps all sorts of deadly hormones into your system to sludge things up in there. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let’s be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive to tell the tale.“

Reblog, repost, Facebook, tweet, pin, email, morse code, fucking carrier pigeon this to save a life! I wish I knew who the author was. I’m definitely not the OP, actually think it might be an old chain email or even letter from back in the day. The version I saw floating around Facebook ended with “my cardiologist says mail this to 10 friends, maybe you’ll save one!” And knew this was way too interesting not to pass on.

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I had a dream that the person who I used to talk to was engaged and it hurt because I logically know he was never mine but there had still been a part of me that would romanticize the idea of what we could have been. But my God is sooo good that He was trying to help me. I woke up hurting but knowing that God was showing me His mercy. He wants me to be move on completely so I can heal from this! I prayed for His help on moving on and He has spoken to me in a way that I can finally settle it in my heart and in my mind that that guy was never for me.

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I don’t understand the whole “no one wants to hear about the dream you had last night” thing like??? dreams are so cool I love hearing people describe their dreams

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Yes

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Letting the small lizard that has invaded your room have the said room for the night is normal, right? Like right now I don’t have the energy to move my bed to relocate a lizard to the outside world.

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I’m emotional because Martin gave up when he thought Simone was dead and he blamed himself and he would rather die than hurt her.

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Last Ten Fics Meme

Post the first lines of your last ten fics and then tag others to do the same!

i was tagged by @michaelgrantnash @braveprincess and @chase-the-windandtouch-the-sky angels that they are 💖🌈

1. tranquil as a forest (on fire within) 

Clarke hit the ground, the impact jarring her knees and sending debris flying. There was grass in her mouth.

2. say my name (wear it out like a sweater)

When Clarke came down to the ground, she never expected for the delinquents to look to her as a leader.

3. Love Like Fools

“Get your feet off the couch,” Clarke yelled out as she entered the apartment, toeing her shoes off by the door.

4. like lovers (or partners in crime)

Susie’s heart attack had been sudden, and rather inconvenient.

5. I First Tasted The Universe On A Night Like This

Clarke was having a good day - she’d gone for coffee with Lexa after dropping Madi at school, and she collared her first bail jumper before lunch - and then that man showed up and everything went downhill.

6. All These Things That We Were

When Octavia disappeared into the Anomaly, Bellamy went a little crazy.

7. from the moment i met you (wait for a slow song)

Clarke had known Bellamy for about as long as she could remember.

8. Waste Time With a Masterpiece

“I can’t believe you’re dragging me to the Sexy Fireman Calendar shoot,” Murphy complained as they got out of the car, boxes of food in hand. “And on New Year’s Day, no less.”

9. Bury a Friend, Try to Wake Up 

Five weeks after they landed on the new planet, Clarke jerked awake, fighting off yet another nightmare as it receded back to the furthest recesses of her mind.

10. untitled unposted darejones fic

It had been a long day, and all Jessica wanted to do was get inside and share a drink with Erik.

bonus: Surprise 1k Celebration fic

She was working at a hospital in Indonesia, somewhere in the very heart of Medan, when she first glimpsed the woman.

turns out a lot of my fics start with clarke, who’da thunk? i’m tagging @eyessharpweaponshot @pawprinterfanfic @grumpybell @anyone else who wants to do it, just tag me, i love this stuff 💖💖💖

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reblog this n tag it w how tall u r im curious