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“Confidence isn’t walking into a room with your nose in the air and thinking you are better than everyone else. It’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone in the first place.”

— Unknown

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“People start to heal the moment they feel heard.”

— Cheryl Richardson

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“A man come into my life and I have to compromise? For what?

Poco tempo fa mi sono imbattuto in questo video..... stavo cercando il significato del perché alcune persone utilizzano il compromesso come metodo , per loro funzionale, del stare all’interno di una relazione..... ho sempre notato che ho un master nel fare compromessi e mi sono sempre reso conto che fare un compromesso e’ alcune volte un modo per accettare cose della relazione che non ci piacciono...fino a che punto? fino al punto a non stare bene con questa persona ? non sono d’ accordo... Eartha Kitt esprime questo concetto nel migliore dei modi... con il suo modo cosi’ eccentrico <3

“When you fall in love, there is nothing to compromise. I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with me. I want someone to share me with me." 

“A relationship is a relationship that has to be EARNED! Not to compromise for!”

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HEY

I found this chart

It was invented in 1980 by Robert Plutchik. It’s super helpful when you need to pinpoint what you’re feeling!

As someone on the autism spectrum, I have a hard time expressing or even understanding what emotion(s) I’m experiencing. This chart helps me articulate to people how I feel so they can help me better.

I hope people find this useful!

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Daily reminders

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People with low self-esteem are more likely to sabotage themselves when something good happens to them because they don’t feel deserving.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

PREACH!

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Recovery is not about never being sad again or never relapsing again or never struggling again.

Recovery is a mindset. Recovery is changing the way you think so that when you feel sad or relapse or begin to struggle again, you know how to cope with it.

So when we talk about recovery, we’re not talking about being fixed , we’re talking about modifying the way we process our thoughts and ‘failures’ in a healthier way. This way when we have bad periods they don’t consume us.

Recovery is a mindset.

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Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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CAN  WE PLEASE FOCUS  <3

Making sense of things

You feel unlovable, because the people who needed to love you were incapable of loving you.

You feel like you are at fault for everything, because the people who were supposed to have your back instead blamed things on you–even when it wasn’t your responsibility.

You feel unworthy, because the people who were supposed to value you instead treated you like a second thought and refused to give you what you needed.

You doubt yourself constantly, because the people whose support you needed consistently gaslighted or disregarded your thoughts and feelings.

You feel as if you are not enough, because no matter what you said or did, the people in your life you looked up to continued to neglect or abuse you.

You feel undeserving of good things, because it was the only way to make sense of a family/environment where you were never acknowledged and treated poorly.

You feel all of this, because you were abused and/or neglected. 

And all these feelings seem like concrete fact, because it’s all you have ever known. You did not get the love and care you deserved. But you don’t feel that, because you have been brain-washed otherwise. You took responsibility for their inadequacies and faults. 

Their failures have never been yours–no matter how much they kick and scream otherwise. It was always, always theirs. And never yours.

You are worthy. You are enough. And those are facts you never got the chance to see.

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Daily reminders

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My therapist: you need to trust yourself

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Making sense of things

You feel unlovable, because the people who needed to love you were incapable of loving you.

You feel like you are at fault for everything, because the people who were supposed to have your back instead blamed things on you–even when it wasn’t your responsibility.

You feel unworthy, because the people who were supposed to value you instead treated you like a second thought and refused to give you what you needed.

You doubt yourself constantly, because the people whose support you needed consistently gaslighted or disregarded your thoughts and feelings.

You feel as if you are not enough, because no matter what you said or did, the people in your life you looked up to continued to neglect or abuse you.

You feel undeserving of good things, because it was the only way to make sense of a family/environment where you were never acknowledged and treated poorly.

You feel all of this, because you were abused and/or neglected. 

And all these feelings seem like concrete fact, because it’s all you have ever known. You did not get the love and care you deserved. But you don’t feel that, because you have been brain-washed otherwise. You took responsibility for their inadequacies and faults. 

Their failures have never been yours–no matter how much they kick and scream otherwise. It was always, always theirs. And never yours.

You are worthy. You are enough. And those are facts you never got the chance to see.

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Ariana Grande _ Thank U, Next ( Listening Party) + dopo averlo ascoltato almeno 10 volte

Ok.... dire che sono eccitato è dire poco, dire che sono spaventato è dire poco... ok mi devo calmare... non sono pronto a lasciare “Sweetener”... ok... ora clicco play....

1. Imagine : che dire di questa meraviglia? immagina di stare tutta la vita con la persona che ami; mi da come il significato di stare con una persona che ti accetta per quello che sei... punto.. tu e lei/lui... non esiste nessun’altro...p.s. i whistle alla fine fanno un baffo a Mariah Carey! 10/10... rimane un 10!

2.Needy: se ne parla da mesi di questa canzone... sentito mille ottocento preview...il “ din din din din” iniziale... già mi piace... descrizione perfetta di una persona che ha bisogno di essere amata, come tutti noi...Ariana Psicoanalista BOOM! 10/10..rimane 10

3. NASA: Il concetto di NASA viene utilizzato per figurare il concetto del voler spazio da una persona e prendersi del tempo per se. Primo ascolto non mi attira 7/10... stupenda punto! 9!

4. Bloodline: Classica situazione dove l’ altro ti vuole, nonostante ti tratti male, e tu gli dici “I dont need u” bye bye ( Can relate ); 8 /10 .... è un 10 per me !

5. Fake Smile: In questa canzone viene espresso il concetto dell’ autenticità “ se sto male te lo dico, non riesco più a mostrare un sorriso finto”. 7/10 10! She speaks to my soul

6. Bad Idea: Ho avuto un’ idea sbagliata --> andare con un’ altra persona per dimenticarne un’ altra; so che è sbagliato ma ne ho bisogno; Bel ritmo, bella produzione ( Max Martin ovvio) 9/10 ... 10/10 ADOROOOOOOO!

7. Make Up: Fare l’ amore dopo una discussione. Punto. 6/10... è una groover.... al terzo ascolto la amavo già.

8. Ghostin: Riferimento a Mac Miller. C’è poco da dire. 8/10... POWER BALLAD 10

9. In My Head: Quando stiamo con una persona ci creiamo un’ immagine in testa; quando ci rendiamo conto che questa immagine non corrisponde alla realtà fa male; 9/10.. sorry.... SHE SPEAKS TO MY SOUL TWICE 10/10

10. 7 Rings 9/10 Era una Groover...è cresciuta con gli ascolti

11. Thank u Next 10/10

12. Breakin up with your girlfried, i’m Bored 8/10 Molto bello il sound ; crescerà con gli ascolti sicuramente..... infatti è un 9 per me ! adoro la parte finale!

Giudizio Finale: Mi manca Sweetener! 

Dopo diversi ascolti... non è possibile comparare i due album... stupendi entrambi! Thank u, Next venderà sicuramente! Congrats Ariana <3

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You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.

Tony Gaskins (via onlinecounsellingcollege)