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For those of you with anxiety

here’s a website that translates the time into hexidecimal colours,

here is a website where you can create your own galaxies

here is a website where you can play flow

here you can interact with organisms in different environments to see how to music changes

here you can play silk which is an interactive generative art designing website.

Here is a website where you can travel along a 3D line into the infinite unkown

here is a website where you can listen to rain with or without music

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#1 I am so happy you are back! #2 I started smoking again because it helped me with my anxiety last time and it's been helping but also making things worse. When I'm smoking I'm fine but as soon as I get home and have to talk to my mom I feel like shit because I've been keeping so many secrets from her but I don't want to make her life harder.Everytime she talks about my siblings smoking she sounds so dissapointed. She thinks I'm the best child bc I have no problemsShe knows about.help, please?

Hey anon! Aw, thank you, happy to be back!

This is a hard situation, and frankly, I haven’t been in a similar one, so it’s hard for me to give you advice. I’ll at least try. 

The first thing I’d do is to tell your mother honestly. It’s not really a healthy status to be seen as the “best child”, because it makes you feel the way you do now. Of course every child wants to do good for their parents, but every child also does bad things every so often. Smoking is obviously not a good thing but if it’s what’s helping you for now then so be it. 

She’ll probably be disappointed for about a day or two (if not less), and then it’ll all be okay again. She won’t love you any less because you smoke and if you explain the reasoning behind it she might even understand a little, even if she doesn’t agree with it. 

I understand it’s hard to disappoint your parents, but it’s not healthy for anyone to be seen as a perfect kid, because no one is ever a perfect child. 

I really hope that helps, please let me know what you decided to do and whether you need further advice!

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is it usual to go nonverbal after having a panic attack? like I had one today and for about 2 hours afterwards I couldn't talk. like I couldn't physically get the words out. idk if it can be called aphasia but that's basically what it felt like tbh

Hey anon. I know exactly what you mean! I always have this, and it’s hard to deal with, especially if you’re in class or something similar, where you can’t just NOT talk. 

For me personally it always feels like I’m going to gag when I do try to talk, and I just can’t speak, at all. I can still “hum”, but that’s about it.

I honestly can’t tell you whether it can be called aphasia or not, because for me, I simply accepted that that’s what happened after or during an attack and didn’t really look into it afterwards, so I can’t answer that, I’m sorry.

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do you have to experience panic attacks to have anxiety? i cant find the answer anywhere because when i look it up, only information about panic attack comes up, not anxiety. thanks

Hey anon. This is a hard question for me, because anxiety can be loads of things. I do think it’s possible to have anxiety without particularly having panic attacks, but I also think that it’s very unlikely to live a life with bad anxiety without ever having an attack, but that’s MY experience. I can’t talk for anyone else but me right now. There are people that will agree with me, and there are people that will disagree with me, but I think anxiety is such a broad term that it is possible to have anxiety without attacks.

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i have a really bad fear/phobia of sharks to the point where i cant go swimming and cant have my feet dangling at any time. no one understands how bad it is because they just say "but its not really there" and "less people die of shark attack than ----". and seeing or even hearing the word shark makes it nealy impossible to sleep for days. summer is coming and its worst then because beaches and the endless amounts of shark stories on the news and tv. how do i cope? thank you

Hey anon. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. It sounds like it’s controlling your day to day life, and in that case I’d like to recommend that you perhaps see a professional for your phobia. A therapist can help you thoroughly and can adjust the treatment to your phobia. When people tell you that “it’s not really there” and other stuff like that, please tell them that (almost) all phobias are completely irrational, and that that’s what makes it a phobia. It doesn’t make your fear less, so it’s real to you, and it’s there for you. Please tell them that to them it might seem weird, but that in your head that’s what’s happening and they have to at least attempt to understand what a phobia is. 

What about starting out with stepping in a small puddle, then maybe filling a kiddie-pool and just dip your toes in (I’m SO sorry if this is triggering to you, to read this, I really didn’t mean to trigger you). Maybe step by step you can try to become less and less scared of water because of the animals you’re scared of (I didn’t want to type out the word). 

I hope that helps, anon!

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I'm having such a bad day today. I have generalized/social anxiety as well as emetophobia. I've been seeing a therapist since last August and have realized/learned quite a bit about myself. Though I have been working to improve my quality of life and my marriage- some days are just so hard. Today is one of those days. Everything is just too much but I don't want to complain because complaining was one of the things I've been working on! I don't feel well physically or emotionally. It's too much.

Hey anon. First of all, you can be very proud of yourself for seeing a therapist and for sticking with therapy for such a long time, even though the realizations might not always be nice ones (for me they weren’t always, at least). 

Sometimes we just have these kind of days, and sometimes all that helps is just to breathe through the day and just accept that this is not a nice day, and that you need some time to feel better. Tomorrow will be better, and it’s okay to have a day “off”. If you want to complain, just complain, however I do not feel like what you’re telling me is complaining. It’s what’s going on for you right now and if you hide it or purposely not tell people, you might feel even worse about it. Sometimes you just need a good rant!

Please let me know whether you’re feeling better!

Hope that helps, anon!

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To the anon with the fear of water: I understand your fear! And trust me, it's alright to be afraid. It may not help much, but please know that the water that flows through your pipes and into your home go through a filter before it gets to you. Drinking water is okay, too! If you are still skeptical about the drinking water, I would suggest getting a water filter with a pitcher. It's okay, lovely! Everything will be okay:)

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Appreciation.

In a way, my anxiety made me appreciate small things more, things that others might not even think twice about. Going to my internship for a whole week without staying home once, doing grocery shopping, making important phone calls. I appreciate those things when I’m able to do them.

I’m not saying you should appreciate your anxiety, or be happy with it, but this weird form of appreciation made everything 70% easier since EVERYTHING is an accomplishment. Public transport? Accomplishment! Riding the bike for a long time and enjoying it? Accomplishment! Eating something that scares me (even if it’s a little)? Accomplishment!

Even if you plan on going out, put on your coat, but still get too anxious to go, it’s a form of accomplishment. You wanted to go out, even put on your coat. It’s better than just saying no when someone asks you out, it’s probably further than you got last time, and next time you’ll maybe even be able to go!

Again, I’m not telling you to appreciate you anxiety. Anxiety sucks. I’m telling you to appreciate the things you can do, DESPITE your anxiety.

Because of this, I am a happy anxious person.

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please help me. i am afraid of water. i keep thinking about how fetuses and dead dogs have been in the water that i drink and it makes me throw up when i drink or shower. this is literally taking over my life and i want to cry please help.

Hey anon. You sent me this a few months ago. Please let me know how you’re doing and what’s going on now. I’m so sorry for not responding earlier.

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I'm pregnant with my boyfriend. I'm embarrassed to say how old I am, let's just say I'm not a teen mom by over a decade, I went to college, started my business but my life with this guy took a turn for the worst and I lost everything, I went to rehab trying and trying to work it out and now this. I'm sober but I have severe anxiety I've been in my bed locked in my room for over a week. I have literally nothing and mom was 302ed when she found out she tried to kill me Then herself. It's serious.

Oh my gosh, anon. I feel so incredibly bad for not seeing this message earlier. Please let me know how you are, since I know it’s a few months later now. I’m really sorry.

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Hey :) I just wanna ask if have you experience having panic attacks that you can't do simple tasks? And how do you make it stop? I really need help to overcome my 'mental illnesses'it's ruining my life, sadly. thank you ver much ❤

Hey anon! Sorry for the late answer. If you’d like an explanation, please see the post I wrote called “I’m back”.

During very bad panic attacks, I do have a hard time doing simple tasks. For me personally, it’s very important to keep trying to do them though. Distraction by doing tasks is a very important part to get myself out of an attack. Never stop focusing on your breathing though, and try to do breathing exercises that work best for you. 

If you have any other questions, I’ll be glad to answer them.

I really hope that helps!

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I'm sorry for all that has happened, I know it's late. I know you can get through this you are strong and wonderful. You have a kind heart and I hope you know how amazing you are!

Thank you so much, anon. This gives me strength.

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I would really like to talk to someone that I don't personally know and your blog says that you are willing to listen to someone's story. I feel the need to tell someone everything, but it's a lot. Is that okay?

Hey anon. Please do. I made this blog for that exact purpose. I’ll listen.

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I’m back

Hey guys. I just wanted to write this post to tell you all that I am back and I will be answering questions again from now on. I’ve been gone longer than I initially thought, and for that I’m very sorry. I know an apology like this doesn’t mean anything, and the only thing I can do to make up for it is to prove that I will be active on this blog from now on, so that’s what I’m going to do.

First of all I’d like to thank everyone that has sent me supportive and warm messages throughout my breakup a few months ago. I’ve read every single one of them and I’m very grateful to have people like you in my life.

Second of all I’d like to explain why I wasn’t active at all until now. When my then-boyfriend broke up with me, and I was forced to go back to living with my parents, I was obviously devestated for a while. However, the break up wasn’t as bad for me as I thought. It’s the string of events that happened after that that kind of broke me. Fact is that every few days after he broke up with me, another bad thing happened to me. Some of them pretty were pretty big bad things (him having another girlfriend within a few weeks, one of my pets dying, failing exams, being sick with the worst flu I’ve ever had during my exam-period, etc). I won’t go into more detail than I did there, there’s a lot more that happened, but I’ll leave that out of it. 

My anxiety isn’t as bad as I expected it to be, I’m kind of taking it all in and accepting that this is what has happened to my life right now. It’s not the worst things that can happen, of course, but it shook me up real bad.

The last thing I want to say is that I don’t need supportive messages, even though I appreciate every single one I get. I’m okay, I really am. All these things are what has happened, and of course they’re still in my mind, but it’s okay. I’m okay, I’m a positive person and I can’t change what has happened. 

From now on I’m back.

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