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picking up road kill and slicing it into a beautiful pelt is one of the most productive and relaxing expressions of violence and no one can take that from me.

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tired of the only form of “acceptable” vent being depressed or pathetic or helpless. im not fucking helpless. just bc y’all felt helpless when bad shit happened to you doesn’t mean i have to feel helpless after bad shit happened to me. I’m allowed to be fucking angry and express how fucking angry i am through fictional violence regardless whether you fucking approve or not.

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https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/hidden-suffering-psychopath

An unbiased and informative article on psychopathy. As expected there’s things I don’t agree with, still, it’s better than most articles I’ve read.

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Congratulations you looked up the bastardized version of the no longer used diagnostic criteria from a non scholarly website bc someone said not to conflate their disorder, caused by abuse, with abuse 

the term “narcissistic abuse” is inherently ableist because it automatically assumes a disorder is the cause of abuse and puts abuse in the same frame as mental illness instead of individual responsibility. 

my mother was depressed and bipolar and frequently abused me when she had episodes. i was not “bipolar abused” i was abused. my father was extremely anxious and would abuse me using his perpetual fear and agoraphobia. i was not “anxiety abused” i was abused. 

armchair diagnosing people with narcissism just because you dislike them is ableist. you can learn to cope with your own abuse without being ableist. 

when a narcissist tells you that your use of the term “narcissistic abuse” is ableist and your kneejerk reaction is to tell them either “if you’re really not abusive you shouldnt have to worry about it” or “im only talking about the bad narcissists” you’re still being ableist. In fact, if your reaction is anything but “I understand and will do better” it is ableist. Trying to defend your use of “narcissistic abuse” is ableist. 

“if you’re not abusive, this doesn’t pertain to you” -> assumes NPD is inherently abusive, which is ableist

“I’m not talking about people who get help or people who are actively seeking treatment” -> implies NPD is, still, inherently abusive and non-introspective, which is ableist.

learn to cope without stepping on people you have been conditioned to hate for no reason other than misinformed ableism. in fact, it’s healthier to realize that abuse solely happens because of the conscious choices of an individual, not because of divine power, not because of mental illness, not because you deserve it (no one deserves abuse). 

Stop holding on to internalized ableism solely because of your trauma. Being abused or traumatized does not mean you get to be an asshole. 

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“Sociopaths can learn empathy” is nice and all but neither do we have to in order to be treated like human beings but autistic and other nuerodiv folks also lack empathy. Lack of empathy doesn’t solely apply to the people you deem evil.

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People say they ‘support/ advocate’ mentally ill people when they don’t support those with cluster a, b, and or c disorders. Believe it or not there’s more than just depression and anxiety

If you say you’re not ableist, then you should tread those with aspd, npd, bpd, hpd, avp, ocpd, dpd, ppd, szpd, stpd equally and as people.

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me: i have a disorder that can make me act on impulse and sometimes prevents me from seeing reason

friend: ok

me: *displays aforementioned behavior*

friend: omg can you just chill?!

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Your shitty mother isn’t a narcissist. Your toxic ex isnt a psycho. You were not a victim of “bpd abuse”. Your abuser was not sociopathic and did not have antisocial personality disorder/was not antisocial. People with harmful and illogical opinions such as government leaders aren’t delusional.

Start finding vocabulary that isn’t ableist here are some examples of more accurate and less harmful descriptions.

“My mother is conceited and self centered, which impacts me negatively still and led to abuse”

“My ex is violent and seems out of control a lot, and they’ve traumatized me through their abusive behavior”

“My abuser [describe their actions without mentioning their bpd bc its not what fucking makes some one abusive . that would be like saying "my abuser had depression….I am a victim of depressed abuse and distrust those with depression now because they’re abusive” ]

“My abuser didn’t have any sympathy or compassion for others and objectified me.”

“My abuser lashed out at others and was always very cold and distant to me.”

“They’re willfully ignorant and hiding behind their privilege.”

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the term “narcissistic abuse” is inherently ableist because it automatically assumes a disorder is the cause of abuse and puts abuse in the same frame as mental illness instead of individual responsibility. 

my mother was depressed and bipolar and frequently abused me when she had episodes. i was not “bipolar abused” i was abused. my father was extremely anxious and would abuse me using his perpetual fear and agoraphobia. i was not “anxiety abused” i was abused. 

armchair diagnosing people with narcissism just because you dislike them is ableist. you can learn to cope with your own abuse without being ableist. 

when a narcissist tells you that your use of the term “narcissistic abuse” is ableist and your kneejerk reaction is to tell them either “if you’re really not abusive you shouldnt have to worry about it” or “im only talking about the bad narcissists” you’re still being ableist. In fact, if your reaction is anything but “I understand and will do better” it is ableist. Trying to defend your use of “narcissistic abuse” is ableist. 

“if you’re not abusive, this doesn’t pertain to you” -> assumes NPD is inherently abusive, which is ableist

“I’m not talking about people who get help or people who are actively seeking treatment” -> implies NPD is, still, inherently abusive and non-introspective, which is ableist.

learn to cope without stepping on people you have been conditioned to hate for no reason other than misinformed ableism. in fact, it’s healthier to realize that abuse solely happens because of the conscious choices of an individual, not because of divine power, not because of mental illness, not because you deserve it (no one deserves abuse). 

Stop holding on to internalized ableism solely because of your trauma. Being abused or traumatized does not mean you get to be an asshole. 

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i wish all roleplayers who give their characters ASPD solely because they’re serial killers a very die. 

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my PD ass on a daily basis

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the term “narcissistic abuse” is inherently ableist because it automatically assumes a disorder is the cause of abuse and puts abuse in the same frame as mental illness instead of individual responsibility. 

my mother was depressed and bipolar and frequently abused me when she had episodes. i was not “bipolar abused” i was abused. my father was extremely anxious and would abuse me using his perpetual fear and agoraphobia. i was not “anxiety abused” i was abused. 

armchair diagnosing people with narcissism just because you dislike them is ableist. you can learn to cope with your own abuse without being ableist. 

when a narcissist tells you that your use of the term “narcissistic abuse” is ableist and your kneejerk reaction is to tell them either “if you’re really not abusive you shouldnt have to worry about it” or “im only talking about the bad narcissists” you’re still being ableist. In fact, if your reaction is anything but “I understand and will do better” it is ableist. Trying to defend your use of “narcissistic abuse” is ableist. 

“if you’re not abusive, this doesn’t pertain to you” -> assumes NPD is inherently abusive, which is ableist

“I’m not talking about people who get help or people who are actively seeking treatment” -> implies NPD is, still, inherently abusive and non-introspective, which is ableist.

learn to cope without stepping on people you have been conditioned to hate for no reason other than misinformed ableism. in fact, it’s healthier to realize that abuse solely happens because of the conscious choices of an individual, not because of divine power, not because of mental illness, not because you deserve it (no one deserves abuse). 

Stop holding on to internalized ableism solely because of your trauma. Being abused or traumatized does not mean you get to be an asshole. 

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idk what people want from those of us with cluster b personality disorders, honestly. the amount of times i see/hear ""discourse"" about us that essentially boils down to "but you can just Not Have those thoughts/behaviours!" is staggering. and so we say, okay, fine then, i'll try to vent these thoughts/behaviours in a less damaging way, like a blog - but then we're "encouraging abuse" and "not trying". so then we hide almost everything about ourselves just to feel like we can open our mouths without being screeched over like carrion, but of course then we're fake, and we're manipulating you, and we're lying, and we're hiding such a Scary Disorder. and gods forbid we complain about any of this; watch us be swarmed by militant flocks of people with illnesses that are not ours telling us "i learned to be better, i learned empathy, i learned to push it away"

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“If you aren’t abusing anyone you have nothing to worry about or argue over.” and yet every single person who says this assumes that everyone in cluster b is inherently abusive to begin with unless proven otherwise. 

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honestly tho some of these motherfuckers really be turn getting called out for ableism into self victimization and martyr complex the exact same way they think ppl with ASPD & NPD disorders do like do you not See yourself lmao 

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aspd stands for

Angry, oh my god, i'm

So tired of being angry

Please for the love of go

D someone put me out of my misery

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honestly tho some of these motherfuckers really turn getting called out for ableism into self victimization and martyr complex the exact same way they think ppl with ASPD & NPD disorders do like do you not See yourself lmao