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I love pointing out masculine features in pre-T guys, like "I see how broad your shoulders are, I see your mustache hair coming in, you sure you're not on T? Could've fooled me, look at that jawline, look at that leg hair, your voice is so deep already, you barely even need it at this point."

Idk. You can see it in their eyes slowly that they start thinking of themselves as more masculine, they carry themselves more confidently but they also relax so much more around you, because they know you see them as a guy. Just...butterflies man.

The part where it gets sexual is when they relax enough to let me tell them how big their tdick is already :)

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What to do if you suddenly find yourself homeless

FOOD

Find your nearest food bank or mission, for food

grocery stores with free samples, bakeries + stores with day-old bread

different fast food outlets have cheaper food and will generally let you hang out for a while.

some dollar stores carry food like cans of beans or fruit

SHELTER

Sleeping at beaches during the day is a good way to avoid suspicion and harassment

sleep with your bag strapped to you, so someone can’t steal it

Some churches offer short term residence

Find your nearest homeless shelter

Look for places that are open to the public

A large dumpster near a wall can often be moved so that flipping up the lids creates an angled shelter to stay dry

HYGIENE

A membership to the YMCA is usually only 10$, which has a shower, and sometimes laundry machines and lockers.

Public libraries have bathrooms you can use

Dollar stores carry low-end soaps and deodorant etc.

Wet wipes are all purpose and a life saver

Local beaches, go for a quick swim

Some truck stops have showers you can pay for

Staying clean is the best way to prevent disease, and potentially get a job to get back on your feet

Pack 7 pairs of socks/undies, 2 outfits, and one hooded rain jacket

OTHER

first aid kit

 sunscreen

 a travel alarm clock or watch

 mylar emergency blanket

 a backpack is a must

 downgrade your cellphone to a pay as you go with top-up cards

 sleeping bag

 travel kit of toothbrush, hair brush/comb, mirror

 swiss army knife

 can opener

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The transmasc experience is growing up as a little girl, constantly being told to sit down and shut up, that we're just overly dramatic and hysterical. Then when we transition we get told to sit down and shut up, that we're overly dramatic and hysterical, and not actually oppressed and in fact are privileged! Nothing has fucking changed, in fact it's even worse now than it's ever been!

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when i see other people posting forcefem i wonder what they do after? do they carry that shit with them or do they get off and move on?? bc even when i was heavy into it i used to feel like shit for a solid week afterwards and i've still internalised so much of that shit i read despite the thought of it 'just being a kink'

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more men should think with their pussies and more women should think with their cocks. what’s not clicking

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big vent dump. this isn't forcemasc, all of these are vents. don't have it in me rn to make forcemasc i just feel so awful and dysphoric and i needed an outlet and this is the only space i have really

(lyrics from tfb, roar and Adrianne Lenker)

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that's why i'm doing this too. it's self harm, it seriously is just a way for transmascs to feel awful and for cis people to get off on their pain. at least that's how i see it- idk how consuming that sort of stuff is good for anyone and that comes from somebody who is actively struggling with NOT consuming detrans content. it's addictive.

real shit, i got into detrans content about half a year ago. it latched onto my fear, trauma, and dysphoria and made me dwell in it. it seriously hurt me and has caused a lot of issues for me mentally

this kink is in part a way for me to fix the problems that the kink caused me and allow me to heal and reclaim the pride i once had in my sexuality

i finally took another step in the right direction, and i hope that other people who are between detrans and forcemasc can see this and maybe be spurred right think about the impact it may have on you.

no hate to people who are helped by detrans but it only hurt me, and i am happy to have blocked the tags now :3

[anti-forcefem]

real shit, i got into detrans content about half a year ago. it latched onto my fear, trauma, and dysphoria and made me dwell in it. it seriously hurt me and has caused a lot of issues for me mentally

this kink is in part a way for me to fix the problems that the kink caused me and allow me to heal and reclaim the pride i once had in my sexuality

i finally took another step in the right direction, and i hope that other people who are between detrans and forcemasc can see this and maybe be spurred right think about the impact it may have on you.

no hate to people who are helped by detrans but it only hurt me, and i am happy to have blocked the tags now :3

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hey hey do you want to look more masc? do you want to pass better as a guy? if not ignore this! keep doing your thing and have fun!

i’m doing a little guide because i couldn’t find a lot of transition advice on here, so i’m doing a guide

first off, body language! manspread. sit like a cool teacher with their ass performatively on their desk. cross your legs but with your ankle on your knee. people will tell you that guy’s don’t slouch as much. this is false you can have the shittiest posture ever do whatever you want.

next, your voice! you can do voice training pre-t to sound more masc/androgynous! it’s awesome! now you may be thinking, “arden isn’t that expensive as shit?” to which i will respond, “why are you paying for shit?” also, you can go on youtube and find tutorials for free. this next paragraph will be based off of one of these.

open up the back of your mouth a little when you say vowel sounds, almost like you’ve got something in your throat (not a damn word). you can use voice memos to record your voice so that you can find something that you like and sounds natural. the phrase “the quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog ‘look out!’ i shout, ‘for he’s foiled you again, creating chaos at the zoo’” is a phrase that contains all sounds in the english language, so it’s good for testing.

do you want to bind but can’t for whatever reason? well, transtape is a thing! there are tutorials for that elsewhere. i don’t use transtape. i don’t know how (side note: duct tape is not strong enough to do this. do not use duct tape to bind. it is not safe). there are numerous resources that can provide you with free binders as well! if anyone has a list, please add them. you can also find them pretty easily through google. if you can’t get them delivered to your house, many will also deliver to a friend’s house, in the instance that they have safer circumstances.

beyond that, wearing dark clothes can do a lot to help with that, especially if you go a size up. i wear a lot of black and navy blue medium men’s shirts, even though i’m a small.

do you want dark facial hair, but are pre-t? you can give yourself a darker mustache with mascara. i personally put it on my upper lip and the indent above my chin. you might have to rub it in a bit to get it to look natural.

i hope this is helpful to someone, i’m just listing things i found out along my transition journey

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Oh, you thought that just because I have a pussy, I'D be bottoming? That's hilarious, man. I ain't lettin' you put that cock of yours nowhere. Be good and bend over for me, now.

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any transition guide that tells you to 'slim down' or lose weight in order to pass is full of shit. you do not need to lose weight to pass. let me say this again. you do not need to lose weight in order to pass.

your masculinity can and will be recognized without needing to lose weight.

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Cis guys who talk about trans guys having wet needy holes or whatever are so funny. What about YOUR needy fuck hole, buddy? You got a prostate for a reason.

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you can't support the normalization of the usage of singular they/them pronouns and then say you don't support people who want to normalize it/its because it's "too weird," as if using singular they/them pronouns isn't clearly weird to a lot of people.

you can't refuse to acknowledge an identity because it's "weird," they're all "weird" in the eyes of cisheteronormative society. people who use neopronouns like it/its, ze/hir, xe/xem, thon/thons and others don't deserve to have to settle for they/them if that's not what they use. it doesn't matter if something is "weird" or not. let go of the compulsive need to assimilate and just let people express themselves freely

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btw the whole point of forcemasc, autoandrophilia, etc., is to reclaim our sexuality as trans individuals because we are so heavily sexualized by society (applies much more to transfems btw) that it is easy to forget to celebrate the sexiness of it all.

"Omg ur a boy with a pussy? Thats soo hot" coming from some cis dude on grindr -> ew

"I celebrate the transition you are going through in every step, the happier you are in your body the more attractive you get to me, in fact I like it so much we can play that I am forcing you to do it, the world is against us enough as it is so a playful force in contrast to that is both liberating and an extreme turn on. Let's not try to appeal to cis people by not fitting into their narrative, lets say: EVEN SO, WHAT IF?? " -> my dick is so hard already bro please

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I like that clumsy, intrusive way trans men like to show off their masculinity while it's novel to them and they're absolutely gorging themselves on being observed as male. Like when they swear really loud and enunciate absolute filth, oh i love to fuck, i love my cock, i love eating boy cunt. Like that way they sit with their legs spread, hunched over resting their elbows and looking around all sleazily. Like when they go into detail about a really mundane story but they're so enthusiastic, like essentially he got his car stuck but he really wants you to know he drives a standard so he's talking about how he SLAMMED into THIRD GEAR and boogied out of there. Forget about when they start working out and try to pick you up and arm wrestle every three seconds, like ohh lord...