I think, ultimately, itâs a kind of form of abuse or harassment to go back to someone again and again and again and say, âHas anything changed? Can we be in a relationship now?â If someone has told you that they donât want to be in a relationship, you have to honor that. And if you are having trouble honoring that, that means that you are having a problem that you need to seek out help for, and you need to make sure that you do not push that relationship on that person because I think it can become very scary and kind of dangerous.