amkblogs

[amkblogs]

30/1/23

PATHAN DAY!!

Woke up today at almost 6:40, it was quite early so snoozed back onto the bed and then again woke up at 7:15 and freshened up and went to gym. Today's Chest workout was good, tried some variation in order to shock the muscle groups and the triceps workout wasn't much good, need to watch more videos on that. So, came home and bathed for about 10 minutes. Cold showers is really miraculous, like I have gotten to the point where the temptation of even going under hot shower is vanished completely from my mind and the mere thought of it disgusts me, so yeah cold shower is great. Passed some time here and there and father dropped me off to college. College was fine, typed and printed some code from CS1 practical. Then a sudden plan of going to the movie is decided. I quickly left the college and had lunch on Police Ground and then went to catch the bus. At almost 2:50 I went to the main chowk of our area and then Aryan (tuition) invited me to stay at him home, while he was changing his clothes. We then headed to the mall, I swear I will never go on Aryan's scooter anymore, he drives like he owns the street and I am surprised by the fact that his scooter is not damaged considering the way he drives. Still, we went to theatre and The movie was absolutely fantastic, like it was one of the best (bollywood) movies I've watched after Drishyam 2. We then stopped near Aryan's home to eat something and then again went to class (of which we bunked the 1st lecture ). While going to class, this fucking Aryan drove the scooter so fast over a speedbreaker that the cap which I was wearing fell on the street. I hurried back to retrieve it as it was not mine to lose. We then went to class and explained to reception maam as to why we were late (we told her the truth) and then attended the last class. After the class, Pruthvi dropped me off to my home and there went one of the best day of this month.

Thanks for reading till here. See ya!

[amkblogs]

26/1/23

Hello, First of all, Happy Republic Day to all. So today was pretty exciting, I was supposed to meet my school friends after a pretty long time and the day to meet them aligned today. Didn't get quality sleep yesterday but today I hope the sleep would be on point. Woke up at around 7:05ish and then instantly started to freshen up. Dressed up and went to bus stop. Reached to the police ground where we all friends got regrouped/reunion. Felt pretty good looking at all of them considering the time we were apart (almost a year). Watched the parade on the ground which is leveling up in elegance and style every year as we watch it. Headed over to new police colony to click some pics and to see the interior of the colony. Then went to eat misal. Rohit got scammed but still he didn't ate anything still had to pay for his part and for others too (which as I'm writing these feel very bad for him). I had to drop him there, and I didn't knew the way back so I used maps and then went to the store. Sumit dropped me near bustop and then I bidded farewell to everyone. Came home to mother serving me another lunch which I didn't eat much and then went on to a power nap for almost 2 hour. Completed the book "THINK STRAIGHT" by darius foroux, a gem of a book and 100% recommended to learn something new about ourself and how to control our thoughts and channel them to heighten our career lengths. Then tried to learn our bike as I only know how to operate a single vehicle, a scooter. So yeah, today was the best day of 2023 as I'm writing this.

[amkblogs]

Date 18/01/23

Woke up today at around 7:30 and then didn't go to the gym as today was chest day and I thought I would need energy ( because I wanted to overload to 25 pounds) so I stayed at home and did some coding.

Ate breakfast and then again went on to do some coding and learning HTML as I piqued my interest in the topic. So yeah, afternoon was full of just me sitting around in my room and staring at my computer, doing some pushups and dancing alone to some songs. Then one of my mother's friend came to visit her and I started having lunch in my room as her friend was having her lunch in hall. So that was it for the good part of the day. Now, I relapsed on my battle to PMO addiction and felt really guilty but nonetheless, I reminded myself that even if I did the deed I have to take the responsibility to not let it take over my thoughts and actions and I looked back at my journey of 27 days of nofap and I can honestly say that I had tremendous growth in terms of self-control. Now, the second disaster was that when I went to gym, I got to know that the gym had already hired a web developer and video editor which I wanted to do for them which struck down the emotional pin in my heart. Still, I am going to present them the website I am going to develop for them which I am going to work on tirelessly, so wish me luck. And then just when I thought this day couldn't get any bad. I carried that negativity from the day to the tuition class too, So NO I didn't talk to anyone today at tuition which when I think now is utterly stupid. So yeah, had my dinner and nightwalk done, brushing done, now sleeping.

[amkblogs]

Gym: The staircase to self-satisfaction

Hello everyone, today I would love to talk about and share my experience regarding gym and how it can change anyone's life over the course of not years even months.

SO LET'S START!!!

The main purpose behind joining gym wasn't just to be drowned in six pack abs but to rather build discipline which I lacked at that time ( even now) and I even wasn't happy about how I looked in front of mirror ( no self-harm). It was rather a "get better" call for myself and not a comparison based habit formation. I started watching videos on how people should behave at gym, how should I expect everything to be in gym and what would everyone think of what I'm doing ( which I think about it disgusts me) still I was very anxious of joining the gym beforehand having any experience. So I used the money my grandma gave me for Diwali ( which I am so grateful for now that I think about it ) but I can safely that the money I handed over to my gym was the day I made the best decision of my entire life. The night before going to the gym was kind of obnoxious in some way as I was drenched with negative thoughts which weren't under my control still I passed through the night. FINALLY!!! the time had arrived, I went to gym with my backpack carrying around my shoulders and then went straight to the gym. Everything was very intimidating as I saw people double my age repping 40-50 dumbbells. Then, I met my gym instructor/trainer Gaurav, he is a very humble guy. He asked me what my long term goal was about the fitness related thing then we got to the treadmill. Walking on treadmill was a very new and alive feeling which I don't think many people understand. Then I did the silliest thing any gym beginner wouldn't have done, I tried to get off the treadmill by slowing it down and letting the belt (on which we walk) take me back without having any support. I almost fell down on my way out but I still managed to pick myself up and then as I was walking over to drink water from my bottle I was feeling like I was walking at a tremendously fast speed but it was just one of the tricks my mind was playing with me, as I sat down I realized that I wasn't walking fast it's just that my brain was moving around the whole place and making me feel like I was walking fast, quite unique thing I got to learn. Then I walked past every gym equipment which I could saw and I was constantly processing like "what does this machine do", "how can he lift so heavy" and all. After gathering all of my thoughts, I went over to the chest press machine, to those go who to the gym might know that there are two types of chest press you can do, 1: with machine 2: with dumbbells/barbells, The pump/feeling of doing the exercise was not very satisfying per se, but still got to learn new things. Basically, for the next week I did full body workouts at half-ass intensity, just pushing some dumbbells and pulling some cables and all of the other stunts. The first month went on quite smoothly, I was consistently hitting the gym on a like 5 day/week and then the sleep quality was even great too. I think the most beneficial thing exercise has to offer is confidence as well as growth in sleep quality. Like I was sleeping at same time and for same hours but the resting period was much more fulfilling and you can actually feel the energy when you get out of your bed after sleeping.

1 month summary:

As soon as I spend the first week in the gym I knew it was the best decision of my life and I couldn't thank myself enough for it.

2 month:

This was the most crucial period of my gym life as this was the month where I started to feel tension in my muscles and my mind-muscle connection was pacing upwards. This is the month where I felt the lats (wing muscles) during lat pulldown. Now, I would like to point out that anyone who goes to the gym or has recently joined the gym would be frustrated or even angry at themselves while doing lat pulldowns, but I want to assure that it does get better each time you do it. We are often driven by the feeling that "I'm not feeling it in my lats so there must be something wrong with me" but that's not the case. You see, when you are doing the exercise, your lats are constantly engaged and under tension but the tension is so low that you can't feel it, so overtime you will feel and you will grow your lats as they are really, really easy to grow. Now, coming back to my story this is the time where I started doing to planned workouts like PUSH PULL LEG which I am still doing as I'm writing this. I practiced my pushups at home on my stairs. Like I used to put my hands on my top most stairs and then just try to do as many pushups as I could. Then after a long and thorough period of patience and time I did my first pushup and now I can do a total of 10 pushup consecutively which I know I can quadruple the quantity by 4x till the next month. The next thing I want to focus on achieving is my first pullup, it has been a long time since I am practicing assissted pullup, but now I really need to take a step further, If the future me is reading this and by that time if I managed to do my first pullup then I really want to express my gratitude for myself.

So I would like I to summarise this blog in some points:

1: No matter what people might tell, joining gym is one of the best feelings in the world.

2: The results are not often immediate that's where patience comes in hand, it is a double-edged sword. Less patient and you will lose all your progress and more patience will compound your efforts.

3: Get as much sleep as you can possible is order to ensure maximum muscle recovery and sustainibility.

4: You've got this!

[amkblogs]

BOOK REVIEW

THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A FUCK

-by Mark Manson

Hello everyone, myself Aadesh Khande, today I would love to talk about the book that changed the way I think and live this world over the course of only 2 months.

I got this book online after reading many recommendations as to why this book is so helpful and all. The title of the book was catchy too.

So let's start:

1: Happiness is the byproduct of solving our daily problems with ways either creatively or by working hard. It is never a constant state of emotion with human beings, no one is always happy, in today's world our actions and thoughts and purely dependent of how we feel rather than what we actually need to do. Happiness plays a big role in that as someone would think that happiness leads to other positive emotions but to find happiness in the first place we have to work hard to achieve that level of emotion.

2: Responsibilities are one of the biggest motivators or demotivators in our life. Suppose a person always blames his bad life decisions to the environment or people around him he will never be happy with the state he is in because this time taking responsibility to change his "own life" is a great demotivating factor which doesn't aligns with his ego hence making him seek validation and approval of others. So if we take responsibility to everything that happens to us or even what our thoughts would be after a catastrophic event should be in our own hands. Yes, seeking validation from others might ease the pain you're feeling for short time but it really creates a shallow hole in your personality.

3: Failure are the most painful yet the most memorable moments of our life which teaches us just how much effort we lacked and to never make the same mistakes again. In this book Mark smartly points out that failure and suffering are corelated as failure inevitably makes us rethink our effort practices and to improve them. Whereas the suffering part is the most joyous as the suffering that we are in now in present moment to achieve something is the same we would laugh about in coming years because, we know that, what type of person we are is shaped by the intensity of suffering we went through in order to achieve it. So don't be afraid of failure and strive to suffer as much as possible because it is better to enter the battlefield and fight rather than sit outside and think about it.

4: Uncertainty: This was the most eye-opening piece of knowledge I've ever came across as this was something that we tend to look over our daily lives. As evolution, humans tend to predict the future situations based on relating it with our past. Mark says that all the values and metrics by which we measure our standards should always be open-minded and we should consciously think about what we should trust and what not. If you are afraid to go to the stage to perform it is your brain telling you to slip back into comfort zone by telling you that "stage isn't meant for me", that's the exact problem with people, they are certain about what's going to happen to them in near future which is entirely not true. Just trying the thing you fear once will not only satisfy you but it will also bring a sense of accomplishment. So the only thing you should be certain of in this life is that nothing is permanent and you are inevitably going to die.

5:Learning to say no is probably the most triggering thing any human can do is today's so called "connected world" because not aligning your values with other people is inhumanly and immoral. The big part of this problem might have to deal with the way our politics is shaped but in our day-to-day life we can't go on without just agreeing on with people without giving it a single ounce of thought as to "why did I just agree with that guy". I think the main reason for this type of behaviour is due to our underlying need of seeking validity from others and "trying to fit in" where you know your opinions aren't valued nor is your time then it may be a good idea to stand up for yourself and save yourself from all the drama by just saying to the other person's request/opinion/advice. We have only one mouth but two ears so be careful about what you're hearing and try to say no more often(Saying no to opportunities is not an ideal case as it is going to shift you away from your discomforts).

So that's it, if I had to summarise what I just blabbered about then:

1: Try solving problems(life based)

2:Take responsibility for what is happening in your life.

3: Embrace failure and suffering.

4: Be uncertain about everything and try to do what you fear the most.

5: Learn to say no.