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What is love?

It is extremely difficult to define an abstract feeling like love. Throughout centuries and decades the great writers as well as poets have inscribed their experiences into words through an imagery or illustration of imagination but in reality love remains as an undefined emotion, which is hard to understand or analyze. Even after many comparisons, love is formless. 

The interesting thing about love is, that it doesn't require a particular language for its description as because all of the languages express love in their own way which might sound different though the original meaning of love stays apt and constant. People often confuse themselves in the amidst of love, lust and infatuation. 

It won't be right of me to say that I have figured out the true meaning of love although at the age of seventeen, by tad bit of observation a few things have come to my notice, which I shall be putting down in this writing of mine. Let's go back in time, it was 2015 and in the month of March, I came back home with my parents after a long trip of seven days. Soon enough my grandpa gave me the news about an arrival of a new member in our house. It was a tiny kitten and I named her Hermione, days passed and she eventually grew up, so did I. 

We were totally inseparable from each other, she had a peculiar habit of dumping her fur ball shaped body upon my text books whenever she would find me studying. In those times her actions often angered me, I have scolded her three or more times for her stupidity but little did I know that she intended on leaving forever and never come back again. We had spent countless nights together, as she always popped up in my room at midnight and happily dumped herself in my bed by staying huddled comfortably in between me and my mom. Even she was the perfect definition of a natural alarm clock. 

If anyone of you ever saw a pet like her, you would have known. She didn't let me to sleep for long once the daylight broke out. Her task was to get into the room,  then mewl at me at the top of her lungs, again that made me annoyed upon her. Getting disturbed I would leave the bed but hey there's a silver lining in this, she saved me from getting late during the weekdays.

 After a few years, in 2017 on 29th of March she closed her eyes right before me, the cause of her death wasn't known but I only saw her lying on the ground breathing hardly and nothing could have been done, I earnestly tried to find some medications for her but the vetenarist wasn't present at the moment.

 In the evening she finally left me and my family. I was busting into tears, crying endlessly and none of the consolations seemed rational at that time. I felt her absence severely, it was painstaking. 

Maybe this is love? I did love her during her presence but when she went away it grew deeper in my heart as she won't visit me again, the knots of our bond strengthened further, her physical appearance might have ended though she created a mark in my soul that would never be erased. Each and every day in this busy life I remember her and the things which she had taught me. Yes, she was an animal, moreover a small cat though she definitely had conscience. 

Sounds weird right? Let me tell you something more absurd, during my rock bottom, whenever she saw me sobbing, her first and foremost task was to cheer me up and we must have seen these stuffs on social media, that pets can provide humans with consolations through their hilarious actions and affection. 

Love doesn't always require romance or intimacy, there are moments when love shows up in your life in a different manner, you just need to find it out. When we care for our loved ones more than ourselves, also by putting their happinesses before us, it's known as being selfless or we become an altruist.

  There's also a major difference in possessiveness and showing protectiveness. If you're possesive, you won't be able to tolerate any third person loitering about your partner on the other hand if you've an overprotective mindset it might happen that you suffer from enviousness at few occasions although you wouldn't require to investigate your partner if both of you have a mutual bonding of faith and respect among each other. 

Ego is another issue which successfully decimates several relationships. We should Keep the ego aside and try to learn from our mistakes, a relationship isn't a one sided matter, two people are connected and so are their family, once the couple ties the knot. 

The best way to retain a relationship is by holding on to each other through our bad days, celebrating the joys in equivalent. Most of all, have respect. 

A man can't go around dominating his lover neither can a woman live peacefully by having doubt on her lover. If the love is true, any third wheel won't have a chance to ruin a beautiful love story. An ideal relationship also stands on the pillar of honesty. Be honest to your partner and most importantly to yourself, everything will work out well. 

Now what happens during adolescence?? Due to the overflow of sexual hormones, teenagers are frustrated by their own desires that remain unsatisfied whereas shortage of knowledge followed by lack of experiences makes a beautiful disaster. 

It starts from infatuation, a teenager finds himself or herself at a tyranny after getting fancied towards a person but you should know that's not love, it will fade away sooner. Lust flows through your mind and body, it makes you high then gets you low, slowly you get trapped in the web of physical affinity which is confused with love. 

Physical connection is definitely a part of love but it isnt love itself. Your emotions connect with your body and thus you can say love is a mixture of both. 

So be careful, if your thoughts are driven by lust, you've to sort it out. Last but not the least, one sided lovers carry a stone on their heart yet they seem to have a marvelous love story even in the absence of their lovers or soul mates, sometimes it can drive you to insanity or you can develop intellectual ideas from the situation of being a one sided lover. 

One sided love stories teaches us to be content with the happiness of our dream girl or dream boy. In other words it makes us selfless and compassionate, equally it can also make us lovesick or lovelorn that we might turn into a bodgie trying desperately to find our so longed lover.

 My dear friends, if you love someone but there are less chances of you being with that individual don't be broken, love at times is memorable with memories of that person, even if he or she isn't with you in the present time, your love for the particular individual will keep you going. 

"You can still be in love without truly being in love."

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Still in love with this song

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A beautiful disaster (Part 6)

We reached school and walked in together, unknowingly holding hands. Everyone noticed but acted like nothing happened. Smiling to ourselves, Harry dragged me to the very first class, which was English.

Harry went in first, then I followed. Taking seats right next to each other, a warm smile spread across Harry's features. I casually placed my hand on his left knee, as my seat was in one corner facing the window. He playfully frisked his slender fingers against my tender skin, sending electrified charges all across my body.

"When God invented beauty he was inspired by you"

Whispered Haz into my ears, getting a rejuvinating response from me, maybe my relationship with Harry hath become more than just being friends, that day when he gave me a mutual feeling of pleasure coursing across my folds, had me in ecstasy. I want countless nights of intimacy and pleasure to be offered by Harry to me and perhaps we could go on all night with each other. Who knows?

Teasingly I poke his crotch with my little fingers and suddenly he took a sharp breath, with gritted teeth. I giggled at him. Throughout the whole lesson Harry and I were besotted into each other, expressing our heightened lust for each other through various sexual contacts.

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If shoes could speak, They would look up at me to say "We are here friend, be happy, stay safe" At times of the day to walk in every way, They did save my feet From the particulates in hay. In the end of the day, discarded to rest When I laid away in silence, In the darkest corners to find answers to the unsaid! The shoes must have spoken, Giving me the courage To be brave and wade. On the rainy days, I would run along the slushy roads To save myself from the chocked up drains. But my shoes felt to dread, The filthy accumulation of deposits on the pave! Though they kept silence Just to let me escape. With those tears mixing up with the pouring rain, The only thing I looked up at Were my shoes who loved me without any say! No matter how hard life felt, These shoes were my bae  Providing me the space. Everything felt taken and in the amid of the perplexion I found back myself @onedirectionthreads @one_direction_with_zaynmalik @one_direction_with_zaynmalik @xarennnnn @one_direction_everday @direction452 @one_direction_everday @smol_bean_loui.s @jadelouislauren @justlike.lou @hazz.styless_ @harrystyles_girlfriends @harry_styles_374_ @aashriti_mehta @1d_spaces10 @fariza_f4 (at West Bengal-পশ্চিমবঙ্গ) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3kDmDcF1_n/?igshid=yynds0sbq0vc

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Ideas for Those empty notebooks

I’m calling myself out - I have so many pretty notebooks at home, and I just keep buying new ones, telling myself that I’m going to use them. You know, like a liar. After battling with the usual ‘ah, this is too pretty to be used for x and y’ thoughts, I actually had fun with these different types.

1. A personal diary

Feels good to write down your thoughts and experiences at the end of the day, huh? It doesn’t have to be extremely organized - since your emotions usually are not in a aesthetic-bullet-journal kind of shape. Collect movie tickets, bills or some stickers in it. Doodles from when you were bored during class? Even better. Language learners, if you really want to go hardcore, you could write some of the logs in your target language!

Keep reading

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😘😘😘😘

Lights Up - Harry Styles

# Streams: 6,776,985 (October 11, 2019)

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GET LOST YOU FREAKING ANXIETY! DIE!

One of my many daily struggles from “living with” Anxiety

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you should never forget to do nice things for yourself :)

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types of healthy coping skills

1. self-soothing

comforting yourself through the 5 senses

Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket

Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation

See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually 

Taste: tea, mints, gum

Smell: lotion, candles, incense 

2. distraction

removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time

puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social

3. opposite action

doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion

affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus

4. emotional awareness

identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling

journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy

5. mindfulness

centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment

meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk

6. ask for help

this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental  

therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life 

*a coping skill is considered healthy if it helps you to deal with stress more positively, does not hinder your progress, and isn’t harmful physically or mentally. A coping skill can become negative when it is used to completely avoid dealing with the stressor. 

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Fruit 🍌🍇🍒🍍

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Yes, I am skinny, short heighted and full of flaws. But imperfections make me glow up.

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Kindness

All that matters is to show your love,

Be modest and humble

Be kind to all.

Kindness is a healer

Of  the broken hearts.

A medicine to this toxic world,

To solve the war along.

Believe in your heart,

Follow your path.

Walk alone if you've to,

To keep alive your love.

Kindness can mend the broken bonds.

Bring back the glory and beauty in the world.

Kindness is a language understood by all.

Open up your minds,

Wake up and shine,

Believe in your soul,

That sings the song of being kind.

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Beautiful poem by @michaelbogild !

I am loving it. Keep writing bro!

Lord Knows It Shows

I met you in the half-light of a dream caressed your face in a mystic stream now my wandering mind has kissed you again don’t tell me dear, it has kissed you in vain

Yes I’ve been chasing the dream of you keep going till your sweet love comes through I’m all but done with this disconnection won’t you be, please be, my resurrection?

We could be a such a pretty mess you and I people would talk, but who cares— we’d fly

though we’re tears in the eyes of time to be apart surely it is a crime though we’re tears in the eyes of time to be apart has no reason or rhyme oh how I love you and Lord knows it shows oh how I love you and Lord knows it shows

I made a million mistakes, but you won’t be one towards your light I will always run we could watch the waves and dream aloud or our dreams could fade like careless clouds

you’ve been-a sinner and you roll like a riddle and now I guess I’m caught in the middle but still nothing, nothing can tame this flame nothing, nothing can drown out your name

though we’re tears in the eyes of time to be apart surely it is a crime though we’re tears in the eyes of time to be apart has no reason or rhyme oh how I love you and Lord knows it shows oh how I love you and Lord knows it shows

I cut into the night and it bled out light so come into it, babe we can do it don’t leave me with the ghost of what could and should have been don’t leave me with the taste the bitter taste of nothing

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A beautiful disaster (Part 5)

Within past couple of days a lot of things had changed. Harry the bad boy completely turned out to be a sweetheart, who was living under his own dark side. Yes it wasn't that easy to forgive him but eventually my mind gave up on hating about his atrocious personality. Looking towards the couch, a smile spread across my face. Noticing Harry to sleep was quite a sight to watch.

Harry slept peacefully, lips parted and light snores could be heard, his face occurred as that of an angel, being at complete rest. Tiptoeing forward I stand by his side, slowly leaning down, my fingers pad over his sculpted face, drawing circles on his cheeks, tracing the jawline, then resting my fingers on his lips. I smiled incessantly, suddenly cackling which made a ruckus in the room, Harry shuffled in the couch, stirring before waking up from his slumber. Yawning he gazed to look at me with groggy eyes, his husky morning voice sent goosebumps all over my skin.

"Morning, angel" he said rubbing both of his eyes.

Which made him appear like a baby.

"What made you laugh?" He questioned.

"I was observing you sleep and um, your sharp features sort of caught me off guard, Harry, that made me giggle out loud. I am sorry for the disturbance, it had disrupted your sleep"

He raised his brows in astonishment. Grinning to himself, he patted the space beside him for me to sit, happily I took the place, Harry rested his face at the crook of my neck, sucking a spot, to get out a noise from me but being the same old stubborn girl I bit my lips to defeat him. He pushed me down and started tickling the life out. I smiled, shouted and squealed.

"Harry! Stop! Oh my gosh!" I scream.

"Harry!"

He nodded his as a no.

"No princess! I am not stopping so easily!"

We were both squabbling like little kids, running out of breath I gasp for air and Harry pressed his lips, shutting me up. I admit that Harry's lips were a better option to shut me up. My body loosened underneath his fiery touch, bringing my skin to burn with passion, as he set fire to every inch of me.

"I like kissing your lips" he pulled apart.

I hugged him tightly.

"Kate, Harry, breakfast is ready!"

Yelled mom from downstairs.

"Coming!"

We replied together.

Going down the staircases we wished good morning to my parents, dad nodded his head back in response, then mom served the plates on the table and pulled out the chairs. Harry brought out a chair for me to sit to which I blushed slightly. He chuckled and laughed, we started talking about different stuffs while Harry complimented my mum's cooking skills.

We headed out and made our way towards school.

Another day with new escapades was waiting for Harry and Kate. Let's see what happens next!

Part 6 coming soon.....

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