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[aita-cousins]

Hey I saw the post and the shitty comments and I'm so so sorry about all of that. People are so used to their neat categories and the buzzwords of online discourse that they're insanely terminally online but that's no reason for you to have to be subjected to all the vile interrogation. I hope you're able to take care of yourself and ignore what they all said. You'll know what's best for you and your mental health, trust in yourself and give yourself the grace to prioritize your safety over other people's feelings without guilt.

Thank you stranger :) I was more pissed that the comments were asking ‘how’ instead of… answering the actual question, which was ‘WIBTA for cutting off my little cousins without explanation’. I didn’t even know what COCSA was before this aita post so I’m learning I guess. Anyway thank you for the sentiments and kindness <3 many thanks and I’m for sure staying strong and learning

[aita-cousins]

@am-i-the-asshole-official

hi everyone. I know this was just posted but I want to clear something up. I was sexually assaulted. I don’t need to thoroughly explain what happened for this to be true. Please stop asking how a younger child can assault an older one - that’s one of the reasons it took me so long to realize what had happened to me was wrong. My cousins have been uncomfortably sexual since a young age and they took it out on me multiple times; that’s all I’ll say. I’ll also say it was intentional. I don’t know if it was meant to be violating, but it was certainly meant to be sexual.

and thank you all for the votes, too. read my tags for further info if you want i guess

WIBTA for cutting off my cousins without telling them why?

Trigger warning for sexual assault.

I have many, many cousins on my father's side, and this is regarding three of them (who are all siblings).

I very recently spoke with my therapist about something that I experienced when I was younger. I don't really want to get into details, both for my own sake and for you, the reader's, but long story short I recently realized I may have experienced sexual assault at the hands of three of my younger cousins when I was little.

There are two issues here: 1, the time span was when we were very very young, with the twins being between 4-7, the older one being between 9-11, and me being 11-13. 2, it happened years and years and years ago. It has been around four years since the last incident.

I heavily dislike the idea of interacting with them now even though they likely would have no idea why. I have already been acting cold to them in general since my realization, avoiding them during reunions and sticking close to my parents, and it's pretty clear they're upset about it. My change in behavior toward them has been sudden as well. I am also the oldest cousin out of the many of us which makes my rejection more impactful. However, I don't want to tell them why I've been acting this way, and why I've been avoiding talking to them/touching them.

AITA for acting colder, and WIBTA for cutting them off completely without explanation?

What are these acronyms?