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Franz Kafka, Letter to His Father

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$50,000 for abortion funds by 1/1/2025

Organizers I really respect have launched a campaign that I wanted to share about. I've mostly seen it on Bluesky so far, but I thought people on Tumblr might be interested. There are many worthwhile causes to throw financial support to right now: I hope you'll consider if this one makes sense for you!

Local abortion funds in the USA are experiencing a severe funding shortage. Can you help by donating the cost of at least one drink (or more) by January 1? Or share with your friends and networks?

People across the country are aiming to collectively raise $50,000 to donate to over 90 abortion funds through the National Network of Abortion Funds by January 1 2025. Local abortion funds offer vital financial support to help people who need assistance paying for their abortion, whether that's the cost of the procedure itself or associated costs like travel and housing (with these costs getting higher and higher as more states pass abortion bans and restrictions).

Donations will be split between 90+ independent local abortion funds, many of which are run by VOLUNTEERS, and bring decades of experience to the hard work of providing logistical and financial access to abortion care for marginalized people. As of 12/25, the campaign is $20,000 of the way there.

More information about abortion funds and why they matter below under the cut—but if you're already convinced, you can take part here. Gifts of any size make a difference!

Why local abortion funds?

Because they’re made up of local organizers and advocates, they’re the best experts on navigating the landscape of shrinking abortion access, with decades of collective wisdom and practice getting people over many types of barriers and to the abortions they seek.

The people most affected by legal and logistical barriers to abortion access are folks of color, people who face documentation barriers, transgender and gender nonconforming people, and other people who are routinely denied access to healthcare.

Funds were seeing doubled call volume before the Supreme Court’s Dobbs decision. It’s only increased since then. Abortion funds need more $ to act in these unprecedented times.

Abortion fund leaders published an open letter in The Nation about what they’re up against. Here are 3 of the many points they made:

“Local funds know their unique community needs best and work tirelessly to meet them through case management, emotional support, arranging travel and logistical support, and directly covering the costs of abortion care."

“Abortion funds exist because governmental and political systems have failed our communities—primarily Black, Indigenous and Native, immigrant, rural, and low-income—and abandoned us in times of need."

"Without the ability of those at the grassroots to sustainably do their work, the already fragile abortion access landscape is at risk, and abortion seekers are positioned to lose the most."

Local abortion funds need more support and help. Let’s each do what we can to help resource them.

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2025

BE A STUDENT OF WHAT YOU ADMIRE

DO IT BADLY RATHER THAN NOT AT ALL

TO DESPAIR IS TO CEDE VICTORY TO THOSE WHO DO NOT DESERVE IT

BROADEN YOUR CULTURAL HORIZONS

REVEL IN THE ANALOGUE

ACTION ABSORBS ANXIETY

GRIEF IS PRODUCTIVE; GUILT IS NOT

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Skill issue, beloved 😌

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Sorry to be that person, but "girl math" doesn't mean "girls are bad at math". It's a way of saying "how many women use math irl"

Like "If I get hit with armor, it doesn't count because my health remains the same"

Or "I returned $30 and spent $5, that's a net positive, so I basically got this for free"

Not that girls literally don't understand math and don't get that things cost money. It's a simplification of thought processes and analysis, actually implying high-level thinking, not "girls are so bad at math we don't even try"

I know, it's not that serious, but taken out of context it sounds worse than it is.

ohhhhhhhh my god you cannot make“teehee girls just use a different kind of math around shopping to justify buying more stuff cause they’re girls using girl math” into a feminist statement it IS an actual problem to ascribe not only gender (woman) but childishness (girl) to poor financial literacy and say that the kind of math girls do is actually exclusively related to the domestic sphere when we talk about shopping or buying food or presents or little treats. Do you fucking hear yourself

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i think step one in calling yourself a feminist should be getting rid of your default assumptions that men are more credible than women, and that women scheme and lie in ways that men do not. that men do bad things out of loveable ignorance but women do it out of hateful malice.

but no one does that so instead you get women with "feminist" all over their social media who hate amber heard more than they'll ever hate a male rapist or wifebeater

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A Christmas Carol, Charles Dickens

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having a lot of thoughts about this week’s ask polly

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Starting in September of 2027, all new passenger vehicles in the U.S. will have to sound a warning if rear-seat passengers don’t buckle up. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration said Monday that it finalized the rule, which also requires enhanced warnings when front seat belts aren’t fastened. The agency estimates that the new rule will save 50 lives per year and prevent 500 injuries when fully in effect, according to a statement. The new rule will apply to passenger cars, trucks, buses except for school buses, and multipurpose vehicles weighing up to 10,000 pounds. Before the rule, seat belt warnings were required only for the driver’s seat.

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ᴇᴢʀᴀ ᴊᴀᴄᴋ ᴋᴇᴀᴛs Artwork from his 1962 book The Snowy Day.

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"More than 40% of women leave tech companies after ten years compared to 17% of men. A report by the Center for Talent Innovation found that women didn't leave for family reasons or because they didn't enjoy the work. They left because of "workplace conditions", "undermining behaviour from managers", and "a sense of feeling stalled in one's career". A feature for the Los Angeles Times similarly found that women left because they were repeatedly passed up for promotion and had their projects dismissed." - Caroline Criado Perez, Invisible Women

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Telegram ‘rape chat groups’ with up to 70,000 members uncovered (Jörg Luyken, The Telegraph, Dec 19 2024)

"Thousands of men are participating in chat groups in which they share suggestions on how to rape and sexually assault women, a German investigation has revealed.

The groups, on the instant messaging service Telegram, have as many as 70,000 members who mostly communicate with one another in English and appear to come from a variety of countries.

Users claimed to have assaulted women in their household, including wives, partners, sisters and mothers, and also shared instructions with others on how to do the same.

Some in the chat groups also shared pictures, while others posted live video of the assaults.

In one instance, a German man said he would sedate his wife and offered her to other users.

The allegations came as a court in Avignon, France, sentenced Dominique Pelicot to 20 years in prison for sedating his wife Gisele and offering her online to other men to rape and assault. (…)

The investigation, by German broadcaster ARD and its STRG_F investigative team, also found group users had been swapping tips on how to sedate their partners.

This included posting links to online shops where sexual abusers could buy sedatives disguised as hair products."

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I would rather kms than play audio from my phone in public without headphones and I don’t understand how others don’t feel the same