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adhd is taking 7 hours to do something bc you need to mentally force yourself to do it. like i will literally just sit on my bed for 2 hours and try to convince myself to go to the store. i postpone going to the store for no reason. I’m not doing anything else in those 2 hours. Just sittin’ there thinking about having to go to the store

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ppl don’t realize that me taking 15 minutes to find something I can listen to and psyching myself up to start doing the dishes isn’t because I don’t like doing dishes. In fact, once I get going, I quite enjoy it! I could go on for hours. but my stupid ass brain won’t START I gotta trick it into motion, ya know?

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Hear comes the depressive state

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i know vitamin c basically neutralizes adhd meds but lemonade good

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sign up for the gold package of ADHD today and experience the following moods:

The Loop - opening and closing the same three websites in succession for 15 minutes at a time before realizing that there’s not going to be anything new or worth doing on those websites (my three are Tumblr, Youtube and Wikipedia)

The Ack - seeing you have a new message and, though you have no evidence that it’s anything even remotely noteworthy let alone negative, feel intense dread and procrastinate looking at the message for 30 minutes/5 hours/a week

The Shimmy - changing sitting/laying positions every 5 minutes because god dammit i’m not going to be able to focus on whatever task i need to do if I feel any unwelcome physical sensation

The Ol’ Razzle Dazzle - making a hot beverage for yourself and then putting it down slightly out of reach and then not drinking it until 45 minutes later when it has already gone cold

The Bellwether - scrolling on Tumblr and getting the urge to google something/look up something on Wikipedia, but you keep scrolling and forget what you wanted to look up so you frantically scroll back to the thing that prompted you to think about looking the other (un)related thing up in the first place

The Bop - earnestly insisting that you’re not anxious because the other person sees your leg bouncing and thinks that you’re about to go postal

The Poison Dart - hearing someone say something problematic out loud and freezing because, while you want to correct them gently, you also feel intense dread and RSD that if you even so much as suggest dissent the person will immediately and commensurately stab you to death or snap their fingers and open a trapdoor to hell beneath you

The Ghost Breath - realizing you haven’t texted your friend back/at all/in 3 weeks and thinking “Hmmm, I need to do that” and then you don’t do it and much more time passes by 

The Stim Package - eating an entire family-sized bag of chips in one sitting because having something to chew on helped you concentrate, at least a little

The Bullfrog - going to get something that you don’t use often but you know exactly where it is and then it’s not there and you just keep going back to that spot 5 more times before realizing you lost it or it’s somewhere else completely different (like, not even in the same building)

The Morning Mist - regularly forgetting what recent life events actually happened and which ones were from extremely vivid dreams

The Seesaw Rivet - feeling like a wounded child who is about to get in trouble during every interaction you have even as you are entering your mid-to-late-20s and genuinely wondering when that pattern is ever going to stop if ever

The Pull-Apart Muffin - having ADHD and about 3 other diagnoses and wondering what is even what anymore

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This explains a lot about my lack of asking for help when I clearly need it

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Let’s Talk About Emotional Permanence

Tl;Dr People with BPD, ADHD and other disorders have little to no emotional permanence leading to intense distress feelings of being abandoned and meaning they need significantly more reassurance than most.

What is emotional permanence?

Emotional permanence is the similar to object permanence with the “out of sight out of mind” mindset. It’s the ability to understand that something exists even when unable to observe it. So emotional permanence is understanding that emotions still exist even when not being observed.

Many people with BPD and ADHD have a lack of emotional permanence meaning that when the emotional stimuli isn’t present, eg. not being shown love, people being distant etc. Makes it feel as tho they are hated and not loved anymore.

Lacking emotional permanence leads to feelings of despair, distress, anxiety, depression and much more negative feelings whenever away from the stimuli providing these emotions, leading to a lot of the pain and chronic emptiness that that most people with BPD and ADHD experience.

It is also one of the main contributors to the crippling fear of abandonment that people with BPD and ADHD deal with. As with feeling that people don’t love them it leads to feeling like they are being/will be abandoned.

This lack of emotional permanence means these people need more reassurance and comfort from those around them in order to feel loved and safe. This may lead to seemingly “attention seeking” behaviours in order to get that reassurance and comfort from others.

This lack of emotional permanence can also lead to impulsive and reckless behaviours in order to fill that void where the emotions should be. This could include s*x, dr*g abuse, s*lf h*rm and other things all of which can very easily become add!ct!on.

Reassurance is the best way to combat these feelings and help people that deal with this to feel loved, as it reintroduces the stimuli and shows the feelings of love/ other emotions are still there. This is especially helpful when there is a change in communication eg. Slower replies, cancelled plans etc.

Reassurance doesn’t fully solve the problem as it doesn’t stop the cycle of these feelings restarting after the stimuli is removed again but is (to my knowledge at least) the best way of helping and supporting someone dealing with a lack of emotional permanence.

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adhd is: this is my collection of hobbies im gonna do someday.. and over here is my collection of hobbies i started and im gonna get back to… and over here is my collection of hobbies im doing right now…

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adhd moods

*stands up* *sits down* *gets up again* *walks in a circle* *stands up on chair*

apparently, “yesterday” was actually four days ago

apparently, “four days ago” as actually yesterday

I’m not sure if i just walked away in the middle of that conversation or ended it like a normal person because i can’t remember what happened

ok i’ve found my phone, keys, and wallet!  …..where is my phone?

wait–did i just completely interrupt this person or was there a pause? i don’t remember

everyone hates me 

i know you introduced yourself to me 3 times but i cannot remember your name i am so sorry

*sets 17 alarms* *is still late*

*successfully accomplishes one (1) task or gets someplace on time for once* i am a fraud. clearly i do not have adhd and am just faking for attention :’(

procrastinates to initiate Hyperfocus™️

error: Hyperfocus™️ unavailable because the project is still boring and the time pressure isn’t enough to make it interesting this time

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oh yeah don’t worry about my leg bouncing, i’m fine. that’s just a thing i do when i’m bored, or excited, or nervous, or alive

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adhd breakdowns are whack because ur bawling ur eyes out over some insignificant bullshit while simultaneously being unable to rid ur head of the chorus of All I Want For Christmas Is You

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idk what it is about sitting in chairs and having both feet on the floor but it’s so uncomfortable and awful and i’ll never willingly do it if there’s literally any other option