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i love unmasking i love being weird i love being openly clueless i love spinning i love clapping my hands i love not talking if i don't want to i love clicking my tongue i love asking random questions i love organizing things i love scheduling i love going to bed at the same time every night i love having a routine i love doing things in a precise order i love using the same objects over and over again i love talking about my special interest i love smelling and touching nice things i love rocking in my seat i love it when i'm myself

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Scars? Not body horror. Limb differences? Not body horror. Facial differences? Not body horror. Feeding tubes, colostomy bags, etc? Not body horror. Movement disorders? Not body horror. Visibly disabled people just existing is not horror.

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My doctor and therapist: now with this autism + ADHD diagnosis you need to learn to unmask because masking all the time will make you burn out again and feel like shit

Other people: well it's just interesting how after getting the diagnosis you suddenly start behaving like that I mean I'm not saying you're faking it's just funny how you suddenly cannot be normal like you were before

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✨physical disability / cripple ask game✨

1. do you use any mobility aids? if yes, show us!!

2. do you use any type of disability aid other than mobility aids? (service animals, splints, glasses, inhaler, hearing aids, nebulizer, glucose monitors, hearing aids etc.) if yes, show us!!

3. if you have chronic pain, what’s your “normal” on the scale and what do you consider a good day on the scale?

4. if you have chronic fatigue, what’s your “normal” on the scale and what do you consider a good day on the scale?

5. what’s the worst part about being physically disabled?

6. what’s the best part about being physically disabled?

7. what’s your latest horror story from interacting with medical professionals?

8. what’s your latest horror story from interacting with able bodied people?

9. what is the worst thing an able bodied person has ever asked you or said to you?

10. what is something you want other people to know about your physical disability/disabilities?

11. what is something that you’re incredibly tired of hearing about your physical disability?

12. are you diagnosed, seeking diagnosis or self diagnosed? (i am pro self dx btw)

13. if you don’t have a diagnosis, do you want one, why/why not?

14. what good has happened recently related to your physical disability?

15. when and how did you discover the cripple punk movement?

16. have you always been physically disabled?

17. when did you start to consider yourself physically disabled?

18. do you have a carer? if yes, what are they like?

19. do you consider yourself visibly disabled? if yes, how does that affect your interactions with strangers?

20. do you have other physically disabled friends? if yes, how did you meet?

this ask game is for physically disabled people only

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Being chronically ill is a series of

"I'm having symptoms"

"hmm...have you tried not having symptoms?"

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btw disabled people. please make things easier for yourself in any way you can. shit is hard enough already we don’t need to refuse ourselves any help we can get

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Whats Inspiration Porn and how do i avoid it?

I remember a few years ago i went to a pro choice rally, i was the only one in a wheelchair, many strangers came up to me telling me how strong i was, how i was a representation of how no one had an "excuse" not to be here, and they took photos with me to post online and gush about how much of an inspiration i was. This event made me weirdly uncomfortable and i couldn't figure out why for a long time. I felt dehumanized, like to them i was an object, a trophy, a representation of their ablist views. Then i learned about inspiration porn an realized what happened to me.

Inspiration porn is when someone, usually an abled person, objectivities a disabled person. Putting all of their achievements on a pedestal to motivate other people. In that moment we are not treated like people, to them we are just an excuse to tell others they aren't doing enough.

It has a tone of "the disabled person can do it, so why can't you?" Which is frankly an ablist mindset.

By making our lives about YOU you are putting down all other disabled people for not doing the same.

I hear the phrase "no excuses" a lot regarding inspiration porn, implying those who cannot achieve these high standards are experiencing a moral failing. And its not just putting down other disabled people, but also abled people who simply don't have the means to do what the inspiration porn expects of them. It's saying "if you cant do what this disabled person did then you are lazy and a worse person." Which is just ablist as fuck.

Some characteristics of inspiration porn online:

Using photos, videos, or stories of disabled people WITHOUT THE DISABLED PERSONS PERMISSION. Do you know how icky it feels to achieve an accomplishment as a disabled person and then run across photos of you online filled with comments treating you like a prized show dog? Its gross.

Lots of phrases like "this is the definition of "no excuses"." And "they have my respect for doing this DESPITE their weakness/disability" (im literally writing this post because i JUST saw someone literally say "weakness" this way.) And "not disabled! Differently abled!"

We are not stories and characters, we are real people with lives just like you. We are not trophies, or an inspiration, we are just regular ass people. If you see something like this online know that the disabled community doesn't respect them at all. Don't do this.

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is there anyone else on this site with multiple types of spinal hardware / implants? I would like to hear from you

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As a disabled person, I am so, so fucking tired of being used as an argument FOR AI.

You think I can't ask for help from a human person if there's something I can't accomplish? You think I am so isolated due to my disability that even if something is beyond my capabilities, all I can do is sit in my room and fucking sulk unless I have AI?

What the actual fuck do you think about our quality of life and our ability to create that you think that disabled people can't draw, paint, or write? You honestly fucking believe that I have no thoughts of my own, no ability to bring them to life, unless a fucking computer does them for me?!

"we're including AI entries for NaNoWriMo or whatever the fuck because we respect disabled peoples" you are spitting in the face of disabled writers, you are saying point blank that we are absolutely incapable of producing any art ourselves and that we have an inherent inability to produce anything worth reading unless we get a useless algorithm to tell us what it's like to be human.

If I cannot hold a pen, a scribe can.

If I cannot hold a brush to paint, I'll follow my disabled artist predecessors and get as creative with my method as I do with each image I create.

Our methods are part of the art, part of the creation, and get woven into every fiber of our tapestries, get set into every letter of our stories.

This is just another ableist take disguised as care and concern and I am so, so sick of people using us as an excuse when they don't want to fucking write an email or some shit.

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I saw the post again where the OP is like "I don't care if you're autistic, you have to eat vegetables"

Sometimes a disability means you can't do a thing...That is what disability...Means.............

If you are an autistic person who sits around being judgmental and condescending toward every autistic person more disabled than you, you are a tar pit

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we need to make casual ableism embarrassing bc sorry it really is. what do you mean you don't know how to write a post discouraging use of ai without shaming people for not knowing how to do things that happen to be easy for you

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wheelchair users deserve a minimum of three wheelchairs to meet different needs. like, bare minimum of indoor chair, outdoor chair, and off road chair. chairs that meet different needs for transport, activity, positioning needs, energy levels, etc.

there is not "one chair" that can meet every need. wheelchair users deserve to have multiple chairs that meet specific needs, no matter how complex their seating/positioning needs. we deserve to at least have a backup if our chair breaks that is just as suited to our needs.

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When you explain the concept of like... choosing to do things that hurt you disability wise because they're personally worth it to you, people assume it's like... going on vacation or some Big event like a festival or whatever. Yeah those are cool and all but most of the time, it's the little mundane things in life that matter the most. Like cooking a nice dinner.

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☆ October is Dwarfism Awareness Month!!!! ☆

Elliot (27, they/them) here, I have Achondroplasia dwarfism and run this blog in the hopes to spread some education and awareness on my disability! I am also queer, nonbinary, hard of hearing, and a spoonie! Follow to get to know me and hopefully learn more about my community!!

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i know this is gonna be controversial but this is (one reason) why i take issue with so many posts complaining about children in public spaces. soooo many of the behaviors people complain about overlap with disabled adults. you actually cannot be an ally to/advocate for disabled people if you also think children don’t belong in public spaces and that is not to infantilize disabled adults. it’s just to say that when disabled adults see the way people talk about children with such disdain and list the reasons why, we recognize many of those things in ourselves and know that we are not welcome in your space either.

Lack of volume control, making messes when they eat, knocking something over because they lack fine motor skills, crying & meltdowns, lack of bladder and/or bowel control, making loud & unexpected sounds, hyperfocused or completely inattentive, relying on others to accomplish simple tasks, having to leave functions or stop tasks long before everyone else, tiring easily, specific dietary needs,

these are all things i see people complain about in children that i see either in myself or my disabled peers.

you simply cannot talk about how upsetting it is to witness these things in a child you’re not even responsible for and then expect us to assume you don’t also hate being around disabled adults.

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I don’t know who needs to hear it but it is not a moral failing if you are doing all that you can to relieve pain yet are not making a dent. It’s not your fault. Your pain is not your fault. Relief isn’t happening because your pain is mighty and under treated. Not because you aren’t trying hard enough. Your pain is not your fault.