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so it turns out that i’m legit the friend that all the guys in my friend group want to f*ck. i had no idea that that was true until my friend pointed it out to me time and time again (i never pick up on anything). it just makes my mind go fjjsjfjskfksks and it’s really awkward to think about because i’m sex-repulsed,,, not interested whatsoever in doing that type of stuff. even if i wanted a relationship with one of them i wouldn’t be able to give them what they want,,, so we’re just kinda gonna suffer,,,,

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Holy shit. Holy fuck. I got my little sister the book “sex is a funny word” because she’s at that age where she’s reading a lot of puberty books and I’d heard that this one was lgbtq+ friendly, but I was checking it over for accuracy and I gotta say, even with the totally gender neutral language they were using to talk about body parts and the really respectful way they talk about gender and their portrayals of same sex couples I was so fucking sure that I would have to mention that not everyone gets crushes or feels attraction separately. Because these books never talk about that. But here it is. The one thing I was so absolutely sure wouldn’t be included.

I honest to god dropped the book when I saw this I was so shocked. And I’m so fucking happy right now. I can’t exspress how much I wish this was mentioned in the books I read when I was a kid. It would have saved me so much confusion, and I’m so happy that kids today are gonna read this and know that it’s okay and normal to not get curses. I’m so so fucking happy you have no idea.

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I don’t understand

Why do some groups of people have communities for acceptance but when other groups want to be included they’re turned away???

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Some asexuals have sex

Some asexuals do not

(It’s not that difficult to understand)

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*IMPORTANT* NOT WANTING TO HAVE SEX DOES NOT MAKE A RELATIONSHIP INVALID THANKS 

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HAPPY DEMISEXUAL, GREY ACE, and ASEXUAL PRIDE DAYS

(8,9,10)

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Gimme those quality cuddles

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EmbrACE the ace

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Sometimes I just want to shout “IM ASEXUAL” from the rooftops but then again I don’t want to have to explain what asexuality is/ convince people it exists

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Pros of dating an ace:

1. You’ll never have to worry that we’re “just in it for the sex.” 2. We’re fucking adorable. 3. I mean really, nobody is more adorable than us. 4. We’re so lovable. 5. We’ll love you even if you aren’t “sexy.” 6. WHAT DOES “SEXY” EVEN MEAN?! 7. When you talk to your friends about us, you can say “Yeah, my bf/gf is a total ace,” and people will think that you’re dating someone absolutely flawless (well I mean they wouldn’t be wrong). 8. Did I mention how adorable we are? 9. We won’t judge you based on your body. At all. 10. Nobody is better than an ace.

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Just because I'm asexual doesn't mean I can't tell if someone is attractive. I can say "well dang that person's attractive" without having any sexual feelings towards them.

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Reblog if you would read a book with NO romance arc and a female, asexual main character

Someone said no one would ever read my book because there’s no love triangle. Prove them wrong?

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*points at romance* what the HECK is that

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Sure, okay, corrective rape could happen to anyone! Fair enough! But when an asexual gets raped because of their asexuality, it becomes an issue of the asexual community. I’m not saying it is an exclusive issue of ours, but I am telling you guys: when someone decides that an asexual person needs to understand what Real Sex™ feels like and ignores the fact that we are not consenting, they are doing it out of a need to show the error of our ways.

Sure, it could’ve happened to anyone. But it happened to an asexual BECAUSE OF THEIR ASEXUALITY. You can’t pretend an attack on my sexuality happened just because—it didn’t. It happened because to someone else, our lack of sexual attraction felt childish (you just don’t know any better, let me teach you), immature (how would you know if you don’t try it?/i can make it feel good, you’ll see), absurd. So yeah, it could’ve happened to anyone. Sure. But it happened for a very precise reason.

And okay, we aren’t oppressed because of our sexuality on a constitutional level, sure, I’ll give you guys that. Fair enough.

But how does that somehow mean people accept us and treat us equally? Like, the thing is, we aren’t even well-known enough to be oppressed on our own, and the more people who know us, the more people who start hating us because of our asexuality.

Did you know that Almudena Grandes, a Spanish writer, said in a famous TV Show over here that she hates “the asexual people” because being asexual makes us evil by our very nature? That we are incapable of feeling love and are boring and no one would want to be close to us because, well, we are Evil™?

Did you know that Flex made a nice little ad about asexuality, and that comments towards it ranged from mild “asexuality is stupid” to “they just need a good fucking” while implying that our consent wouldn’t be needed for them to do it, because they would be doing us a favour?

Did you know that no straight ever has looked at us and associated us with them? That for them we’re just as foreign and weird as the rest of the LGBT, that for the kind of people that hate homosexuality, bisexuality, pansexuality, for them asexuality is just one more thing to hate?

Did you know that my best friend looked at me in the eye and said: “I’m so sorry for you” when I came out to her? Did you know she told me she would rather DIE than “become” like me? Did you know my brother made fun of me for weeks after I told him what I was, that my mother took years to even be able to talk about it, that I can’t mention it around my grandma because it makes her so fucking uncomfortable?

Did you know one of my friends asked me not to tell guys I was asexual, because he mentioned it once to his friends, and they all laughed and said they would fuck an asexual woman anyway because that’s what she clearly needed? We’re talking people who actually respected other women, saying shit like this. Did you know he gets scared for me, not just for being a woman, but for being an asexual one?

But then I have to come here and see shit of how we are privileged because Straight people see us as straight (throwing not only us under the bus, but anyone who is “straight passing”, as if that didn’t have psychological consequences, as if it didn’t feel constricting to be forced to act like someone you aren’t), how nobody would ever hate on us or hurt us because of our asexuality, how There Are No Issues With Asexuality In The World.

Haha, there wasn’t any war in Ba Sing Se either.

So okay, keep us out of the LGBT, I don’t even care about the Tumblr community tbh. But don’t come at us using arguments like “you don’t experience hate because of your sexuality!” “aces are just straight anyway!” or variants of these, because, guess what? You’re wrong.

You’re fucking wrong.

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Me, an asexual: I don’t want kids

Family member: THINGS CHANGE!!!!!!! YOU’LL NEVER KNOW WHAT’LL HAPPEN!!!!!!

Me: *looks into the camera like I’m in The Office*

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s/o to aces with libido

s/o to aces with kinks

s/o to aces with fantasies

s/o to aces who experience sensual attraction

s/o to aces who like to be sensually intimate with their partners

s/o to aces who like to be sexually intimate with their partners

s/o to aces who aren’t “perfect” asexuals, you are still valid and you are all ace af

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Me, an aroace person: *laughs internally*

Me: *presses the fucking button*