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this tiktok screenshot ruined my life i need to see the serbian pigeon movie so so badly but it doesn't exist it's so foul to make this bad of a point with something so cool and then take it away from me.

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And don't be too het up if your life plan changes over time: My highschool senior year I wanted to be a lawyer, my school said "Ok, your research project this year is 'what do the people who have the career you want actually do?'." I graduated deciding that while I didn't know WHAT I wanted to be-it wasn't a lawyer.

I took a gap year to earn money for college, fell in with some artists and decided I wanted to do something in fine art. Went to get my Associates at a close-ish community college. Discovered photography, fell in love with film and the darkroom.

Decided I was going to pursue fine art photgraphy. Got my Associates and transferred my credits to an arts college a couple hours away. Spent a year at that college. Come summer, had a health issue-dropped out of college. Had the realization I wouldn't be able to support myself easily in fine art with my health issue.

Decided to pursue a business degree in management since my fast food job made that really easy to pursue. Had a manager that made me realize I hated fast food.

Worked a housekeeping job for a year. Got told "I was just a baby" by the nicest 80 year old I'd ever met after I told her I didn't know where I wanted to go with my career.

Decided to go back to college for an English degree. Went back into fast food at a different place since housekeeping wouldn't work for my class schedule. [Thought about joining the military as an officer once i got my degree, thankfully my health issue wouldn't pass MEPS.] Got my BA 8 years after I'd graduated from high school.

Decided to go back into fast food management while I got my TEFL certification so I could go to Japan or South Korea. Watched as my cohort's job got frozen due to covid.

Decided to stay at my fast food job until covid blew over.

Gave up after a year and decided to do freelance proofreading while I tried to get a fulltime job in the publishing industry. Got a transcription job that didn't pay minimum wage.

Had a health issue, went back to fast food for 3-4 months.

Got a job that paid minimum wage while being trained in a low code tech stack in exchange for working for them 2 years.

Got my contract with them bought out by one of their customers. Am now working as a Python backend developer. ... It's been a wild 14 years. fuck. it's been 14 years since my high school graduation. wow.

every year we have to say it

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i remember adults telling me, as a kid, to listen to doctors and get my flu vaccine and any shots i could because they remembered Before.

then they started fighting Covid precautions.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that the ozone was disappearing and the earth was dying and we needed to recycle and save the planet.

now my parents think climate change is a myth.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that racism was a plague, that we had to love and accept everyone, that we should never judge before walking a mile in their shoes.

then they told me that protesting for my Black siblings was wrong.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that we needed to give to the poor. working at soup kitchens. making quilts. collecting food and money and supplies. building houses. because it was the christian and just plain right thing to do.

now they look at me, on food stamps with their grandchildren, and lament the "welfare state".

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, that it was easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter the Kingdom of Heaven and that any rich man, especially an immoral one, should never run our country.

you can guess who they voted for.

i remember adults telling me, as a kid, so very much.

when did they forget?

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this was also in a discord server

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dryer rack

one of my biggest tidiness challenges is figuring out what to do with multi-wear per wash clothes that I’ve worn once and can no longer be counted among the “clean” laundry but are not yet deserving of the designation “dirty”

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clones are essentially the child you would have if humans could reproduce asexually without assistance.

Once again reminded that people don’t comprehend what clones are

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oh lol i saw it and thought it was meant to be a referenceto that one kids book of the little fish whose friends kept getting eaten by the big fish so heconvinced a school of fish to pretend to be a big fish byt them all swimming together

this urgent care has the worst painting of a fish I've ever seen in a healthcare facility

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it gets really funny when they start blocking themselves

This won't stop happening, so I think today is a good day to just use tumblr from my tablet

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snort. they have the French foreign legion and they're gonna make claims like THAT?

I'm sorry what the fuck did you just say ??? This has to be fake.

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Isn't that an ace ring tho?

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Just curious...

👀 And do share why if you feel so inclined!

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this makes me wonder. this is going to make me sound weird, but how do teachers do the 'how-to-research' teachings now? It gets me so irritated at people who are like "I wonder if" but then don't do followup-literally just google it! but I was taught in school when computer access was still not as common. And one of my tasks as a kid was looking up things/people in encyclopedias and getting from them the information i summarized in a report, and then a little older getting to pick my own stuff, and then a little older and doing "Current events" projects from newspapers. And exclaiming in joy when in high school wikipedia became a thing "You canNOT use it as a source, but you may use it to find other sources" as we did our papers with all our research. and that was one school, one curriculum steady all the way through building up to teach me how to research. How is that done now? [I was homeschooled through a video curriculum] My video lecturer told us about the encyclopedia and assigned a piece, my mom took me to the library, our librarian showed us where they were and talked me through how to use it. that's alot, all for one person,and one set up encyclopedias. and nowwith so much at our fingertips. i wonder waht's it's like.

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Fascinated that this just came up on my dash when I was just talking to my mom about tradwives yesterday. By some metrics my mom could be considered a "trad wife" or at least that's what I thought when I first heard about tradwives.

Mom was a stay-at-home mom from the time my sister was born to the time I went off to college. She homeschooled us, and took care of the house and all that. Dad is a Baptist pastor [also a maintenance worker for a park because the church was super small and independent so he didn't get a pastor salary]

But then I started looking into the tradwife stuff and I realized it was.... a little out there, and not at all remotely the same. And I was trying to explain to Mom yesterday how it was weird and how it differed, and I couldn't fully explain it.

But I think the difference is that even when Mom was stay-at-home mom she wasnt... Idk how to explain it. There is a level of subservience in the tradwife movement that I have never seen from my mother or any of the other women of the church I knew [yes, even the ones who reheally didn't believe in birth control and had the very extreme stairstep amount of children]

And I think it's the expectation of equality.

See, in the tradition I was raised, women are taught to submit to their husbands, but husbands are also given the expectation that they are to treat their wives as they would themselves.

A while back, I was reading Rachel Held Evans A Year of Biblical Womanhood and I remember being struck by her discussing how in the churches she had grown up women had an expectation of "gentleness" that was overemphasized greatly. I was struck by it, because it was completely different in the church traditions I grew up in.

When I heard of the tradwives calling their husbands "Sir" to "honor them" my first reaction was a snort and the thought that if any of the church ladies I know had been told by their husbands to call them sir... well, let's just say there would have been alot of very uncomfortable men.

I never grew up with the expectation that a woman was to be gentle. I grew up with the expectation that a woman was to be strong. And I don't know how to explain fully how that is different. But I do think the reason the tradwife movement comes off as Weird with a capital 'W' to me is because I was raised with that expectation of strength and the equality of partners who bring different 'strengths' to the partnership.

Was it really equality, I don't know? I've never been in the position of any of those women, and I am highly unlikely to ever be in that position. but from the way it looked to me, any couple with tradwife ideas would've been looked at as strange and uncomfortable with the man too mean and the woman too mild.

Found this on pinterest had to put it here

Tradwives need to realize the seriousness of the shit they are getting themselves into.

The society isn't all that kind to women.

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