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Live with Love

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Married but at what cost guys

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Based on the Witch hat atelier ch. 85 cover, but with the Hero of Time!

Got the idea from mizaruwu and their drawing of LU Legend ^^

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For some reason I remember this scene over the open sky

I spent a long time redoing the sketch :p

🎶 🎶 🎶

We've walked so far

That you can't even get there

We've been waiting in ambush for years

Despite the snow and rain

We don't cry in icy water

And in fire we almost never burn

We're hunters of good luck, the bird of ultramarine color

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when Zack & Sephiroth do a presentation for ShinRa

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what !!!!

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part of me thinks jay wouldn’t win ninjago hunger games because he would tweak out over his friends dying and then step on a land mine or something and the other part of me thinks he actually would win because he’s the narrative’s favorite and the land mine just Wouldn’t go off

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link and zelda supporting each other through the trauma that happened during the time they were yk saving the world, link slowly opening up and talking more to zelda. Zelda slowly leaving her role as princess, as she finally has time to invest in her research. them gardening in hateno and teaching the children. Link slowly remembering his live before the calamity, before the master sword. I NEED THEMMMM

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possession textposts part 7!!

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Teenage Clicks

How Netflix’s Adolescence Highlights a Void we can Fill to Protect all Children

Like many parents, I watched Adolescence through fingers, with a wince.

It’s difficult viewing, but the four-part series may be the most consequential show since 1984, when 60 million Americans watched Something About Amelia break a public taboo on child sexual abuse and unleash a wave of investment in child protection systems.

Adolescence opens with  an early morning armed police raid on a modest suburban family in the north of England. The British police are rarely over-dramatic, and the firepower deployed denotes a grave offence.  Everyone I know who watched it, assumed it was the wrong house.  The suspect is be-pimpled thirteen-year-old Jamie, slumbering under a blue duvet with matching solar system wallpaper. He could be my son or yours.

After mundanely polite processing by the duty sergeant, Jamie is led to a police cell through a chorus of adult prisoners yelling abuse. In the first of many viscerally distressing sequences, Jamie’s dad, played by the monumental Stephen Graham, witnesses his son’s intimate  strip-search.

You just want it to be over or rewound like an old VHS. Mistaken identity declared, an apology issued, and Jamie safely returned to his cosmic-themed bedroom. But that doesn’t happen.

An equally precious thirteen-year-old: Katie, has been murdered by multiple knife wounds. The police have surveillance footage of Jamie committing the crime. We don’t hear Katie’s story or see her parents. Adolescence not a suspenseful whodunnit, but an exploration of unfathomable motive . Inspired by real-life tragedy, filmed in single takes, with flawless acting, Adolescence has ignited public debate the world over.

The forensic police interview of Jamie reveals a world his dad doesn’t know. Isolated in his bedroom, Jamie navigated the teenage complexity of his changing body, relationships, and place in the world with the online help of the ‘manosphere’, a network aggrieved by fear males are falling behind in an age of feminism.

Like most conspiracy groups, they exploit mainstream fears. Surveys show male teenagers are unsure of their place in a changing world. Boys are failing in school, twice as likely to be suspended or diagnosed with ADHD and four times more likely in adulthood to die from suicide. But gender  is not a zero-sum game. Girls are more likely to suffer sexual violence, online bullying and grow up to a pay-gap and work-place harassment. As Richard Reeves argues ‘we can be passionate about the rights of girls and compassionate about boys too’. There is not much of a compassionate public narrative about boyhood and history shows bad people love a void. Cue Andrew Tate and the online, radical misogynists.

Since Shakespeare wrote Romeo and Juliet, there is resignation that parenting adolescents involves preventing them going over a cliff edge. Adolescent propensity for risk was always seen as inevitable and unpreventable. Recent neuroscience shows where this risk comes from. In the teen years two mutually dependent brain functions evolve with the worst possible timing. The brain region that seeks novelty, emotional spark and social engagement is live by the age of twelve, while the stern impulse control function that filters and manages risk hasn’t matured until the end of adolescence. This miscalibration means the teenagers’ brain can act like a sports car without the brakes, airbags, or seat belts. Teenagers are more likely than any other cohort to die from accidents and make life-destroying decisions.

Most parents worry about their teen’s safety, but few will be groomed into extreme violence. Gangsters, traffickers and radicalizers target a certain type of teen, those who feel unsafe, unloved or unseen at home and school.  Interviewed by a psychologist, Jamie wells up recounting a pivotal incident earlier in childhood. His dad took him to boys ‘soccer, the ultimate shared masculine activity, but he is just no good at it. After a few bad moves provoke teammate badmouthing and sniggers from parents on the touch line, Jamie tries to make eye contact with his dad, who looks away in shame. In another memory, his mom ushers him upstairs while his dad tears down the garden shed in a blinding rage. Our view of the intergenerational path this pain travelled along clears later in the series. Jamie’s Dad describes the extreme physical violence, he experienced at the hands of his own father. Despite his best intentions not to harm Jamie, the suppressed anger, shame and fear erodes his capacity to connect with Jamie’s inner world and make him feel safe.

Potentially traumatic events at home are defined and measured as Adverse Childhood Experiences  (ACEs). The Center for Disease Control (CDC) describes ten different forms of abuse, neglect and dysfunctional parenting. In a normal population around 57% of people report one ACE and 13% report four or more. But within radicalized, groomed or gang-recruited teens around 90% have for or more ACEs. The manosphere is a variation of an old tactic, weaponizing or exploiting troubled teens. Worryingly misogynist radicals  are expanding this reach online to a broader group of vulnerable children in a moment when the tech world is dismantling safeguards in the name of a brakes-off  variety of free speech.

Adolescent risk is not the only negative outcome of ACEs. Center for Disease Control surveillance across US states shows multiple ACEs strongly correlate with worse outcomes across 40 major wellbeing and heath indicators. At a conservative estimate, the long-term costs of  ACEs are around 8% of GDP.

Most ACEs occur in ordinary looking families like Jamie’s. They are transmitted across generations unwittingly and hidden in plain by shame, stigma and myth. Teens with ACEs are more likely to have low self-esteem, hyper-vigilance and poor decision-making. They are less likely to have regular, engaged conversation about their daily activities with parents. The leading US expert on parenting Lisa Damour told me.

“I can accurately measure how safe a teenager is by measuring their proximity to loving adults. If you come to adolescence without a sense of trust, affection, and warmth, the child is at a disadvantage for safety and risk.”

Culture warriors now dismiss the term psychological safety, but it’s very real. From the moment they are born, children have a biological imperative to feel protected by a parent. For children safety is not just the absence of violence, it’s the presence of love. When Jamie felt humiliated on the football field and turned to his avoidant, ashamed Dad, it was probably socially terrifying.

As parents we all screw up at times, but repair is essential. Far on the cinematic spectrum from Adolescence, Will Ferrel plays a hapless husband with two teenage sons in a middling US comedy about a family skiing vacation Downhill. The atmosphere darkens after he abandons his family to flee an avalanche . Despite simmering fury, his wife eventually feigns an injury so Ferrel’s character can rescue her and restore his role as family protector in the eyes of the boys. She knows they need it

Some parents inherit that kind of foresighted attunement from their own childhood, others of us must learn it. But it is learnable. Nurse home visits that teach nurturing care in early childhood and at critical milestones like adolescence, are evidenced by hundreds of robust trials to improve child safety, communications and even parental mental health. In New York where we live, 60% of the population have one ACE, yet less than 5% of parents in the state receive a parenting program. parenting programs could be universally available for a fraction of the poor life outcomes they prevent.

Emotionally untethered at home, Jamie experiences another major public humiliation at school, a social media pile-on where he is branded an ‘involuntary celibate’ (Incel), something he shouldn’t have to worry about at 13. The chaotic school makes little effort to understand or manage this cruelty. Research shows healthy relationships with teachers improve learning outcomes for all children, but for vulnerable children they promote healing and reduce risk too. Its unfathomable schools in the UK or US are not expected to systematically promote healthy relationships and belonging when it’s known to drive learning outcomes and risk reduction.  We are the first generation in history with an understanding of the causes and costs of childhood adversity and the solutions to eradicate it. Rather than seeing the manosphere as a new and mysterious challenge, it’s just another group of violent extremists with Fagin style child-exploitation tactics . We need to find a way of regulating the internet to protect children and bring predators to account. In the meantime, by scaling up parenting and school programs that ensure children are safe, seen and soothed, we can minimize risk and cut off predator's supply lines.

My book Trauma Proof: Healing, Attachment and the Science of Prevention is out in Hardback, kindle and Audio in the UK now and in North America on the 15th April

Source: Teenage Clicks

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Hi zeldy

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Time Travel Resets

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You're on to something

Cole | Eremite: Stone enchanter(gi)

Putting this fit on him because i know he would look good in it

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Imagine how unserious the ninja considered their elements compared to others who can very much easily get harmed by them.

Kai, working as a blacksmith, sticks his hand into the fire to pull out the metal right in front of any random customer. They are terrified and tell him to get his nerves checked.

Nya very happily dives into a tsunami or typhoon with no hesitation. It’s like a carnival ride to her.

Jay would happily accidentally pour water onto electrical items he shouldn’t and still touch them with his bare hands. He also once made a lightning rod when he was younger and tried to place it in the middle of a lightning storm. His hair still hasn’t recovered but somehow he never had to go to the hospital.

Zane being told to put on a jacket by some old guy in a village before he goes into a snow covered mountain. Zane, in his sleeveless horribly tied up gi with thin and loose material, wanders off without it. The old man already prepared a gravestone saying ‘died of hypothermia’ when Zane back feeling warm.

Cole happily jumps off buildings and lands on his feet creating a crater, everyone else on the 50 story building unanimously screamed.

Lloyd actually dies and comes back theres not much else i can say to that. And stands in front of flying swords and bullets and whatever with a green shield happily having a conversation. And also plays with bombs. He is the bomb.

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I like to think sephiroth would send this type of stuff to angeal and genesis on missions not knowing that he’s a god tier shitposter

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Wind