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IF YOU ARE UNMARRIED, DON'T HAVE KIDS, AND HATE YOUR PARENTS PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HAVE A FUCKING WILL

this has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood probate lawyer

[youthinkofacoolname]

Even looking through those magazines in my previous reblog, it becomes abundantly clear that there never was any time where the bisexual community was transphobic enough to warrant separatists claiming so. In fact, as I've stated many times on here, bisexuals were in close alliance with and largely were transgender people (and those who described their gender in non-binary terms before the word was coined, and also gender non-conforming individuals and drag artists), and this is indisputable fact if anyone bothered to just... read?

For example, let's take the Bi-Monthly in 1977:

Requested perspectives from transsexual bisexuals from the first volume, second issue onward after establishing the periodical in the first one.

The fourth issue has a letter from a self-described bisexual "pre-operative transsexual" woman whose dysphoria has caused her to live what she described as an "asexual" life (although not by the current definition, but celibacy due to dysphoria from sleeping with gay men) and said that the bisexual center seemed promising for finding a relationship because of the openness to transgender people.

In this same issue a letter was written in asking if "transsexual/transgender/transvestite" individuals were included as they are a "considerable segment of bisexuals". The reply was: "The Bi-Center welcomes all bisexuals and people exploring bisexuality. 'Bisexuality and the Transsexual' will appear in newsletter issue #5."

And a trans woman wrote the piece "Bisexuality and the Transsexual" in the next issue, which is a piece that can clue you into the fact that yes, even transgender people at the time understood sex/gender in a way that seemed like it was binary - but yet, all the while, trans and cis bisexuals promoted transcending sex/gender with bisexuality. It's always been a blatant lie that bisexuality was ever about attraction to binary cis men/women or was exclusionary.

Promoted bigender androgyny ("mentally, emotionally, and physically") and gender non-conformity, as well as non-binary identity in columns and events, including calling bisexuality "an avenue to androgyny" which is described in all of these entries as we describe "bigender" and other similar non-binary labels today. Multiple issues over and over promoted transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming ideas in 1977 and onward.

And I found all of that within a few minutes of reading a couple of issues of one of the older magazines, and there's so much more of this in all of the others, that highlight the importance of the continued bisexual-transgender alliance. Not only that, but there's anti-racism, anti-fascism, anti-classism, pro-feminist works all through, that are honestly incredible, and all of this is constantly erased because people hate bisexuals.

So, if anyone thinks that bisexuals were ever somehow overall transphobic (looking at you, separatist pansexuals and similar), that bisexuality was ever about attraction to cis men/women only, that there wasn't a significant amount of bisexual transgender/non-binary people (even if the word non-binary wasn't in usage yet, we know that people still defined their gender by non-binary terms at times, although most trans people spoke in binary terms for decades as that was obviously the public understanding for a while) in the bisexual community from the start of it - you're wrong, and you're denying history, and all it takes is looking through vintage bisexual magazines and literature for one moment to see that.

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[youthinkofacoolname]

I respect your defense of bisexual woman and all but I just don’t want to put my mouth somewhere I know a dick has been

Yall out here acting like these girls’ pussies be haunted by the ghosts of penises past, this ain’t a Dickmas Carol, be so fucking for real

[youthinkofacoolname]

“I’m not on tiktok anyway so this does not affect me” no???? it’s not just about tiktok or whether or not you like the app??? it’s about them being able to censor and control what they want and what they don’t want people to see. it’s about them being able to keep people uneducated for the sake of their personal gain and benefits.

(it’s also about small businesses who relied on tiktok to gain customers / income.)

that being said, if the only thing you care about is the platforms you’re on, sorry to break it to you, but if they can ban tiktok, they can go after any other platforms too.

they can go after tumblr, archive of our own, instagram, youtube, facebook, etc, you name it.

it actually does affect you.

[youthinkofacoolname]

Full names and details of every man who was convicted of raping Gisèle Pelicot. The list includes 50 men who could be identified, besides Gisèle's husband, ranging in age from 27 to 74. Among them are a firefighter, a journalist, a nurse, a construction worker, and a prison guard. Most have families of their own, and only about half had previous convictions.

[youthinkofacoolname]

i mean the reality is that the model of an "asexual spectrum" – wherein we can presume that a certain number of people at some nebulous point are "off the spectrum" and therefore experience sexuality in exactly the way you've projected onto them – makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

because there is incredibly wide variability in how often and when and how people experience sexual attraction and sexual desire!!!!!

there are so many elements that shape human sexuality, sexual behavior, experiences of sexual attraction, the frequency of sexual feelings, and so on (gender norms, culture, personal history, mental health history, physical health, medical history, biological influences, experiences of trauma, the ways oppression intersects with sexuality, etc. etc. etc.)

so like. whose experiences have we decided are "the norm"? how would you decide that? how would you even KNOW?

so much of this concept relies on defining people based on entirely internal experiences (the definition at this point seems to have become "whether you look at people and automatically think about wanting to have sex with them")

and like. you do not know most people's private inner experiences!!!!!! again, how the fuck would you KNOW

what makes infinitely more sense would actually be the concept of a sexual spectrum with complete and total lack of sexual feelings/desire as the outlying point

but that's not a very popular idea for some reason 😶

[youthinkofacoolname]

I swear to god you can never win with radfems and TERF's lol. If you're a woman who likes traditional feminine things you're just following the patriarchy's gender roles for women and have internalized misogyny, if you're a tomboy woman who likes more masculine things you're just a pick me trying to suck up to men and you have internalized misogyny. If you're a man you're evil as soon as you're concieved and are biologically programmed to want to assault any female you see, if you're a woman you'll have to follow all of their stupid "how to not have internalized misogyny" rules and if you don't they'll bully you

(because radfems are only feminists when it comes to women they approve of, if you're any different from that you are an internalized misogynist and handmaiden of the patriarchy!! How dare you be your own person and not have the exact same opinions as them! They're totally not like the sexists who also try to make women act and think exactly how they want and not let them be their own person)

If you're a transgender woman you were born male meaning as soon as you were concieved you want to assault any female you see and you're just pretending to be a woman so you can go into womens spaces and perv on them (or if the radfem is "trans inclusive" they'll make up some bullshit where "Oh if you're a transgender woman as soon as you transition all of your urges to assault women are magically washed away"), if you're a transgender man you're just an extreme pick me who only transitioned not due to gender dysphoria but because you want to avoid the patriarchy or whatever, they'll also probably treat you like a baby for some reason (or if the radfem is "trans inclusive" they'll either exclude you from the man hating because "Oh well you're different than the other men cause you know what its like to be a woman" or they'll include you in their man hating because "trans men are men, and I hate men, go die you evil man, the day you transitioned was the day your brain magically got those evil urges to assault women!!!")

If you're a woman and you try to bring attention to things like men being laughed at or ignored when facing sexual abuse or just simply disagreeing with the whole man hating thing and wanting actual equality, again you're an evil internalized misogynist and a handmaiden to the patriarchy!! If you're a woman with short hair, a woman with a bigger nose, a woman with broader shoulders, a woman with bodyhair, or a none white woman, be prepared to be told you're an "evil transgender who use female spaces to prey on women" even if you're not. Despite how so many radfems say that women shouldn't have to live up to beauty standards of the patriarchy and how some of them say we need to empower non white women, they sure do love accusing every slightly non conventionally attractive or non white woman of being one of those "evil transgenders!!" (So scary)

If you're a bisexual woman and you're in a relationship with (or god forbid even married to) a man, get ready to be the butt of many jokes, told you have internalized misogyny, told you should've dated/married a woman because men are evil or even being accused of faking your bisexuality (because I guess the whole point of being bisexual isn't liking both genders)

If you're a man who's into certain kinks (BDSM for example) you're told that your kink is proof that you get off on women being harmed, even though people with kinks like BDSM are against actually harming people or doing non consensual things. If you're a woman who's also into certain kinks (again I'll use BDSM as an example) you're told you've been brainwashed by the patriarchy into thinking abuse is sexy, even though BDSM doesn't equal abuse (there are obviously people who use BDSM as a cover up for actual abuse which is horrible, but BDSM in general isn't abuse). If you're someone who doesn't fit into the box of what a "non misogynistic person" is to these radfems (which if I'm being honest is just most people because most people radfems hate aren't actually misogynistic) you'll be bullied, told to die, told to end yourself and if you're a woman that they see as having "internalized misogyny" they might even say you deserve to be raped and face violence because like I said before, radfems are only feminist if you're the right kind of woman to them, if you're not they don't give a shit about what happens to you

Oh and if you're a woman in a country where violence against women is a big issue and misogyny is normalised, get ready to be ignored because radfems have more important issues to deal with like some bisexual woman marrying a man or a transgender person existing

This is so spot on lol.

[youthinkofacoolname]

saw someone say "an 11-year-old isn't even supposed to know what sex is and if you do something horrible must be happening to you and you need to get out of there" like can we be for real for a moment. have some people honest to god never heard 11-year-olds making sex jokes in their life

[youthinkofacoolname]

next time a cishet man talks about how he feels oppressed or like ppl are saying he's evil, explain the trans-to-prison pipeline and v-coding to him.

[youthinkofacoolname]

next time a cishet man talks about how he feels oppressed or like ppl are saying he's evil, explain the trans-to-prison pipeline and v-coding to him.

[youthinkofacoolname]

Nearly 14,000 mail ballots in Nevada have signature issues

Officials urge residents to use online tool to check if ballot was accepted

The total number of ballots — 13,906 — needing curing include 6,383 from registered nonpartisan or other voters, 4,026 from Democrats and 3,497 from Republicans.

The deadline for voters to cure their ballots is 5 p.m. Nov. 12, officials said. Ballots can be cured here.

The main issue they're having with young voters is that Nevada allows for voter registration through the Department of Motor Vehicles, and the "signatures" are digital (the licensee types it into a form), so their hand-written signatures on their ballots don't match the KEYSTROKES that serve as signatures on their license.

It would be hilarious if it weren't so fucking infuriating.

[youthinkofacoolname]

nothing pisses me off during us elections more than european moral superiority despite having done almost nothing to earn it. your countries’ histories are rotten and your politics are nothing groundbreaking so please relax

[youthinkofacoolname]

it’s fucking insane that a moderator had to say “there is no state where you can kill a baby after it’s born” at a presidential debate.

[youthinkofacoolname]

What it all boils down to is that a lot of fan fic writers want to have their cake and eat it, too. They want to insist that their fics, and fan fiction as a whole, is inherently progressive and needs to be considered an art form on the level of published books and other art. But at the same time they refuse– absolutely REFUSE– to be critiqued, not only on the awful things that can crop up in fan fic (i.e. romanticized/glorified pedophilia, incest, and abuse of any and all stripes, racism and homophobia, etc.) but they also refuse to be critiqued on the most mundane, minor issues that readers have, and insist on silencing their reader base by equating minor critique to the worst type of evil harassment and hate! It’s quite disgusting to see how coddled fan fic writers are!

Either fan fiction is art and therefore subject to the same rules and criticism, or it’s not. You cant have it both ways. You don’t get to dodge the rules. 

[youthinkofacoolname]

What it all boils down to is that a lot of fan fic writers want to have their cake and eat it, too. They want to insist that their fics, and fan fiction as a whole, is inherently progressive and needs to be considered an art form on the level of published books and other art. But at the same time they refuse– absolutely REFUSE– to be critiqued, not only on the awful things that can crop up in fan fic (i.e. romanticized/glorified pedophilia, incest, and abuse of any and all stripes, racism and homophobia, etc.) but they also refuse to be critiqued on the most mundane, minor issues that readers have, and insist on silencing their reader base by equating minor critique to the worst type of evil harassment and hate! It’s quite disgusting to see how coddled fan fic writers are!

Either fan fiction is art and therefore subject to the same rules and criticism, or it’s not. You cant have it both ways. You don’t get to dodge the rules.