writtenbynath

[writtenbynath]

This post was never about you. Why are you trying to make it about you? This is about how Scifi awards have ignored female writers and their preferred subgenres. It's about the way female writers in TV and movies are continually overlooked. This is about giving more attention and credit to Women who Write. It's not about you.

[writtenbynath]

Life is a Roguelike

and you've gained so many powers since your last run

In the long journey of healing there will come obstacles that knock you off your horse. Moments where you backslide, regress or hit a wall.

Don't be discouraged.

Distress tolerance gets better. Recovery windows get smaller. Set-backs become less devastating.

But there'll still be days where you're at square one. Moments where someone makes you feel small and without any semblance of control, where the pain floods in and reminds you it's always been there; you just got better at filtering it out.

Don't let it get you down.

In your weakest moments, remind yourself of how long its been since it last felt like this. Remind yourself it used to always be this way.

Then when you're ready you can get back on the horse.

Relapses happen and it's hard to ignore the shame. Especially when it's been so long since you last fell off.

But that's worth celebrating. That's encouragement.

No one said you'd never feel these things again.

Take heart that it has been a long time since you last did.

[writtenbynath]

Fantasy and Scifi fans and writers have always treated women as if they didn't belong, and as if urban fantasy and paranormal romance was less than. But we were here the whole time. It started with Mary Shelley and women have been part of science fiction and fantasy ever since. And many romance novels have more fucking depth than any of Heinlein's stuff ever did!

[writtenbynath]

Pro tip: teach your subs specific command triggers. Tap your foot on the floor twice for him to kneel before you. Thrice for him to prostrate himself before you. Snap your fingers so he knows to put his leash on and crawl towards you. Stretch your legs to have a footstool readily available. You are their master. Make sure to command them all throughout the day so they're constantly reminded of their place.

[writtenbynath]

@hypnomister wrote

All the books and ads that talk about "how to hypnotize and train a woman without her ever being aware" are for the lonely guys who dream of having the ability to control a woman but also know for the most part that it is all a lie.

It's not about how lonely these guys are or whether it's actually possible to hypnotise a woman without her knowledge. The point is that they want to bypass the woman's wishes. They want a way to take advantage of women without giving her the option to say no. That's abuse. That's the problem.

[writtenbynath]

You're always going on about some fictional time in the past when everything was better. It wasn't better, you were just too naive to grasp the full picture. You're Adam longing to go back to paradise, blaming Eve for ruining it when it's actually the knowledge you gained that's making you anxious and unhappy. The apple was always a metaphor in a story old as time.

[writtenbynath]

"porn brain" is a far right conspiracy theory, misogyny in porn is a result of structural societal misogyny and not the cause of it, the way to help sex workers is decriminalization and worker's rights, banning sexual expression is fascist. i will not be taking questions at the time.

[writtenbynath]

As a not-quite brit, I saw ding dong the Witch is dead and people pissing on her grave for years since then and though I understand the hatred for what she did to the UK, I can't help but feel like misogyny made the death celebrations worse, just like misogynoir is making all the insults at Harris worse. I think a little celebration when Trump (and Reagan) die is not going to be terribly shocking.

Just a heads up right now: on the day when Trump dies, I’m going to be extremely tasteless about it. It’s going to get ugly. You are going to see a side of me I am not proud of. I don’t want any call-outs in my inbox, I’m stating right now that lines will be crossed.

[writtenbynath]

consent doesn’t only apply to sexual touching.

you’re allowed to tell people not to hug you, not to hold your hand, not to kiss your cheek, not to play with your hair, not to put their hands on you in any way without your permission. you’re allowed to be uncomfortable with these kinds of touching, to tell people that, and to have those boundaries respected. just because a touch isn’t sexual doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to have a problem with it.

you’re allowed to create boundaries about what happens with your body and what other people do with it, regardless of those people’s motivations or their relationship to you. it isn’t only sexual touching people need your consent for and it isn’t only sexual touching that you’re allowed to revoke your consent for. people should not be touching you when you don’t want them to no matter what kind of touching it is.

[writtenbynath]

so uh, Richard, you're 70+ years old, right? When was the last time you inboxed a girl young enough to be your granddaughter about erotic hypnosis? About you wanting to hypnotise her? Because by my count it was last year. She's 23 and her Tumblr clearly says she's a lesbian. But maybe you've done it more recently than that.

Daja's complaint was also that you inboxed her. She was relieved when you stopped talking to her because she wasn't impressed by you, but her complaint was that you spontaneously went into her inbox to talk about erotic hypnosis even though she is young enough to be your granddaughter and she never expressed any interest in you or your tumblr.

That's enough to make you a creep, even if the things you've written here were all true.

STRAW MANNED

For those of you who know Nath (writtenbynath) you may have seen her jump on me and lump me into her rants about Mark Cunningham and Nimja. And after I responded privately to her, she initiated her strawman approach aided by a couple of people who also made comments, neither of whom has any idea of who I really am.

Lizzy (deeperforme) posted the second page of 2 "one sheet" ads for an event that never happened, because once I found out what the originator of the event Kali DuBois had in mind, I pulled out. So I challenge her to find anyone who can say they actually attended said event and experienced me teaching "Dark Hypnosis".

The second response was by Daja (daja-the-hypnokitten) who inferred that I was afraid to chat with her because she had some knowledge of hypnosis. I do tend to get busy with my own life. So if I initiate a conversation with someone, and they are not interested in reaching back to me then, I do tend to forget about them. So here is the entirety of my conversations with her from around July, 3023:

Hypnotic Greetings From Las Vegas Daja

Hi

Hey...Stepped away for a few minutes to make fresh coffee...Back now...Richard

I'm at work, so I'm not really around right now, my lunch break just ended

I'll be around when you get off...So we could have a chat later...

wednesdays tend to be pretty busy for me; depending on what you want to chat about I can reply slowly as work permits, though

Hypnosis is my favorite chat subject...smiles

that's a rather broad topic, though. What about hypnosis?

Jul 26, 2023 12:47 PM

There are a few people here who have known me for over 30 years, back to the days of Yahoo Chat, and Yahoo Group Chats, who could tell you, and remember that I had running feuds with abusive hypnotists like "Mr. Daniel" who had a program very similar to the Bambi Indoctrination Program so popular here on Tumblr and other platforms these days. I not only opposed him, but regularly de-programmed a lot of his victims who he actually had turned into prostitutes using hypnotic programming. And I have continued that to this day.

In the last month, I have helped goodgirlfuckdoll1 break away from her former "Master" who was using Hypnotic Behavior Modification in an unethical way on her. In fact, at her request, I am teaching her to hypnotize, so that we can institute a new program called HEALTHY HYPNO KINK. Am I against hypno kink? No, as long as it is used ethically, and both parties go into it knowing exactly what will be done, and that it doesn't interfere with their normal day-to-day lives.

Lastly, I challenge Nath, and anyone else who wants to put me in the category of a "Dark Hypnotist" to bring forward anyone from any platform who has firsthand evidence that I ever tried to take advantage of them using hypnosis. Good Luck With That!

Hypnotically,

Richard Anthony

[writtenbynath]

[writtenbynath]

Angry man shouts a challenge at the sky

Evidence is the magic word they always use in their defense

I don't need evidence to say he's a creep

Anyway

Off to give a nice introduction to hypnokink workshop

This DID happen?

So you hypnotised a Dominant woman without her consent? And you're proudly telling others how you violated her consent? And you'd love to teach people how to do that? @hypnostage

I have so many questions. Is this Dominant womanthe same Ms DuBois you were so eager to shift all the blame onto? It seems unlikely she wrote this part, at least.

[writtenbynath]

A smear campaign? I didn't know you were up for election! You see, I'm from Europe, I don't know anything about American politics.

The thing is, @hypnostage , you started this conversation when you reblogged my article about Mark Cunningham, trying to paint yourself as so much better and more trustworthy than him. I'm just not allowing you to use my writing to bolster your reputation.

This DID happen?

So you hypnotised a Dominant woman without her consent? And you're proudly telling others how you violated her consent? And you'd love to teach people how to do that? @hypnostage

I have so many questions. Is this Dominant womanthe same Ms DuBois you were so eager to shift all the blame onto? It seems unlikely she wrote this part, at least.

[writtenbynath]

This DID happen?

So you hypnotised a Dominant woman without her consent? And you're proudly telling others how you violated her consent? And you'd love to teach people how to do that? @hypnostage

I have so many questions. Is this Dominant womanthe same Ms DuBois you were so eager to shift all the blame onto? It seems unlikely she wrote this part, at least.

[writtenbynath]

Now he's in my DMs saying

but I went and dug up the encounter on FL

You were not made aware there was no disclaimer and corrected it, Richard. You were made aware that the script was creepy AF and then you pretended that it was sent to you in an attempt to put you under, and I didn't buy it

I'm going to go ahead and assume that what you said about Ms DuBois is also a lie.

Renegade Hypnotists

This post is about Mark Cunningham, his book and his website

https://renegadehypnotist.com/essentialrenegadehypnosis/

On other pages of his website, Mr Cunningham is able to project an air of professionality that makes it seem as if he's managed to successfully combine erotic and clinical hypnosis. But this page, this is where any credibility he might have goes straight down the drain.

Unfortunately, this man is one of many gurus who purports to know women's bodies better than they know themselves. These gurus are somehow always men, and they promise to teach women how to have mind-shattering full body orgasms as if the fact that most women don't orgasm from vanilla piv sex is caused by some kind of ignorance in the woman, not a lack of lovemaking skill or passion in her partner. But let's for a moment look beyond this man's dedication to mansplain women's bodies and sexuality. Let me show you a quote:

It's no secret that women are more emotional than men, yet you might be surprised at how much impact negative memories have on a woman. ... So I developed a process that ALWAYS did two things. Clear all her stored up negativity, and unleash her ability to be fully sexually responsive. No matter if she came to my office to lose 20 pounds, to quit smoking, or stop biting her finger nails... I did negativity clearing and offered her the option to become fully orgasmic (not one ever refused).

Ok, I know it might be hard, but try for a moment to look beyond the obtrusive sexism. So this is a hypnotist and when a woman comes to his practice for his help to quit smoking or lose weight, he starts to focus on clearing up her "negative emotions" and offers to teach her "to become fully orgasmic". Think about that for a moment. But that is not all, my hypnosis-loving friends . He goes on:

After I retired from my clinical practice, I formed the Renegade Project to teach men how to use my methods to make women happy and fully orgasmic. Why? Because so many women NEED this and I can't do it alone. So... What does a man get out of doing this for women? Ecstatically Happy, Highly Sexual, Very Grateful Women!

So he's retired from his clinical practice, for reasons not mentioned here, and now he teaches other men how to mansplain women's bodies to them. So that those men can sugarcoat their desire for pussy with this method "to become fully orgasmic". This is the most utterly creeptastic scam I have ever seen, and that's saying something, I have seen a number of NLP teachers, pick up artists and "tantra" gurus, you know. But Mr Cunningham wants men to pay to go to his expensive hypnosis classes, so that these men can bullshit their way into getting laid.

Why am I being more snarky than usual, you may wonder. Why do I care about hypnotists teaching women to have better orgasms? Is it the crappy hypnotic technique? Is it the sexist shit? Let me be frank with you for a moment.

I used to be a young, insecure woman who wasn't sure if she had ever had an orgasm. And then a man came into my life and used trance to help me experience mind-shattering orgasms. Yes, that experience changed my life, made me whole. It was every bit as spiritual and heavenly as female orgasm gurus always make it sound. No joke. I'm dead serious. So yeah, since then I have been interested in gurus and classes like this. Let me elaborate on that.

For me, that experience created a power differential I had never felt before in a relationship. I had never been in a D/s before and my lover had no intention to be my Dom or my mentor. He just loved me and want me to be happy. Still, because of this experience and his role in it as my guide, I looked up to him, despite his efforts to keep the relationship on equal footing. So think for a moment about what might happen when the man guiding the woman through this experience wants that power differential. Think about the abusive potential here.

(Content Warning: graphic description of rape at the end of this paragraph)

And for that thought experiment, I make the assumption that Mr Cunningham makes too, and teaches all of his disciples to make as well: that every woman needs this. No, they fucking don't. There are many ways for a woman to overcome the shame this society has taught us about our sexuality. Being taught "full body orgasms" by some sex guru is not the only way. Some of these gurus don't use hypnosis, and at least Mr Cunningham purports to help his clients fully clothed and doesn't rape them. Beware of the tantra gurus who offer "de-armouring" or the men who want to teach you how to squirt. Because they will jam their hands up your snatch "for your own good", whether you like it or not.

The patriarchy has fucked us all up. And hypnotists like Mr Cunninghamtake advantage of that instead of trying to fix it. Hypnosis can be a wonderful tool to overcome toxic masculinity and misogyny, and many of us hypnokinksters use hypnosis to fuck around with our shame, our dysphoria, our gender expression, our beliefs and our sexuality. But now you know why you shouldn't trust someone who proudly proclaims to be a Renegade Hypnotist, or some other form of sex guru who will teach you The Right Way To Orgasm.

[writtenbynath]

Thank you for sharing that, Lizzy 💖

Renegade Hypnotists

This post is about Mark Cunningham, his book and his website

https://renegadehypnotist.com/essentialrenegadehypnosis/

On other pages of his website, Mr Cunningham is able to project an air of professionality that makes it seem as if he's managed to successfully combine erotic and clinical hypnosis. But this page, this is where any credibility he might have goes straight down the drain.

Unfortunately, this man is one of many gurus who purports to know women's bodies better than they know themselves. These gurus are somehow always men, and they promise to teach women how to have mind-shattering full body orgasms as if the fact that most women don't orgasm from vanilla piv sex is caused by some kind of ignorance in the woman, not a lack of lovemaking skill or passion in her partner. But let's for a moment look beyond this man's dedication to mansplain women's bodies and sexuality. Let me show you a quote:

It's no secret that women are more emotional than men, yet you might be surprised at how much impact negative memories have on a woman. ... So I developed a process that ALWAYS did two things. Clear all her stored up negativity, and unleash her ability to be fully sexually responsive. No matter if she came to my office to lose 20 pounds, to quit smoking, or stop biting her finger nails... I did negativity clearing and offered her the option to become fully orgasmic (not one ever refused).

Ok, I know it might be hard, but try for a moment to look beyond the obtrusive sexism. So this is a hypnotist and when a woman comes to his practice for his help to quit smoking or lose weight, he starts to focus on clearing up her "negative emotions" and offers to teach her "to become fully orgasmic". Think about that for a moment. But that is not all, my hypnosis-loving friends . He goes on:

After I retired from my clinical practice, I formed the Renegade Project to teach men how to use my methods to make women happy and fully orgasmic. Why? Because so many women NEED this and I can't do it alone. So... What does a man get out of doing this for women? Ecstatically Happy, Highly Sexual, Very Grateful Women!

So he's retired from his clinical practice, for reasons not mentioned here, and now he teaches other men how to mansplain women's bodies to them. So that those men can sugarcoat their desire for pussy with this method "to become fully orgasmic". This is the most utterly creeptastic scam I have ever seen, and that's saying something, I have seen a number of NLP teachers, pick up artists and "tantra" gurus, you know. But Mr Cunningham wants men to pay to go to his expensive hypnosis classes, so that these men can bullshit their way into getting laid.

Why am I being more snarky than usual, you may wonder. Why do I care about hypnotists teaching women to have better orgasms? Is it the crappy hypnotic technique? Is it the sexist shit? Let me be frank with you for a moment.

I used to be a young, insecure woman who wasn't sure if she had ever had an orgasm. And then a man came into my life and used trance to help me experience mind-shattering orgasms. Yes, that experience changed my life, made me whole. It was every bit as spiritual and heavenly as female orgasm gurus always make it sound. No joke. I'm dead serious. So yeah, since then I have been interested in gurus and classes like this. Let me elaborate on that.

For me, that experience created a power differential I had never felt before in a relationship. I had never been in a D/s before and my lover had no intention to be my Dom or my mentor. He just loved me and want me to be happy. Still, because of this experience and his role in it as my guide, I looked up to him, despite his efforts to keep the relationship on equal footing. So think for a moment about what might happen when the man guiding the woman through this experience wants that power differential. Think about the abusive potential here.

(Content Warning: graphic description of rape at the end of this paragraph)

And for that thought experiment, I make the assumption that Mr Cunningham makes too, and teaches all of his disciples to make as well: that every woman needs this. No, they fucking don't. There are many ways for a woman to overcome the shame this society has taught us about our sexuality. Being taught "full body orgasms" by some sex guru is not the only way. Some of these gurus don't use hypnosis, and at least Mr Cunningham purports to help his clients fully clothed and doesn't rape them. Beware of the tantra gurus who offer "de-armouring" or the men who want to teach you how to squirt. Because they will jam their hands up your snatch "for your own good", whether you like it or not.

The patriarchy has fucked us all up. And hypnotists like Mr Cunninghamtake advantage of that instead of trying to fix it. Hypnosis can be a wonderful tool to overcome toxic masculinity and misogyny, and many of us hypnokinksters use hypnosis to fuck around with our shame, our dysphoria, our gender expression, our beliefs and our sexuality. But now you know why you shouldn't trust someone who proudly proclaims to be a Renegade Hypnotist, or some other form of sex guru who will teach you The Right Way To Orgasm.

[writtenbynath]

Thanks for digging that up @deeperforme that's a good illustration

Renegade Hypnotists

This post is about Mark Cunningham, his book and his website

https://renegadehypnotist.com/essentialrenegadehypnosis/

On other pages of his website, Mr Cunningham is able to project an air of professionality that makes it seem as if he's managed to successfully combine erotic and clinical hypnosis. But this page, this is where any credibility he might have goes straight down the drain.

Unfortunately, this man is one of many gurus who purports to know women's bodies better than they know themselves. These gurus are somehow always men, and they promise to teach women how to have mind-shattering full body orgasms as if the fact that most women don't orgasm from vanilla piv sex is caused by some kind of ignorance in the woman, not a lack of lovemaking skill or passion in her partner. But let's for a moment look beyond this man's dedication to mansplain women's bodies and sexuality. Let me show you a quote:

It's no secret that women are more emotional than men, yet you might be surprised at how much impact negative memories have on a woman. ... So I developed a process that ALWAYS did two things. Clear all her stored up negativity, and unleash her ability to be fully sexually responsive. No matter if she came to my office to lose 20 pounds, to quit smoking, or stop biting her finger nails... I did negativity clearing and offered her the option to become fully orgasmic (not one ever refused).

Ok, I know it might be hard, but try for a moment to look beyond the obtrusive sexism. So this is a hypnotist and when a woman comes to his practice for his help to quit smoking or lose weight, he starts to focus on clearing up her "negative emotions" and offers to teach her "to become fully orgasmic". Think about that for a moment. But that is not all, my hypnosis-loving friends . He goes on:

After I retired from my clinical practice, I formed the Renegade Project to teach men how to use my methods to make women happy and fully orgasmic. Why? Because so many women NEED this and I can't do it alone. So... What does a man get out of doing this for women? Ecstatically Happy, Highly Sexual, Very Grateful Women!

So he's retired from his clinical practice, for reasons not mentioned here, and now he teaches other men how to mansplain women's bodies to them. So that those men can sugarcoat their desire for pussy with this method "to become fully orgasmic". This is the most utterly creeptastic scam I have ever seen, and that's saying something, I have seen a number of NLP teachers, pick up artists and "tantra" gurus, you know. But Mr Cunningham wants men to pay to go to his expensive hypnosis classes, so that these men can bullshit their way into getting laid.

Why am I being more snarky than usual, you may wonder. Why do I care about hypnotists teaching women to have better orgasms? Is it the crappy hypnotic technique? Is it the sexist shit? Let me be frank with you for a moment.

I used to be a young, insecure woman who wasn't sure if she had ever had an orgasm. And then a man came into my life and used trance to help me experience mind-shattering orgasms. Yes, that experience changed my life, made me whole. It was every bit as spiritual and heavenly as female orgasm gurus always make it sound. No joke. I'm dead serious. So yeah, since then I have been interested in gurus and classes like this. Let me elaborate on that.

For me, that experience created a power differential I had never felt before in a relationship. I had never been in a D/s before and my lover had no intention to be my Dom or my mentor. He just loved me and want me to be happy. Still, because of this experience and his role in it as my guide, I looked up to him, despite his efforts to keep the relationship on equal footing. So think for a moment about what might happen when the man guiding the woman through this experience wants that power differential. Think about the abusive potential here.

(Content Warning: graphic description of rape at the end of this paragraph)

And for that thought experiment, I make the assumption that Mr Cunningham makes too, and teaches all of his disciples to make as well: that every woman needs this. No, they fucking don't. There are many ways for a woman to overcome the shame this society has taught us about our sexuality. Being taught "full body orgasms" by some sex guru is not the only way. Some of these gurus don't use hypnosis, and at least Mr Cunningham purports to help his clients fully clothed and doesn't rape them. Beware of the tantra gurus who offer "de-armouring" or the men who want to teach you how to squirt. Because they will jam their hands up your snatch "for your own good", whether you like it or not.

The patriarchy has fucked us all up. And hypnotists like Mr Cunninghamtake advantage of that instead of trying to fix it. Hypnosis can be a wonderful tool to overcome toxic masculinity and misogyny, and many of us hypnokinksters use hypnosis to fuck around with our shame, our dysphoria, our gender expression, our beliefs and our sexuality. But now you know why you shouldn't trust someone who proudly proclaims to be a Renegade Hypnotist, or some other form of sex guru who will teach you The Right Way To Orgasm.