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“Before they bite, they bark. Before they hit you, they hit near you”

— Danielle, Maid (Netflix)

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I just finished watching Maid on Netflix. It was phenomenal. But I'm not going to rave about how much I loved it, I don't need to.

What I do want to talk about is how much of an eye-opener it was to me about the nature of people, especially through the character of Sean. With every scene showing him, I was left thinking, "But how can he do things that good people do when I know he isn't a good person because he's an abuser?"

Now as I write this, and in no way am I trying to even attempt justifying his actions, I realise he isn't a bad person or a good person at heart who did some horrible things. No, he's just a person and that's how people are. That's exactly why it took Alex so fucking long to know what was happening to her wasn't right; the world isn't conveniently black and white. That's what made the portrayal of abuse here in the show so realistic. And it scared the absolute shit out of me. (I say this appreciatively)

Anyway, kudos to Nick Robinson! "But he was Simon! Simon and this slimy abuser are one and the same?!" I literally didn't even recognise him until I saw his name in the cast list. Fantastic acting, gosh.

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“Always defend your right to heal at your own pace. You are taking your time. You are allowed to take your time.”

— Unknown

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“i think it’s attractive when someone texts you after hanging out just to say they had fun with you”

— Unknown (via quotefeeling)

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“You are your own person. But yet, look around you. You are connected. You are supported. There are people that surround you who love you very much. There are those who cherish you even at your weakest. Another’s love may seem invisible, unbelievable, or non existent. But yet, it is still there, and is stronger than ever. You are supported. Always.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

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“If nothing else, one day you can look someone straight in the eyes and say ‘But I lived through it. And it made me who I am today.”

— Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You

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“There is always a part of my mind that is preparing for the worst, and another part of my mind that believes if I prepare enough for it, the worst won’t happen.”

— Kay Redfield Jamison (via quotemadness)

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“No one can hurt you as badly as the people you love.”

— Ransom Riggs

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“Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.”

— Tyrion Lannister 

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Kim Jiyoung, Born 1982 by Cho Nam-Joo

So first off I want to admit that I read this book because a kpop idol had recommended it. Now, I don’t necessarily like everything my fave idols/groups like or recommend but the idol in question, Kim Namjoon of BTS, is known to be incredibly intelligent, well-read, and pretty “woke” (for lack of a better word). As well this is considered a feminist book so of course I had to read it.

Let me just say that I’ve read a LOT of books in my lifetime, from classics to thrillers to YA to sci fi to romance etc etc, but this is the first book I’ve ever read that made me ANGRY. Like I had to put the book down for a few days and cool off before I could return to it. This is because, even though it is a work of fiction, everything the protagonist, Kim Jiyoung, goes through is so disgustingly familiar I wanted to throw up.

The book was written in Korea by a Korean author, the protagonist a decade younger than me, yet everything she had gone through, from her family life to her social life to her working life, echoed so much in my own life, growing up a world away. This only underscores the misogyny that has occurred and still occurs, all over the world.

The author writes in an almost clinical way, peppering the prose with actual statistics of the time period, as if to lay bare the facts and have the reader take it for what they will. I wonder how men feel when they read this, and how other women feel, if they also find her experiences similar to their own. For me, the discrimination in the workplace, and random men following you on public transit hit particularly close to home.

I encourage everyone to read this book, however you identify, because it’s definitely eye-opening. And for women like me, who thought these experiences were normal and “just things women should expect”, we can come to realize that they shouldn’t be normalized, that we should address such behavior and make sure it’s understood and eradicated.

I thank Ms. Cho for writing this book, and I’m grateful Namjoon was able to use his platform to spread awareness of this book and what it stands for.

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“I’m bettering myself, I thought. I’m going to become so smart that no one will understand me.”

— Conversations with Friends by Sally Rooney

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“You underestimate your own power so you don’t have to blame yourself for treating other people badly. You tell yourself stories about it. Oh well, Bobbi’s rich, Nick’s a man, I can’t hurt these people. If anything they’re out to hurt me and I’m defending myself (288).”

Sally Rooney

Conversations with Friends

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‘I closed my eyes. Things and people moved around me, taking positions in obscure hierarchies, participating in systems I didn’t know about and never would. A complex network of objects and concepts. You live through certain things before you understand them. You can’t always take the analytical position.’

Sally Rooney, Conversations with Friends

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“Everybody dies, but not everybody lives.”

— unknown - (hatin)

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Margarita Karapanou, tr. by Karen Emmerich, Rien ne va plus

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“Don’t ever let anyone talk down to you. In return, avoid talking down to anyone else. We are all created equal; of equal importance, of equal value, and with the utmost unique qualities that make us each who we are.”

— Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin