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Me in college to the then current tumblr gender discourse: yeah! Pizza rolls over gender roles! Anyone can wear any color! Just be yourself without worrying about gender roles!

Me at 33 to the current tumblr gender discourse:

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What about amateur porn or drawn erotica?

"amateur porn" is mostly a marketing term. it's meant to convey an idea that the porn is "homemade." but what stops people from just producing and marketing content that looks like that? especially since the idea has been pushed successfully that this is "more ethical porn." That is capitalism 101 - find a market you aren't capturing, make them a product they'll buy.

Even in the event it's not actually a production by a studio, you cannot verify that the porn you're watching is not a woman in an abusive relationship with a pimp. Boyfriends become pimps all the time. I think people have this idea that pimps are caricatures that pop out of the ground organically and fully formed, like some sort of mythological "bad guy," and don't stop to think that any opportunistic man (or woman) can become a pimp easily by just having access to a vulnerable woman. If someone enjoys porn, I think it's easy and worthwhile for them to have a disconnect between what "real abusers" do and what happens in a mythical porn setting that's more convenient to imagine. Yet do you need to look far to find examples of couples either A) joking how much money they could make if the wife would get on OF B) fighting because the husband wants the wife to get on OF to increase their revenue and she doesn't or C) just flat out admitting the wife is on OF and how much money it brings to the table? Besides the fact that in any one of these situations, this could be a covert marketing tactic by OF working with a couple, but even if it's not...why believe in scenario C that the husband is just some good guy and this is just some normal situation they fell into? The difference between scenario C and a pimp is what? They're being public about it by framing it a certain way? Well if that makes the public normalize it, why wouldn't "real" pimps just take that lead and do the same? My point is that there is no distinction: a man (whether it's a stranger, a friend, a dad, a husband, a boyfriend) exerting control over a woman by making her perform sexual acts for his own profit is a pimp, and I don't see why we should trust the way he frames it publicly, even if he says "I'm just a progressive husband who isn't jealous and loves that my wife shakes ass online for our family" or whatever gets people to go "cool! I will not questions this."

I'm sure you're asking in good faith anon, so this isn't directed specifically at you, but often when porn watchers are engaging in debate about porn, they'll start bringing up things like 'drawn erotica' as if it's some sort of gotcha. To me, it's so revealing how little they care about the arguments presented about the harms of the porn industry because yes, obviously drawn erotica is different than filming real humans having sex. It also reveals some sort of assumed bias that the person presenting objections to porn without appealing to religious morality or puritanical ideas about sex are somehow being deceitful, because once "victimless porn" is brought up, they'll be unable to lie and their true nature will be reveal because they'll have some thinly veiled excuses about how drawn porn is obviously just as bad, because it's so sexy! Drawings of people having sex or being naked and sexual are not above criticism in how they replicate harmful ideas about sex, sexuality, and gender - but they also aren't literal forms of violence against real people. So, it's irrelevant to the discussion of vulnerable people being pushed into porn to perform sexual acts against their will to a point of ruination. If someone feels comfortable continuing to watch and masturbate to after it's been explained to them, I don't see why any thoughts I have on erotic written or drawn or otherwise really matters. They can't be convinced through that avenue, they are probably willing to take whatever thread they can pull on to justify their consumption and to assuage their conscience over watching porn. That to me signifies a porn addiction, because even a casual viewer of porn who's never come across any anti-porn arguments knows they can live without porn, knows they don't need to defend it tooth and nail, and will not play stupid about comparisons to real people having sex on film/enacting violence on each other to erotic drawings.

At the end of the day, re: erotica, I would need to take each thing of media in it's own right and judge it for itself (like all film, books, and art). If it simply replicates pornographic images, i.e. the film language of porn that I take issue with vis a vis misogyny and violence against women, then yeah I'm going to have a problem with it. Not because it's sexual, but because it's content is disagreeable to me in that is misogynistic. The scale for that is going to be sliding - the difference between a causal representation of unexamined gender dynamics and extremely violent CSAM is huge. I don't take issues with people finding, say, mild 18th century drawings titillating as much as I take issues with people acting entitled to violent images as if their masturbation depends on it and they're entitled to masturbate to whatever they want. Why? I masturbate to my imagination all the time. It's literally the easiest and most natural thing to do. If someone can't, it's probably because they're addicted to porn. If desperate poor women being pushed into drugs to continue making porn that becomes increasingly violent doesn't stop someone, then maybe I should ask them to get angry at porn for altering their brain so badly. That's how desperate people sound when they say they have to scrape the bottom of the barrel in the face of facts about violence, poverty, suicide, and abuse.

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I just read that Donald Trump and his circus took down a website called reproductiverights.gov

This was a website to help women learn about their reproductive rights in the US and to find health care.

This is absolutely disgusting so I’ll share in this post some resources in case you need them:

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn

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scientists are in labs right now creating the thinnest and worst material known to mankind so they can make women’s clothing

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wokies: you are not immune to propaganda

also wokies: porn is ACTING, women love to be violently fucked on camera by men they met 30 minutes prior, nothing bad ever happens in the porn industry and if bad things do happen it’s an isolated incident. they even say at the end of the video that they consented! i am very smart

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I don’t even know what else I can say anymore. This is self harm. She talks about dissociating during it. She’s traumatizing herself and men adore it. Because porn isn’t sex, it’s just misogyny.

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95% of women in prostitution want to leave, but can't because they don't have things such as financial means, healthcare, housing, treatment for addiction, or job training.

this is not a 'choice', and it is not 'empowering'.

there is no consent when a woman is fearing for her life.

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hey there, i'm currently working on a feminist website and i'm looking for the help of other women to give their feedback, their opinions, and advice/expertise. the site is not published yet but it is in the development stage, and i would really like as much help as i can get as i have big plans for it and what it sets out to accomplish.

this is a website that aims to promote activism, raise class consciousness, support women of all backgrounds, organize events, share resources, and build community. there is a serious lack of infrastructure in feminist spaces and having us all shouting into the void on social media is antithetical to true feminist action. this website aims to act as a hub for ALL the wonderful resources the women on here post on their blogs, for ease-of-access and the sake of decentralization. this website also seeks to mitigate the amount of discourse and in-fighting within the community in favor of encouraging direct action, change, and connection.

please interact with this post or send me a message if you:

are tired of social media interfaces and would be interested in meeting with other feminists, online and in-person

create feminist art, zines, music, media, graphics, etc.

would be interested in participating in or conducting a workshop for feminist consciousness raising or skill building

know back-end coding

would be interested in contributing whatever you can to a project like this

do not hesitate to ask questions about the project, and reblogs for visibility are very much appreciated.

thanks for reading!

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hi, i know you’ve made a few posts about kpop in the past and you push help for south korean women. yesterday a freshly 19 year old kpop idol gaeun from the group ‘madein’ came out about her sa story, stating that her CEO groped her, assaulted her and kissed her without consent. she only just turned 19 so this would have been happening between the ages of 17-18, and she also started training under his control as an early teen. i hope radblr can pick up on this story as it has only been passed around in the kpop community and we all know how terrible laws are for female victims in korea, and i am scared that anti-feminist korean men will try to hurt gaeun for speaking out.

hey! sorry it took me a couple days to get around to this. i definitely have been hearing a lot about this situation :(

this is gaeun oh (오가은) from MADEIN, a new group that just debuted a few months ago. the group is under 143 ent.

this is one of the CEOs of the company, yong-hak lee (이용학). i couldn’t find too many pics of him online, and every single article that talks about this case says “143 ent CEO” rather than his name. SAY HIS NAME.

very recently, gaeun made a statement to the press about being sexually assaulted by this man. below is the segment of her talking about it + translation. originally her identity was private, but not long after this segment she cleared her social medias and dropped out of the group. the company is also claiming that gaeun “initiated” the assault and are victim blaming her.

this is the response the company gave after the news segment broke. they are dodging responsibility, blaming the victim, and are facing a lot of backlash.

just yesterday, they announced that gaeun will be leaving the group. i’m happy she is free from that horrible company, but i’m appalled at the lack of accountability and am concerned for the other girls still under their control.

a lot of people have also been questioning the CEO’s previous actions after this news. one instance is this interview clip of one of the other members, miyu, saying that the CEO often “confesses his love for her” by telling her “miyu, daisuki (i love you). you know that right?”. this is played off as a joke in the clip as she asks the CEO to limit his confessions instead of doing it “every day”, but the behavior is questionable regardless.

it should also be noted that miyu is japanese, and the idea of confessing to a japanese girl by saying “daisuki” is fetishized by some korean men. (i’ve added a twitter link to the clip because tumblr won’t let me add multiple videos to a post).

this article also highlights other questionable behavior; apparently the CEO often brings the members to “late-night movies” and punishes them for not complying. he has also threatened them not to speak about this issue.

he clearly has a pattern of pedophilia and abuse of power. he needs to be taken down. i doubt this case will ever make trial under korean law, but we can at least put enough pressure on him that he quits the company and the k-pop industry entirely.

you can tweet them at @GTMNY143. there are also some petitions, but i doubt they will do much unless you are residing in korea. just don’t stop speaking about this issue, and stop listening to all music produced by this company if you do listen to them (MADEIN, iKON, limelight).

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i’m not afraid to say that many cultures are deeply rooted in misogyny, including my own. im half nigerian and there’s an expectation that women kneel before men and elders, sit in the kitchen while the men talk, and serve the men before anyone else. perhaps it’s why i’m so distant from my dad’s side, i won’t kneel before anyone

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hate that the conversation around women’s clothing is always modesty vs immodesty, when these are male-created concepts. “oh that shows skin that’s what men want��� “oh that hides skin that’s what men want” i don’t care. men want control. is it comfortable and is it practical? thick, dark, heavy fabric is not safe in hot weather, nor does it allow you to get vitamin d. inadequate coverage in the name of fashion is not safe in cold weather. i don’t care if this pleases men or pisses them off. if your mode of transport is foot, bike, or horse, pants are more practical. if your lifestyle asks for none of that, you may find a skirt more comfortable. many types of fashion force you to constantly monitor yourself — never comfortable or practical. clothing or shoes that damage your ribs, ankles, lungs — never comfortable or practical. i do not care what men want, nor do i care what men don’t want. comfortable. practical. we are animals.

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I mean

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Another day, another piece of propaganda portraying trans rights above women's rights *sighs*