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clark reupload

edit: forgot the sweater comic

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i think boba tea exists in star wars with the exact same taste and components as the real thing but it has some stupid name like orb fluid or something

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kid, when life gets you down you got three choices

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someone asks dean if he'll fuck his clone and he's like hahaha of course I'm so hot and it's not gay if it's my clone and then you put his clone in front of him and he shoots it.

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actually the best fanfic is written by tired grad students who are writing partially to process their weekly theory readings partially to get over their most recent situationship and partially to satisfy their weirdest kinks

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I'd like to see the ocean before I leave.

Frankie Adams as Roberta "Bobbie" Draper THE EXPANSE (2015-2022) — Cascade (2.10)

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I know the expanse fandom isn’t super big on tumblr, but the lack of Detective Josephus Miller thirst is astounding. You’re telling me tumblr dot com, lover of the saddest and wettest meow meows you’ve ever seen, isn’t losing their fucking minds over a washed up, recently divorced sci fi noir cop who’s falling in love with the (possibly) dead girl he’s been hired to track down until he gets roped into saving the universe between bouts of staring at her photo with big wet cow eyes isn’t sending all yall into hysterics??? Pathetic.

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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Map shows just how successful Chengdu, China has been at growing their metro system over the past 14 years, compared to Toronto, Canada’s woeful performance during the same period.

by datastuffplus/instagram

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salt and pepper squid 

they are in love

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Everyone is so weird about people who cry easily. Fellas, is it evil and manipulative to *checks notes* have an involuntary stress response?

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Just finished hamlet & had to share THIS

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The densest people on the internet are the ones who say sci fi and fantasy are are getting too political. Why can’t we go back to the good old days of The Twilight Zone, with its various episodes about mob mentality and the danger of mass paranoia that totally weren’t about the Red Scare. Or Star Wars and its genocidal empire of racially homogeneous Aryan men. Or Dune with its religious tribal peoples who live in a desert that contains the galaxy’s most valuable resource and the wars with the foreign colonizers, that was purely from Frank Herbert’s imagination. Can you imagine how much Star Trek would suck if it was packed to the brim with ham-fisted allegories of every societal issue of the 20th century. Not like all this modern ultra-political stuff, like a woman hero. 

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Hello, what are your overall thoughts on Mary Winchester in the show? Especially later seasons? I remember thinking when she was brought back that it was a interesting idea to see her as an actual character. But then I stopped watching before she died so I don't have the full story. And I think you have a lot of interesting thoughts on SPN. ❤

Thank you, nonny! Hopefully this won't be too disappointing, because usually I think I have a fairly analytical style even when there are strong feelings behind it, but when I think about late seasons Mary, there's mostly just a giant ball of incandescent rage. Her storyline makes me feel like I imagine some of the Extreme [whichever character] Girls must be feeling when they post their insanely mean meta about why only their own blorbo is a sopping wet meow meow cinnamon roll and everyone else sucks. Except at least they're crazy posting like that because it's their blorbo. I don't even really like late seasons Mary. And me not liking her pisses me off too lol, because she has all the background for a blorbo for me, but the writers squandered it.

Anyway hopefully this is the most Online Whiny Behavior post from me you'll ever see and all the other ones after this will be calm and Normal.

An incomplete list of people real and imaginary who are not mothers and it shows, who Mary's late seasons storyline makes me irrationally angry at:

Andrew Dabb

his entire writers' room except the two women, and they weren't exactly distinguishing themselves either

90+% of fans who have written meta on episode 12x22 Who We Are

at least 50% of all other fans who comment about Mary in any capacity

my 27 y.o. daughter's therapist from 20 years ago who kept encouraging me to take time for myself and have an identity outside of being a mother but literally only ever addressed me as "mom". I don't even think she knew my name.

Dean Winchester

men who give parenting advice you didn't ask for, especially in weird chore-related venues like strangers at the grocery store

Dean Winchester some more

and last but oh so very much not least: Robert Berens.

Mary and her father and Azazel lit up in Dean's headlights like illicit lovers. Standards and Practices asked Kripke if he could take this shot out, but he vehemently declined.

So. For me personally, the main draw of spn is how well it does those insular gothic horror vibes of having a family history that's been fucked up for so many generations and in so many ways that every time you find out another awful thing you think "surely this is the last one, it can't get any worse", but it never is and it always can.

In the Beginning is one of my all time favorite spn episodes for this reason. I Iove early seasons Mary, and especially her in this episode. She and John are both bright and shining and new like little kittens.

And I want to point out that this is not a picture of a person making a bad decision for understandable reasons. It's a teenage girl barely on the cusp of adult life being sexually assaulted on screen by both (the corpse of) her father and by the (metaphorical) father of her future child, specifically for the purpose of getting her pregnant with "his" baby. Her assailant just also finished creepily pinning one of her (future, adult) sons to a wall and sniffing at him (???) in a barely-not-overt act of sexualized violence, during which he monologued about what a slut she is and how she's his favorite and he'd like to actually fuck her, but no, that's not his style, isn't her (future) son a pervert for even thinking that.

Additionally, Mary isn't even in love with John of her own free will. She and John were angel-roofied into their feelings. She's making a Sophie's Choice for the man she "loves" because she's being forced both to do so and also to love him in the first place. If you replace the demon magic in this scene with a more mundane murdery blackmail TV trope, like poisoning a hostage and withholding the antidote until the hero complies, it becomes obvious how much Mary's "choice" is not her own. And in a just society--which the irl US judicial system for once in its pathetic life somehow does manage to be in this type of case--we place the blame for "choices" of this nature squarely at the feet of the one giving the coerced "options".

Later, Mary's (adult, future) children will try to mitigate the damage done by Azazel in this scene. They fail because spn can never have enough rape metaphors and memory wipes. Angels violate/possess her husband and wipe her (and his) memory. And even that's not enough coercion for spn, because the Cupid roofie was part of an angelic livestock breeding program that's been going on for centuries, specifically leading up to John and Mary fucking whether they want to or not to get her pregnant with Sam and Dean so they also can be profoundly violated. It's all a horrible delicious convoluted mess of incest, parent/child age and role inversion, and sexual violence. To blame any of it on Mary is.... Well, it's rape culture is what it is.

Now fast forward to the late seasons. The universe's most powerful battered wife sister gives Mary to Dean as a literal present (you know, an object. In a coffin box. That you unwrap for a special treat). She does this because Dean helped her realize that even though she was mad that her abusive husband brother locked her in a coffin box for millennia and she killed a bunch of innocents about it, all she really wanted was to get back with her abuser. It's classic spn gothic horror, at least theoretically, and theoretically, I love it.

In the good spn where the s12-15 showrunner wasn't a hack though, they would've cast someone new as Mary so she still looked like this:

Then we would've had a visual reminder exactly how creepy it was for this man:

to want her to mother him. To say he hates her for being sexually assaulted and dying. She is 28 and was 18 when it happened. He is 38, not counting his 40 years of experienced time in Hell.

And we'd remember that it's not just stupid but also immensely creepy for the showrunner to have this man:

pursue a sexual relationship with Mary. A season has passed, so she's now 29. But he's 68.

And of course a 29 yo woman is a whole ass adult who is free to have sex with men old enough to be her father and also with assholes and men she dislikes. I love that she banged Ketch. But alternate version of Sam and Dean's father figure, Bobby?? What the fuck was Andrew Dabb thinking? Don't answer. He was thinking he was gonna have Mary come into the show taking time for herself and having an identity outside of being a mother. But then he only ever addressed her as "mom". At least he knew her name though ig.

Don't get me wrong, I approve of all these things happening in the show. They're full of the horrifying incestuous implications spn is best at. But the showrunner and writers should know it's fucked up. The text should be structured as if it's fucked up. Because it is. It's so fucked up.

What on God's heavily fertilized green earth is this bullshit?

Okay, I feel as usual that I need to disclaimer that Dean's emotions here are normal and fine. It's expressing them in this way to this particular person that's the problem. And I get that this is supposed to be cathartic for both characters. So everyone who's written meta about how amazing this scene was and/or found this cathartic r.e. their relationship with their own flawed parents, I get you and I know my anger in this instance is irrational and about my own life. You're only picking up what Robert "I Can't Be Misogynist Because I'm Gay" Berens was putting down (yes, he really tweeted that out to the whole universe once). Go in peace.

And even though I'm frequently critical of Dean, usually it comes from a place of sympathy and fellow-feeling. I was a parentified child too and Dean and I have a lot in common.

This one time though, he can fuck entirely off. All of these events Dean is recounting had causes and most had perpetrators, and exactly none of them were Mary. Did Mary force Lucifer at gunpoint to possess Sam? Did she torture Sam in Hell? Please, I'm begging, spn; just once blame a crime on the person who committed it.

Dean Winchester-As-Written-By-Bobo-Berens is being a giant man-baby here. He was not Sam's father actually. John was. And he was not Sam's mother. Sam's mother died trying to protect him from a (barely metaphorical) act of incestuous CSA by the same man who sexually violated her too. Of course Dean has feelings about it. It *did* ruin his life too. But it's not his place to express any emotion to her or Sam about it except sympathy. The injury to Dean was the parentification piece. And there's a perfectly good man who was alive and his parent through his entire childhood whose fault it actually was, that he never said a tenth of this vitriol to. He waited to say it all to his mommy instead because isn't that what mothers are for.

This show hates women so, so much, and it loves rape. With more self-aware writers, they could've done the most awful-wonderful stuff with those ingredients and late seasons Mary. She was alone with Lucifer in the Apocalypse AU ffs. And she was living in the bunker with Sam, with whom she could've had such juicy conversations. Even her relationship with AU Bobby could've been full of insanely weird daddy surrogate/metaphorical teen mom stuff. But no, instead we got Robert Berens whining about how everything is always the mother's fault. And then her grandson kills her because she tried to mother him a tiny bit imperfectly, and fandom blames that on her too.

Anyways, I'm glad they included her in the late seasons, even though imo their misogyny was on full display and when fandom writes about her, its often is too. Because the story is juicy, if poorly handled. It's a bunch of cool new fic fodder at the very least. I just wish they had what it takes to deliver what they promised, which was a whole person with a whole life and story of her own.

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Kaladin really is the character of all time. He's a Windrunner. He's a surgeon. He's a former slave. He is Stormblessed. He protects those who cannot protect themselves. He's depressed. He has PTSD. He's been actively suicidal. He invented group therapy. He says ridiculously dramatic things with 100% sincerity. He repeatedly forms tight knit groups out of people. He will be warm again. He's the most eligible bachelor on Roshar. He doesn't understand why women keep coming to the clinic just to see him. He couldn't save Tien. He saved his father. He recreated Die Hard. He is the spear that would not break.

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brown works so hard and does so much and everyone is so mean to her. coffee chocolate hair leather tea wood eyes broth a warm coat autumn leaves caramelized onions the crust on a loaf of bread. all things good and warm and kind are brown. bitch!