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Musings at 35,000 feet

   I recently picked up my son and daughter-in-law from the airport and the subject of airliner models arose. My first flight was on a Lockheed TriStar L-1011 equipped with a headphone sound system and I listened to Carly Simon’s, That’s the Way I Always Heard it Should Be. “You say we’ll soar like two birds through the clouds, but soon you’ll cage me on your shelf. I’ll never learn to be just…

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Restless Bones

There’s an old saying spun different ways but the essence is, “If you aren’t an insurrectionist at eighteen, you have no heart. And if you aren’t a flag-waving patriot at thirty-five, you have no brain.”  This seems truer as time goes by. In my youth, as the Star-Spangled Banner was played at sporting events, I listened with insouciance. Now, I get chills when I hear the National Anthem, a…

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The Heart of Pickleball: Community and Connection

There is a pickleball tournament in my hometown of Bartlesville, OK this weekend. Over 200 players are here to play pickleball. But that is not all. We also catch up on our lives, share pictures of children and grandchildren, discuss knee injuries and joint pain, experience the thrill of victory and the lessons of defeat, and all of this happening in a facility with ten courts and viewing space…

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Just a Guy Who Writes Songs

“I’m just a guy, man, who writes songs,” John Lennon once exclaimed, to a neurotic American man who flew to England to visit with Lennon about his songwriting. It turns out that this crazy man believed that Lennon’s songs were written exclusively about him. Any sensible person knows that this is vanity. But great songwriting grabs us by the ears and carries us to sublime places. It makes us all…

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Just a Guy Who Writes Songs

“I’m just a guy, man, who writes songs,” John Lennon once exclaimed, to a neurotic American man who flew to England to visit with Lennon about his songwriting. It turns out that this crazy man believed that Lennon’s songs were written exclusively about him. Any sensible person knows that this is vanity. But great songwriting grabs us by the ears and carries us to places we could never inhabit…

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Stereo Friends

“We are coming to Salt Lake City!” I have been telling Steve and Suzan that for years. I finally followed through with a visit to SLC. According to Steve Osborn, I am his longest tenured friend going back to 1967. We were watching the Sooners last night just like we did on New Years Eve in 1970 when the Bluebonnet Bowl ended in a tie, Alabama 28 Oklahoma 28. This trivia question scrolled across…

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Walking around Houston Eating Insects and Burria Tacos

We are in our third home. We have been to Houston four times in the last 10 months. We decided to do something fun between visits to the doc. Here are some photos of our guided walking tour of the downtown Houston food scene. Xochi: Mariscos Puerto Escondidohalf lobster tail, head on shrimp, scallops, clams, mussels, creamy rice, quelites Me: “what did you think?” Karen: “Best mexican food…

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Lake Placid

A picture tour of a lazy Sunday in the Adirondacks Ironman runners are blessed at this church before the race. Mirror lake view from Lake Placid Main Street Roaming about Lake Placid Lake Placid high school The high school overlooks the speed skating oval. In most American cities this would be the football field. Yes i do Karen exerts little effort while speed skating Me in 1980…

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Digging Daily Dirt: A Garden Story

I’ve always wanted to be a famous writer, not prolific like John Grisham, but rather famously obscure, like J.D. Salinger, only with less baggage and regrets. Being famous seems like a lot of trouble. Fortunately, like most people, I’m famously not famous, not unlike another writer, Flora Macdonald Mayor, who wrote The Rector’s Daughter 100 years ago. Mayor writes about familiar settings with a…

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Shadows of Our Fathers: part 2

1935 Koufax and Gibson were both born in 1935, the same year Dad was born. We were coached by dads born during a hardscrabble era when life was difficult, and baseball was played in farm fields on Saturdays and home plate was an oak tree and 2nd base the hubcap of a 1946 Desoto. The fathers that weren’t coaching, leaned against the backstop and encouraged us, yelling mostly good things,…

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Shadows of Our Fathers: part 1

The Story Dad Told to Me Only Once Our minds are remarkable when they are at their best. In my worst moments, my inner thoughts sound about like a spoon dropped into the sink while the garbage disposer is running. My mind works best either while driving or while lying in bed when I should be sleeping. This morning, I was driving to the office, thinking so lucidly that I don’t even know how I…

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The Real Light of Day

This morning, I awoke singing Bonnie Tyler’s “Total Eclipse of the Heart” to Karen. I don’t know what to do and I’m always in the darkWe’re living in a powder keg and giving off sparksI really need you tonightForever’s gonna start tonight. Not my favorite song. However, given that it is a sad song, it also seems hopeful. The Moon eclipses the Sun because the Sun is about 400 times wider than…

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Growing Up Oscar

In the wake of a strange Oscar Sunday night, I was thinking about the films I really watch and enjoy versus those that win best picture. I have seen two films from 1967, In the Heat of the Night, (Best Picture), and Cool Hand Luke (George Kennedy, Best Actor in a Supporting Role). I love both movies. But I have probably watched Cool Hand Luke 10 times. Fewer times for In the Heat of the Night.…

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Wind Dancer

My granddaughter, Holland, just got a new pair of sneakers. She looks down at her feet and marvels that just fourteen months before her feet were tucked in the fetal position. Okay, maybe she can’t recall those moments in the womb before she burst into the world like shimmering sunlit foil. So I imagine for her, and think about how miraculous it is to be dancing with new shoes that you love so…

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Living and Dining in 4/4 Time

Happy Birthday Karen! Thanks for having a birthday so I could enjoy a large slab of coconut cream pie. Although, I knew there was trouble on our first date. What could go wrong with a large shared pizza? I once heard of a college girl who ordered a single biscuit for her meal on a date at Shoney’s. So I knew that normal food consumption on dates is somewhat unique for each dating experience, but…

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Finding a Happy Age

My dad was walking along 3rd street downtown sometime in the great middle of his life and he looked sideways at what he thought to be his father walking along beside him. It was, of course, his own image reflected in storefront glass. He realized in that instant that his subjective age did not align with his actual age. Most of us struggle with where we are in time. Even 17 year olds do this,…

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A Christmas Prayer

There has been much to bear this year. People ask me how I’m doing. Mostly I reply, “One day at a time.” I can’t count the number of times friends have said to me that they want to help us, or they wish they could do more to help. I’m reminded of something C.S. Lewis once wrote in a letter to a friend who had asked him about what God wanted her to do. He told her to go on doing all her duties,…