being in old fandoms is hilarious because you'll see like, a really good fanart that someone reblogged yesterday so you go to follow the artist and they've been inactive for five years
the reason so many characters who "use humor to mask the pain" or "are assholes with hearts that care DEEP down" are mischaracterized in fan content is because fans would like to explore the more vulnerable side implied but not shown all the time in the source, but in doing so forget the outer layer the character actually acts like most of the time, which then echoes as fans begin to immerse themselves in fan content exclusively without going back to the source for a long time. that is to say that you cant separate the outside self a character presents to others from their inner self and insecurities they are and have inside - they may have issues, but theyre still funny and/or an asshole
long ass car trips are alot like the modern day whaling voyage if you think about it. I think itd really be improved if the passenger seat could launch harpoons at passing pickup trucks though
heal. your mom may never apologize to you, because she has conditioned herself to believe that she did right by you. she hasn't healed. heal anyway. your father may never apologize to you, because he can only see what he's done right. he hasn't healed. your family members may never apologize to you, because toxicity is what they were raised on. they haven't healed. heal anyway. that "friend" may never apologize to you, because he/she isn't sorry. he/she hasn't healed. if/when they reach their healing, they may seek your forgiveness. be so healed that it won't even matter. heal for you. you owe yourself that much.
Sometimes the experience of using Tumblr is just repeatedly scrolling to art and going "I don't know who these two women are supposed to be, but they're happy and kissing so cheers to them!" and you scroll on and are confronted by another set of mysterious fandom lesbians.
Partner: "*having a lovely conversation about insecurities/being hated, ending on a joking note*"
Cooper, with the intent of validating her insecurities: "So which of us do you think hates you the most?"
Partner, without hesitation: "Will."
Cue everyone losing their minds because we all assumed that would be the answer, except for Will who was sure they'd say Scully. And then a hysterical "Well now you have to rank the system from Hates-You-The-Most-To-Least."