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i'm too tired for this, please let me rest

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I'm glad the hazbin hotel fandom is seeing Alastor for what he truly is...

A bottom ☺️

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people will act like they're smarter than you because they are good at understanding The Rules and following them. glad you feel superior inside your box. what lies outside of it answer quickly

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i guess i forget people view kinks as this secret thing you cannot talk about ever unless you are actively having sex because learning what my platonic friends are into has never changed my opinion of them besides making me think they’re cooler

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I have no concept of tmi you should tell me everything

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the weirdest fucking thing to me is how men will be like "it's so hard being a man. no one cares that i'm sad. the loneliness we experience could NEVER be understood by a woman" and then also be like "btw i never talk to my friends and i don't know their names and i love hanging out with men because they don't talk about their stupid emotions all the time. women could never understand a bond like this." like ???

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you will live and you will say the wrong things and make mistakes and people will love you anyways.

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Not everyone is meant to help you heal. Not everyone will benefit your journey. Not everyone understands your path.

And that is okay.

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Trauma didn't make me nice, I consciously made me nice because I don't want anyone else to suffer like I did. Trauma didn't make me strong, I made me strong. Don't you dare ever tell me my trauma made me anything but scared, broken, and confused. Don't give credit to the abusers for me being a good person. They didn't make me good, I made myself good.

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google search how to cough up the ball of grief that's been stuck in your stomach since birth

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i can't do this anymore! i mean i can, and i will, obviously. but i can't fucking do this anymore!

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Self harm doesn’t always happen when a blade touches skin.

It’s skipping meals because you don’t feel like you deserve to eat today. It’s drinking recklessly because you might have the ‘courage’ do something stupid. It’s smoking - not because you need the nicotine - because you know it’s bad for you. It’s banging your head against a wall when you’re angry. It’s crossing the road without looking because you lowkey hope a car might hit you. It’s thinking about all the ways you could break a bone and make it look like an accident. It’s not taking painkillers because you want to suffer. It’s taking painkillers in excess because you know it’s dangerous. It’s walking home the more dangerous way because you’re kind of half hoping you’ll get attacked or raped or stabbed. It’s going for long walks at night and getting chilled to the bone and hoping that you get lost so that you can’t find your way back. It’s seeking out triggering material. It’s all the stupid little ways you punish yourself for existing.

Sometimes self harm happens when you put effort into depriving yourself of things you like or need, and sometimes it happens when you don’t put any effort into doing the things you like or need.

It’s a pattern of self-destructive behaviour, and it doesn’t only happen in one way.

This sort of behavior is classified as “para-suicidal” It’s putting yourself in a situation of danger or destruction with the intention of risking your safety rather than a direct attempt on your life. Kind of, leaving it all to chance? Also doing things to harm yourself or your self worth because you feel you deserve to feel the outcome of those actions.

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[Image text: Most survivors are their own greatest critics when it comes to doubting their memories. They have been programmed to distrust them. They hate and fear them and want them to be untrue. They have been invalidated by others their whole lives. To be healing, we must be deeply honest. If an account seems contrived, fear-driven, impossible, etc., we can say "It does not ring true to me." And when reality is very unclear, we may say "Let's see what happens as this unfolds." But when clients overcome tremendous trepidation, and finally share an account of unspeakable horrors, with vivid multisensory details, and matching somatic flashbacks, and matching affect of fear, disgust, rage, and grief, pieces of other memories match, and they both wish it was not true, and long to be believed, and they say "Could this be real?", or "Do you think I am making this up?" we must speak the truth from our heart, and say "It all seems to fit," or "It rings true to me." To say "What matters is what is your truth" is a lie. It is nonempathic. It is dissociogenic. And it leaves them alone in the ritual or laboratory.] Quote by Dr. Ellen Lacter, reprinted in Alison Miller’s book Healing the Unimaginable.

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People don't realize how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a dark place mentally. So, if you've done that today or any day, I'm proud of you.

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Spoopy Season Safety

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People don't realize how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a dark place mentally. So, if you've done that today or any day, I'm proud of you.

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