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I have a bad day. I see a transgender butch. My day improves exponentially

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Not to go "if you have ADHD just go for a run" or anything, but I am so serious if you have ADHD you should regularly go outside, no headphones no phone no nothing and just stand and observe for a while until you've had enough. Not until you get bored, until you've had enough. Drink your coffee without watching tiktok. Have a bath without music. Turn down the volume in your headphones. I cannot overstate how much learning to be bored is cruicial with ADHD. Life is not just about pleasure, no matter what your dysregulated dopamine system thinks, and when you teach your brain to be okay with being bored, then boring tasks stop feeling like torture. By letting yourself be bored you are yoinking your system out of the high/low binary and allow for the highs to feel like actual highs and not just anything that isn't low. I am so serious go literally touch grass. Listen to the sounds in your flat. Stimulate your body the way it was designed. It lowers anxiety and makes you feel like you're real and best of all it's completely free

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Tell me i did not just watch a video about Natalie Portman's filmography, and the entire comment section was "but she's a zi0nist bla bla bla"

Is that all we are now? Does our entire existence boil down to our opinion on a conflict that isn't even in the top 30% of the biggest conflicts in history?

Insane times man, insane.

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reminder to tip the sex workers ur cumming to, and if u don’t have the funds to do so, share their content with ur friends, help them grow their audience so if nothing else more ppl can enjoy cumming to them like u do!

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please stop treating the word neurodivergent like it means the overlap between autism and adhd

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i do wish bottom surgery was promoted more in the same way this website promotes hrt because i so often see people express clear bottom dysphoria with a very unambiguous desire for different genitals and it's like. well there's a fairly simple solution to this. sure it's not accessible to a lot of people but neither is transition in general, and i think once people accept that surgery is an actual real goal of theirs they will realise that a lot of the reasons Why Not or Why Can't are less severe than they thought (eg concerns about the recovery process, concerns about how theyre gonna access surgery in the first place, concerns about finding a surgeon who will operate on you due to whatever medical or social reason you have that would mean some doctors would refuse) and can be overcome. especially if you are just worried about being refused bc of a disability, i really have met people who got bottom surgery with all sorts of disabilities that i might have thought would disqualify you with a lot of surgeons —a lot of them have to wait longer to get eg a neurologist or whatever to sign them off, and to get the proper safety procedures in place for their surgery, but i'm yet to meet someone who was completely denied outright for having a medical condition, and i've met a whole lot of ppl who have had bottom surgery.

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i have so much respect for greta thunberg while she almost certainly isnt a full marxist she went from a left-liberal environmentalist to a committed anti imperialist, willing to throw away the fame shed gotten among impcore liberals

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not the first time he’s said this but he seems to be hard launching it now. can white people like say something now or

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I knew outsourcing all of our banana factories would come back to bite us in the potassium.

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It's Agender Pride Day, here's some personal art from me

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Ok, loves, so we've all got the message that joking about suicide is bad for your mental health. Now we need to get on "joking that the planet/all of humanity has no future" is bad for societal health/encouraging resistance to bad shit."

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If you're a Youtube creator with monetization privileges, click on the "Earn" tab right now and deal with this if you feel like its necessary. Youtube is going to start running more ads on your videos automatically without your permission, and the ability to opt out will go away in two months.

Youtube is not advertising this anywhere. Checking my "Earn" tab on my own is the first time I'm hearing about it. To me, that suggests they don't want people to know they're doing this, because they want to crank up ad frequency and make more money.

If you've ever seen what happens when you let Youtube automatically pick ad slots like this, they basically try to run an ad every 2-3 minutes. It's a nightmare.

They are going to flood their platform with ads and drive away 70% of their viewership. On the other hand, if you opt out and choose to continue showing fewer ads, you may earn the trust and respect of your viewers.

You have a strategic operative to turn this off before May 12th. If you don't do it before then, it sounds like Youtube will take away your ability to reduce your ad frequency.

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“The New York Times collaborated with a white nationalist eugenicist hacker and agreed to keep his identity a secret to publish a Zohran Mamdani hit piece” is a way bigger story than “18 year old Zohran Mamdani ticked ‘African American’ on his Columbia application because he was a citizen of Uganda”

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It's almost like something happened in 2020-now that is causing these problems.

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if you say “but aros can still date!” about your aromantic blorbo, I need you to mean it. you can’t make the ship just boring old romance.

your blorbo is still aromantic, so how would that color their relationships? how would that affect their daily life? do they struggle with feeling “greedy” because they can’t love their partner back the way their partner loves them? do they have a hard time with an allo partner because on a fundamental level they don’t quite understand what romance is like, even if they’re experiencing it? on the positive side; what societal boundaries of romance do they cast aside or embrace? how do they navigate a romantic relationship differently than their peers? if it’s an aro4aro partnership, how is it unique? how much does being aro define their relationship vs. just their own personal quirks? is that even a line that can be drawn?

an aro relationship is different from an allo one. I promise, it’s so much more fun to explore what that means and the consequences of that than just “oh aros can date so they’re dating in the same way any allos would”.

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One thing I wished more people grasped is that wheelchair use is a full spectrum rather than just ambulatory/nonambulatory (and some non wheelchair users can't even get that right!)

Some people need a wheelchair for isolated outings like Disney or the mall.

Some people need one to leave the house

Some people need one for a couple months at a time on and off but can get by without it most of the time

Some people can take a couple steps but that's it

Some people have to stay in their wheelchair and can't move to a couch or regular chair.

Some people need extra equipment like slings or transfer boards to get in and out of their wheelchair.

Some only need their wheelchair on bad days.

All of the situations I just described are based on real people I know (and me!) and I would bet money that all of us have dealt with bullshit from people who don't understand that it's a spectrum.