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Society – The soil in which we grow

The appropriate conditions are required for each plant to thrive and flourish to its maximum potential.

The importance of the soil cannot be overstated. The dirt is where everything grows. Everything takes care of itself if the soil is healthy and you have enough sunlight and water. Nature takes its own path. We don't need to become involved. The humble acorn grows into a magnificent oak tree.

Is it possible for the same Oak tree to grow in the desert? Would it grow well in a small pot? What if the soil is depleted and contaminated?

It is the same for human beings. The appropriate conditions are required for us to grow and flourish to our greatest potential. In our instance, society can be compared to the soil in which we grow. What exactly do I mean by "society"? I mean our families, our communities, our schools, our friends, our government institutions, our laws, our offices, our work, our recreational spaces, our culture... the world in which we live in the broadest sense possible.

Is our civilization providing the best circumstances for human development and growth?

Is each individual provided with the necessary conditions to thrive... to become what they were born to be: an artist, a farmer, a caregiver, an entertainer, a thinker, a writer, a scientist, a mother, a teacher, or an explorer?

Is our society more like a factory farm, where just one or two crops are considered valuable? Where rainforests are cleared to make way for lucrative, consumable crops. Where any desire to be an artist, explorer, or philosopher is suppressed in favour of a more practical career... perhaps an accountant, tax consultant, or banker? That's not to say there's anything wrong with such careers if they're what you want to pursue. Is it easy for a person to identify what their talent is and to foster that talent in today's society? Is it what school accomplishes, or does our current educational system, in some ways, do the polar opposite? Is it teaching kids to question and think for themselves, or is it teaching them to memorise information and follow rules?

Consider a time when you were a child. What were your favourite pastimes back then? What was it that piqued your interest? Perhaps it was so long ago that you have trouble recalling it. Were you born with a natural proclivity towards something? Were you one of the fortunate ones, and did you pursue this passion throughout your life or did it fade away for some reason? Was it silenced? When did “fitting in” and pleasing others become so important? When did you start being pragmatist? When did safety become more important than everything else? When did making a lot of money, having a lot of stuff, and being "successful" become the goal? What does it mean to be successful? Was there ever a time when you felt inspired to pursue your true passion, or did it always feel impossible and unattainable? Have you ever been asked what you actually want to do with your life? Have you ever given these questions any thought?

If the circumstances were ideal, and the soil was fertile...

What would you become if you had the chance?

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8 Ways to Deal With Regret & Move On

“I've had a few regrets. Frank Sinatra famously sang, "But then again, there are too few to mention."

Unfortunately, I don't believe that most people can claim the same.

1- A third of Americans have second thoughts about significant life decisions.

2- Sixty-six percent of Americans are unhappy with their college education.

3- At least one financial regret affects 76% of Americans.

4- A whopping 63 percent of millennial homeowners are unhappy with their purchase.

And studies reveal that the majority of people regret not making decisions that would have led them to their ideal self.

Not to mention the lesser regrets that come with day-to-day decisions. That's a lot of regret in one sentence.

You are not alone if you have a regret (or a few) that is dragging you down.

Fortunately, there are certain techniques for turning regrets that you can't bear into regrets that are "too few to mention."

Here are some suggestions for dealing with regret:

1. Look for the Positive (Really Look)

Even if it's a very thin one, there's generally a silver lining to most situations. So, whatever your regrets are, keep an eye out for them.

I spent four years in college earning a bachelor's degree in environmental science, but I'm not using it right now. This is something I've recently come to regret. I put four years of my life into it, took out debts, and now I work in a completely other field.

However, those four years of my life shaped who I am and provided me with incredible experiences. I learned about a subject I'm interested in and a field in which I intend to work in the future. And, in general, having a degree helps you find other employment.

Focusing on the positives of any regret can help make it less overwhelming.

2. Turn Regrets Into Lessons

If you've made a mistake, you have two options.

You can either give up and live in regret, or you can learn from your mistakes and grow as a result of them.

When you learn from your regrets, they become a lot easier to deal with, and no matter what your regret is, you may learn something from it.

Regret can help you figure out who you are, what your beliefs and values are, and how you want to act in the future.

Some of the world's most successful people have failed the most, and we wouldn't have some of the world's most famous novels, art, or technology if they had wallowed in regret instead of going on.

3. Write Down Your Regrets

It's natural to ask why we didn't act differently or why we didn't respond at all when faced with regrets.

Writing down our regrets, asking why, and writing down the explanation will assist you avoid making the same regretful decision in the future.

If you snapped at your partner, roommate, or family member as soon as you got home from work, it's possible that you were agitated and needed a few minutes to calm before speaking to people.

If you didn't put in the effort to land your dream job or apartment, it's possible that you don't believe you deserve it, and it's time to reconsider your self-worth.

4. Start Building Self-Compassion

As I previously stated, remorse usually takes one of two forms.

It has the potential to either sink you or to ignite the fire of motivation that leads to self-improvement.

Self-compassion, according to researchers from Berkeley, is the difference between these two outcomes.

Self-compassion improves our ability to accept regret, learn from it, avoid repeating the activity that generated the regret, and enhance our lives instead.

Start by treating yourself as you would a loved one to cultivate more self-compassion in your life. Additionally, you can:

1- Write yourself a letter in which you express your regret in a sympathetic manner.

2- Use a positive counterstatement to challenge critical and negative self-talk.

3- Practice self-compassion meditations with the help of guided meditations (try playing meditation music in the background of these).

4- Remind yourself of all your good qualities (and don't be modest about it).

5. Don’t Let Regret Hold You Back From Doing More

You're probably thinking of things you've done when you consider your regrets in life. These regrets can lead to a dread of trying new activities in order to avoid greater regret.

What about the things you haven't accomplished?

According to research, the regrets that pain us the most and linger the longest are those that we don't have. Especially when the things we don't do are preventing us from becoming our best selves.

If your fear of regret is keeping you from doing the things that matter, remember that while taking action entails risk, doing nothing is just as perilous.

6. Make Amends

Stop wallowing in regret and apologise truly if your regret includes someone else you've wronged.

It's never too late to apologise, and even if your apology isn't accepted right away, the sentiment will grow on the other person with time.

It takes a lot of effort to apologise, and sometimes it takes a lot of effort to put your ego aside, but if you've done something you're truly sorry about, you'll feel a lot better once you say it.

Apologize in person, in writing, in a text, or with a small gift. Most essential, make every effort to avoid hurting them in the future.

However, once you've apologised, move on, fix the problem, and quit berating yourself.

7. Try to Live in the Present

The past is the past, no matter how few or many mistakes you make.

While it's necessary to identify and accept your regrets so that you can learn from them, there's no purpose in dwelling on them.

Regrets are a thing of the past; they are unchangeable. Bring yourself back to the present after you've given them some productive attention. Being present enhances self-resilience and efficient coping, according to research.

Mindfulness includes being present, and many people believe it is the only way to live a happy life. Being present, on the other hand, can be the most difficult thing to accomplish if you're constantly worried about the future or caught in your past regrets. As a result, start small.

Here are some suggestions for practising being present:

1- Even if it's only for a few minutes, meditate.

2- Get Out in Nature - Being quiet and present is easier in nature, so get out there.

3- Practice breathing exercises by inhaling and exhaling through your nose until your mind is quiet.

4- Detach From Your Thoughts - Practice recognising but not clinging to your thoughts. Your regrets and thoughts do not define you.

5- Take a Break — Put on some music and dance like no one is watching, go for a stroll, prepare a cup of tea, and concentrate solely on your break, even if it is only for a few minutes.

6- Repeat a Mantra — Repeating a mantra has been shown to minimise self-judgment and other negative self-beliefs in studies. When you're feeling overwhelmed by negativity, repeat your mantra to yourself or out loud until you feel more at ease.

8. Forgive Yourself

Most likely, you haven't done something heinous, so forgive yourself. There's no reason not to forgive yourself as long as you learn from your mistakes and seek to improve.

According to research, forgiveness, stress, and mental health are all intertwined. As a result, you can reduce stress and enhance your mental health by forgiving yourself.

Regrets Don’t Have to Be Bad

Regret is never pleasant, but it does not have to be unpleasant. It all comes down to how you handle regret and what you learn from it.

So examine your regrets, embrace them, and utilise them as fuel to become the best version of yourself possible.

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13 Ways to Focus When Studying

No matter how old you are, studying may be a daunting undertaking. From middle school children to adults in college, all confront points when they need to sit down for some power-learning.

But learning wouldn't be learning if it wasn't challenging. People experience a variety of difficulties while studying for exams, presentations, and projects. It can be difficult to concentrate when studying at times.

Fortunately, many people's study problems may be diagnosed and remedied, making study time more enjoyable rather than dreaded. The key is recognising those issues and actively striving to resolve them so that you can study properly.

Common Study Problems:-

Studying successfully entails so many variables that there are numerous ways in which it can go wrong. These are some of the most typical issues people experience when attempting to study:

1. Concentration problems

2. Distractions

3. Insufficient motivation

4. Procrastination

5. Dislike for the topic

6. Problems with time management

7. Boredom

8. Stress and pressure

Each study's offender can be dealt with in a variety of ways. Finding methods that are tailored to an individual's specific challenges and learning style is sometimes all that is required.

13 Tips for Focusing When Studying:-

You can start exploring for remedies once you've discovered the reasons you're having problems learning. It's possible that you'll have to attempt a few different approaches before you're able to study more effectively. You'll be acing tests in no time if you're persistent and use the appropriate combination of study tactics.

To get you started, here are 13 study tips:

1. Find the right environment:-

Everything in your environment has an impact on how you study. Background noise, lighting, temperature, phone alerts, and other factors can cause you to lose attention while studying.

You should study in a place where you feel at ease, relaxed, and concentrated. Depending on your own tastes, this could entail locking yourself in a room or heading to the library.

2. Plan your study session:-

Don't jump right in if there's a lot to learn. Calculate how much study time you have available and how you can fit everything into that time frame. Set time restrictions for each study topic so you know you'll be able to see them all.

3. Eliminate technology distractions:-

Nowadays, a lot of studying is done on a computer. That puts social media within easy reach, and it's a great way to pass the time when you're bored or trapped. Now you're wasting valuable study time by scrolling through your friend's wedding photos instead of studying.

Make a rule for yourself that you will not use social media during study time, and stick to it.

4. Take regular breaks:-

Rather than exhausting yourself by studying for long periods of time, take breaks at regular intervals. Maybe every 45 minutes, you do a few laps around the hallway or finish a tiny cleaning project you've been putting off.

Taking regular breaks from studying can allow your brain to rest and digest other thoughts that may be pressing on your mind. It will be easier to study at a steady pace and properly absorb knowledge.

5. Exercise regularly to improve concentration:-

Regular exercise increases your memory and learning abilities. People who exercised for at least 30 minutes most days of the week, or 150 minutes per week, had better memory capacities than those who did not, according to the Harvard Health Blog in 2018.

Aerobic exercise expands the hippocampus, the area of the brain that handles memory and learning.

6. Choose one thing:-

When you've got a lot of study creatures to tame, focus on one at a time. Allow yourself to focus solely on this one study goal until it is completed and you are satisfied. After that, you should move on to another issue.

Multitasking or moving between topics may appear to be the quickest method to get through your studies, but focusing on just one item at a time will allow you to absorb and recall the material more effectively.

7. Get enough sleep:-

Sleep, like exercise, is essential for proper brain function. People who don't get enough sleep have trouble controlling their focus, attention, and memory while studying.

Lack of sleep can also alter your mood, which might have an impact on how well you study. Get at least eight hours of sleep each night, and avoid any distractions that can wake you up, so your brain can get the deep slumber it

need.

8. Create a routine:-

Humans are creatures of habit, and studying is no exception. If you're having problems getting started, construct a ritual in which you study after completing a specific task, such as eating dinner.

Alternatively, if you have a favourite study spot, going there will immediately activate study mode in your brain.

Perhaps there are some snacks that you prefer while studying and can be saved solely for that purpose. Routines make you look forward to learning and make it easier to complete the tasks.

9. Figure out what motivates you:-

Assume you're studying the most uninteresting subject in the planet. What motive does your brain have to recall the worthless details if you don't care about the information? Find a source of inspiration. There has to be a connection between this topic and your life.

Does it have an impact on you? Those you care about? Is there a little sub-topic that interests you?

You can reframe your thinking about the rest of the material if you can find a method to be interested in at least part of the topic. You'll be more driven to learn about a topic if you can see how it connects to you.

10. Find the right learning style:-

It's possible that the issue is that you've never been taught a learning and study approach that fits your personality. Your study method should reflect whether you're a visual, aural, or kinesthetic learner.

In an inappropriate learning style, you will never acquire information in the same way that you will in one that is tailored to your needs. Seek for a tutor or a friend who can assist you in experimenting with various study methods.

11. Be patient and believe in yourself:-

Expect to not be able to master all of the content in a single study session. In the learning process, be patient and remember that haste does not equal expertise. Simultaneously, have faith in your ability to absorb the knowledge.

Don't give up if your studies are taking too long. Get the aid you need, but have faith in your ability to learn what you need to know.

12. If it’s a distraction, don’t listen to music:-

Listening to music while studying is a popular practise. It creates a relaxing atmosphere and keeps your mind busy while you work. However, music can keep some people's brains overly occupied. It could actually be a study distraction, especially if you're listening to lyrics or guitar riffs.

Perhaps a simple change in music style will assist your distraction, or you may need to get rid of it entirely. Some folks simply require silence in order to concentrate. If you usually study with music, try it without it. That could be what's keeping you from concentrating fully.

13. Perform physical activity if you’re a kinesthetic learner:-

Some folks are wired to be on the move all of the time. These folks are frequently kinesthetic learners, which means they must move in order to absorb information properly.

You can come up with inventive ways to "fidget" while learning. Perhaps learning would be easier if you sat on a yoga ball and gently bounced. Some people find that moving their hands, such as with a fidget spinner or a stress ball, helps them to feel more grounded.

Could It Be a Deeper Issue?

If you're having trouble studying, it's most likely because of how you're going about it.

If you're still having problems studying after trying the above techniques, you should consult a professional who can examine you for Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or another learning disability.

Adults can develop certain learning disorders, even if they have never had difficulty learning or studying before.

If you have a learning or attention issue, you can get more individualised treatment to match your requirements and help you succeed in school.