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PLANS GOING FORWARD

First of all, thank you to those who have been kind, supportive and understanding of my situation. Not everyone has, ssooo....

I have had people asking what we have decided to do. Are we separating, working it out? I didn't go through all this anxiety to walk away. We are working it out. No separation....unless this happens again, then I am done.

I think it is now impressed upon her that the secrecy and going behind my back was the root cause of my issues, not the sex. She asked why I was angry. I told her I had been very angry, but I had weeks to work through it.

I asked to see the texts on her phone. Even though I had seen most, she doesn't know that. She said she was going to delete everything. I told her not to, but to save them in a seperate folder. I asked her to tell me what it was like with him. I told her to be completely honest about it. I can tell she is holding back, somewhat. My wife pleaded for me to understand, she didn't go looking for sex. She found a friendship that when it went too far, she just didn't stop it.

I asked her if she enjoyed ut, abd when she wouldn't give me a good answer, I told her she must have enjoyed it because it happened more than once. She said, in the moment it was good, but afterwards there was guilt, and eventually that led them to mutually decide to stop that part of their relationship.

I told her, that I knew how guilt could be retracting from something otherwise good. She asked what I meant. I told her, their guilty pleasure also made me have feelings of guilt. She started rambling about it not being about us, or me and nothing I did caused this, .......yatta yatta yatta. I explained the guilt was because after I got over the anger, I had fantasized about what I thought was going on. I was feeling guilty about having erotic dreams about something that could tear us apart.

She didn't know what to say about that. I asked, " what if you could remove the guilt from the situation?".

This conversation was last night and early morning before sleep. At breakfast this morning she asked if I was looking for things to make her happy to just keep her around. I explained how perilously close we came to being on the way to divorce court. But, I do want her happy. She has been with me basically her whole adult life, and even though I treat her as the treasure she is, she has always made sure I thought I was her King.

She then asked if I was suggesting she find "someone we can play around with", and I answered not necessarily. We left it at that, and she went to her mom's. (That is an every Sunday thing). I told her we would talk more about it later.

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If it was hotter for her, it was a super nova for me! And when she brought him up to our room it was just so natural and fun. My wife had an incredible time, and she hated for him to leave in the middle of the night.

They did exchange numbers just in case we are ever back in Rome.

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I want to know everything

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Once we both opened up, he encourages me to explore my sexuality. He even sets things up for me. My husband is amazing!

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I could instantly tell that she was delighted and turned on to see him. She told me lots of sexy stories about him and his big cock.

She had a great story to tell me that night the naughty slut!

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A NEW DAY

I took off work all day. Might as well, I couldn't keep my focus on anything anyway.

As she promised, she was home, shortly after lunch. Since taking the day off, she rescheduled a conference call during her lunchtime.

When she came in, I was at the table. She greeted me with a kiss, like she always does. She offered to make lunch, but I declined. I told her there was something on my mind. I told her it affected all of us and I can't deal with it alone. She sat across from me, took my hand on hers, and told me she had been concerned over the past few days, because she could tell something is wrong. I told her she was correct, and I have been struggling for weeks to come up for an answer.

She asked what I had struggled with that had me so distracted. I told her I was struggling with " what my life is going to be like when you leave me for David". I felt her flinch with her hand in mine. I'll give her credit. She wasn't going to break her resolve, but it didn't matter. Tears were welling in her eyes. She came back with " why would you think I would leave you for David?".

I could have been a real asshole, but I am too tired for that. I am past that. I just want honest answers to help me make my decision. She started telling me that David is a work colleague, but he is also a good friend. I said, "like a work husband?". She said yes. I told her the problem with that is you spend more time with him than your real husband. I pointed out she eats lunch and breakfast together, but she doesn't do that with me. I told her they text and call each other during the day, but very rarely calls me during the day. She started to ask how I knew that, but I got a little loud, so she got quiet. That is when it went south for her. She kept looking down after that while I continued to talk.

She fell apart when I said most people don't give their work mates a blow job in the car, or go to his house 2 or 3 times a week. I quietly asked her to look me in the eye. I could see tears dropping on the table, she shook her head no. I told her "you don't fuck your work husband more than the husband you're married to.". That broke her. And...it broke me.

At that point, she hadn't tried to correct me, so I assumed it to be true. I told her I can not and will not live like that. She fell apart......like some shit you see in the movies!!. She slipped out of her chair onto the floor. She was full on death notice kind of emotions.

I got up to leave because I was about to loose it myself. I was in our bedroom, trying to get my shit together, I heard screaming, literally screaming downstairs. I went down to find my wife and daughter clutching each other on their knees in the floor. My daughter was crying and screaming. My wife was crying, but trying to get her attention. When my daughter saw me, she jumped up and literally jumped me! What the fuck happened.

What I learned, was my wife called her and was so distraught, that my daughter thought I had been killed or something. My wife was crying so hard, she didn't correct her, so she assumed the worst and hauled ass home!!!

I did not tell her about what I knew, but I told her she had one chance to come clean. If there was one inconsistency in what I knew, I was moving.

My daughter was dating Mark, and my wife knew a little about him, but was concerned over the age difference. Our daughter invited her to meet him while they saw each other for lunch.

During that meeting my wife learned that his brother was someone my wife knew well, although at that time it was only in a professional sense. As luck would have it, one of only twice in my career, I worked out of town on the next weekend. They, my daughter and Mark, invited my wife to join them on a trip to a lake for the day. They met, and already knowing each other somewhat, they were comfortable. That was the pictures I saw on his Facebook. She admitted she flirted, and when he attempted to take it further, she let him. They had a heated kissing session. She said our daughter even told her, " don't break my daddy's heart". They mutuallly agreed it was inappropriate and that was that.

They began to see each other more often at the hospital, and that lead to "a deeper friendship", as she described it. Nothing sexual then.

Later, again I had to work overnight, it happens sometimes, our daughter invited her to accompany her and Mark on a dinner night. David was there, and she said noone expected him to be there, but it was OK. After the dinner, they went clubbing at my daughter's request.

Those were the other photos I had seen. She admitted they were drinking. She admitted none of them were drunk, but just let things flow, and they let the inhibitions drop. She gave him a lap dance, then a blow job with people cheering,(including my daughter), when he came in her mouth.

The next day, our daughter confronted her mother, and they agreed to keep it quiet. But it would not happen again. Our daughter thought it was over, and they both admitted she had no knowledge of a sexual relationship after that.

They continued to grow closer at work, but kept telling me it was never what you would call romantic. Rushed breakfast and lunches. Even though together, it was never in private. She offerred to go to his house one day, to feed his dog because he had to work late. He lived close to the hospital so it wasn't out of the way.

Her dog care turned into two or three times a week. One day she sat on the couch, and closed her eyes. The next thing she remembered was him kissing her forehead, waking her. They stared at each other then began kissing, then making out, ultimately him taking her to his bedroom and fucking her in his bed.

They continued flirting at work, but no further mention of their fucking. It was never planned. If it happened it happened. It was a friend with benefits. She continued to go to his house, but most of the time she would be gone before he arrived. She told me about the incident in my SUV, that I witnessed. She was using my SUV to help him, and that prompted the interaction. They were eating in the car, before running to Home Depot. They were flirting and that lead to the blow job I witnessed. She volunteered this, she doesn't know I was aware of that.

They continued to flirt, but no holding hands, stolen kisses or affectionate displays. No sexual liasons at work. Only at his house, if they got carried away, they simply let it happen. She volunteered, that afterwards she would shower and clean up before coming home. She said there was maybe six more times they had sex, but it had been about two months ago. At work they had both mutually agreed the sex was getting in the way of their friendship, and they were both afraid that talk of an affair would affect them professionally. They were both willing to stop their physical interactions.

We went to his house later. Needless to say, he was surprised when she showed up with me in tow. They let me look around the house. Other than a bottle of her shampoo, there was nothing else there that indicated she spent time there. Without talking to her prior to our arrival, he pretty much confirmed what she said.

Now to the meat of the story. I told her I could get around the sex. It is no secret we both have strong libidos. It was the going behind my back, and then I was afraid of the relationship if it became emotional. If she wanted to be sexually adventurous, then talk to me and we can explore together.

I asked if she would break all contact with him. It was absolutely and her answer immediate. SHE offerred to quit her job, if that was what I thought necessary. FOLKS, THAT'S A BIG DEAL IN OUR LIFE!! We spent the rest of last night hashing out insecurities and possibilities.

She said he was the only person she has had sex with, other than me, since we married. I believe her.

more later....

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What’s his name?

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…and video!! We’ve already watched it at least. 100times and it hasn’t been a month yet!💦💦

👙🔐💦

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LAST NIGHT/TODAY

After telling my wife we needed to talk, she obviously became concerned. She keeps pushing for explanations, or let's talk now. Then latter was tempting, but I need her to not run back to work and be around him right afterwards, thus the Friday evening time frame.

She keeps probing, and I put her off. She was concerned it is about my health, I told her no, not mine. That was meant to be a dig at beating the fuvk out of her boyfriend with the right motivation.

She thinks it is something to do with my dad. She had been EXTRA attentive. Has called me twice at work today. We had a long gentle love making session last night. She was even up, AND FIXED ME BREAKFAST, AND ATE TOGETHER! Before I left for work. I believe every bit of it to be genuine. Making this whole ordeal more strange.

Also...... many more people than I ever imagined, helI was thinking that no more 2 or 3 would even see this.... asks me continuously for updates. Right now not much to tell, but please understand, after our talk Friday, I don't know what sort of mindset I will be in to post. At least not immediately. But I have promised to at least put something up. Thank y'all so much.....

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UPDATE

The last two days since starting this blog has opened a can of emotions, that I didn't expect. My reason here was to vent to someone...anyone...hoping someone would listen. The added bonus is the anonymous way that regardless of what happens, it doesn't put our lives on display in our community.

Having said that, to the haters, pic hunters and assholes.....FUCK OFF!!!! This is our life. Real consequences, real emotions. It is erotic in a visceral sense, but it could be devastating to me, my wife and family. I already feel sense of loss and betrayal, oddly enough, not by my wife, but my daughter. I still don't know what is really at play here.

SO AGAIN...IF YOU DON'T LIKE MY POSTS..DON'T FUCKING READ IT. I AM NOT DOING IT FOR YOU ANYWAY...

This evening, I asked my wife to take off early on Friday. She was in a happy mood as always, and said she would get it done, and should be able to be home by 3 pm. I told her it was important. She became concerned, and said this isn't a getaway weekend plan? I told her no it is a family matter, "and we need to be on the same page". That put her at ease somewhat for now.

So Friday evening we will talk. I am not sure how it is going to start or end. Some things you just can't plan for. This is real life, not a stroke story. All plans and thoughts of clever, devious interactions just won't work.

We'll see what happens....

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