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Dominique D.E.B.S-

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2014 is so back

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Me in my era right now

Affirm: I HAVE the life of luxury. 🤍🥂

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Insecure HBO

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Tired of being depressed. I’m glad I grew out of this type of exhaustion.

Sending love to my girls that are still in the depths of girlhood. I can’t say it gets easier but you do become strong enough to overcome it all 🤍

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And?

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But I’m lowkey begging to be teen like they do in the fictional historic romance.

Like I want to be the bane of your existence and the object of all your desires 😭😭😭😭

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The Next 90 days

Reflecting..

Thinking back on the last 3 months, honestly the last 3 years, I have had so much happen, but I feel like this is the time i will see the fruits of the seeds I've sewn.

I have yet to really process the all the hardship I have experience this far but i don't know what all i would do with those feelings. Some of the worse things i have let go of, probably because I cant remember the details of it all. (Shoutout to being my Air sign placements) It's still surreal to think about how much time has passed. I think about cringey embarrassing situations that I relive over and over again at times, but the are a great gage of how much i have grown.

It's been almost 10 years since i have been on tumblr, and the only thing that has changed is me mostly. I step back into freshman year of high school when I scroll down my feed. and recall how hurt i was back then. How much i wanted to be understood, and wanted to connect. Seeking anyone to like me and that has definitely left its mark but its a nice reminder from where I grew from. Also supplies me with hope for where I am going.

So with that, I have decided to complete the life 10 years transition. I am begin of the tail end of my 20s and I will be in entering my true Sex and the City phase. But I would like the the 'It Girl' glow up, minus the harmful over consumerism that seems to come along with it. I have the tools I need to be successful. Now the discipline needs to kick in.

I would like to give a special shout-out to my medication helping to make this happen.

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Thank you for sharing some of the most intimate lessons/tricks on here 🫶🏽

Thank YOU for your (longtime!) support and engagement. I am very humbled. My Tumblr followers will get a shoutout in my future award acceptance speeches lol.

Intimate Lessons & Tricks for My Teenage Self

Your mother/auntie/grannie couldn’t teach you anything because they don’t know anything, not because they’re withholding information.

If they had (dating/femininity/life) game to pass onto you, their lives would be better. Better careers. Better love partners…but they don’t!

Being a “sheep” in a “wolf” world makes you easy prey. You must make choices based on survival. The survival of your financial freedom, xesual satisfaction, mental health and luxury lifestyle. Think long term while living in the moment.

Survival of the Fittest. You are here to leave a legacy that’ll survive eons past your lifetime. Being timid and afraid to put yourself out there (in dating or in business) only gets you looked over and sometimes knocked over.

“You have to work twice as hard, to get HALF of what they get,” -Papa Pope.

I am not saying that anyone of any race has any power to block any blessings of black women. I am saying to you, teenage Diamond: when you enter & elevate in certain industries, prepared for those attempting you play you…

Right in your face.

Supervisors. HR. Wholesalers. Not just as a black woman. As a dark skinned, both book and street smart black woman. As an (self) educated black woman, you automatically make mediocre people feel insecure about themselves.

Work twice as hard solely to show off AND to skip a few steps. Remember:”Preparation leads to opportunity”.

Men do not love you, they love what you offer. As they should. This allows us (feminines) to have a list on demands in exchange for what we can offer (xes, cooking, cleaning, making a house a home, etc.).

Stop loving a man for him. Start loving his attributes instead. His credit score, both business and personal. His territory (properties, residential and commercial). His genes (his talents, his height, even his upbringing! (google: epigenetic)

Be Ruthless. Per it’s definition, have no pity for anybody, not even yourself. I’m talking to my teen self here: Humans are capable of doing the most gross, grimey things (particularly men). Do not let anyone slide when they do something that deserves a ruthless consequence. Otherwise, they’ll ruthlessly attack you in unforeseen ways. Attack you with stress or with something more serious.

Call this dark femininity, but it’s just facts. We are programmed to be nice and naïve for the benefit of others, again particularly men. Men in society (mating partners or political leaders).

When you’re ruthless, you’re logical. You’re able to emotionally detach while making decisions.

Ruthless ≠ Violence. Ghosting someone who deserved it after a bad date can be ruthless. You’re having zero pity on them. Forgiving an ex-friend’s betrayal but keeping them at a cordial distance is ruthless and greatly encouraged. No-contact with your parents is also ruthless, you’re not showing them pity for their wrongdoings.

The allure of xes sells, not the act of xes. I’ve mainly danced at fully nude clubs and the girls who refused to take off their clothes made the most bank. Those are the woman I chose to study and even question. Changed my life and upgraded my game.

They knew how to dangle the customer into VIP. And VIP isn’t a promise of nudity, it’s mainly to convert them into a returning (VIP) customer who hopes to someday see them nude. The Art of Seduction.

You’re welcome.

Now, pass these lessons onto your younger siblings, nieces or followers. Each one, teach one and it’s time we as feminines teach one another the real.

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This fact that this was 10 years ago throws me for a fucking loop every. time.

Like 10 years ago my biggest worries were honestly the same worries that I carried into my 20s and why I’m medicated now. So was it really all that fun? Yes, probably. Or I just am comforted knowing the fact that in hindsight life is so much more.

More fun.

More hurt,

More lessons.

More loving of life.

I wouldn’t change the life I’m living for those moments, but I do sometimes dream of re-feeling those times again knowing how I feel now.

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Just for you to be up to date check out my latest episode... yes I know it's been over a year, BUT I am here now. You're welcome :)