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i want to clarify actually- this post was made after a community that me and my partner were part of made a public statement about male & masc lesbians not being "valid". this directly impacted us both, but it more heavily impacted her, as she has close ties to people with positions of authority in that community. my partner is a transfem lesbian, we're both bi lesbians, and to some degree we both identify with maleness in a way that made us "invalid" in the eyes of the people running this community. this isn't some end-all be-all statement about which lesbians are valid and which ones aren't, it's literally just me saying "hey, if you're (the type of person who was impacted by this community making this statement), you deserve respect and you're not getting it and i'm sorry". it's not "if you're NOT this type of person, you don't deserve that respect", nor is it "if you're not this type of person, i don't respect you". it's literally just because i lost some friends and i wanted people like me & my partner to know that the world isn't all like that. one statement being made doesn't mean the opposite is true.

trans women are often perceived as male or masculine and excluded from lesbian communities because of this. i recognize this, and with the amount of transfems in my life that i hold incredibly near & dear to me, and the area/political climate my partner and i live in, i'm thinking about it nearly constantly. this post is primarily about people who ARE male or masculine, and are excluded from lesbian communities because of this. if i included trans lesbians in the original post, i'd be lumping trans women in with men & masc people. i'm simply not gonna do that.

trans lesbians deserve respect, they get less than they deserve and that's fucked up. they deserve more than just a tumblr post on a blog with less than 50 followers, there are exponentially better ways i can do things that actively combat transmisogyny in lesbian spaces, which is why i do more to amplify transfem voices and bolster the transfems in my life than post about them on tumblr. this post is about a dude my partner is friends with who made a roblox game being exclusionary of male lesbians, whose following is primarily younger people on social media like tumblr, so the best way for me to reach these people and let them know they're respected is via social media like tumblr.

i'm not lumping these statements together because trans lesbians and male lesbians are different groups. "trans lesbians deserve more respect than they get" belongs in a different post than "male lesbians deserve more respect than they get". these groups have some crossover, but i'm not going to misgender or degender any trans woman who doesn't voluntarily identify with maleness or masculinity by including them in a statement about men & mascs.

this will be my last post about this because this post was never meant to be a fully fleshed out statement against exclusion in lesbian communities, it is quite literally about a roblox game and about my partner losing friends because her partner's identity as a male lesbian isn't respected and her identity as a transfem 'weird' lesbian is at risk of being disrespected because of these peoples' views.

i love you lesboys, i love you male lesbians, i love you bi lesbians, i love you dykes, i love you he/him lesbians, i love you transmasc lesbians, i love you genderfluid lesbians, i love you bigender lesbians, i love you weird lesbians

you are just as much of a "real lesbian" as the rest of us. we are all in this together. do not listen to the people who try to start fights with you about your identity- only you know who you are, their opinions on that mean nothing. please keep living your truth, you're important and wonderful and even when it feels like there's nowhere you can go without running into some stupid petty discourse about your life, know there are and always will be people who will love you for who you are. you do not have to conform for anyone. do what you're doing. don't let dumb internet arguments run your self-worth into the ground, they aren't and never will be worth it. you are a whole, beautiful person whose life and experiences matter, even when a loud minority wants to fight you on it. you don't have to make sense to anyone but yourself. i love you.

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"no way you just excluded trans lesbians"

this post is about lesbians with "contradictory" identities. i shouldn't have to write a 500 paragraph disclaimer about how we should also respect every other identity in a post that is about specific identities. this post was also made in response to a very specific controversy that landed very close to my heart, personally hurt me and several friends, and lost me some social contacts.

i know a lot of bi lesbians. only Two of them are not trans women. i also know a lot of trans lesbians who identify as male or masculine to some degree. there are also plenty of genderfluid and bigender lesbians out there. nowhere in this post does it say that trans women aren't included in these communities. to assume that i was excluding trans women here just means that you read things in the most negative light possible

in other words,

i love you lesboys, i love you male lesbians, i love you bi lesbians, i love you dykes, i love you he/him lesbians, i love you transmasc lesbians, i love you genderfluid lesbians, i love you bigender lesbians, i love you weird lesbians

you are just as much of a "real lesbian" as the rest of us. we are all in this together. do not listen to the people who try to start fights with you about your identity- only you know who you are, their opinions on that mean nothing. please keep living your truth, you're important and wonderful and even when it feels like there's nowhere you can go without running into some stupid petty discourse about your life, know there are and always will be people who will love you for who you are. you do not have to conform for anyone. do what you're doing. don't let dumb internet arguments run your self-worth into the ground, they aren't and never will be worth it. you are a whole, beautiful person whose life and experiences matter, even when a loud minority wants to fight you on it. you don't have to make sense to anyone but yourself. i love you.

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i love you lesboys, i love you male lesbians, i love you bi lesbians, i love you dykes, i love you he/him lesbians, i love you transmasc lesbians, i love you genderfluid lesbians, i love you bigender lesbians, i love you weird lesbians

you are just as much of a "real lesbian" as the rest of us. we are all in this together. do not listen to the people who try to start fights with you about your identity- only you know who you are, their opinions on that mean nothing. please keep living your truth, you're important and wonderful and even when it feels like there's nowhere you can go without running into some stupid petty discourse about your life, know there are and always will be people who will love you for who you are. you do not have to conform for anyone. do what you're doing. don't let dumb internet arguments run your self-worth into the ground, they aren't and never will be worth it. you are a whole, beautiful person whose life and experiences matter, even when a loud minority wants to fight you on it. you don't have to make sense to anyone but yourself. i love you.

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pilopastelaesic- an aesthetigender related to the band twenty one pilots' use of pastel colors in their merchandise, music videos, concert productions, etc.. the colors of the flag are referenced from merch from the SAI era.

pilobluraesic- an aesthetigender related to the band twenty one pilots' use of the colors red, black, and white in their merchandise, music videos, concert productions, etc.. the colors of the flag are referenced from outfits from the blurryface era.

pilodarkaesic- an aesthetigender related to the band twenty one pilots' use of dark, desaturated, grungy colors in their merchandise, music videos, concert productions, etc.. the colors of the flag were originally color-picked from screengrabs from the heavydirtysoul and fairly local music videos.

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i know its been over a year and a half since i properly posted (until today, hehe) but the hyperfixation is kinda coming back, so... requests are open! things i'll make are listed in my pinned if youre curious. =:o)

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earedaisongic- a gender related to suzie's cover of "song of the eared robot" using kasane teto AI.

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hello! this is a sideblog i made for coining purposes. i'll mostly be doing my own thing but i might open up requests at some point. probably won't be too active since school is going on but i'll do my best. in the meantime, could i maybe get a boost?

(ask to be untagged) @genderarryire @gliscoric @kikis-gender-identity-service @meadow-of-mogai-melodies @orxngecrxsh @playing-card-coining @tutelaric @themogaidragon @onisia

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backshopcalmic: a gender related to photoshopping backgrounds out of images because it calms the user 

for anon! the top and bottom stripes are from the photoshop logo (not that you couldn’t use this if you use a different editing software, but i figured it was a good base) and the inner two represent being calmed. the top flag is meant to look like a background being edited out of a photo, with the dotted lines surrounding the section that’s going to be removed. the bottom left flag keeps the dotted lines and the bottom right makes them solid lines. the term is ‘back’ from ‘background’, ‘shop’ from ‘photoshop’, ‘calm’, + ‘ic’!

flag id: the top flag’s background has a bright blue top half and a blue-black bottom half. in the center of the flag is a large square with a pale blue top half and very light red-pink bottom half. around the outer edge of the flag and the outer edge of the square, with the background showing through, are white dotted lines made up of evenly-spaced very small rectangular segments.

the bottom left flag has 4 stripes. in order, they are bright blue, pale blue, very light red-pink, and blue-black. at the top and bottom edges of the flag, the top edge of the second stripe, and the bottom edge of the third stripe, all overlapping the first and fourth stripes, are white dotted lines made up of evenly-spaced very small rectangular segments.

the bottom right flag has 8 stripes, with the first, third, sixth, and eighth being very small and the second and seventh being slightly smaller than the other two. in order, they are white, bright blue, white, pale blue, very light red-pink, white, blue-black, and white. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

dni link

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vamoosean: a gender for when part or all of your gender experience is just walking away. it can be related to hatergender or autigender, but does not have to be. more than anything it is a gender where you just say “fuck it, bye.”

(vamoose + -ean [variant of -an])

requested by a friend! the flag was based on @dasharez0ne‘s classic “JUST WALK OUT” image (included under the cut)

[DNI IMAGE ID: DNI banner with text reading “DNI: transmed, anti-endo, exclu of good-faith IDs/pronouns, proship/anti-anti/etc, NSFW-themed blog”. The background of the banner is the diversity rainbow pride flag]

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Guys please reply to this with what your url means or references I’m really curious

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lesbialesbialesbian- a gender and/or orientation where you identify with several different lesbian experiences at one time, some of which may even contradict each other.

(if anyone would like similar terms with different orientations, send a request to my inbox! for now i just did lesbian so i could add it to my own term hoard)

[image IDs: first image is a seven-stripe flag. it has all the colors of the sunset lesbian flag, but it is separated into three sections, and each section has the stripes moved out of place to represent different experiences of lesbianism. second image is a divider showing a glittery pastel rainbow.]

[image ID: DNI banner with text reading “do not interact if pro-ship, anti-endo,  exclusionary of any good-faith IDs, or transmed-aligned”, ending with a  heart emoticon. to the left of the banner is a small icon depicting an  envelope opening up and a rainbow pouring out of it. the background of  the banner is the tutelaric pride flag.]  

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hatergender stamps!!!

hatergender coined by @nightsteppy​

[image IDs: first image is a webpage stamp of the hatergender flag. it has six stripes, colored dark red, light red, yellowish tan, off-white, light gray, and dark gray. the second image is the same stamp featuring text that reads “i love my block button”. the text is white with a red outline.]

[image ID: DNI banner with text reading “do not interact if pro-ship, anti-endo,  exclusionary of any good-faith IDs, or transmed-aligned”, ending with a  heart emoticon. to the left of the banner is a small icon depicting an  envelope opening up and a rainbow pouring out of it. the background of  the banner is the tutelaric pride flag.]  

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lovehatergender: a subset of hatergender. a gender for when being a hater of something that one loves, or having a love-hate relationship with something, is a part or all of ones gender experience.

[DNI IMAGE ID: DNI banner with text reading “DNI: transmed, anti-endo, exclu of good-faith IDs/pronouns, proship/anti-anti/etc, NSFW-themed blog”. The background of the banner is the diversity rainbow pride flag]

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hatergender: a gender for when being a hater is a part or all of one’s gender experience. one does not have to be a hater of anything relating to gender to identify with hatergender, nor does one have to identify with everything represented by the colors in the flag.

[DNI IMAGE ID: DNI banner with text reading “DNI: transmed, anti-endo, exclu of good-faith IDs/pronouns, proship/anti-anti/etc, NSFW-themed blog”. The background of the banner is the diversity rainbow pride flag]

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i know im not all that active here anymore but my stamp, icon, and DNI banner requests are still open!!! im willing to do a bunch of them at a time too so if you want a batch of flags by a certain person or several variants on a specific flag made into stamps or something i can and will absolutely do that for you

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heartcloudic: a gender related to clouds forming heart shapes

day 6 of @gender-funky’s coining event, ’coffee/hearts’! this is a cloud version of heartsmokic, so it uses the same formats with different colors!

flag id: the top flag has a large light red-pink heart in the center. its edges are covered in small bumps in order to make it look like a cloud. it is surrounded by a series of thick outlines which, in order, are blue-white, silver, dark grey, and sky blue. the sky blue outline is the thickest, as it extends to the edges of the flag.

the bottom left flag has 7 stripes, with the fourth being much larger than the rest. in order, they are sky blue, dark grey, silver, blue-white, silver, dark grey, and sky blue. in the center of the flag is a line of four evenly-spaced light red-pink cloudy hearts, which are not quite as tall as the fourth stripe. the first and fourth hearts are cut in half by the edges of the flag. the bottom right flag has 9 stripes, with the fifth being twice as large as the rest. in order, they are sky blue, dark grey, silver, blue-white, light red-pink, blue-white, silver, dark grey, and sky blue. end id.

dni transcript here

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☆ rosamistica (rose-uh-miss-tih-ca) : a gender related to rose water facial mists.

requested by no one lol <33 ✿ (=^_^=)っ

etymology : ‘rosa’ is rose in spanish and ‘mist’ is from well.. mist lol.

♡ pls read my dni ┄┄┄┄┄ by cinna: 5/6/22..

ID : two flags side by side ; on the right is a six horizontal striped flag with colors in this order, top to bottom : dark blue, teal, light green, light pink, pink, and hot pink. all of the stripes are wavy. on the left is that same flag with a drawn symbol of a facial mist bottle and roses surrounding it. it is outlined in dark teal and then outlined again in white. there are white flowers surrounding, also outlined in dark teal.