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i always found it weird how in western europe they think of eastern europeans (as in greek/orthodox influenced not catholic central europe or russia) as literal nazis white supremacist meanwhile in my experience you are much less hateful and arrogant of racial and religious minorities than western europeans, it's just that unlike them you arent politically correct, and you have less exposure so more awkard.

E.g if you ask a racist in EE what they think of black people they will straight up say they are animals meanwhile if you ask a racist WE they will say they are humans like us then proceed to read you a 1000 pages thesis on how they are genetically inferior but "it is just fact not cultural judgement :)". Likewise in EE people will makes jokes/comments that are deemed racist in WE but actually come from curiosity or just casual roasting meanwhile in WE they mostly think it and just hide behind humor, from personal experience atleast

And when having to mingle i noticed a big difference in behavior. Im from a "ghetto" city as we call it in france which is full of muslims living in relative poverty and recently we had a huge influx of ukrainians refugee, and afaik there was never a problem with them, they are well integrated and hang out with locals. Meanwhile IN MOROCCO there are a lot of places forbidden for muslim women because french tourists and retireds dont want to see them, in morocco.

Like i know a few veiled muslim women who went in romania for studying medecine and they were shocked to be respected like any human being instead of being treated like an outcast, same with black people who said they were treated like anyone in greece meanwhile italy was an interesting experience let's say....

Im not saying that hatred of minorities doenst exist in EE or that WE are nazis, but it's interesting how WE have a feeling of being superior and enlighted and want to imagine EE as a retarded and savage place meanwhile in my experience it is the opposite

eh i don't think i agree about the exposure and curiosity, it was probably relevant like a decade-two ago, but right now there are many people of colour in eastern europe, so if you live in a city, you're unlikely to not interact. and there are certain arrogance and masking to racism, i can't say for everyone, but you can sometimes notice this attitude in ukrainians of being never colonisers and never having race based slavery. russians also think that, which is even funnier in their case. what is certainly true is that eastern european racism is different, as we ourselves were racialized into whiteness by external processes and then chose to embrace it to other our neighbours who were not (like west and central asians). i think this is the main point of our racism, trying to compensate. you mentioned ukrainian refugees integrating with muslims, and certainly, war came as a revelation to many, a million little truths pointing to the fact that we have way more in common with those we are taught to look down upon than those we aspire to be. but there is still a tremendous amount of work to do. what i want to say is that i think you have a better view of us than what we actually are. don't let us get off racist talk because of this. especially because we also learn quick and absorb western ideology too, as is evidenced by the ongoing moronization of the right wing in eastern europe

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people misunderstand what ‘gifted kid’ actually means but it’s ok it’s fine it’s cool it’s good

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"actively hungry" + "none of the foods sound good at all" is one of the worst combinations. who let this happen

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happy disability pride month to the 'disgusting' disabilities

to all disabled people whose disabilities have been labelled disgusting by others!!!!

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I thought labubu was some kind of designer handbag not a kind of trolls doll phenomenon

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”getting thicker skin” is great in theory but I think for some people “get better at handling your thin skin” is gonna be way more helpful advice. I have strong emotional reactions to criticism and they might never go away, but i can continue to try and handle each situation maturely and that’s the important part. Sometimes irrational feelings are chronic and living with them is better than trying to beat yourself up into not having them.

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do they make wildlife rehabs for humans?

I need somebody to stick me in a pen and make me better while i hiss and screech that I don't want to. and then they teach me how to survive out there because I never learned, and then they launch me out of a dog crate in the back of a truck at mac 1 still screeching and hissing but knows how to live now

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my top 5 are: conscious thoughts in words; risk assessment; current earworm; random fucking interjections like snatches of broadcasts; critic. narrator and translator pop up occasionally for added confusion.

also, I hate it when my conscious thought process picks up my current earworm and proceeds to get out of sync with it.

Okay so some people can’t see objects in their imagination and some people don’t think in words and some people hear their thoughts like a voice and others don’t. I get that

But how many distinct channels do most folks have playing at once? cause my normal range is 2-4 and I though that was just what thinking was LIKE but CBD brings that down to just 1

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i think people w acid reflux should be able to store it up so they can unleash it all at once in a devastating corrosive spit attack

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for a while now i’ve been learning that some people kind of choose to hate themselves like you can give them tools and resources and advice and they’ll even follow some of it and go “i still hate myself” and i feel strongly at that point they’re kind of choosing to stay in that mindset because it’s comfortable and familiar or something but some people are truly [gotye voice] addicted to a certain kind of sadness and hooked on feeling low

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I get so frustrated when people try to draw lines in the sand regarding misogyny and types of misogyny and male privilege especially when it comes to trans people.

Like I only pass as a man most of the time, I transitioned in my early adulthood, I’m afraid to wear skirts because of social stigma around men doing so, I got affected by misogyny aimed at little girls growing up, and I still have the ability to get pregnant.

Where exactly does my male privilege begin and end here? Am I tme because I’m not transfem or not because I’d like to wear dresses but am stopped by social stigma around men doing so? Was I “socialized” to be a girl? Do I have male privilege when I pass but not when I don’t? How am I to know then when I do or do not have male privilege because I don’t know when I meet someone if they read me as a man or a woman?

Like all of these lines in the sand are idiotic and piss me off. We’re all supposed to be on the same damn team here.

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I did not become scared or distrustful of Muslims after 9/11, despite the fact my country, my state, was directly attacked. I felt no urge to join those who attacked Muslims, Muslim restaurants, and firebombed mosques here in America. Seeing Muslims in America wearing their traditional clothing like hijab or symbols of their homelands or items of worship does not make me upset or uncomfortable. I did not ask every Muslim I met if they condemn Al Qaeda or ISIS.

If you feel distrustful of Jews, that’s antisemitism. If you think it helps Palestinians to attack Jews, their restaurants, or synagogues here in America, you are antisemitic. If seeing a Jew wearing traditional clothing or items of worship such as the Star of David or a kippah or tallit makes you uncomfortable, you are antisemitic. If you feel like you need to ask every Jew if they condemn the actions of the Israeli government to make sure they’re a “good Jew”, you are antisemitic.

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thank fuck I didn't go to law school. would've burnt out before turning 30 instead of 40. and it might even be for the best that The Events of '68 kept mother from becoming a prosecutor, she was enough of a challenge without a few decades of courtroom experience under her belt.

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Dad: “Do you ever regret not going to law school? You’d make a great lawyer.”

Me: “I’m too sensitive.”

Dad: “Yeah, that’s true.”

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title of this is just ‘lesbian sex’

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“I’m an equal opportunity offender. I make fun of everybody.” - Guy whose identities all align with the systemically dominant power groups in his cultural and geographic context