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“Have our lives gotten really weird, or is it just me?”

- Tobias, Book #4: The Message, pg. 87 (by K.A. Applegate)

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I love getting comments on really old fics. It's like a little tap on the shoulder that says, "hey the art you create is going to last forever even if you don't think it matters anymore"

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Bylers need to see this lol

oh okay

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happy tdov to people who don't pass or have no interest in passing, who can't pass because there is no culturally recognised category for the way they want to be recognised, who flip flop and fuck around, who can't hide their transness and have to plan their everyday around being visible, who can't signal their transness and have to come out over and over because the default presumption is intolerable, who don't have the resources yet or the knowhow or the willpower to change what they want to change, whose transness is warped by a hegemonic image of ideal transness that is almost as difficult to escape as the hegemonic image of cisness, who don't have a justification prepared for the assertion that they are trans but can no longer justify the assertion that they are not, who have a million justifications that are all surplus to the fundamental requirement (that society mandated one articulation of you and you chose another), et cetera and so forth across the world and universe forever. your version is right. don't concede.

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"I'm in my late 20s and I'm scared I've already peaked" just don't peak then, idiot. what do you mean like you're going to just stop trying to think harder and build taller and learn more and get luckier and read deeper and dress better and fuck weirder and run faster and draw crazier and smoke danker and dance bigger and steal better and stun everyone with your cunty charm and zeal because, what, you think those are the rules? get real. get up. you have another 50 years and you're not going to use them??? give them to me.

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hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset

the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years

taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult

at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)

'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65

it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age

it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.

you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.

young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!

there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big

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i’m going to hold your hands when i say this and i am only going to be kind about it once: ai does not belong in fandom spaces, ever. not in writing, not in art, not in video, not at all. it does not matter how bad you want to see your favourite characters kiss, or how much you need a bit of help finishing a chapter, or whatever.

make friends with artists. commission somebody. learn to draw yourself. ask for a beta read. try a writing partnership. fandom spaces are communities, so engage with them! it is about the journey and the fact that we all love something enough to create and build together about that thing.

spending 30 seconds to kill a tree and get an AI to push out some soulless empty piece of “content” is antithetical to the entire point of being engaged with fandom, and if you’ve taken to doing this you should really reconsider if you belong in these spaces with the rest of us.

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BYLER TUMBLR QUICK GUIDE (renewed)

Hi! Welcome to byler tumblr dear, you are going to have SO much fun here, but you might want to know some things about it...

Unspoken Rules:

-Dont insult ANY of the members of this community, if you want to have beef, this is not the place for it

-Dont post anything inappropiate about byler, remember that if you do someone will send a message and people might block you.

-Dont steal theories

-Be kind! We are just trying to have a safe space for us.

-You need to ship bychance (satire) or at least recognize the 29383 Will's bfs

Byler crisis:

-CONTENT DROUGHT

-BYLER DOUBT:

We are a hive mind, which means if someone has byler doubt, everyone somehow has, these are the common reasons why we have doubt:

-Content drought

-Infiltrated milevens

-No reason, we are just bored

-We had a byler almost confirmation moment, so now we have to compensate

How to survive a BYLER DOUBT crisis:

1- Escape tumblr as soon as possible, it is infected, normally it goes away in 1 day or less, but who knows...

2- Spread byler positivity

3- Watch analysis if you get infected

Now, we got the best part! The GATES (name we use for our theories or memes):

The big four are:

•Flickergate: Mike and Will kiss in the UD, that's the reasonthe lights flickered in their first scene.

•Birthdaygate: Why did a detail-oriented show just forget about such an important thing?

•Lettergate: Mike wrote love letters to Will when he was gone in California

•Phonegate: Mike did call Will (confirmed)...So why didn't he tell him?

•°•°•°•°•°•°•°•

LOBEGATE:

It's hard to... understand. Just look it up, you won't regret it

IMPORTANT NOTE: A new gate is created every moth, in hope we will get crumbs

Now that we are done with the byler popular gates, let's talk about the icons you might find here:

Our dear artists: @kidovna @taeiris @thai-09 @ramdomassname @ilvaashlnx @furimmer96arts @diavalkitty @hazaddd1223

Our youtube icons: @elephantshoetoo @cloudycleric @teambyler @kaypeace21 @pinksmonkey

Our lawyer: @teambyler

Our Book writer: @queerxqueen

Icon: @will80sbyers

Our news sources: @kittykat940 @bylertruth3r @will80sbyers

Our analyst: @gayofthefae

Other divas: @reddthekingg @evilbookworm @lorax-devito @itslikesearcingforsomething

Lobegate squad: @somewiseoutthere @itslikesearcingforsomething @4rielle @noihavenosanitythanksforasking @clericallyinsane @bluearacari

(Im sorry I might have forgotten some people, yall are so special to me)

Remember to have fun!

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Come and get them before the buddie canon elevator closes!!!!!!

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I’m a day late for Will’s birthday, but here’s a sneak peak of the top half a what will be a larger piece of a Byler x Star Wars crossover I’m commissioning from @lovetositinsilence!

Mike Wheeler tries to save Possessed!Will Byers but make it Star Wars! Full piece coming soon! ❤️💙💛💙

In the meantime, you guys go check out his art! Especially you Arcane fans! It’s incredible!

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IM SCREAMINGGGGGG

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My heart can’t take this parallel

The journey from shame to pride ✊🏳️‍🌈

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i know a lot of people are getting impatient for season 5 but guys PLEASE enjoy these final months of theories and guessing and analysing and everything!!! once s5 releases that's it, the show is done. they'll be no more teasers or trailers to dissect no more parallels or callbacks, no more seeing these characters ever again

once the season is out, that's the whole story, we won't be waiting for the cast and crew to reunite for another season and table read

please just appreciate this fun time of everyone getting all giddy and excited and appreciate the not knowing

these characters mean so much to me and i'm not ready to see them for the last time so i really wanna make the most of the time left :')

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i would like to point out that one of the best (in my opinion) scenes of mike and el, the one which brought the whole audience to tears and which strengthened their bond in their eyes, is directly paralleled to her reunion with hopper in s4 epilogue.

“i never gave up on you. i called you every night for 353 days”

“i kept the door open three inches. i never stopped believing.”

that scene was supposed to be the climax of their build up in s2, only it wasn’t inherently romantic (as their reunion in s4 wasn’t either) and was paralleled to a familial relationship two seasons later.

the parallels between mike and hopper in the context of their love for el are very frequent and prominent in the show, and this similarity is also the reason for their conflict. obviously, on one hand, the conflict stems from the typical protective father - daughter’s boyfriend relationship and also from hopper being the voice of reason in their unhealthy habits of spending too much time together. BUT i think it is mostly because both of them feel very protective of el and responsible for her safety, so she holds the same space in their lives and they both want to be the one taking care of her. they both think they know her better and can care for her well-being more effectively. she had a huge influence on both of their lives. for mike, she was his first female friend, the first girl who showed him empathy and understanding, she saved will’s and his life and she continuously shields him from the cruelty of the world, whether it be bullying or the supernatural. she makes him feel normal and important while needing to be protected (though that isn’t the case anymore). for hopper, she literally turned on the light and saved him from depression (“the cave”), her presence compensates for his loss of a daughter and gives him an unexpected second chance at fatherhood, she alleviates his self-loathing and grief by also making him feel normal and important, therefore holding him back from destructive behaviors. both mike and hopper thought el needed them and they both came to the realization that they are the ones who need her. she miraculously fills a certain space in both their lives. even finn mentioned how similar the two of them were based on the love they have for el.

and both hopper and mike have someone else who also lights up their world, who they make unconditional sacrifices for and who narratively propels their arcs forward. they both have a prominently intimate connection with this other character, and both of those relationships were formed before el came into their lives. + the characters in question are family, therefore insanely similar, connected and dealing with trauma from the same source (for which mike and hopper show support). one of these pairings is romantic as of the penultimate season. the parallels are obvious, and the other pairing is confirmed to be romantic on one side and pending. mathematical precision!

not to mention that, before they started regarding their friendship as romantic, mike and el had been portrayed through a familial lens. she lived in his house, he did her make up (like he probably once did nancy’s), she was paralleled to nancy through clothes and wording (“pretty”), was under the cover of being his cousin, and she asked him, literal seconds before it became romantic, whether he’d be like her brother. that’s a LOT. i remember rewatching with my friend back in 2020 (when i was a mlvn) and she was confused as to why el was calling for mike in the ud. i remember jokingly replying that it’s like calling out for your mom out of helplessness because mike is the closest she has to that, and then feeling just a little weird after vocalizing that realization. that’s actually pretty accurate and the ga is aware of it!

so, in short : “but he called her for 353 days!” she kept the door open three inches for 6 months. doesn’t have to be romantic.

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The teaser is going to be released on march 22 I see in my now-memories.

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Going over some incriminating things about Finn’s response to this question:

He had such an easy set up to just follow along and say something simple and nice about Mike & El’s relationship, like yeah they’ve definitely developed a really close bond over the years, they’ve been through so much and it’s really strengthened their relationship — he did actually start off saying something like “I mean I think they probably just got really [close?]” but cuts himself off and instead…

Finn starts rambling about how Mike was just a nerdy kid so romance wasn’t something he saw for himself, it “wasn’t even on [Mike’s] mind [in general]” but also “romance wasn’t even on his mind initially when he found El”, instead Finn compares it to finding an “alien” like in ET. Love at first sight? Lol, okay. He goes on to specifically emphasise how “as all the scariness kind of started to go away” (aka the “government conspiracy” stuff he mentions & also the UD stuff too by extension) is when it became “more about the relationship between them”, and I think he’s referring to s3 here because that’s when they actually start a relationship and all the supernatural/dangerous stuff slows to a stop, and how it then became…

…what he calls “that first love […]. That relationship is his first romantic feeling towards someone, it just comes after all the craziness he finds out about” - I don’t know why he kept pushing that point of his feelings not coming till later, after all the chaos he’d experienced? It really sounded like something specific he’d been told. Again, love at first sight? Lol. Anyway. “First love”. The Duffers have also used this label (or similar) to describe Mike & El before. It’s very indicative of innocence, childhood, and not being built to last. It implies that more loves are to come, and is usually used in a sort of nostalgic sense.

He reiterates that “going into season 5 they're definitely, you know, they're still a couple going into it” and how that’s all he can say, the extent of his response to the “how does Mike’s confession impact them” part of the question. Which is weird because….what is there to be secretive about? Why couldn’t he just say their relationship definitely plays a role in the next season, and it’s always great to work with Millie or something?? No, instead we get him emphasising how they’re a couple “going in” to s5, and it’s like okay yeah we all know that but what about going out of it? Or within? Such a weirdly evasive response for a couple that ended the last season with a “love monologue” that supposedly tied all their issues in a neat bow.