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The weaker sex

After being shouted at by yet another douche thinking they are somewhat superior, to, “Pick up that shit!” (Referring to my dog that was in the middle of doing her doggy business); it makes me think of how, just because we can have children, doesn’t mean we should.

*Gets ready for public pelting with rotten fruit and vegetable*

Today, I came across an article on a book called ‘Selfish, Shallow and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen writers on the decision to not have kids’ and it got me thinking about the subject again.  I take my hat off to people who can raise well balanced, intelligent and considerate children but in my every day life, I see a lot of grown children that seem to have lacked basic parenting.

Children are indeed a gift and having them is a privilege, not a primal right.  Unless you can provide for, to the best of your ability, their emotional; physical and intellectual needs; I don’t think children are for you.

It’s sad to see how women feel so liberated in our generation but yet are judged on whether they are womanly enough (a real woman!) unless they procreate.  I can’t speak for men, but would they too be tired of being judged as commitment-phobes or immature if they do not have children?

This leads me to the title of this entry, why do people (both men and women) feel it is their prerogative to judge and treat other women as fair game for criticism? Myself and my female partner in crime have both been harassed when walking the dog (it’s too hot, why is it wearing that collar - a training collar for the uninitiated, etc.) but yet, our male friends have never been privy to unsolicited ‘advice’.   Is it because we view women as weaker, both physically and mentally?  Do we view women as less intelligent and therefore it is our duty to point them in the right direction?  Do we feel women are less likely to put up a fight and therefore make good punchbags for sanctimonious egos? 

If I get this kind of grief for just walking a dog, I can only imagine what it could be like for mothers of children.  Perhaps it’s time to check our intentions before doling out that unsolicited advice, who are you really trying to benefit anyway?  Would you say the same thing if you were by yourself, not wearing a security blanket of the company of friends?  Perhaps we should all just mind our own business and keep our opinions (<-yes, that’s what they are) to ourselves.

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Planning to the millionth degree

Sometimes, when I’m feeling down or unhappy in my current situation; I like to plan holidays.  I like to plan them to the most minute detail.  Practical and fantastical at the same time.  What do you like to do to escape reality?