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The humble rat drawing

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To all my fellow wolf therians, *does this to you* (affectionate)

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Nobody is everybody.

Nowhere is everywhere.

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the waker

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Source: poeticalphotos

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A few nervous seals for your feed.

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Today is Mother's Day! I wanted to reach out to those who are no longer in contact with their mothers. I know this holiday can be hard for a lot of you, but I want to let you know that you deserved so much better and your choice to separate yourself from havoc is the most nurturing and motherly thing you could do for yourself.

I know the Mother's Day posts can be overwhelming so maybe take some time off from socials and do something that will make you smile or laugh even if it's for a few minutes. Eat your favorite snack. Watch a comfort film. Write in your journal. Hug yourself if you need to. Days like this can summon grief so if you need to cry that's okay too!

You made the right decision. I am so proud of you! And who knows? You could meet so many mother figures in the future who will give you the unconditional love you deserve. Or you could be your own mother figure. Or you could just let that idea of motherhood die. It's totally up to you. Do what makes you happy.

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“We’ve tried everything “ 🤥

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Oh my god it just clicked.

I didn't make the mask/identity that I needed to, in order to survive in my family.

They did. My family made it.

How do I know? Because the narcissistic abuse in my family was so extreme, that no one ever asked me for my thoughts and feelings on anything, ever. And when I expressed them, I was told to be quiet, I was ignored, invalidated, shamed.

The weird thing about learning all of that is I've come to see I exist in my family only as a collection of their own one sided stories that all contribute to "Fantasy Me".

I had to block everyone in my family because they were all regurgitating the same stories between each other, further re-enabling this identity of mine, and instead of coming to me to say something like,

"Hey are you okay? Do you want to tell me your side?"

They hear the stories of others, and take action against me. I never had a chance cos they built an idea around who I was; they weren't willing to own their own shit. And it's that constant action that has built my mask. I didn't make it.

They fuckin did.

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It’s Time to Go “No-Contact” with Your Mother

This is for you.

For the femme who has been receiving signs and signals to cut their mother off. For some of you, these signs have been going on since childhood.

You have a choice to make: continue to allow their energy & actions to negatively impact you (mentally & physically) which makes you their equal

OR

choose to respect yourself. Respect yourself by removing your presence from their lives.

You will feel uncomfortable, guilty but relieved.

The healing starts when you’ve stopped consuming toxicity (even listening to your (toxic) mother on the phone is consumption of toxicity)

Your absence is a form of accountability, something they’re not used to

Emotional detachment is a skill that will form or strengthen during the first year or so. It feels like wanting to release a child from punishment but you’re “standing your ground”. Parents act childish, therefore handle them with kid gloves.

You blossom into your womanhood without the input(or insults) of your mother.

Other family members expose their true colors during this time. Either taking their side or being inspired by your actions and going no-contact with their parents as well.

You’re able to empathize with them from afar.

Childhood memories, good and bad, resurface. Even if these memories are traumatic, now is the time to unpack them so you can understand your past (and current behaviors) a bit more.

Life becomes less…chaotic. Unstable. Scary (for those with paranoia mamas!). Literally as soon as you make that one & final step, your life becomes less “heavy”.

How to Go “No-Contact”

BLOCK!

This is a first & final step towards no-contact for many of you. All you have to do is cut communication and watch your peace of mind appear.

CHANGE OF ADDRESS

Move. Whether it’s out of their home or out of the country. They should have no idea where you live.

Do not give your address to anyone else (siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.). Set that boundary to avoid any inconveniences.

RESTRAINING ORDER

Sometimes it is that serious. If you’re able to, go to your local courthouse (or police department) and file a restraining order against your mother or parents.

Be honest with the judge and look for local organizations for services and a companion during the process.

SILENCE

I can confidently pay my mother dust without saying a word. I wish her a long healthy life but she is dead to me.

Take back your power by having the strength to solely rely on silence. That’s how you hit them where it really hurts: self reflection and consequences

Do not hesitate. Otherwise, you’ll wish you would’ve done so earlier!

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