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Polyamory. Is. Not. Just. About. Sex.

It can even not include sex at all. You can be the pickiest person who hates dating and still be polyamorous.

Being polyamorous is not always about wanting to have many partners, but is, probably more often than not, about the freedom to be able to. The freedom to be able to meet a human being and to be able to see where that connection naturally leads. The freedom to fall in love with someone else without having to make the decision to only be with one. The freedom to not watch while your heart breaks wondering “what if I could pursue this”

Please, just stop attributing it to sex.

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Let me just add some color to the wlw side of tumblr…

There’s one actress in this post who has played a queer character on three… not one not two, three different shows

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Not my posts but an interesting thought.

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Watch: Complaining about political correctness says more about you than it does others.

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“young adult dystopian novels are so unrealistic lmao like they always have some random teenage girl rising up to inspire the world to make change.”

a hero emerges 

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Breaking eye contact makes you a better conversationalist. 

Studies show people who are forced to maintain eye contact take longer to recall words than those who are allowed to take a break from the mental stimulation of staring into someone else’s eyes. Though maintaining eye contact is important for building emotional connections, looking away is key for having focused and productive conversations. 

(Source, Source 2)

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Not my posts but an interesting thought.

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“young adult dystopian novels are so unrealistic lmao like they always have some random teenage girl rising up to inspire the world to make change.”

a hero emerges 

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When your dad tries to guilt trip you into visiting him: “well I guess I’ll just spend the weekend all by myself...”

You say “glad to know we’re on the same page.” Slowly, he will have to adapt to just outright telling you what he thinks instead of playing mind games.

When your friend tries to hint that they’re mad at you without saying anything: “Oh, I’m fine, clearly you don’t need to worry about me,”

You say: “I’m glad you’re doing well. Call me if you want to talk, though!” Soon enough, they will accept that they can’t be passive aggressive with you.

When your boyfriend says: “All your friends are great, I really love *insert male friend* especially.”

You say: “I’m so glad you like my friends! I should invite them back soon.” He needs to understand that if he has a problem with your friends, he needs to just voice his concerns instead of being sarcastic and accusatory.

As someone who has lived through several toxic relationships and has an abusive father, I think one of the most important manipulation tools a toxic person has is excessive subtext and hidden meanings in their conversation. It hides all of the actual fighting from the eyes of onlookers while still hurting you, which is scary and makes you feel like you’re making it all up. Don’t put up with this bs. Make them stop hiding.

Make. Them. Say. What. They. Mean.

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The Lesbrary is Looking for More Lesbrarians!

Do you love reading queer women books? Feel like talking about them at least once a month? Want to be buried in an insurmountable pile of free bi & lesbian ebooks? Join the Lesbrary!

Once again, I am looking for more reviewers at the Lesbrary! You just have to commit to one review a month of any queer women book and in return you get forwarded all of the les/bi/etc ebooks sent to the Lesbrary for possible review. You also get access to the Lesbrary Edelweiss and Netgalley accounts, where you can request not-yet-released queer titles.

If you’re interested in joining the Lesbrary, send me an email at danikaellis at gmail with a sample of your writing. We���d love to have you on board!

(Any reblogs would also be appreciated!)

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You have to take a quiz before you’re allowed to leave a comment on the website NRKbeta. The Norwegian news site requires commenters to display a basic understanding of an article before they can give their opinion on it. The goal is to discourage uninformed “rant modes” and foster more productive, positive, and educated conversations among the readers. Source Source 2

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Guest edited by Janet Mock in honor of Womens History Month, our March issue marks the first time in almost three decades of publishing that Out features, is written by, photographed by, and styled by only women and nonbinary femmes.

Meet The Mothers and Daughters of the Movement, our cover story featuring the queer and trans women leading us towards our liberation on the frontlines of race, class, gender, and sexuality—from the ’60s until now.

“To sit at Miss Major Griffin-Gracy’s feet is a gift,” writes Janet Mock. “I’ve experience it firsthand.” Our March cover star—one of our fearless leaders—never stopped fighting for her girls.

Tourmaline isn’t just telling the stories of the women who came before her—she’s getting them placed in museums. Meet the artist-as-activist, profiled by Out Executive Editor Raquel Willis.

Barbara Smith’s life “has been a testament to radical Black love and sisterhood,” writes Janet Mock. “And I, along with millions of Black women, have been deeply affected by her contributions.” Get to know Smith, one of the movement’s first proud, out Black lesbians.

Alicia Garza is best known for gifting us the rallying cry #BlackLivesMatter, but her story is only just beginning. “It is undeniable that Alicia continues to set the tone for a more intersectional movement for Black Lives,” writes Raquel Willis.

“Fighting, for me, basically means demanding my humanity in the face of so many systems, institutions, and even individuals telling me I don’t deserve it,” says March cover star Charlene Carruthers. Now, the freedom fighter is amplifying her message.

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(via Queer Events:  Queer Community Flags)

The best roundup of all the flags in our LGBT2Q+ community.

Find it here: Queer Flags of our community

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Shoutout to all the queer family heroes

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Great Primer for Allies

via Queer Events : https://queerevents.ca/hubs/queer-101

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Everyone is gay!