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He Pays for What He Wants!

It’s just that simple…yet you give him options so that his fragile male ego doesn’t think you are backing him into a corner or being greedy. “Oh Honee, what do you mean? What the hell are you talking about today?” I’m so glad you asked ! Lol

Him: I like my women shaved, airstrip, etc down there.

You: Awesome! European Wax Center offers a great package where you buy 9 and get 3 free or you can pay monthly which is more expensive of course. Pretty much takes care of that for the entire year. They even offer ones for students! 

Would you like to add that to our monthly allowance or should I give you the number so that you can call and take care of the cost?

Him: I love a woman that can go from t-shirts and jeans to a nice sexy dress/evening gown and heels, etc.

You: I can definitely do that! I have plenty of jeans and tshirts in my wardrobe, however, I’d love a few new dresses/evening gowns that you’d love to see me in.

 Would you like to  set aside a shopping date to take care of that, add a shopping allowance, or buy directly from my wishlist?

Him: I love lingerie with a garter belt and stockings. Do you have any you can send me pictures in?

You: I’m so glad you asked! I was just looking at a few sets on the Agent Provocateur/ La Perla website that I really liked. Here’s the links to them, Check them out and let me know what you think (…checks out links tells you how much he’d love see you in them) I love that you and I have the same taste. 

Would you like to purchase them directly for me or purchase the gift-card so that I can purchase them myself?

Specific things that he wants should not come out of your agreed upon allowance. Find his most prized possession and compare the two if he ever tries you.

Example:

Him: Babe, doesn’t your allowance cover that?

You: Babe :( you know my allowance covers my necessities first. I love how you’re so manly about your desires that require a little more extra work on my part which is certainly not problem. It makes me feel great to make you happy. Kind of like when you bought your Porsche last week. You could have brought the regular manufactured one, but you also added the premium package, tinted windows, and better tires which cost a little more then you intended to spend.

 I’ve seen the happiness in your face when we ride in it.

 I’m not one to compare myself to cars because I can do things for you that your Porsche can’t :), but that wax is my premium package, tinted windows is that dress/shoes, and those new tires is my lingerie. 

Don’t you want to experience the happiness of all that too?

You’ll thank me for this long ass post later,

Honee

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Verify Him And His Company

He says his company of XYZ makes $2.9M in revenue a year? Verify.

Owler.com, Glassdoor, Business Insider, Linkedin. Even check out the society pages of where the business is located. All will verify if the business is legit and if he is legit. DO NOT BE SCAMMED BY THESE MEN. Any man can claim he runs a multi-million dollar company, but is that the truth?

If y'all have any websites to add, lmk!

La Reina

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HIM HAVING MONEY DOES NOT MEAN HE WILL BE GENEROUS.

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I’ve Said This Before And I’ll Say It Again!!

Since the sugar bowl has become so public its become saturated with salts!! That’s why I do my sugar dating the OLD FASHIONED WAY. THE ART OF FINESSE IS WHAT YOU MUST HAVE NATURALLY IN ORDER TO GET A REAL SUGAR DADDY WHO DOESN’T TREAT YOU LIKE A FUCK AND PAY SITUATION. 

The woman of previous generations did not have websites specifically for “arrangements” they created their own arrangements with what they had. Every wealthy man I’ve dated has been someone who truly saw me as A GIRLFRIEND! LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN, EVERY WEALTHY MAN I’ve DATED has been SOMEONE WHO TRULY saw me as a GIRLFRIEND. You have to gain a man’s trust to get into his pockets, its hard to get into the pockets of a thirsty older man making  $50,000 a year who thinks he can go on a website for “sugarbabies” and find a young 21 year old who is willing to do THE MOST for $500 a week. I will say there really are great SDs on SA and MM , but a majority are pure SALT.

I usually meet SDs out and about in the real world, but I have met some awesome men online and THEY HAVE NOT BEEN ON SD SITES. What I do is meet on regular dating sites, sites where members have to pay. I then only respond to messages of paying members and screen them ( check bio, occupation, etc). Through conversation I ask questions about their finances in an innocent way find out things like “do they live in a house?, what is their job title?, do they have kids?, are they divorced/ married? What do they do for fun? Where do they like to shop?. Once convo goes well I then test them by telling them to take me to a restaurant I know is EXPENSIVE ( If you do this MAKE SURE you have ENOUGH money in your pocket to pay for your meal if things go left, which more than likely they won’t :) ). Go to the date looking expensive! Girl even if you don’t have a Louis or Chanel Bag right now you can buy a REALLY good fake from many websites and Instagram accounts. Fake it until you make it  and it TAKES MONEY TO MAKE MONEY is my motto!  You must look look like you are used to expensive things, its all psychology. This man will be willing to do what you say and get what you want because he wants to SLEEP with you! The PUSSY is power and older men on regular dating sites with A LOT OF MONEY to burn will be like puddy in your hands if you FINESSE the right way. Ive gotten trips and money from men for months that never even saw me in person, you don’t have to SLEEP with these men to get what you want. You should only be giving your body to someone when you are comfortable in doing so not because you feel forced cuz this guy gave you $500 and you two have an “arrangement—-that’s rubbish.  You can also have a great connection with this person and learn A LOT from the.

Bottom line: If you’re in the bowl and you’re getting a bunch of salt you need to A. learn to finesse and B. let go of those “ sugar dating” sites they are truly for amateurs : no shade 

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No more Seeking Arrangement. It’s a Scam

I got to the point where I made my bio on my profile pretty blunt in what I was looking for. I got tired of getting PPM offers for $200. One man wanted to see me 6 times a month for $2,000. I’m sorry but $330 per meet is NOT gonna cut it. In my profile I had

“Lifestyle expectations- high

Rent for apartment

Shopping

Looking for that 1% of men who are serious”

I’m telling you. As blunt as I could get without putting my actual allowance numbers in there. It really helped weed out the salt daddies, and left me with very few who were real. I’d get 60 people viewing my profile in one day and about 6 who would message me. So this SHOWED me how many fake people were on this site. I decided to see how easy it was to create a fake account. So I logged out of my profile and created a fake sugar daddy account. I put my net worth and income over a million. Within 10 minutes of being online on this new profile I had 5 new messages from girls asking to meet me and that I’m the one. I was so shocked how easy it was. And sad to see how dangerous this could be for us babies.

Ladies more than half of these men on here lie about who they are, how much they make, and so much more. You NEVER know who you’re talking to. It’s so important to screen these men. I never give out my real number. I use google number. Before I text them, I always search their number using true caller. If their number doesn’t pop up on that I use “reverse lookup” if these men aren’t who they say they are you can report their number so the next person can get a ⚠️ warning! Ask for their name on their ID before meeting up. Never go to a hotel on the first date IDC, how much you guys clicked. You should leave him waiting for the next date.

I got so tired of cheap ass men requesting to see my pictures without even introducing themselves. I got tired of meeting up with men and then them telling me they couldn’t afford my allowance. I started talking allowance before meeting up to make sure we were on the same page. It saved me a lot more time. But then it really dawned on me… the rich daddies that I’m truly looking for aren’t going to be on these apps. They are out there smoking cigars and sleeping in 5 star hotels while I’m just trying to weed out the Splenda daddies on a site where that’s all there is. Until SA can start making it mandatory that men verify their income and background, I won’t be using it. It’s a waste of my time.

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Freestyle with a friend

I never advise for anyone to freestyle alone. For one, it screams escort. Whenever a young, beautiful, overly dressed woman of our caliber goes to a 5 star hotel to sit at the bar.. people know what’s up. For two, it’s not very safe. Especially at night. (Please always carry mace on you for some form of protection) Someone should always know where you’re at! Let’s be smart about our moves.

Make sure that you take a friend who’s not going to compete against you or try to steal your pot. (I’ve had this happen before with a crazy Russian girl.) DONT DRINK! The sex work industry is still a job, whether you’re a stripper, a sugar baby, or an escort. Just don’t drink on the job, it’s not very professional. You should always be aware of your surroundings at all times. Order a glass of wine at the beginning and take a few sips out of it. If a POT offers you another drink politely decline but continue the conversation. There is nothing worse than seeing a SB drunk while trying to land actual successful men. *Another tip: go out kind of early. Like 8:00 pm* I’ve noticed over some time that Thursday’s and Friday’s have been my best freestyling days but whenever I go out late like @ 10 pm I don’t have much luck. It’s because most daddies wake up early and go to sleep even earlier lol. Please dress classy. Leave the crop tops for the vanilla dating while out freestyling. I’ll do another post on what to wear! Absolutely no talk of “an arrangement.” Whenever you find someone you’re interested in focus on being cute and flirty while also landing his number.

If you get up to use the restroom make sure your friend stays behind to watch the drinks and vice versa or take your drinks with you. NEVER and I mean never, leave your drink of water or wine alone. Even if you’re not really drinking it. If you sip it and someone puts a date rape drug in there.. then you’re screwed. I have been followed before, stalked, I have a restraining order against one man. It’s a cruel world so please be safe out there.

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Ya’ll know what I love? Hoe Tips.

Look. Hoe Tips had me right all summer. Skin glowing. Hair flowing. Hydrated as fuck. 

Hoe: a term used to try and degrade an individual ( a woman) that is just living in their own freedoms of being sexually liberated. 

So because I was blessed with the tips, why not share the wealth?

Buckle up hoes, cause we gettin right ALL SUMMER 2018. 

1. Water. Water. Water. Water. Water. Drench yahself hoe. Thanks to the white man not believing in climate change, it’s getting real in these streets. We’re cooking eggs on the sidewalks. Bringing fans outside. You know what we’re not doing though? Dying of thirst. 

2. Exfoliate: face, lips, body. All dat. You will truly feel like a brand new person after you scrub all of that dead skin off of yourself. 

3. Keep a Hoe Bag on deck. What’s a hoe bag you may ask? A bag you keep on you that has all of your overnight necessities. This varies from person to person. Example (a few things I keep in my bag):

Clean underwear

Bottle of Water

Makeup Remover

Small toothbrush and toothpaste 

Simple outfit(maxi dress, romper, jumpsuit, etc)

Medications

Your Hoe Bag is particular to you. Whatever you need. Whatever makes you feel comfortable.

4. KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES. RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES. Let’s think of your very being, as your home. Now let’s say someone just comes in on some bullshit and starts throwing stuff all around your home. You gonna let somebody disrespect the house you pay rent in? Uh, I think the fuck not, so why do you let them do it to you? 

  If this is hard for you no worries darlin, grab a pen and paper and jot down what you do and don’t like.

Ex: I don’t like hugs like that, so when people reach in for a hug and I’m not really with it, I’ll reach out and dap em up. Now they know for further reference.

Enforcing these boundaries will of course take some time, but always hold true to YOU. 

This has been part 1 in my Hoe Tips series. You’ll see more throughout the rest of the summer. Hoe it up. 

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How to attract Happiness, Confidence,  and Self-Love:

Disclaimer: A couple months ago, I used to be in a very bad state of mind. I was struggling with depression, an eating disorder and very very low self esteem. I would see these sort of tips and automatically thought “bullshit”. But one day, I gave those tips a chance, and a promise you that my life is changing. I still have dark days and I’m not 100% happy, but I’m slowly getting there!

- Tip #1: Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you

Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Would you feel happy if someone walked up to you and told you “you are useless, you are ugly, etc…”? Obviously not, so why do you say these negative things to yourself?

-Tip #2: Stop saying negative comments about yourself 

Like tip #1, stop saying negative shit about you. Even if it’s ironic comments like “I want to kms” or “I look so fat all the time”. When you say those things, you subconscious mind absorbs it, and the horrible things that you are saying probably have a chance of becoming true if you keep saying and believing them.

-Tip #3: Say positive things about yourself, even if you feel ridiculous

Say positive things about yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself “wow i look hot”, “wow i’m so beautiful”, etc… And even if your surroundings try to bring you down, let’s say if your grandma tells you that you gained weight, reply with something like “what do you mean? I look beautiful and I have a perfectly healthy body, I’m beautiful, etc…”. Even if you feel ridiculous saying those things, your subconscious mind will absorb these facts and they will become true and you will end up believing in them and become confident! You can even write  down those positive comments. 

-Tip #4: Be thankful:

 Even if you feel like your life isn’t the best, try and still be thankful for the things you have. You don’t need to believe in God to be thankful. I don’t believe in God but I am still thankful for having a roof on top of my head, having food, access to water, a supportive family, etc.. You can write those things down if you want to.

-Tip #5: Have small goals everyday:

Every morning when you wake up, set at least 3 goals for the day. It can be the smallest goals, like: do 20 squats, or: drink a smoothie, or: make your bed. Whatever those goals may be, they will help you do something, get out of bed and feel like you accomplished something. The more smaller goals you achieve, the more you will be able to achieve you bigger goals in the future!

-Tip #6: Visualize what you want:

Visualize or write down the life you want. If you write it down, write in the present tense as if you already have everything and focus on your emotions and how these things make you feel. And while you do so, don’t think “I wish I had this life”, think: “I have this life and it makes me happy”. Once something is true in your brain and subconscious mind, it will become true physically. You will manifest what you want. (keep your goals realistic though)

-Tip #7: Spread positivity:

What you let out in the universe, you will get it back. The more compliments you give out, the more compliments you will receive. The more money or gifts you give out, the more you will receive. The more good vibes you give out, the more you will receive. However, the more negativity you give out, the more you will receive. 

-Tip #8: Live as if you already have your dream life.

Wanna be happy? Smile more, surround yourself with good people, get rid of all things, people, or habits that make you unhappy. 

Wanna lose/gain weight? Start buying clothes of the desired size you want to fit in.

Wanna have a partner/soulmate? Stop being desperate and living the stereotypical life of crying and eating ice cream in front of love movies, and start living your life as if you already have someone, but that someone is you. Once you stop focusing on that empty stop next to you and living life as if you already have everything you want, I promise you that you will attract someone.

Don’t become delusional, but basically, fake it till you make it. If you live as if you are confident, happy and that you love yourself, and that you represent your own goals, you WILL be the person you wanna be right now.

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gaslighting does not always involve them calling you “crazy”

sometimes gaslighting is you protesting over and over, and them saying “you don’t have to make such a big deal out of it”

sometimes it’s “i really tried my best with you, but clearly i couldn’t do it”

sometimes it’s “i would never do that to you”, “if you really asked me to stop, wouldn’t i have stopped?”, “i don’t know what i’d do if i ever hurt you”

“denying and rewriting your reality” is not a one-time conversation, either. it is a sneak attack, flying under the radar and taking you out, one communication at a time, never drawing all the attention at once.

it is not your fault that you never saw it coming.

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“Find your passion, learn how to add value to it, and commit to a lifetime of learning.”

— Ray Kurzweil (1948-) American writer and futurist. (via philosophicalconservatism)

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Men will lie to your fucking face to get you to fuck them (for free) and never call you back, but somehow I’m trash for making them pay to fuck me, right? 

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I am a magnet for money. Prosperity of every kind is drawn to me.

I delight in the financial security that is a constant in my life.

I am open and receptive to all the wealth in the Universe.

Money is an integral part of my life and is never away from me.

I delight in the financial security that is a constant in my life.

I am an unlimited being accepting from an unlimited source in an unlimited way.

Unexpected money simply falls into my lap.

I always have more than enough money to meet my needs.

My life is full of abundance.

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How to survive your first date with a POT

Cause lets be honest, it always feels like chore. 

1) Overdress just a tad. make sure you stand out wherever you are but don’t break out the formal attire for coffee either. Little black dress usually does the trick because its easy to dress up or down if necessary. 

2) Know what you want going into it and bring it up as soon as possible, he doesn’t have the time to waste and neither do you. 

3) Bring hygiene products like deodorant, perfume and gum to make it look and smell like you’ve got your shit together. 

4) Meet in a public place. 

5) Talk about your previous arrangements, even if you didn’t have one make something up, they’ll think/know that you’re experienced and you have the proper mindset. 

6) make sure you know what he’s looking for. This stuff is best to just get out of the way as soon as possible. 

7) Ask a lot of questions. Old men love to talk. 

8) Have an excuse to leave at a certain time. If things aren’t going well you get to leave, and you’ll seem busy which is always hot. 

9) If things go well use physical contact to tell him so. Graze his hand across the table, or hug him when you leave. 

10) Don’t whine, don’t slouch, don’t give him personal information. Just find out who he is, what he wants, if things will work out, and follow up accordingly. 

This is my first go at anything like this. I hope it could help in some way 

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My tactics

I go to upscale establishments and talk to wealthy man, like anyone else who freestyles.

Then, I present myself as a freelancer (which is true, but I don’t give them much details about my vanilla work) and pretend to be busier than I actually am.

When they bring up how busy I am, I tell them since I freelance, I don’t have steady paycheck or employer-sponsored healthcare or pension, nor will I have unemployment benefit when I can’t find work. I tell them I work a lot because I value financial stability.

If they offer to contribute to my financial stability, ding ding ding we have a winner. If they don’t, I use being busy as an excuse to stop seeing them.

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