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Is this actually a community wide or systemic problem or did you just meet one annoying guy

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wishing everyone a very good luck getting through january-march without killing yourself

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Trauma is not always gigahyperultra bad things that happen to people. What's traumatic to one person might not affect another person in the slightest. Trauma is individual to the person experiencing it. If you have memories of something traumatic that you have been told repeatedly can't be traumatic because its "too tame", this is your sign to start accepting that trauma

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The thing is that like “edgy humour” really is a GIANT red flag among young white men……you hear white boys making racist jokes all the time but people tend to brush it off and assume they’ll grow out of it or that they’re just going through a harmless edgy humour phase and like…..some of them might grow out of it but that’s not the POINT! They’re racist NOW! They’re spreading islamophobic ideas NOW and we brush it off because we assume they’ll grow out of it in the future but whether they do or not is irrelevant; they need to grow out of it Right. Now. Or more lives will be lost.

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Even people who are in favor of Luigi speak as if he did it, which is really bad too do.

The guy has an entire police force, city goverment, judicial system (judge who has major conflict of interest ect) and wealthy class members who abuse labor and lives of the impoverished; against him.

If you are in favor of him you still need to use "alleged" when speaking of him, because he is alleged to have done it.

A ruling has not been made.

Using alleged no matter the circumstance is very important, it prevents skewing of narrative or truth and prevents people from snap judgments.

We jump to conclusions and to the first thing we hear as being true, using alleged prevents false guilty verdicts.

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assuming things about people just by how they look & present is profiling. you really should be concerned about the amount of people who are willing to profile strangers that read as cishet men and cishet couples to them. it doesn't matter if someone "reads" as a cishet man or a cishet couple to you, making the assumption that they are (and that they're inherently dangerous because of it) is literally profiling strangers. if you don't want it done to you, don't do it to anyone else. profiling people does not keep you "safe", it makes you dangerous.

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reading progressive sex ed caricatures with accurate and detailed and realistic diagrams of sexual organs + shows their variation, but all i can think about is how there is no discussion of what srs is besides the fact that it exists

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can the online lesbian please stop treating butches like we're walking strap ons.

for years now i've had to avoid the butch lesbian tag on here because 80% of the posts are people yearning about a butch's strap on, or something else about a butch fucking them. it's fine and normal and healthy to express lesbian sexuality. being attracted to butches is good and fine, and yea of course its hot when a butch wears a strap. like duh

but when all i see people talk about is our straps (never our penises, only strap), or fantasizing about how big and strong we are, or all the things we could physically do to them, how we would be their Big Strong Butch and provide for them and take care of them and make it so that they don't have to go to work... it makes me wonder if people see us as. people. or if we're just walking workhorses and sex toys.

like, are you gonna be there for your butch in a way that doesn't involve sex when they're having a bad day? are you gonna be there to listen when they discuss butchphobia? are you gonna help them bring in their groceries because they're physically disabled and can't be strong for you? are you going to defend them when they lock up in an anxiety attack while they're being misgendered? are you going to be there to reassure them that they're still butch no matter what anyone else says? are you going to be accepting when they come out as trans, genderqueer, non binary, or another gender? are you going to treat intersex butches with dignity and respect and not immediately default to misgendering us?

are you going to be there to help them domestically? are you going to be there to help drive them to work, class or shopping because they're too disabled to drive? are you going to care about them as a person if they become too disabled to have sex anymore, experience reproductive health issues, or lose interest in sex? are you going to be normal about them telling you they're asexual? are you going to focus solely on their appearance? are you going to be normal about them being fat? are you going to listen to them when they talk about their interests? are you going to be the one that cuddles them when they wake up from a PTSD nightmare drenched in sweat and addled with fear?

or are we just walking sex toys? it's bad enough that none of the online lesbian community acknowledges that some lesbians have their own penis. god forbid a biopenis shows up. rubber dicks? a-okay. flesh and blood penis? THREAT! if folks are fiending so hard for dick, why's it gotta be a dildo? you really can't accept a butch that has a penis, whether they were born with it or got bottom surgery? you want a penis on the butch soooooooooooo bad but it has to be silicone? really? you're really gonna throw all the lesbians with dicks out despite how horny you are? what's the double standard here about? is it really that hard to treat butches like people? are we really just play things that don't have feelings to the uninitiated?

this shit's a joke. treat butches better. don't be like this. we're people. we're not walking (fake) dicks.

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Don't know who needs to hear this but the human soul is not located in the; dick, clit, pronouns, pussy, prostate, presentation of gender, pants, skirts, chromosomes, or hormones.

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it sucks so bad that on top of everything else going on i’m 5’3

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Texas is still the only state in the USA that has clinics with comprehensive Healthcare for intersex people btw. All yall "let's abandon Texas and Florida" bitches don't have half the backbone of queers living in those states fighting for queer rights

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Vaguely remember skimming this post that was meant to 'explain' the lack of trans men in history and it was like 'they all went off and lived happily in rural farms without anyone finding out they were trans.'

And it just read like a parent telling you that your pet didn't die they went to a beautiful farm with lots of other soft cuddly kittens.

Like no, the reason why there was a lack of trans men is because they got put in 'crazy woman' facilities, got married off young to abusive husbands, got lobotomies, never had a chance to exist in public life as anything but an extension of their husbands, were drugged into submission, usually unable to legally leave even if they somehow got the money while being unable to work or have a bank account.

Thats the reason there was a lack of trans men.

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sometimes you just want to look at the qing dynasty jadeite cabbage again

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It confuses me how normalized it is to be so anti human. The fact that two countries voted no to food being a human right. The fact so many people are against universal healthcare. The fact that it’s normal to believe some people don’t deserve housing because they’re poor, addicts, mentally ill, or any combination of the above. I find it so hard to comprehend that humans who have experienced hunger, thirst, cold, and illness would wish these things upon others, or at the very least not care. It frustrates me beyond belief.

These are the exact values we’re taught as children, to believe all humans are equal in worth and needs, and yet at some point you’re expected to grow out of that illusion. You’re expected to accept that this is what life’s like, that the world is unfair, and attempting to fix it makes you weak and childish.

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