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i don't like how queerness has been mainstreamed and commercialised. even the ballroom scene. like what happened

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Things about boobs that everyone should know

Because I just keep finding out people don't know these things!

Most boobs "sag."

Actually, on that note: very very few people have the stereotypically perfect breasts that are round and perky and don't touch your ribcage/belly. Here is an entire gallery of non-sexualized, perfectly normal breasts. Here is another one, but in one image. There's an incredible range of size and shape!

Also related: very few people fit those molded foam-cup bras. Because very few people have a boob that shape. "Then why are those kinds of bras everywhere??" Because they're cheap to make and they hide your nipples.

Your "armpit fat" is probably not armpit fat. It is probably your tail of spence, and you have lymph nodes there. Some people have a bigger or smaller tail of spence, and it has very little to do with how fat you are or how big your boobs are. (Some bras can press on it or pinch it uncomfortably, like balconettes.)

When you lie on your back, your boobs will go into your armpits. That is true of EVERYONE WITH BOOBS, with the exception of some implants. Boobs are squishy! This also means that like, lying on your side will cause them to flop over. If that's uncomfortable when you're trying to sleep, there is such a thing as "sleep bras."

Lots of people's boobs get bigger and/or painful before their period starts. Some people gain an entire cup size every month.

Whether or not you wear bras has no effect on "sagging." The one "study" on this that was written about everywhere extremely badly done. The one exception: If you do the kind of exercise that has you jumping around/jogging a lot, and you don't wear a supportive-enough bra, it's possible you can injure the cooper's ligaments. But also: that would hurt, a lot.

Bras also have no effect on whether you get breast cancer.

Everyone has one boob that's bigger than the other. It's just a matter of degree.

The size of your boobs has nothing to do with whether or not you've had sex???? I'm stunned that there are people that believe this, but I've heard multiple people say they had relatives who absolutely believed this--refused to buy teenagers the correct size bra because "only sluts wear D-cups," or insisted a thirteen-year-old was "fast" because of breast growth during puberty...good lord.

It's possible for AMAB people to breast-feed--they have the same mammary glands AFAB people do! Some hormonal issues can cause people (both AFAB and AMAB) who haven't given birth to lactate, but also there's a few cases where transgender women have been given the same hormones that AFAB people's bodies make during pregnancy/lactation, and voila! Breast milk!

(I very intentionally didn't go into bra sizing with this post, but yes, if you hate your bras, you are probably wearing the wrong size and/or style for you. That's a much more finicky topic though, so I'm just going to point out that the letter doesn't mean anything about boob size by itself, D isn't big, and Victoria's Secret's "fittings" are garbage. For more info, go to the subreddit for r/abrathatfits, or try their size calculator.)

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in case anyone else needs to hear this it’s ok to be more serious. i don’t just mean ‘it’s ok to be serious sometimes’ i mean in general. not everyone has to be funny. it doesn’t have to mean you’re sad or unlikeable. you can just be serious and genuine most of the time and that’s great. i personally think that we’re too focused on ‘funny’ as the primary carrier of likeability right now. i often feel starved for serious conversation, for serious spaces, for a feeling of gravity. you don’t have make good jokes to give people a good time. i say, goof only as the spirit moves you, & don’t worry about it. 

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i wish ppl on this website, and within leftist circles in general, were a little less gung ho about making jokes or statements like "billionaires arent people" "nazis arent people" "police arent people"

there is no level of evil where a human stops being a human. if you decide to kill them for their crimes, then you are killing a human. and sometimes that is justified! oil execs and war profiteers have destroyed countless lives in service of their own sick greed, and given the chance to enact that same violence on them, id probably pop their heads like a pimple.

but it is important that we do not shy away from the reality of that choice. it is a human life that is being ended. a person with interiority, feelings, family.

if we stop considering any group as people, even a group defined by their own evil actions, then we are drawing a line to divide society into persons and non-persons, and stating that those non-persons do not deserve to live.

i hope i dont need to explain why that is a dangerous position to take.

these people and all of their evil, their greed, their hatred, are just as much a part of humanity as art, culture, language, food. they are a part of us that has grown malignant and cancerous, and like a cancer, they must be excised for the sake of the whole--but they are still a part of us, made of the same stuff as us, down to their cores.

evil humans are still humans.

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When I say I'm anti psychiatry, I'm not trying to take away your right to choose to rely on the psychiatric label, the psych medications or the therapy that genuinely helps you. I don't think you're wrong about it helping you either. I'm not anti you relying on tools based in psychiatry if they help. What I am against is capitalism forcing these treatments on people as universal solutions to completely individual problems while rejecting valid criticisms of coerced and forced treatment, bad science, serious medication side effects and therapy approaches that don't actually help everyone. I am attacking a system ripe with abuse and ableist, bigoted, capitalist ideology, but I am not saying that you shouldn't be allowed to use any of the tools based in it for yourself in a context where it's actually a free choice not being forced onto you as a universal solution by an authority

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hmmm…pretty sure one of these is not quite like the others

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love the word lackluster. well it sucks because it’s not shiny

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(unmasked voice) if trump wins i’m going to start building community locally and going to protests and firebombing walmarts. …why am i not wearing a mask? well the government said i dont have to and people might judge me :(

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the whole transmasc vs transfem discourse is so fucking online and it hurts me brain to see

I am transmasc and know many many many many transfems offline. want to know how many I've had a problem with?

Zero.

we've done nothing but uplift each other and fight for each other. some of you guys have a serious case of online. get back in touch with reality please. yes, we are still a unified community. a small group of people online playing CIA operative trying to divide the community does not reflect what the community is actually like in real, offline spaces.

I am smacking you with a broom. stop it.

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it's not useful to think "I should've transitioned X years ago, when there was still time before all Y happened", is it

fuck no. hell no. that is the fucking devil talking. you had to do everything you did to arrive at this moment. start your transition, move forward, don't look back. i love you and there is always still time -- and not just time, but enough time to be worth it. i promise. i promise on the beat of my fucking heart. you are exactly on time. welcome. we are so, so glad you made it. i love you.

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if there’s one thing about me it’s that while I do not really resonate with being a “man” I absolutely love like… boyishness. collective masculine terms. “boys” “lads” “gentlemen” that’s where it’s at. gender me like you’re an irritable 18th century sergeant addressing his men

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when i say community

i mean staying with the victims of violence until the emts get there

i mean not letting the cops get them alone even though you just met

i mean carrying around extra pain and allergy meds not just for yourself, but in case anyone else needs them too

i mean giving them to anyone regardless of if you actually like them as a person

i mean password sharing and spreading links to your favorite pirating site

i mean helping that stranger set up a workaround for their broken computer

i mean helping them understand the weird ass language in a job application

i mean helping people understanding medical information when their doctors did a bad job

i mean letting someone sleep on your couch so they don't have to go home

i mean checking if people have rides home

i mean "text me so i know youre safe when you get home"

i mean "have you eaten today"

i mean "have you eaten enough today"

i mean "what do you want, i'm buying tonight"

i mean "hey does anyone have experience with this med, my doctor wants to put me on it but i'm not sure"

i mean "here's a zine on going off of psych meds with minimal risk"

i mean "hey you weren't at the show tonight, are you doing ok?"

i mean "i have a spare room if you ever need it"

i mean "i'm here, i promise i'm here"

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a lot of people say twink bc they want to say faggot. and they don't even necessarily realize. but they do

pro tip, if you're using twink to mean:

- loser

- effeminate in a negative way

- weak

- pathetic

- annoying

you are probably being homophobic and probably just using it as a free pass alternative for gay or faggot. you're not slick it's not okay and you need to think about your words more. you're not immune to doing this if you're queer either I've seen a LOT of people doing this all across the sexuality labels.

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ok well this blew my mind

This is also true with filmmakers. Western filmmakers pan their cameras mostly left to right and Iranian filmmakers do right to left.

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