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I feel like I have to also clear up that no you do not have to burn yourself out for this. Do what you can, even if that just means taking care of yourself. I'm saying to push for real change IF YOU ARE ABLE TO, meaning if you have the mental energy/are in a good mental state and it won't fuck you up too much.

Not to be that guy but it is NOT enough to just sit in front of your computer and rest because Trump's executive orders aren't enforceable yet.

Look at how you can push your local government to not comply. RESIST RESIST RESIST. Find a local activism group near you and see how you can help. If they don't seem like a good fit for you at the very least you might be able to find other groups through them. There's usually a role for disabled people as well, if that's what you're concerned about. Organize shit yourself if that's what it comes down to.

This is stuff I've been doing lately and I've found that it helps lessen the panic I feel when I think about everything happening, because I'm actively working to stop it. And yes it's an uphill battle but I'd rather not just let shit happen.

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I'm an East Asian (Chinese) trans man living in the US. Outside of "good at math, bad at driving" stereotypes and the squinty eye thing, I have NEVER seen anyone acknowledge racism toward East Asians before the pandemic.

Then when the pandemic hit, and anyone who looked Chinese was getting attacked, it took THREE FUCKING MONTHS of attacks before people started making noise about it and doing the StopAsianHate thing. They designated an AAPI Heritage Month but I at the time felt, and in a way somewhat still do, that the whole thing was/is performative as fuck.

I have always felt that any racism toward us was treated as a lesser issue, or not a real problem, because "we don't face violence from the police". Maybe not. But we're fetishized, and seen as less masculine, and seen as less likely to be leaders, and treated as foreigners even if we were born here.

Slightly off topic I made an entire (very ranty, possibly some inaccuracies??) post actually about the intersection/similarity of racism against East Asians and transandrophobia here because I have noticed that they're VERY similar.

I'm half convinced that most people do not think about east asian people in their activism. Like at all. So being east Asian and trans* (and I say east Asian because I know that south-east Asian/south Asian people experience different things then I do) people (even those in our community) just don't think about us at all and it is very frusturating.

very true, i think a lot of people of color are completely left out. it's not right for anyone to be excluded for any reason. i do believe a lot of people are dealing with internalized racism & sinophobia. i think a lot of people are scared of certain Asian countries and as such don't really care about the feelings and lives of east Asian people of any kind. the way Americans view Asian people is horrible.

now that i think about it, i do agree. i very, VERY rarely see any kind of east asian representation at all. i think racist white people assume the politics aren't progressive enough for queer people to be accepted there, or something along those lines. which, we are seeing changes in real time in many asian countries and that's huge. i love finding out when queer rights take a huge step forward in other countries. but im also very interested in elarning about the specific struggles people in other parts of the world face

i'm USAmerican. i only know my experience. i'm mixed race, but i am not asian. i cannot and should not speak for you or anyone else, but what i can do is give you a platform to speak and spread your thoughts, and if you'd like to do so, feel free, because i also accept messages of other queer people telling their stories from their own perspective. i am always happy to hear from people in other parts of the world. i only know what it's like where i live. but i can help you shed light on what it's like where you live, and i hope that helps somewhat. you deserve to have your voice heard. you have rights too. you're a person, too

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I want you to remember:

The fascists hate you too and they just will pretend otherwise until after they've killed the rest of us, before they turn on you.

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Hope OP doesn't mind that I add this on but I'm also a trans man with a very deep voice, but I got really fucking lucky with my genetics (and have been fortunate enough to be able to access T) in that not only do I have a deep voice, I also DON'T have "tranny voice". To be clear this is not me bragging, I'm saying this because I want to point out that even if you get T it's a genetic luck thing. That, and I want to confirm OP's point about "tranny voice", I'm unfortunately very in tune to it and can hear it almost every time. I try not to assume/clock people based off that because there are definitely cis guys that just sound like that but it is something I tend to pick up on.

I also want to point out that I'm about 5'5, and probably the only reason my height isn't questioned, outside out of not being that short in the grand scheme of things, is that I'm East Asian. Maybe it's just me but I feel like it's easier to get away with being under 5'9 and pass if you're of a race/ethnicity that is stereotyped as short, mostly East Asian and Latino. Not to say any of us have an easier time passing, just something that might factor in.

"it's easy for trans men to pass, whereas it's harder for trans women to pass"

and if i'm 5'0"? if my facial features are soft and "baby"-ish? if the deepest voice i can reach isn't deep enough? if i can't afford a haircut? if i cannot obtain testosterone?

even if i did pass, i would look like a 12 year old boy. i am 18 and i am already treated as a 12 year old *girl*, and contrary to popular belief that is not something that i want or enjoy.

literally though. you're right and you should say it. thank you for stopping by to send this message. i'm sorry you are dealing with this but you are not alone. trans men and boys struggle to pass just as hard as any other trans person. we do not magically somehow pass better because we stopped wearing makeup and women's clothing.

i'm not letting people say this anymore. it's not easier for trans men to pass. not at all. many trans men are short, as you mentioned. height plays a massive role in how people interpret men. if you're really short people will start questioning if you're "Actually a girl".

the #1 thing that people completely avoid and forget about when it comes to this argument is voices. i'm bolding this because y'all really need to understand that just because you quite literally cannot hear a trans man's voice does not mean that other people can't. many trans men have very light, soft or high p itched voices and may not be able to easily lower the tone of their voice. it's very hard to speak with a deep voice for many people without testosterone. you can't assume that all trans men have deep booming voices- remember tranny voice? remember how people mock trans men and transmascs for "sounding like a tranny" because their voices may be higher pitched or softer than cis mens? remember that time where everyone was calling us trannies, but then now we can't call ourselves that because somehow, tranny somehow doesn't apply to us ... ?

YES i know it's hard to raise a very deep voice. i HAVE a very deep voice, and i understand that trans women and transfemmes and other people with naturally deep voices struggle with this, too, but people just straight up ignore that it is equally as hard for trans men, mascs and other queer people with high pitched voices to be gendered correctly and pass. voices are usually what give trans people away on ALL fronts and sides. no matter what. it affects trans men and mascs too. people are RUTHLESS if they hear you have a "girl's voice"

trans men and mascs struggle greatly with passing, too. it's not easy. like you said, not everyone can afford haircuts. not every transmasc or trans man wants one. some have large breasts or wide hips. some can't afford binders or packers. some can't hide their curves. some don't like wearing masculine clothing. some don't like trying to make their voice sound deeper. some will just never be able to pass and it's not their fault. a lot of trans men struggle to pass. we have to stop pretending it's easy and effortless for trans men to pass. it's not.

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No, what we SHOULD do is teach people to read

I'm not sure how helpful this site is but it's better than nothing, it's a site with links to free sites that teach adults, including some that are inclusive of non-native English speakers, how to read

If the government isn't going to do shit let's do it ourselves.

https://x.com/StrangerJosh11/status/1856410822983201030

It’s dire out here

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Not to be that guy but it is NOT enough to just sit in front of your computer and rest because Trump's executive orders aren't enforceable yet.

Look at how you can push your local government to not comply. RESIST RESIST RESIST. Find a local activism group near you and see how you can help. If they don't seem like a good fit for you at the very least you might be able to find other groups through them. There's usually a role for disabled people as well, if that's what you're concerned about. Organize shit yourself if that's what it comes down to.

This is stuff I've been doing lately and I've found that it helps lessen the panic I feel when I think about everything happening, because I'm actively working to stop it. And yes it's an uphill battle but I'd rather not just let shit happen.

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This fr. I'm not self flagellating for none of y'all. If you're scared of my masculinity that's not my fucking problem.

genuinely have had numerous people tell me that as a trans man i'm "a men's rights activist invading trans spaces".

so many people legitimately do not see trans men as trans.

i need people to understand that so many people for some reason have the idea that trans = feminine or woman. it's a real issue.

how are trans men invading trans spaces? this is where we live. and of course we're gonna advocate for our own rights. why wouldn't we? we don't exist to self flagellate because the idea of transsexual and transgender manhood and masculinity frightens you. i'm a trans man. i'm trans. i'm not invading my own community.

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Well fucks? Get to it!

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I cannot put into words how strongly the lyric "They try to paint us as a villain guess it's time to play the part" resonates with me

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horniest post i'm gonna make on this blog (for now):

i have large thighs that are almost all muscle and i don't skip leg day

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looked in the transandrophobia tag for the first time in a very long time and was immediately reminded why i actively choose to focus on the gym instead of. all that

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Perfect summary of the current makeup of the transandrophobes:

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"sleep is good for gains and for getting to the gym early in the morning" i tell myself, as i resist the urge to pull another all nighter playing baldur's gate 3 for 10 hours straight

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Yes, I am aware of the issue of the queer community forcing masculine/masculine presenting people into the protector role when it's not something they can or want to take on, and yes I agree that masculine/masculine presenting people should be allowed to be vulnerable and need/want protection just as much as their feminine and neutral counterparts.

That being said. I am also going feral at the idea of being a cute guy's formidable beast of a loyal, will always jump to his defense guard dog.

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Did not expect to hit arm day PRs lmao

30 lbs bicep curl (30 lbs each arm) for 7 reps

40 lbs shoulder press (40 lbs each arm) for 10 reps

I don't typically track these because the typical big 3 of lifts is bench, squat, deadlift but shit a win is a win, and for each of these exercises that's the heaviest I've done ever

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Hey, PSA for younger/newer transmascs:

Tumblr has been showing targeted ads for "FTM binders" off Amazon. They look like this:

Do not buy these.

A binder is a piece of medical equipment. If you use one incorrectly, or use a poorly made one, you can really fuck up your ribs. This article from the Cleveland Clinic talks about how to bind safely.

A $14 binder is guaranteed not to be safe. There's a reason reputable companies charge more- sometimes a lot more. They have to carefully design binders so they don't crush your ribs or make you sick.

You know how everyone says Don't Bind With Duct Tape? Don't bind with Amazon binders.

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I did a 245 lb deadlift but the bar rolled in a really skewed way after I put it down does that count lmao

I think it does bc I did stand all the way up and hold it + was trying to put it down on top of plates I laid out so I could take the plates off easier