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Yall ever feel like you’re finally happy but you’re still not where you wanna be?

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Common Marlon Wayans W

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I’ve been waiting a year to post this

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A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.

His response: "No, it's my name now."

I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.

Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.

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where's that picture that ruined my life

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The original pride flag and the sewing machine it was sewn on

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I’m getting married soon. And I will not have one shred of family there because the only reason family I had died in 2014. I’m just done with them. And I don’t want to see them ever again or have to try and deal with any of that bc I just….idk. I just can’t. They never cared about me the way the were supposed to and even if they are capable I’m not willing to wait and find out and get hurt a couple dozen more times. At the least. But it sucks that none of them made it to see me do anything positive. Bc they didn’t help me when they could’ve. Just been there. But it’s okay. I don’t need them. Haven’t for awhile. But sometimes I still wish I had a family like other people do. But it’s okay. I’m gonna make one.

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Shit this got me out here cryin in the club

TERFS do not interact

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homophobes are so weird why are you thinking about gay people while proposing?

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who was the mf who decided that eyes and teeth shouldnt be part of healthcare. id like a word

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”boys will be boys” yeah boys will be pinned down and fucked while being told what a fucking slut they are for wanting this

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See also, "We're in a drought; conserve water!" Meanwhile, bottled water companies and golf courses for rich folk empty the aquifers.

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I don’t want to fight anymore. I just want to lay down and let the demons eat my flesh and tear out my soul. I can’t do it anymore. Working hard doesn’t get me anywhere. Being a fuckstick doesn’t either. Nothing moves me in the direction I want to go in no matter how hard I try. Or let go. Or do what others suggest. Nothing has worked and I’m convinced it never will work. That I’m somehow unworthy of the things I need. That other people deserve things more than me simply because they do. And idk what else to think about any of it. I’m tired. And I’m broken. And I can’t fight anymore. I don’t want to. And I won’t. It’s not worth it.

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The number one cause of death in pregnant women is murder. Think About That.

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Personally, we're really not bothered by the occasional quip of "men are trash" or "I hate men" or whatever. We recognize that they come from a place of trauma and genuine expression of frustration. We fully believe people are allowed to express their pain in imperfect ways.

What we take issue with is repeated patterns of behavior in which men are treated as inherently more dangerous or untrustworthy than any other gender. Keep in mind, that this is different than pointing out common behaviors of misogyny from men, that stems from being raised in a patriarchal society.

I'm talking specifically about the rhetoric that posits that men are innately and irrevocably more violent or bigoted. This is gender esssntialism. This is what we are talking about when we bring up people who treat men badly on the basis of their gender. Treating real human beings as if their gender is just some curse that poisons their entire being.

This phenomenon overlaps very strongly with other forms of bigotry. Black men being treated as dangerous thugs - yes, because they're Black, but also specifically because they're Black men. Their masculinity is seen as violent and unsafe, and gender essentialism is weaponized against them more violently because of how it overlaps with racism.

When trans men come out, and are told that taking testosterone will make us angry, aggressive, and most importantly - ugly and infertile. When we experience corrective rape, have our life saving medications taken away from us. This is gender essentialism, overlapping with transphobia and misogyny. It's not just that we're transitioning, it's specifically that our masculinity is treated as more unsafe, more untrustworthy, more vile, because we're trans men.

And this does absolutely start with the way we treat cis men. Dehumanizing cis men on the basis of their gender, will inevitably lead to you dehumanizing marginalized men. You will contribute to the marginalization of men of color and trans men. You will actively contribute to racism and transphobia, because the oppression that we experience is intertwined with that same gender essentialism.

This is what intersectionality is. You cannot perpetuate gender essentialism and expect it not to have broader impacts on other marginalized groups. Because these forms of oppression intersect! They can't be separated from each other. You can't seperate the harm that Black men experience from the idea that men are inherently dangerous. You can't seperate the harm that trans men experience from the idea that testosterone makes you violent. Your ideas about men do not exist in a vacuum.

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The transmasc experience is growing up as a little girl, constantly being told to sit down and shut up, that we're just overly dramatic and hysterical. Then when we transition we get told to sit down and shut up, that we're overly dramatic and hysterical, and not actually oppressed and in fact are privileged! Nothing has fucking changed, in fact it's even worse now than it's ever been!