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a denied girl is a docile girl

For years, I gave myself orgasms whenever I wanted. For years, if I asked to masturbate, he was guaranteed to say yes. The important thing was asking permission, not having my orgasms restricted.

That’s not how we do things anymore.

In recent months, we’ve gradually shifted to stricter orgasm control. He’s more likely to say no than to say yes. Orgasms are earned. If I’ve just finished menstruating and am feeling extra horny as a result, it’s unlikely that I’ll be allowed to cum for at least another 3-5 days. 10 days is the absolute max that I can be denied before it stops being fun for either of us, but 5-8 days is typically the range in which he likes to make me suffer.

We’ve discovered that I react to a period of denial in interesting ways.

Unsurprisingly, it makes me needier. I’m always aching and frequently wet. I have conditioned my body for instant relief, so even a day of denial leaves me bucking against the hand he slips between my thighs, desperate for sensation.

But the sexual frustration also makes me soft. Receptive. Floaty. I sink deeper into a submissive headspace. Everything is yes, sir and no, sir. I feel ready and willing for him to use me or hurt me. I told him the other night that it feels like I’m not thinking with my brain anymore, but with my pussy. I called it my ‘yes daddy, whatever you want, daddy’ headspace. 

I’ve realized this:

In a period of denial, my most intense need is not to cum, but to serve.

Today marks my ninth day without an orgasm. He says I can cum tonight, after I’ve cooked him dinner and he’s beaten me and fucked me. In the meantime, he’s been pinching my nipples, spanking me and choking me when he pleases. He’s been slapping my throbbing pussy and then sticking his fingers inside of me. And I’ve just taken it, happily. Eagerly.

I didn’t think I’d be able to bear losing my orgasms, not even briefly. I wasn’t sure that I could surrender that freedom. After actually experiencing the denial, though, I’ve realized that while the orgasms fulfill a physical need, I don’t actually crave them in the same way that I crave his control. The desire for his dominance has become stronger than my desire to cum, and the longer that I am denied, the more submissive I feel.

I am so unbelievably content in this docile headspace. I’ve accepted that in order to get here, I need to suffer a little. I need to let go of what I think I need and lean into what feels right. 

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Benevolent Sexism

Benevolently sexist attitudes suggest that girls are purer and nicer than Men, but also mentally weaker and less capable. Behaviors that illustrate benevolent sexism include overhelping girls (implying they cannot do something themselves and need Men to help them out), using diminutive names (like “sweetie” or "sweetheart" ) towards the weaker sex, or ‘talking down’ to girls, or ‘Mansplaining,’ (implying they cannot understand something simple and need things spelled out for them) by lowering yourself down to their perceived intellectual or mental level in order not to confuse them.

Benevolent sexism is positive and should be encouraged to help out the weaker sex.

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Trad Husbands

Traditional Husbands also have a huge part to play in a traditional marriage, although it’s not acknowledged by many of traditional individuals. So here’s a small list of the traditional husbands duties :

Make your wife feel protected, whether she’s with you or not.

Do the heavy lifting and fixing jobs around the house for your wife.

Always greet your wife with a kiss

Set an example to your daughter/s what a boyfriend should be like, and your sons how they should treat women.

Always bring gifts back from long work trips to show your loyalty and appreciation.

Make sure to remind your wife that you love her by taking her on dates, saying “i love you” frequently and holding her when she needs it.

Cater to her emotional and physical needs, like she does for you.

Give her days or time off, especially during pregnancy, birthdays and holidays in general.

This relationship is a balance, she looks good for you so make sure you’re hygienic and groomed for her.

Assure her consistently that she and her kids are completely provided for and protected as long as you live.

Support her in everything she does.

Women are a lot more emotional then their male counterparts so approach arguments and conflicts with caution and care.

Make sure you understand her boundaries and what she considers wrong etc, otherwise you’ll run into many arguments ( and obviously abide by these boundaries ).

Never talk badly to others about your wife. Even to your own parents and children.

This list isn’t all the duties of a traditional working husband, just a small guide. Although men and women aren’t equals, within a relationship it’s a balance. We have to work toward that balance by showing we have equal yet opposing duties.

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Little things you can do to please your Man.

▪Do what you’re told the first time without arguing or talking back. Men work hard & the last thing they want to do is spend energy arguing with you when your duty is to obey without hesitation. ▪Pay close attention to the little things they like and surprise them with small, but thoughtful gifts that come from the heart. Men deserve to be pampered and appreciated, too. ▪Devote all of your attention to them when they are speaking, to you and others & always give them the proper respect they deserve by actually listening & showing them you actually care about what they’re saying. Men want a woman who can show their devotion and worship in all matters of the relationship, not just sexually. ▪Always be sure to look your best for them, taking special care to wear their favorite colors, styles of lingerie or jewelry they have picked out for you. Men like to see signs of their ownership and possession on their property. ▪Surprise them often by dropping to your knees and sucking their cock without being prompted, asked or told. Suck their cock after a long day of work, in the evening before you serve them dinner or in the morning when they first wake up. Men love when a woman genuinely loves to please them and will do so all on their own.

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You can't be obedient only when you feel like it or only when it suits you. If you promise Him your obedience then give Him your obedience. Always.

This is the foundation of being kept when a Man deems you good enough

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tasks for dumb little sluts ♥

wanna be a good little slut and do some tasks? me too!! here are some things you can do in your spare time to keep being a good girl.

put a gag in and drool. dumb cunts don't need to speak!! train yourself to be gagged and drooling all over your tits. my favourite way to do this is to drink some lemonade and then put an o-ring gag in. the sour lemonade like makes your mouth salivate more!! d

pavlov your nipples. any time you feel dumb, anytime you do something stupid or make a mistake, rub your nipples!! pinch them, twist them, etc!! do it through your shirt or underneath. eventually you'll learn to associate being dumb with pleasure and your tits will beg you to touch them.

train your asshole. men love to use your asshole, so be sure to train it and keep it nice and clean. good girl!

shave and moisturize your body. remember to keep yourself nice and hairless so men can see that needy cunt!! when there's no hair, being wet makes more of a mess. it's prettier too!

look at men's bulges. remind yourself that the men around you have cocks. imagine them fucking you with it. get horny for every man. in public and online, look at his bulge.

clean with a toy in. need to clean something? put a toy in and some hypno on. good girls dress up and clean everything like good sluts. learn to associate cleaning with pleasure. get on your knees to clean.

watch porn instead of TV. dumb girls don't need any entertainment other than porn!! if you want to relax and unwind, put on some porn instead of TV or a movie. if you want to listen to music, put on some hypno loop files.

edge to smart men. watch a man explain something smart that you don't understand, and edge to it! remind yourself that you don't understand, and that you're beneath him!

wear cute underwear. unless you're on your period, your panties should always be cute!! a man might use you at any time, and you should make yourself look good! you should always either wear a cute, slutty bra, or no bra.

or, wear skirts with no panties! you don't need underwear. wear a skirt with no panties around your house, or in public if you're feeling risky.

turn off autocorrect. cunts don't need to spell things right!! make sure you don't correct yourself either, and type like a good, dumb girl.

put on lipgloss. rub your clit while you do. tell yourself that lipgloss makes you dumber and hornier, and men love it!! eventually you'll get horny whenever you put it on.

do what men tell you to do. even if it's not sexual, you should practice obeying and being a good girl. they know what's best! if you need help with something, go to a man for it!

hump something every day! try to hump at least one thing a day, but aim for more!! go hump random things and stick your tongue out while you do. make sure you look dumb ♥

do things with a plug in. if you need to do a chore, go out, or do anything, put a toy in!! it'll remind you of your place and keep you wet and needy.

buy sex toys instead of books. who needs books and learning? buy yourself toys and lingerie. break your mind with toys, keep yourself full. (make sure to buy toy cleaner too!)

and most of all: never ever cum!! cumming makes you selfish, you need to put other people's pleasure first! don't cum. stay wet and desperate to please others.

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Reblog if you honestly believe women should not be allowed to vote.

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Put the work in.

i think it’s important when submissive and traditional women are unmarried to be constantly working on themselves. I feel the same way about Dominant and traditional men. Even though we are single, we should all be putting in the effort to learn to become the best partners for our dynamics as we can.

While I am no longer single, I mentor, coach and help many friends who are single in this lifestyle. These are my recommendations of why to continuously be learning and growing as a Dom or a sub while single, both sfw and nsfw.

Things a sub can/should do to prepare for a future Dom-

learn to cook and to set a proper table

learn to communicate in a polite, constructive way with no dramatic or abrasive tones

get into a good routine with cleaning and know how to clean / stain remove / disinfect all types of surfaces

have a decent wardrobe for casual, semi formal and formal attire

work on any weight loss or gain / appearance / health related (mental and physical) issues to keep yourself healthy

read up about common dynamic rules, expectations, day in the lifes, etc. to see what you like and don’t like (as well as collars, contracts, etc.)

learn to budget , grocery shop, meal prep / plan, learn block schedules techniques

do basic research on gardening, canning, food preservation / storage.

have strong knowledge of Dom/sub sexuality, kink, and common expectations

most importantly - find your limits and your dealbreakers on what you do and do not in a partner and both sexually and dynamic-wise. Make notes. Know what you need before you start vetting.

What Doms could do to prepare for a future sub-

be fully educated on the lifestyle, Domestic discipline, Trad living, consent, freeuse, contracts, types of commitment collars, all of it

have rough outline of expectations, rules, routines, future goals for what they would and would not expect from a sub (that can be eventually tailored to your specific dynamic)

Know their preferred methods of domestic discipline to use

work on their career, securing a decent career and stability

build up all savings accounts and investments

secure a decent place to live / buy a home with the thought in mind of having a private space for discipline to be conducted

have solid formed opinions about common topics brought up during vetting and lifestyle discussions

know their kinks and sexual expectations but don’t be gross about it when presenting it

Anything you would add or subtract?