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no but what a masterclass of a drive from lewis! from p10 to p2 and churning out fastest lap after fastest lap. that's the goat right there 🙂‍↕️✨🔥

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there is a Lewis podium and I have to suffer with that coverage of the one who shall not be named

nobody gives a fuck show me the damn podium people

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oOOOOOFFFFF go off king!!!

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wtf is this about again : #1

(i will legit make this a heading for some posts in this blog. sometimes i am so confused about ongoing fandom drama.)

somebody needs to tell me why idiots on twitter are saying “this series is a disgrace to thailand” about two women kissing in something called, if I'm not wrong, blank the series.

help a fella out with the gossip so i can go lecture them a little.

p.s.: why do i call them idiots if i dunno anything? because a show about fictional characters holds no value about a country's image. (more on this if you ask me, but I'm not typing all that right now.)

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the plague of every fandom is purity culture

and their takes regarding shipping or enjoying anything for that matter when you are over the age of 22, are bananas LOL

I remember when gay marriage first became a thing in the netherlands it wasn't that long ago

I remember when every lesbian character was killed in every show for no reason whatsoever

I remember all of that and more

and now we have so much rep when it comes to queer media

rep that is wonderful, rep that is diverse

and yet the kiddos are clutching their pearls

wtf is this about again : #1

(i will legit make this a heading for some posts in this blog. sometimes i am so confused about ongoing fandom drama.)

somebody needs to tell me why idiots on twitter are saying “this series is a disgrace to thailand” about two women kissing in something called, if I'm not wrong, blank the series.

help a fella out with the gossip so i can go lecture them a little.

p.s.: why do i call them idiots if i dunno anything? because a show about fictional characters holds no value about a country's image. (more on this if you ask me, but I'm not typing all that right now.)

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oh I totally had no issue with the book either lol

oh the Yammi person was excited in that tweet about the bl/gl being popular, and no surprise whatsoever it was not a thai person calling blank a disgrace lol

and lol not the kpop stans!!!! they tend to have the worst takes 99% of the times.

another thing I have noticed is the fandom ages

the majority of blank fans we are in our late 30s and above

the majority of the haters of blank, are like teens and young adults.

I have seen a lot of ageist comments from them as well, calling the lead actress (a 30 year old) old granny 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

wtf is this about again : #1

(i will legit make this a heading for some posts in this blog. sometimes i am so confused about ongoing fandom drama.)

somebody needs to tell me why idiots on twitter are saying “this series is a disgrace to thailand” about two women kissing in something called, if I'm not wrong, blank the series.

help a fella out with the gossip so i can go lecture them a little.

p.s.: why do i call them idiots if i dunno anything? because a show about fictional characters holds no value about a country's image. (more on this if you ask me, but I'm not typing all that right now.)

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as a fan of the series, this is what I know about the backlash (which is not justified but it happened so we fans have to deal with the idiots on the daily)

I dont know who said “this series is a disgrace to thailand” was it thai people? (I wouldn't be surprised if that comes from non thai people to be honest)

now about blank the series. it is a story based on a novel, and the author has written pretty much 80% of the novels all thai GL's are based on, including blank the series

blank the series is about a *gasp* age gap *gasp BETWEEN ADULTS.

I have also read the novel so I can talk about both.

first thing to define is age of maturity in Thailand is 20.

The book's younger person is 18, which might be a problem in Thailand, but from my experience I have seen straight stories with large age gaps and the younger person was 16 so hypocrisy much?

the series made the decision to age up the younger person to 20 when the story starts

now the age gap, is 16 years, which to some is the part they are clutching the pearls about.

they even go as far as to call it a "grooming love" without even watching nor reading the book.

because of those reasons, the studio had no sponsors and little to zero media coverage. it was only released on youtube.

because the story is so nuanced and so well executed, and it is the furthest from grooming. those who actually watched it, absolutely loved it and defend it with all their might (including me)

here's a bit of the nuance, that paints the picture of why this show is loved so much by those who watched it.

it is important to mention that the younger person, is the one who falls madly in love with the older person and pursued her aggressively. and while the older person starts having feelings for her as well, she tries her best to not act on them, until there is a point of no return.

younger person is the first to kiss, and the younger person is the first to offer comfort to the older one with sex. (she's also 21 at this point)

another factor is that the older one advises the younger one to maintain a good relationship with her family, and friends, even if they are hard to deal with.

a groomer would do everything to make her cut ties with them, and for the older one that would be a piece of cake as the two parents didnt raise her and just showed up when she was 20, and the grandma who raised her was physically abusing her.

but instead because shes not a groomer, she actually kept on telling the younger one "your family loves you" or she tried many times to talk the parents into accepting their daughter's queerness.

the age gap is also addressed from multiple perspectives through out the story, the character actually communicate in this story lol

that being said, everyone who have watched the show knows about these.

the idiots who scream about it have not watched the show, yet they have those big opinions about

also it's pretty much jealousy at this point because blank the series despite all the backlash and undeserved hate, lack of funding/sponsors etc became extremely popular, the love team keeps on winning awards, their fanmeets are sold out in seconds etc etc.

wtf is this about again : #1

(i will legit make this a heading for some posts in this blog. sometimes i am so confused about ongoing fandom drama.)

somebody needs to tell me why idiots on twitter are saying “this series is a disgrace to thailand” about two women kissing in something called, if I'm not wrong, blank the series.

help a fella out with the gossip so i can go lecture them a little.

p.s.: why do i call them idiots if i dunno anything? because a show about fictional characters holds no value about a country's image. (more on this if you ask me, but I'm not typing all that right now.)

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ohh there was something that I saw yesterday when the idiots were mad that blank the series has the most viewership of all

the same people who say the show is "grooming" they also use the "NC" initials to refer to the love scenes

I was of course confused about the meaning of NC

and asked someone who was both a blank fan and seemed to know what it meant

I looked at that tweet with my mouth open of several seconds unable to comprehend the reason behind that term

NC = no-children scene

and that is used to mean love scene

WHY WOULD YOU BE WATCHING A LOVE SCENE AND THE FIRST THOUGHT YOU HAVE IS "children"

WTF

also considering that you think a 21 year old is a child by your reaction to the series, therefore unable to consent

by children I assume you mean people bellow the age of 18, which include teenagers

but also blank and the other GLs for that matter with many love scenes are at most PG-13 since you see no sexual nudity and besides kissing the most you see at least in blank is these

we see her bra, and it is implied that the other one is going down on her.

fully clothes but of course implied that sex is happening.

from an different angle too

fully clothed making out

implied nudity

implied sexual act beyond kissing and making out

OMGGGGGGGG THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!!

FUCK offff

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one more time Blank the series is most viewed show of the year and the nasties can't cope

one of them posted this

essentially calling blank a grooming love and they even posted a link about grooming

let's dissect

Grooming can be defined as the process that an abuser uses to desensitise you – to make you less likely to reject or report abusive behaviour.

considering that in Black both the book and the series there is no sexual nor physical abuse done by Khun Nueng to Anueng, this point is not it. in fact there is physical abuse going on from grandma to Anueng, and it is Khun Nueng reporting it to Anueng's mom. Anueng also shows the exact signs of rejecting and hiding that abuse when Khun Nueng asks about the marks on her leg. Khun Nueng only knows because she had the exact same experience as a kid.

Grooming can happen when there is a power differential within a relationship, which the abuser exploits for their own gratification. This is most commonly recognised as a tactic used by perpetrators of child sexual abuse, both on children and parents. However, adults can also be groomed

as I have explained many times, Khun Nueng never used her age, status, power, money, etc against Anueng. she has however used it for Anueng's benefit (tutor her to be able to get in a good Uni) (told her father to stop being a homophobic asshole)

Child grooming

This doesn't really apply to Anueng as she's not a child, but I will humour it

Age difference is one example of a power differential. Children are taught to respect older children and adults – many abusers take advantage of this.

Khun Nueng told Anueng she can't call her sister (a familiar word) specifically to distance herself from Anueng. but she lost that battle instantly because Anueng started calling her aunt instead (another familiar word)

If you were groomed as a child your feelings may be very mixed. The abuser may have taken an interest in you and shown you affection in a way that other adults did not, or perhaps  allowed you to do things other adults did not.

Anueng has been physically abused by her grandma. Khun Nueng after knowing that only reports it to the mom, never brings it up, nor she tries to distance Anueng from your grandma. She shows signs of softening, but that's not a direct response to knowing what is going on, but overall softening to Anueng in general. Khun Nueng does not necessarily allows Anueng to do things, it's more of a Anueng will keep on annoying Khun Nueng until she's allowing her do shit. there is even a scene, of Anueng asking her mom is she will allow her to have a girlfriend and the mom tells her to ask Khun Nueng and Anueng declares that her Khun Nueng will let her do it as she always pampers her, and Khun Nueng tells her "do not get in a relationship at all, focus on studying" which is the opposite of pampering Anueng was expecting.

Whether consciously or not, the abuser did this as a way of gaining your trust and make it less likely that you would risk losing the ‘special relationship’ by talking to others about the sexual abuse.

in the Blank plot it might seem that way, but lol that's where nuance comes in to beat us all on the head. Anueng has too helicopter parents who showed up to parent when Anueng is fucking 20 years old. Khun Nueng knows Anueng at this point for what weeks? a month or two? but Anueng has already attached to Khun Nueng because she's fully madly in love with her. Khun Nueng gets attached too, but she tries everything in her power to not answer Anueng's feelings. the parents who have no idea how to parent, put Khun Nueng on the pedestal, and not only that they force her to parent on their behalf. she;s even willing to lie to Anueng to make her hate her, so she is removed from Anueng's life, and the parents have a chance with their daughter, it is only when Khun Nueng sees how much that hurts Anueng that she offers another solution. In the book it is way more exclusive as she becomes Anueng's guardian, while in the series they toned that down a notch and she only became a tutor for her studies to help her get in a good Uni.

Adult grooming

now we are talking, let's see

While grooming is most associated with child sexual abuse, it is also possible for adults, especially vulnerable adults to be groomed – or prepared – for abuse. As with children, this is more common in situations where there is a power differential – for example by someone older or physically stronger, or by a professional who has a measure of control over you, such as a doctor or a teacher.

if we look at the character individually, then yes of course there is a power differential. Age, status, wealth, education level, etc however as mentioned before Khun Nueng never uses any of those factors against Anueng.

Many gay men arrive in London having fled homophobia in other environments and throw themselves into the gay scene. You might have then been coerced or encouraged into doing things – for example you might have met someone who encouraged you into the chemsex scene, saying that it is the norm, that it’s just what happens in the gay community, something like a rite of passage.

this is specific situation that doesnt apply to this story. But this is there is homophobia coming from Anueng's family especially her father and grandma, Khun Nueng uses her words to protect Anueng's queerness, she tells the father that there is nothing wrong with two girls dating (especially when Anueng talks about dating Yui, and girl her age) Khun Nueng even though it goes against her own heart she's willing to support Anueng. when at the end of the story everyone knows about them, she keeps on asking "it Anueng end up loving a girl will you accept that" to the parents even if she's not in the picture she cares that Anueng is being accepted.

In expensive cities like London this could also take the form of people offering cheap or free accommodation in exchange for sex, leaving you feeling trapped in a situation whereby if you refuse sex you might then be made homeless.

Season one Khun Nueng is literally broke LOL, seasons two, when Anueng tells her "I will leave the house and come live with you" when she's faced with her grandma's homophobia, Khun Nueng tells her she cant and she shouldn't.

Grooming can also happen in domestic and relationship settings where the abusive partner, over time, introduces abusive acts that you feel coerced into allowing. In these situations, consent is coerced and therefore is not consent.

have they been toxic to each other, because they are both flawed and dumbasses? Yes. Where they toxic because of any power dynamic? No. in fact their conflicts and toxicity revolves around the fact that Anueng's family is pushing them to break up, or put pressure on Khun Nueng to be a role model, but when she has a moment of weakness and accepts Anueng's advances, she has a crisis right after and breaks Anueng's heart in the cruelest way possible, because of all he pressure. NUANCE people. That being said consent has always been a big factor of their relationship. Anueng asked consent when she wanted to make Khun Nueng feel better after the funeral. Khun Nueng even though a bit dubious she still asked for it when they made up in s2ep1, and the most consent of all consents is at the gift unwrapping scene, where Khun Nueng asks Anueng what she likes, if she likes she should tell her, if she feels is she should let it all out. consent is sexy babe!

The effects of grooming

Anueng was not groomed, and this following explanation shows why

One of the key results of grooming is that the survivor is left carrying the shame of the events, often represented in a sense of complicity – that you let it happen. This self blame once again makes the abuse difficult to talk about. Grooming makes it more difficult to identify when abuse is happening, and more difficult to identify and talk about in retrospect. The law is clear; when consent to sex is coerced, including emotionally coerced sex, it is not consent.

Anueng, especially in the book, is not ashamed, Khun Nueng in the series asks her many time "aren't you embarrassed to say this or that". Anueng is a thirsty bitch, who got the woman she wanted and she's fully exploring her sexuality, and in the book which is kinky as fuck, her kinks as well. Khun Nueng is with her in that journey and provides a safe environment for Anueng to explore. in the series the wildest thing they do is the biting, and even that, as explained above, Khun Nueng is so careful with it, and asking if she likes it, and if she does she should let it all out, not hold back, because Khun Nueng is there for her.

like bitch, this show not only takes the age gap trope and turns into its head to make it the least coercive, least power imbalanced, least toxic, but also makes it the most nuanced, the most consent heavy story I have seen in any genre.

it pays off that the show was written and directed by queer people (many of the 9stars staff are queer) it pays off to have Faye an out and proud queer woman on board, who had a full advisor role as well, she helped Yoko through the love scenes, and she even helped Ice and Marissa through their kissing scenes and overall couple scenes.

this is how you create queer media that speak deeply to queer viewers.

and 9stars was created specifically to develop sapphic series, and it shows.

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not to be old but is it a new trend for video makers to whisper in their mics instead of speaking?

and I dont mean ASMR stuff but like regular commentary/reaction stuff

why are you not speaking in a volume that I can hear with ease?

what is this?

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im not american, so the leftist label, for me, has always been associated with grifting lying rich populist assholes who say they believe in progressive ideas, but step on them and shake hands with fascists the moment a minority person disagrees with them, I wont even comment on communists.

If I was to answer who I vote for I would say social democrats, but I am a progressive

that's my 8values results:

those of us who had been unlucky enough to be in places where those "leftist" types happened to be a government, well if anyone ever calls me a leftist for my ideology, I tell them to fucking stop offending me.

to my USamericans it's never too late to drop that label to the toilet and flush it down the drain.

idk what to even call my political views anymore?

because leftists have changed so much in the last year that i’m not sure if i feel comfortable with the leftist label anymore, despite believing in the core “leftist principles” (generous social safety net, free education/healthcare, etc)

leftists — or at least the radical left — have abandoned those leftist principles entirely. but idk what else to call myself

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hetero dudes and their fragility 🙄

Pathetic 😒

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after tragedy, I like what I'm hearing

getting the girl in suit was also an excellent choice

welcome back linking park

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#LET PEOPLE BE FUCKING BISEXUAL JFC#faye peraya#faye malisorn

THIS

Even though Faye doesn't ID with the label, but she uses LGBTQ for herself, she has dated both women and men, and right now her comfort zone is with women exclusively.

having dated the opposite gender doesn't make one less queer

anyway, Faye has been out as LGBTQ for years, before she acted in a GL series.

her having dated a man before, doesn't make her straight you fucking idiots

listen to her speaking, she had a GF for 5 years they are still friends to this day.

Faye says very clearly that currently she's only comfortable with women. and the label she uses for herself is LGBTQ

she also doesn't like talking about her ex-bf, she has deleted all their photos from social media, for a reason. and no it is not because she tries to hide it, that relationship was known to the public, news articles of them still exist.

and no it was not Ivan, that guy is her friend and business partner.

and just to make it clear

your fav having a boyfriend is not a reason to bully her, and and it's not queerbaiting either. love teams are a job.

that fandom had attacked faye before, and made her cry, because she was being a good friend to that girl you harassed for having a boyfriend.

now you try to make Faye look like a lair because you can't stand her success

jealousy is a sickness

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yes she is in fact half thai(maternal) half indian(paternal)

here in full indian attire for a fashion event

she looked incredibly gorgeous (which she does always effortlessly ahhaha)

So I just discovered that Faye Malisorn is half Indian and I'm so over the moon actually!!!!! Idk why but this makes me so freaking happy !!!

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it came to my attention that the "we want toxic yuri!11!!!" crowd is at it again

them: we want toxic yuri

arcane season 2: here's some toxic yuri in the 3 first episodes

them: HOW DARE!!!!

me: oh complex characters who are fucked up, fuck up big time, who would have thunk it

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Reblog if you’re over 20 and still read/write fan fiction.

I’m curious!