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Dating as an Entertainer - Ibiza Part II

A few months had passed. And there was still nothing going on for me. BUT my friend had a huge crush on one of the chefs which I happened to be friends with. And his friend had a crush on me. How convenient. So I did what a good friend would do and agreed to go out on a double date with her, the chef and his friend. At first it was awkward because the "date" started in their house with aaaalll the spanish staff of the hotel that I was working in. And I understand spanish but I would never tell anyone. So I just said there in quiet and waited for my friend to finish work. She took longer and longer until the guys said "vamos" and I was very confused. Vamos to where? But I got grabbed by the hand by the chefs friend (Let´s call the chef - Mario and the friend - Luigi, I forgot what their names are) We were heading to the marina in Santa Eularia, which was absolutely stunning. 20 minutes and 3 drinks in my friend called me and said she was ready to go. So I told Luigi to go and pick er up and I went with him.

My friend (Susan) was already a little tipsy which was very good because she never actually spoke to her crush before. They just messaged each other when I found his social media accounts. We had a couple more drinks and I went to the bathroom with her to come up with a plan. When we got out of the bathroom we got hit on by some random spanish dudes and that´ s when my drunk alter ego came to life for the first time ever. Her name is Veronica. She decided it is a good idea to make out with him. Then she pushed him away and walked back to the group.

Two more drinks and I got hit on by Luigi and Susan was already making out with her crush Mario. Veronica was feeling pressured and decided to start a kissing contest. So she stopped Luigi from talking and made out with him.

Susan and I decided it was time for some air. But as soon as the air hit me I felt really sick. 10 Minutes later I found myself throwing up in between two yachts. Very fancy.

Mario and Susan brought me home. Susan had sex with Mario and I was stuck on the toilet throwing up.

Luigi was trying to go on dates with me since but I didn´t think it made sense because he didn´t speak any english and I didn´t like him at all. Also the next day was my day off and we were going to one of the beach clubs in Ibiza.

Maybe I was the asshole in this story?

Song: WTF - Hugel feat. Amber van Day

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Dating as an Entertainer - Ibiza

So you´d think that there would be a lot going on in Ibiza espicially when working as an entertainer. Well NOPE... Let me tell you what it really looks like.

After I finished studying I decided to do something more risky. So I started working as entertainer and the first stop was Ibiza.

I met my team on the 2nd day and I was expecting loads of cute guys but there was just ONE. And this ONE cute guy was taken already. So off limits for me. Did he cheat on his girlfriend with another girl on the team? Rumour has it.

2 weeks later another guy came into our team. He was working as a mountainbike instructor. He was from Hungary and reaaallly tall (let´s name him Steve). This is the part where I should have asked myself: Do I like him or is he just tall? Anyway. The day he arrived we had a teamevening all together and I started talking to him. Turns out we had same taste in music which is always nice I think. So we had a few drinks and one thing led to another and we were making out in my crappy entertainer lodgement. He was probably thinking "Oh damn this is my first day here.. I´m the man" yeah well I didn´t sleep with him.

Nothing happened for a few days and I decided I wanted to talk to him about that night (I was innocent like that) Obviously he gave me the speach about "hm yeah I´m just having fun, no strings attached, nothing serious" And I pretended to think the same. So we were hanging out a lot after work and during lunchbreak. At one point I wanted to sleep with him but I couldn´t. As this would haven been my first time I was scared of his reaction so I didn´t let it happen. I left his room and walked into the ENTIRE cast having a drink outside his room. Great way to make me the talk of the town even though nothing happened. I didn´t confirm or deny anything because they would have kept talking. Instead I sat down with them. One guy asked me "do you want to go grab some food?" and another guy answered "well I think she just ate" hahahaha very funny. I went with them to have some food.

After that nothing really happened with the guy. I was over him and he didn´t talk to me or contacted me either. Few weeks later there was another teamevening and he wanted to "walk me home" (my room was just next to the location where the event took place) I let him walk me home (literally though) and said "okay night" when we got there. He was kinda confused but I thought I was really funny.

Yeah this story might be boring but it´s part of the journey.

Song: We´re going to Ibiza - Vengaboys

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A Gentleman?

So there´s another crush, big surprise.

He was in the same class as the weird guy from the Poolparty story whom I told you about earlier. His name is Mason. Mason was part French and he was just really cute.

My friend Maria (you will hear a lot from her in those storys so remember her) asked me if I found him attractive and at this point I said "nah not at all" but after a year or something I changed my mind about him. He had brown fluffy curly hair, brown eyes, really nice lips and the cutest smile. He was also very smart, attentive and (in my opinion) he had a great sense of humour.

I don´t really remember how it got interesting between me and him but we kinda started talking and messaging. The messages were so intense and each message was that long that you had to press "show more" on whatsapp (I didn´t even know that was a thing). After a while I asked him if he wanted to join me on a walk through this one interesting area in a forest. He was excited that I asked and we went.

It was really fun. We talked and laughed about everything really. We were so distracted by our conversations that we got lost in this forest and had to ask some random people how to get back to the nearest train station. So this is something I will never forget for sure.

A week after we went on a second date. We actually wanted to have a movie night at my place but since this was not a really good idea, if you know what I mean, we decided to watch a movie in the cinema. That date was great too but I was hoping for things to spice up after the movie. Which didn´t happen.

After that nothing actually happened. He kinda slow faded me when I think of it now.

We went on a trip to England and I thought this is another chance. I had lunch with him on that trip but I also was told that there was another girl he hung out with and that she was the reason he lost interest in me. I also found out that he did the same thing he did to me to two other girls in my class and we never knew about for 2 years. He seemed so innocent. But one of those two girls became one of my closest friends so things worked out pretty well.

Lesson learned: Dating is a game of competition

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Poolparty

This story isn´t even about a guy I went on a date with, or had an acutal interest in but I thought it´ s a funny story and here I am sharing it with everyone. So it was summer and I had a friend over from my home town. We were on the train on the way to somewhere for drinks but we didn´t really have a plan yet. Out of nowhere this guy from my tourism class messaged me on facebook asking what I´m doing that evening. I answered that I was with a friend and we don´t really know what we´re doing yet (I shouldn´t have said that) 

He invited us over to a pool party in his aunts villa where he and his cousin lived. We agreed to go there. The villa was so far away from everywhere. We got there and... there was no party?! It was just him and his cousin. Me and my friend both looked at each other and started laughing but looking back at it, it wasn´t really funny. 

They brought us to the terrace and took a bottle of tequila out of the fridge. We had some shots and started playing some drinking game. Back then I didn´t really do anyhting crazy or weird or anything and neither did my friend so we didn´t really get to drink all that much.. but the dudes on the other hand.. soon were very drunk and suggested we should make some pizza. Yes make pizza, not order it. 

I thought I´d help guy one in the kitchen not really thinking about hooking up with him. But he though otherwise and started kissing me and feeling me up. I wasn´t having any of that and also luckily my friend came to the kitchen asking if everything was alright. I gave her a look and since women always understand each other without saying anything she understood and told guy two he should help his cousin.

We ate the pizza (which was terrible by the way) and decided to stay with them in the villa since it was very late in the night and it was hard to get home. They had enough rooms but somehow guy to ended up with both of us in his bed suggesting we could watch a movie. He was probably thinking he could have the night of his life but again nope. Me and my friend watched the movie and after a while guy one comes into the room and asked me "Hey ugh.. you coming to my room or what?" I´m laughing writing this. Such a weird thing to ask. I politely declined.

Guy two has fallen asleep, my friend and me left the room and went to the living room to sleep. Around 7 in the morning we both woke up and wanted to leave the house unnoticed. But the house being a villa, it wasn´t as easy to sneak out. Somebody had to enter the code in the front door. We had to wake one of the guys up. But oh well he didn´t say anything else and let us go. 

I really was hoping to never see them again because it was so weird and all but we took the same classes so.. I saw them again on tuesday and I was stuck in the elevator with them and I couldn´t help but start laughing. Also some teacher had the great idea to do group projects and I was teamed up with one of them. Guy one tried to message me a couple times more and I blocked him as soon as I graduated. Guy two recently tried to get in touch with me and asked me out on a date. So much for bro code but I always thought of this as a myth.

What did I learn from this? Men are trash 

Song that didn´t help me but I though was fitting: Meghan Trainor - No

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A Perfect Date?

I moved to a big city when I was 18. Took me a while to adjust to the difference this made but I managed. I went to university, made some friends and eventually downloaded tinder. I matched with a really handsome guy. He was the dream son in law for every mother. He had this winning smile and just knew how to talk to girls. At least back then I didn´t see red flags or something like that.

So after some texting we agreed to go out on a date (I don´t remeber if he actually asked). It was a weeknight in december. We met at a crowded place and had pizza somewhere in a not so clean restaurant but the pizza was amazing. We talked a lot. It wasn´t just me talking and it seemed like he was actually interested in getting to know me. After we finished our pizza we walked around and went to a christmas marked for some mulled wine. It was very cold but sort of romantic he eventually held his arm saying I can hold on to it. We walked around in the cold until like 1 am in the night and it never got boring. 

He brought me to the station and waited until my train arrived and said those magical words that every girl actually wants to hear when she´s out late at night "text me when you are home"

I thought everything went so great. I told my friends that this was the best date ever (as if I had that many.. I mean this is the third part of the story) 

Yeah I never heard from him again

I can´t say I learned anything from it except don´t believe anything you hear? But then how would I trust anyone ever so let´s just say he wanted to get me into bed, he didn´t and I guess he didn´t want to waste too much energy in talks and stuff. You can never really know anyones true intentions.

I wasn´t heartbroken but angry so this is the song we´re going with: Ailee - I will show you

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My First Crush

Yes my first actual crush happenend after my first kiss. I though I had crushes on like half the school I went to but I think I was just going through puberty. I liked Brian too but if I reflect on it now I probably just wanted to be a part of the cool girls who already had a boyfriend. Also I really liked his guitar. Anyway.. This story is about James who took the same courses in school as me. He was really tall, had a motorbike, did those dangerous motocross rides and he was soooo charming. He had a really great personality, sense of humour, he was kind, smart and had the most amazing smile. I always knew he existed but we didn't get to really know each other until 11th grade. 

He messaged me one day after school just asking how I was and how the school year started for me. We talked about our hobbies, music, films etc. just got to know each other. As a teenager I used to catch feelings quite quickly, as you do as a teenager. We hung out every day at school, studied together, had lunch together but we never really had time alone as our friends were always with us. I was always looking forward to after school when we were both in our homes, messaging or calling each other. 

Pretty soon after I talked to my girls about it, we decided to let him know that I had caught feelings for him. (Big mistake!!! Never do this) It was really awkward. I send him a text saying that I started to really like him.. I'm cringing as I am writing this. He was so kind though, saying like we need to get to know each other better, maybe have some time alone, go on an actual date. 

But we never did. Our friends were always around. But still he sort of admitted his feelings for me too after a while. We were in my grandparents house after a school party with just two more people. We were joking around, playing with the dog and watched some scary videos, which always affected me a lot. This one friend turned the lights off and I was really scared so James held his hand out for me so I could hold it. But I NEVER realized he did that, he told me after that this was his plan and that he wanted me to beg him to stay (as if) Everything was great but only for a short while....

Then some kids from the orphanage in Romania were I was volunteering (or still am) came to my home town and I didn't go to school during this time because I was busy with them. We were still messaging and calling back and forth but it stopped after 3 days. I asked him if there is something going on because of his strange behaviour. And there was. One of my friends started to message with him too and she always said that there was nothing going on between them and I should go for it (as a girls girl, gotta make sure the path is clear)

They were in a relationship shortly after and I was left heartbroken. 

Lesson learned: Never admit any feelings first (at least I won't)

Song that helped me through it: Ailee - Singing got better

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My First Kiss

This is really embarassing for me but I need to tell you.

I was in 15 years old in high school when I started to talk to this boy. Let's call him Brian.

Brian was in my friend's art class and he was already strong in the dating game. He played guitar, bass AND he was in a band. Your mother will tell you "Don't date this guy". Well she's right. DON'T DATE THIS GUY!

My friend Anna gave Brian my number and he started messaging me. Our first "date" was a lunchbreak together... Yes when you're 15 you call a lot of things a date. Then at one random afternoon, he said he wanted to come over for "studying" (god, was i stupid) But I didn't know any better so I agreed and he came over and he brought his guitar.

Well we never studied. We sat on my couch and talked and it was actually really nice. Then he said "I'm gonna do something that I wanted to do for a long time" (he definetly stole this line from some high school movie.. But I fell for it of course) So he leaned in and kissed me.

After a few dates he already started telling me that he has strong feelings for me and he even said he loves me (Red Flag Alert) Somehow I was smart at this point and I told him that I don't think this is a good idea. 

And then... He started dating my best friend. 

She also fell for it at first but quickly realised that he is full of it.

He dated a bunch of other girls inbetween until we met again. At prom (of course)

After prom he started messaging me again, saying that he enjoyed seeing how much fun I had and I fell for it again. We were making out at "dates" a couple of times until he behaved kind of differently. And then he posted a picture of another girl on his facebook. He said he lost a bet and they are not together I shouldn't worry (haha). But I was young and dumb, So I believed him. 

After a while he invited me to see his band perform at this local club. I made a sign for him like a good girlfriend would. He was happy and he had something to brag about infront of his bandmates. But I noticed some purple spots on his neck... I asked him about them and he said "I fell" alright... on your neck??? But I was too insecure to say something because I didn't want to lose him. But I did anyway because after the concert.. He ghosted me and a week later he posted THAT girl everywhere, making an official statement that they are in a relationship.

Fun Fact: I burned his picture about 2 weeks later

Song that helped me through this: A Bitter Day - Hyuna, Junhyung & G.NA