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if you’re autistic, or otherwise neurodivergent, please know it’s completely okay to leave the table early, refuse hugs from relatives, take five minutes, or anything else you need to do to cope over the holiday season. all the stimulus from so many events over this period can feel so overwhelming, but you can get through this. I hope the new year brings many wonderful things for you

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sending love to those who struggle with the holidays. to those who have lost their family. to those who are from abusive homes. those who are struggling mentally. in a rough spot financially. those who are neurodivergent & easily overwhelmed. and to those who just plain don't enjoy them.

i hope you can smile genuinely, and feel some love. i hope they pass uneventfully, and your transition to the next year is smooth and full of warmth <3

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No offense but literally nothing and no one is and will ever be out of your league. Nothing is too good for you. Nobody has the right to make you feel like you are not enough or less than you are, you deserve the world.

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to put it simply, the right people will get you. you will not have to fight for breadcrumbs of love. you will not have to beg for attention. the right people will love you freely and easily, and will carve out space in their life for you. the right people will check up on you on your bad days & laugh with you on your good. you will find friends who embrace every part of you, and who will push you to grow. someday, any trace of those who hurt you will be filled with warmth from those who never will.

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still proud of you even if you didn’t get as much done in 2023 as you’d hope. you still survived the year, and that’s huge.

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Not to offer advice nobody asked for but fixing ur sleep schedule is life changing

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no matter what happened today, you:

are loved

deserve to eat

are needed & valued

should take care of yourself

have a future

will be okay

[thoradvice]

to put it simply, the right people will get you. you will not have to fight for breadcrumbs of love. you will not have to beg for attention. the right people will love you freely and easily, and will carve out space in their life for you. the right people will check up on you on your bad days & laugh with you on your good. you will find friends who embrace every part of you, and who will push you to grow. someday, any trace of those who hurt you will be filled with warmth from those who never will.

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just to say to any of my moots or anyone who stumbles across this post who’s going through it right now: love you. glad you’re here. stay a while & take what you need ❤️ i know you gotta do it all again tomorrow but you can do it! you just did! you got this <3

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despite it all, there is still joy. i hope it finds its way to you.

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create! create! even if it’s been a while. even if you don’t know what to write or draw or sing. connect with what once brought you joy and you will remember how. create in a new way, knit or dance or crochet. try spoken word or painting. poetry or pottery. the freedom in creating… it’s liberating

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If this pops up while you’re scrolling, I wish you unconditional love and massive success.

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this is your sunday evening reminder that you can handle whatever this week throws at you.

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sending love to those who struggle with the holidays. to those who have lost their family. to those who are from abusive homes. those who are struggling mentally. in a rough spot financially. those who are neurodivergent & easily overwhelmed. and to those who just plain don't enjoy them.

i hope you can smile genuinely, and feel some love. i hope they pass uneventfully, and your transition to the next year is smooth and full of warmth <3

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things you can do at any stage in life:

love yourself

have a fresh start

go back to school

recover

make new friends

fall in love

go to therapy

learn a skill

discover your passion

repair relationships

change the world

find a new hobby

be happy

it isn’t too late for you. you’ll be okay. there’s no time limit on happiness.

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it’s okay to feel like you’re behind in life. the media portrays a rigid timeline of life experiences, telling us that if we haven’t adhered to this ridiculous “order” then we’re a loser. but that’s not true.

you can have these experiences at any age. it’s okay if you’re 18 and haven’t been kissed, or if you’re 30 and live with your parents. it doesn’t make you worthless or stupid, or anything else. you’re not behind in life, even if you feel like it. you’re going at your own pace and that’s more than okay. there are more people than you think in the same boat. you’re not alone in feeling like this.

this especially applies to those who’ve been through trauma and / or deal with mental illness(es). these things often steal our childhood and adolescence, making it even harder to reach the “common” teenage milestones of getting laid and smoking weed, or whatever’s cool at the moment. you’re not missing out. you’re not too late. you can experience everything you want to in your own time. 

there’s no time limit on the very vast majority of these experiences. you can do as many of them as you want. life doesn’t suddenly become dull and meaningless at 18 or 25 or 40. you have so much time life, i promise. there’s no time limit on happiness, or on anything you want to accomplish.

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if you feel you wasted this year, i promise you didn't. rest and relaxation and recovery is worth all the time in the world. time spent lost to mental illness, abuse, etc is not your fault. you have so much time to thrive. you'll get closer this year, i know it.